#Isn't Casuals fun and boring at the same time?

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hollow wind
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Yes

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I concur

elfin edge
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share bro

hollow wind
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Casual sex, right?

elfin edge
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yep

spare badger
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Pretty risky,next thing you know ur partner is 7 years older than you.

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Sex is fun tho

left star
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lmao

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7 year older fine What about 7 year younger

spare badger
elfin edge
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its better with older one always i guess

hollow wind
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Well I’ve been with many girls. One day there was this young looking older lady at club, we met up and decided to hit it off that night at a hotel. We go in, she gets some wine, and we dance with her silk dress half down looking almost torn, the lights dim and the music warm but not loud, it felt so magical. We showered together and all that, right? But the morning I wake up, and it’s a note that say thanks for last night, I have a flight to catch.

left star
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Gotta learn things

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hahahahaha

hollow wind
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So whenever I have something casual, I think about how down I feel and empty of course after the whole deed

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And it gets boring, boring and more boring

elfin edge
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yes.. extremities

spare badger
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I get the empty feeling too,tank gets drained yknow.

left star
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||I am virgin I still feel empty lmao||

hollow wind
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We were just there, for that one night and nothing mattered and this won’t too

hollow wind
elfin edge
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it gets boring and eventually when your down like with many woman or men... then actual sense of relationship gets really tough isn't it?/

hollow wind
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And the default state

hollow wind
elfin edge
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stilll the fiesty part is even if u leave all of this behid and fall in love like really...but eventually there will be moments you just want to have sex with different people... cause then ur relationship gets boring

left star
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huh? really?

hollow wind
elfin edge
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lets make it poll kind a thing..and firstly lets just introduce ourselves as male or female.

hollow wind
elfin edge
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atleast we will know male are replying or female...googlee?

hollow wind
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There was one person whom I didn’t feel it with and it felt like I never would but that relationship ended in a tragedy

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Guess you really can’t have good things in life

left star
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Hahaha

hollow wind
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Googlee is a guy hahah

elfin edge
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chal thik hai fir..lol

left star
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I am guy

hollow wind
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What about you, Nilesh? What do you think?

elfin edge
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so googlee ever experienced this?

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yarr tbh honest... its like addiction.. you get out of casuals and want things good forever kinda... but situations will arise once in a while u feel like rushing to casuals.. so can never really say casuals are bad

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but yes it gets boring if its a ONS

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but 1 week kinda maybe not..or 1month kinda..atleast u get both of casuals and relationship

hollow wind
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Everything sucks tbh Evil

elfin edge
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sahi m

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so where are u guys from?

hollow wind
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Casuals aren’t the problem here

hollow wind
elfin edge
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relationships are

hollow wind
elfin edge
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but also we want relationships ...need toh hai hi

hollow wind
elfin edge
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So u young? 20-25?

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or above?

hollow wind
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That bracket

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Young

elfin edge
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same

hollow wind
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So you’re from Begur?

elfin edge
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Begur, near Bommanahalli

hollow wind
elfin edge
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where is cali

hollow wind
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California hahah

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The US

elfin edge
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ohh

hollow wind
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Yep

elfin edge
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udhr toh scene arr hi alag hoga

hollow wind
elfin edge
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do seriouness exists there? even relationships are casuals there xD

hollow wind
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So I can’t really compare it to India but

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Contrary to the popular perception, there are people who go in for a good long term relationship here

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Although they aren’t as possessive as your avg couple in India

elfin edge
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so i m in situation coz im in realtionship...and only problem is sex life.. its good for her not for me(once in months is pretty good) but not good otherwise... but rest relationship is pretty good.. worst part.. cant tell her already told manytimes in past,seems like she is okay if i m not satisfied but also she loves me alot

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feels like getting into casuals ...basically cheating.. i mean kitna hi bolo sex affects alot! and its a considerable things

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cant just ignore right...

hollow wind
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Communication is THE key 🔑

elfin edge
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i had 2 3 times

hollow wind
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What are you looking for in this relationship? If you’re looking for something long term like marriage, this isn’t going to work out still.

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What are you going to do if your post marital sex isn’t good? Run to casuals?

elfin edge
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yeah that only..marriage, but now i m not sure brother

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but also dont want to leave her cause i m attached

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apart from sex she is a good partner

hollow wind
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I suggest you have another serious talk with her again and tell her how important your sex life is to you. Otherwise, leave that poor girl so you can find what you want without hurting her and she can do that too.

elfin edge
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hmmm

hollow wind
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For a good marriage, it’s adamant that you don’t behave exactly like you’re doing now. If she’s a good partner, give her sometime

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Teach her, tell her what she can do and help her to understand your needs while you help her with whatever qualms she has. If you’re serious about marriage, you will face situations that have 100x more magnitude than this

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How’re you going to handle that? And you tell me you have communicated that to her, that’s good! But did you communicate it well?

We’re both in the same age bracket, so we’re both young. We don’t know how to communicate really well yet and that’s okay

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Recognise and maybe try again, because I don’t want you to loose a potentially good partner and I’m sure you don’t want to either but just don’t cheat while still with her

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It’s never okay

elfin edge
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i mean nowadays woman come and speak like this our needs are not fullfilled in physical aspect. but if same thing a man says then it becomes he is a creep. thats the situtation.. literally its frustrating

hollow wind
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Hmm

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But we have no choice, the Indian society sees even public conversations like this as a taboo but it is changing slowly. Don’t fall for societal pressure tho, it’s your life and you’ll have to face consequences for it

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Don’t ruin it for the fear of being seen as a creep

elfin edge
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and tbh i taught her manythings, iff she wouldnt be my gf, and we would have been in casuals then she would have done all the nasty stuffs ..but now it seems like she has taken it for granted and if stop doing it then a huge mess comes up.. then its like she is not doing with her heart or whatever.

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i recently downloaded tinder... have couple of matches....didnt went and meet anyone yet....been 2 days.. i want to uninstall then 10 reasons i m getting not to..10 reasons im getting should go ahead under the hood

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totally i ll be wrong i know.... but situations is pretty fucked up

hollow wind
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It’s your conscience at the end of the day

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See

elfin edge
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hmm

hollow wind
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Hahaha

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I mean

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The universe is pretty big right?

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In these billions of stars, life could have formed in so many ways and it formed the way it did and your parents could have had many other children but they had you

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At the end, nothing matters so to give life meaning is in your hands. It’s your conscience

elfin edge
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hmm i got you

hollow wind
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Put yourself in her shoes, would want to yourself to cheat then? If your conscience is hurt, you can never get it back

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And you’ll have one more reason to cheat the next time

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“I already did it once, why not another time?”

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Whatever you’re doing isn’t a permanent fix either

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It’s a bandage to a pestering wound

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That’ll fall apart anytime making you fall apart with it too

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Instead, understand why she’s doing what she’s doing and reason with her

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Attack the base of her reason and make her see things the way you do. That’s when you truly communicated well

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Then she will definitely reciprocate

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GETTING HER the view from your eyes is important

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For her to sympathise with you

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To do that, you need to do that FIRST

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—

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Keeping that aside

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If nothing works out and you made peace with that fact

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Save yourself the hell and the guilt

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And say goodbye to her

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These are the only right paths for you to take

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Take it as a life’s test if you must

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But you must pass this

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It’s for a reason you’re facing this when you’re 23 or whatever

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Not when you’re 13, it’s age appropriate. It’s the law of the nature, it’s the path every human walked, there’s a right way out of this puzzle

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And you must find it

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Good luck!

elfin edge
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you are correct brother

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thanks alot