#oh how i hate to be a woman.

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proven smelt
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Oh how I hate to be a woman.

How I hate the feeling of fear whenever I set any form of boundaries,
How I hate the societal standards of beauty,
How I hate the double standards set since birth,
How I hate the idea of hating my body,
How I hate that I hate my body because someone else is skinnier, prettier,
How I hate not feeling smart enough to be interesting,
How I hate living life not feeling funny enough when in the shadow of a humorous male,
How I hate to live in a world where women are criticized for wanting equal opportunities,
How I hate to live in a world where the patriarchy still affects people daily even If it’s hidden better,
How I hate having to meet expectations to feel worthy of love,
How I hate feeling inferior to any male,
How I hate not being taken seriously,
How I hate being told I cannot handle both logic and emotions,
How I hate being asked if I’m on my period when I have a reason to be upset,
How I hate not feeling pretty without a mask made of expensive cosmetics,
How I hate fashion standards,
How I hate being told to control myself because as a woman I shouldn’t act in such a matter,
As I woman I should sit still,
Shut up,
be polite,
be kind,
be understanding,
be obedient,
be perfectly okay with the idea that I am made to feel that I can never achieve anything great unless I’m told it’s okay to or unless a man did it first.

Oh how I hate to live in a world where being a woman often means having to prepare for a life full of difficulties and ridicule.

slow rampart
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There there now, buck up. Being a man is worse after all.
But we aren't allowed to write about it lol

On a more serious note, if you hate make up I'd suggest not wearing it. I'm sure you're beautiful either way

proven smelt
slow rampart
# proven smelt I didnt mean that it was more difficult being either a man or a woman, it wasnt ...

Wow this is a super mellow and logical response. You must be a really nice person. I honestly didn't get that impression from the poem. I don't mean that as a put down or anything, It's just that from a perspective like mine, making what would appear to be a huge rant about womanhood and using terms like "patriarchy" comes off as very anti-male. Which I can see now wasn't your intention. But yes men have many issues of their own

rigid void
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no way you said “being a man is worse after all.” when i’m pretty sure you’ve never been catcalled on the street for wearing a skirt, you’ve never received less money then your coworkers because of your gender, you’ve never been harassed for wearing too much makeup, or not enough makeup. i’m not saying men have perfect lives and are all happy, but you cannot seriously be saying that men have harder lives.

slow rampart
# rigid void no way you said “being a man is worse after all.” when i’m pretty sure you’ve ne...

Sure, yeah. I go work a job which involves a lot of heavy lifting and then come home and work outside in 100 degree weather, cutting down logs and building crap with them and working on the homestead etc, while my wife takes care of the kids inside. That isn't a put down of my wife in anyway, I'm blessed to have her. We're just both playing our roles. And if anything bad happens, I'd gladly sacrifice my life to protect her, or be shipped off to war for a draft, etc, because men are the expendable ones. Which stems from women being the reproductive bottleneck of our species, thus far more valuable. Again I'm not complaining. But ask the men and women on the titanic who had it worse

bronze dawn
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Shade you really think being a man is harder lmao

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my god

slow rampart
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It isn't my opinion it's just a fact. It doesn't bother me if people understand it or not lol. I think I just articulated a fraction of my reasoning pretty well. I could write 10 more paragraphs but this isn't really the place for it

bronze dawn
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I mean really, it just sounds like you are mad about these phantom roles and responsibilities you put on yourself.

rigid void
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no please do i’m really interested

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if you don’t want to do it here you can dm me 😊

slow rampart
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bronze dawn
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So unbelievably problematic with everything. You've commented and made deals about when someone made a poem about being transgender, and now on someone talking about being a women. Let people live, man. If anybody is crying about anything its you

rigid void
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oh damn shade

slow rampart
proven smelt
# slow rampart Sure, yeah. I go work a job which involves a lot of heavy lifting and then come ...

i dont think its entirely fair to say that men necessarily have more difficult lives. The life of a male that you’re describing is your own personal one. Jobs that require heavy lifting dont apply to all men, and that just simply isnt the type of job or reality that a lot of men have. On the other hand, supporting their family and doing jobs requiring heavy lifting is a reality for women who work in that type of field. I dont think gender roles are really easily labeled in this situation because they can easily be reversed in any family situation. Theres also millions of women who would sacrifice their lives to protect their family and there are a ton of women in the army as well. Im not trying to start anything, and im not claiming that the lives of either men or women are more difficult because theres so many different things in an individuals life that you really have to take into consideration.

rigid void
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sadie you’re the best ily

bronze dawn
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For real. If you really hate your heavy lifting job and being the working father, fix it or something. Don't take it out on others.

slow rampart
bronze dawn
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? I am saying you are projecting. I suppose we could both be, though I'm not sure what it is I'd be projecting

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Tell me what you think it is

slow rampart
# proven smelt i dont think its entirely fair to say that men necessarily have more difficult l...

I just want to say, despite the other people causing issues on your behalf, I really love reading what you have to say in this form. I clearly didn't like your poen, because it's just saying "I hate" over and over. But you are a very well spoken and intelligent person and even though I'd love to disagree and go deeper into a few of these points, I already feel bad enough for what I've done to your poem's comment section. But man I'd love to see a poem that reflects, THIS. Your fair mindedness and understanding. Very beautiful

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high bough
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2 things
-don't think this argument was necessary
-everybody has their ups and downs in life and we're making it worse by bickering over who's worse. it's already hard enough. let's just live in unity (like that's ever going to happen) and get through it together.

proven smelt
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i also just wanted to say that i do have plans to make 2 other poems about different topics/perspectives around the entire idea of womanhood. This is supposed to be a series, but so far this is just the first poem!

high bough