Need suggestions, genuine ones

[dense kraken]

So i actually suffer from BPD (clinically diagnosed), and if something you dont know about it , people with BPD have extreme abandonment issues , fear of that,, and so my gf uses a lot of "then why u dating me" "leave me then" "i aint forcing you" , and then my BPD kicked in really bad and i compared her to my ex "she never did this to me so why are you doing it" and then she blocked me, and yk how it goes, ,,

So i genuinely wanna know (especially from girl's perspective) on how could I actually solve it, i really want to explain her that it kills me , but she keeps on repeating the same

[scenic bolt]

I don’t know but I think you should take a break and focus on yourself .

[dense kraken]

Thnks 🙏🏽

[scenic bolt]

I don’t mean it in a bad way but if this is triggering you and she knows this then it is really scary

You deserve mental peace above all and if you are young then definitely

[uneven schooner]

My first question

How long have you been with that person?

[dense kraken]

Yeah dw , i didn't take it in a bad way 🙏🏽

[dense kraken]

Since December, proposed in January 16th

[uneven schooner]

So it's been few months

[scenic bolt]

Okies take care

[dense kraken]

Hmm , bt is it common for girls to use that tag line?

[dense kraken]

Thanks a lot sis 🙏🏽

[dense kraken]

Yeah

[dense kraken]

I will consider mental health

[scenic bolt]

Do you complain to her a lot ?! I wouldn’t say this unless I am kidding or we have a joke

[uneven schooner]

If it's not that serious and if you're getting questioned why for it

[scenic bolt]

Please do 🙏🙏🙏

[uneven schooner]

Then you need to reconsider the relationship

[dense kraken]

I just mentioned it
"I hv BPD , pls dont use those lines 🙏🏽 use anything else , it doesn't matter 🙏🏽"

[uneven schooner]

Alot of us suffer from mental health and it cannot be taken lightly

[dense kraken]

Idk why she says tht, once i stopped talking for a while and she actually had a seizure , fainted in her office

[dense kraken]

Yeah , thats a real thing

[uneven schooner]

In my experience I have not been diagnosed with any issues but I had my days where I had rage fits

Burnouts and whatnot

[scenic bolt]

The honestly leave. It’s affecting you clearly. Please focus on your mental health

[uneven schooner]

And after a certain point I was honestly tired of explaining myself repeatedly

[dense kraken]

I understand
Bt for me since i was sexually assaulted as a child i suffer through BPD

[uneven schooner]

It is really important that you choose an empathetic partner

[dense kraken]

Ok thank u sis 🙏🏽
Wld be hard ik 🙏🏽

[dense kraken]

Yeah it happens

[dense kraken]

U r right

[uneven schooner]

I don't understand taking breaks in a relationship

[scenic bolt]

Yess and as time goes you get it.

[uneven schooner]

But consider talking about it

[scenic bolt]

Saying break up is harsh 😭😭hence I said break

[uneven schooner]

With your partner

[dense kraken]

Idk, when someone threatens to leave me , it kills me really i feel devastated

[uneven schooner]

I'm all in for being harsh

[uneven schooner]

Abandonment issues

[dense kraken]

Ok i will for one last time 🙏🏽

[uneven schooner]

Try to talk it out easy

[dense kraken]

Yeah anxiety

[uneven schooner]

And walk away if it doesn't brings you any clarity in the relationship

I date with the intent to marry

[dense kraken]

Its fine , not the first time u see 🙏🏽

[scenic bolt]

Let them leave honestly. It’s affecting you clearly

[dense kraken]

Me too

[uneven schooner]

So having empathy is a prerequisite

My name means empathy

[dense kraken]

Hmm i see , still i will consider talking once nd once show these chats,, she isnt in this server bt i will

[uneven schooner]

You better start learning acceptance brother

Acceptance is the key

[dense kraken]

😂😂 true having empathy is a musy

[uneven schooner]

Abandonment issues leads to toxic obsession

[dense kraken]

Must*

[uneven schooner]

First understand that forever is a lie

Nobody's here forever

No matter how good they are

[dense kraken]

Hvv i hv accepted enough already,, ruined my mental health a lot, stuffs i hv been in 4 yrs,, now i clearly understand , why children are supposed to be away from sexual stuffs (yes SA wasn't my fault , but it ruined me)

[dense kraken]

You are right

[uneven schooner]

Even your own parents would leave you at some point

That's the harsh reality alot of us are not willing to accept

Breakup sucks I agree

[dense kraken]

Thanks a lot @uneven schooner & @scenic bolt

🙏🏽🙏🏽
If u guys wanna leave any last statement, feel free 🙏🏽

[uneven schooner]

But living down in a hole with someone who doesn't even know how to deal with you...is a hell on another level

Choose someone who chooses you and not questions you on every setback

[scenic bolt]

No just take care of yourself. Love shouldn’t hurt this much

[uneven schooner]

I agree curls loving someone and vice versa shouldn't be hard

And so far from what I've heard from you

You both are walking on eggshells

[dense kraken]

🙏🏽🙏🏽 thnks 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[dense kraken]

Ohk yeah that's true 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[dense kraken]

Hmm bt yes i do love her a lot 🙏🏽
I will try to convince her once 🙏🏽

[modern agate]

bro u dont need to do anything, if she loved u, she will come around

and if she doesnt u hv ur ans, above all you've got urself and other ppl beside u, dont think too much and focus on ur happiness and mental peace

[dense kraken]

Hmm u r right 🫂🫂🫂

Thanks a lot