a poem to my transphobic father! (this is a hate poem)

[kindred flax]

Wow, that's actually like I don't even know man. You made a poetry line out of my poetry haha-

Thank you haha

I take fierce as compliment when it comes to this poem. It's the reason I wrote it, to bite back

[void hornet]

sorry about the transphobia you're experiencing with your father. depending on your age soon enough you won't be living with them anymore and you can move on with your life, it always gets better. and ive seen this happen alot where parents realize the time they've lost with their child for not being supportive so they change their ways. so he can change! don't give up on him!

then why are you here?

[sullen burrow]

Wonderful! @void hornet has just pregressed to level 12!

[half vortex]

I'm here for the poems of course.

[void hornet]

yes i get that, this poem specifically

cool

have fun with that

but you are here for feedback

not to profess your hate for a certain group of people

[half vortex]

Clearly, this server has nothing to do with work, but it is about poetry, not about sexuality in particular. Of course it can involve sexuality, but that's just one of the things poems can refer to. People are here to share their minds. The presence of trans and homosexual people here make no difference to me.

[void hornet]

that's good, everyone's got their opinions, its just important not to be hateful

[half vortex]

No, it is okay to be hateful. I don't go around and insult trans and homo people in this server, or anywhere. I simply avoid being closely associated with them. As for having normal conversations with them? Why not? And treat them normally? Well, everyone deserves to be treated as humans - we are humans. So yes. I won't treat them differently at work or in a humanitarian setting. But do I want nothing to do with them personally? Yes.

[void hornet]

That's perfectly fine that you would like to avoid trans and gay ppl, completely fine. Yes, of course it's okay to be hateful, I'm just saying treating them poorly isn't the best thing to do. I'm glad you don't treat them differently

[half vortex]

Not differently, same as everyone

[void hornet]

hey, im happy to hear it (i made the correction)

[half vortex]

Sure, I saw it.

[warped briar]

1: for the poem, it's nice
The meaning: Don't think I'm supporting your dad because I say this because I clearly don't know the dynamic or full situation but friends they come and they go, blood is thicker than water. I think you should walk a mile in his shoes, it can bring you to a new perspective and maybe even a new poem. Imagine you had a kid, you've spent so much time and money to make that kid grow into the honourable and strong man he was meant to be or the graceful and kind woman she was supposed to be, imagine for all of that to be thrown in your face because your child has been brainwashed into believing they are not the gender they were born with, your child struggles to cope with the reality that they are their gender, instead of facing the problem head on and accepting that they are their gender, they shortcut around it to find an answer that isn't an answer at all. I'm not attacking you but I am trying to help you see, never cut ties with your family unless it's bad (I mean proper abuse or like drinking habits). Imagine feeling as if you weren't able to protect your child from such opinions from outsiders when the only opinions that matter come from your parents, they genuinely only want what's best for you, they want you to be taller than them, to be more successful than them, to make more money than them, nobody but your parents can want more for you than themselves so such a degree. Just sit and think about this for a while

[kindred flax]

Okay but why do you want to avoid us? What have we actually done to be avoided? Like you said, we're just humans. You say you wouldn't treat us any different but avoiding us is treating us different?

Also, why comment? This poem is about going against transphobia. How it has ruined my life. Commenting on it was idiotic and disrespectful. Don't comment anywhere near my poems again.

[kindred flax]

My dad abused me, in many ways. He did it because for no reason. I am trans but I am not brainwashed. I just don't get gender as a whole. It doesn't affect anyone but me. It doesn't matter what I label myself as I'm still the same person he raised. My dad didn't raise me, he broke me. Once again, the amount of blatant disrespectful comments on a poem about how transphobia obviously really hurt me, I lost my dad over it? It's stupid. Don't comment on my poem if it's to say stuff like this. I wanted feedback not criticisms or stuff like this.

[rose ferry]

Okay why don't we calm down, you wrote such an amazing poem about your struggles and hardships, let's not ruin the mood

[kindred flax]

What-

[sullen burrow]

Wonderful! @kindred flax has just pregressed to level 1!

[kindred flax]

They just commented "I'm homopbobic" and "I'm transphobic" and I need to calm down?

[rose ferry]

I mean, we should argue, people gotta say what they wanna, it's upto us what we allow to affect us

[rose ferry]

I know it sounds awful, but hear me out, people will say regardless of us being good, but if we just ignore them and focus on our personal growth, we Excel

Right?

[kindred flax]

I understand not letting it get to me, but that doesn't mean that should ever think it's right to comment that. It was out of place, irrelevant and disrespectful. I wanted to share poetry not get told that. I shouldn't have to "move on" and ignore someone's actions just because it'll make me a "better person"

[rose ferry]

Okay, I want you to calm down, I'm taking those messages down for you, I know how much it hurts when people rub salt on our burns, I just want you to have peace and be happy okay?

We friends ye?

I deleted those messages

Now they won't itch you

[kindred flax]

Okay, 1. This isn't some "hate comment" people get. This is discrimination, there's a difference. If someone called me a slur would you tell me to just "calm down and be happy?". This is stupid

It doesn't matter if they "itch" me?

It matters that they said it in the first place?

[rose ferry]

I mean I do understand

But we can't always have things as desired na? Like I know it hurts to see this but you know, there are several thousands of people out here, I hope you don't entangle between these type of people again

Why don't we get to the poem?

Can I review it?

[rose ferry]

I mean we can't make people think what we want, they'll always have their individuality

[kindred flax]

They can think it, but keep it to themselves. What was the actual point of them even saying it was my point.

They had no point. They said one phrase that had no relevance

They said it, to say it. To actually affect me when they said it.

To be honest. I wasn't even that mad when it first happened. But the fact you have told me to calm down, ignore it, and brush past it. Made it worse. Sorry if I'm "causing a scene" but what the f

This is stupid

[rose ferry]

No no, this isn't a scene, I mean if we let everything cause us problem, we'll never be happy, so ignoring is the best option

Plus can you please not bypass the automod?

[kindred flax]

What does that mean?

[rose ferry]

Well the f you typed is basically trying to avoid the automod

And that was the reason I came here

[kindred flax]

Ohh, sorry

I didn't know

[rose ferry]

Nah, it was an honest mistake, I'll let it slide

But yk, we shouldn't pay attention to those who we don't like

That's the best way to have peace

Hope this helped (although I think it didn't, but I tried tho)

Bye