#What to do when you’re horribly alone, nobody likes you, and you want strong friendship?

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mortal needle
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What to do when you’re horribly alone, nobody likes you, and you want strong friendship?

steep kelp
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Change personality?

chilly sandal
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introspection, and mindfulness

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along with journaling and tracking ur highs and lows, strengths and weaknesses

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try to find whether the issue is external or internal

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and do your best to fix it if its in your control

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if not, then try looking for alternative solutions to make yur situation better

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you got this!

fleet wing
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I'm in the same situation. I think the key is to find people of your same neurotype. If you're a bit weird and misunderstood, find others who are weird and misunderstood in the same ways. Also, locking yourself in your room all day every day is not a good way. I think being around other people on a regular basis is often necessary if you want to befriend them in any meaningful way that involves real life interaction, unfortunately. It's really hard.

jovial veldt
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Finding something niche and sharing it with others. I know it's hard but you just have to put yourself out there. I suggest a common intrest such as video games, reading, maybe films or music. I find it especially hard to find friends and maintain them because of personal issues so i suggest figuring out if maybe you're the one keeping yourself alone. But if you want a friend I'd be glad to get to know who you are, I'm in the same situation where i struggle verbally and i am often misunderstood but i can't help but feel so alone and want to develop a fullfilling friendship.

tardy ingot
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get a pet

mortal needle
mortal needle
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To spend time hanging out

mortal needle
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Yeah, it may be out of my control. I guess it’s all up to the grasp I do have.

chilly sandal
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if they dont want you, they dont deserve you

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find other people to hang out

mortal needle
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Yes, …I agree!

amber geode
# steep kelp Change personality?

I did not see their original message. This person seems to have actually been asking for help which is really hard, please be more mindful of others in the future and personalities dont change. Would you feel good someone told you to change your personality? I know you can be better! 🙂

steep kelp
mortal needle
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Honestly, I don’t think it’s good not to be my true self. And think changing personalities could work, but it all ends the same anyway. No friends :p

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Back to being quirky or hopeless I guess.

steep kelp
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There are overall alright people

nova delta
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This may sound harsh, but I'll be honest

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The best way to grow mentally and emotionally as a person is to realise that nobody cares about your problems as half as much as you do

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Not because they are bad people, but because they can't

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We can imagine ourselves in somebody else's shoes, but we will never be in their shoes, so we can't care about their problems as much as they can

fading flowerBOT
nova delta
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So don't look for solutions anywhere outside your own mind

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The best way to look at why you're sad, why you're depressed, why you're lonely, is to dig deeper and take off each layer of insecurity or weakness your mind possesses

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Why am I like this? Since when am I like this? Is this the person I want to die as? How do I want to be remembered? What can I do to improve myself?

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All of us are alone, most of the time...

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Everyone is lonely, to a greater or lesser extent

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Instead of trying to get entirely rid of such inherently human emotions, you need to start thinking about how to flip them on their head

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In the end, it will make you realise that to be fulfilled by who you are, you don't need anyone to depend on to make you happy after all