How to handle entitled and narcissistic people ?

[fickle lintel]

Basically what the title says

[radiant harness]

Good question. Boycott maybe?

[wanton fulcrum]

Ignore

[fickle lintel]

Even if that means boycotting everyone ?

[fickle lintel]

Yes you try ignoring everyone and end up being lonely

[wanton fulcrum]

are you saying everyone is narcissistic?

[fickle lintel]

On extreme cases yes but everyone is selfish to some degree

[wanton fulcrum]

everyone is selfish to some degree and thats natural, narcissism is totally different

[fickle lintel]

Being selfish is natural ?

[wanton fulcrum]

to some degree, yes

[fickle lintel]

Isn't narcissism more like you re so selfish that you become self obsessed sorts ?

[wanton fulcrum]

as i said, narcissism is extreme self obsession, not everyone has that

[fickle lintel]

It's not natural, you would want to trust someone and build friendship, companionship, relationship and so on... even a little bit of selfishness would harm those right ?

[fickle lintel]

Everyone is narcissistic to some degree, everyone tries to boast or brag about shit they have done

[wanton fulcrum]

being proud of something you have done is not narcissism, and again not everyone does that

[fickle lintel]

That is the case if you had done something significant and be proud
People brag about stupid shit like hooking up, dating several girls,... isn't that narcissism ? I have seen many guys do this

[wanton fulcrum]

many, not all.... thats why i said IGNORE

[fickle lintel]

There are too many to ignore like four in every five people belong to one of those categories

[wanton fulcrum]

thats not true at all, maybe u have been hanging around with wrong people, be careful not to generalize

[fickle lintel]

Forget wrong people

I don't think you have even met people, you're living inside your bubble of sunshine and rainbows

[wanton fulcrum]

yes i live in a cave

[hazy trout]

I just tell them to do what I want cuz I am better than them.

[fickle lintel]

That's awesome!!

[hazy trout]

Thanks I know i am

[fickle lintel]

Invite some people here and have some random conversations here

[green light]

You can't do anything to them, they're a narc for a reason

also, you can't change people, no

at most, you can start putting boundaries

if it's bothering you so much, cut yourself off for good

life's too short to worry about other's behaviour towards you, learn to enjoy your own company and be friends with the people you enjoy being around

[glossy aspen]

Become an entitled and narcissistic person

[green light]

if everyone's an entitled and narcissistic person then no one is an entitled and narcisstic person

[glossy aspen]

Exactly win win

[fickle lintel]

How ? Makes no sense ? There will be 0% trust between people, everyone tries to appease their own ego , there will be no progress in any field... people will be constantly fighting that their opinion is superior and so on...

[green light]

• trust is vital, and if everyone's a narc and entitled, individuals will still form groups and alliances for their self-interest; trust will be transactional, based on the value.
• high ego implies there will be severe competition between individuals to prove their superiority, this will fuel the advancements/progress in respective fields
• conflict of opinions only result in newer ideas getting a second thought and newer approaches

kbye

[fickle lintel]

The problem is self interests often conflict , like say in a company everyone tries for a promotion but only one can be promoted and they constantly step on others , sabotaging other people's efforts, at the end of the day there will be no winners. Fake transactional trust

[glossy aspen]

That is life and you play it , you can't fix any of this

[green light]

nice thought, i've some work now

will get back it by 10-11pm

[iron grove]

Become entitled and narcissistic yourself so that you become full of yourself and can easily ignore those kinda people.

[green light]

username checks out

[fickle lintel]

+1

[fickle lintel]

Adding to that it comes out totally dystopian as everyone cares about their needs , then the whole debate of the needs of the few vs the needs of the many,... things like poverty, healthcare, infrastructure, public transportation, climate change , disaster relief,... if everyone cares about themselves no one will give charity

It will be a hypothetical utopia where everyone will be peaceful

[green light]

isn't it the case now as well?

[fickle lintel]

But logically a dystopia

[green light]

be honest mysti

[fickle lintel]

Well no... a lot of people are empathetic

[fickle lintel]

Okay tell me

[green light]

dinner -> workout -> study -> code

man I'm busy

[green light]

tell me more about those people

are they well off to a point where they are at a greed plateau?

[iron grove]

was being sarcastic but wokey

[green light]

let me tell you about myself, I am surely empathetic, i help people, go above and beyond my ways as well while myself being a broke student from a not a good financial and social background but i give zero fucks if something isn't affecting me directly

does this make me a narc?

i think life's to short to worry about those that don't even give a thought about your emotional well-being

mark your profits, cut the losses, and if you've time n money left, go charity what's stopping you

[green light]

not everyone can charity neither you need everyone to charity

[fickle lintel]

Narc is the short for narcotic used for anti narcotic cops - basically those who catch drug users n such

[fickle lintel]

True but most of us jobless

[green light]

anyways, I think utilising my cognitive load here is a severe waste

no matter the outcome of this discussion

I shall say goodbye

[fickle lintel]

Sure thanks for your input

Let's hear inputs from others

[green light]

I'm interested in software engineering, human psychology, and philosophy in general. Do let me know if you've a good topic to exchange inputs on

We can VC someday

[fickle lintel]

Watch this show - a good place, if you like psychology it's really an okay show with lots of talks about moral psychology

[green light]

will do! thanks

you're a nice person, do accept my fren req

[fickle lintel]

Bro you haven't sent me a friend request, oh wait I have disabled have sent you request

[undone roost]

u would love friedrich nietzsche and his books then

[fickle lintel]

Yes yes a big time follower of nietzshe

And nihilism

[undone roost]

Wait whaaaaa.. i didint know u werre into that, ISTG!!

[undone roost]

US bhai US !!

wow

but u reach at a peak point where even following or thinking about nihilishm also deems pointless

and u just exist

[fickle lintel]

Let's talk about this next time we get bombed

[undone roost]

always down for a talk on nihilism and nothingness

[queen cloud]

ppl call them narcs in abuse survivor communities lol

i heard i mean

anyways narcs cant be fixed or “dealt with”

you just starve the relationship

[fickle lintel]

Is it the only place I have heard that is breaking bad where they use it to refer to customs and police officers who specialise in catching drug peddlers

[fickle lintel]

I agree

[queen cloud]

its used both ways tbh😭😭

i think narc 4 narcists is more niche

[fickle lintel]

The problem is , even if we try to avoid them they think they own us and we need to give them an explanation, we need to be behind them that this .... we need to follow them that this

[queen cloud]

oh yeah there are sm scenarios where it’s hard like w parents or in marriages but awareness of what narcissism is does more than u think for a victim

i know someone who extensively read up +seeked help 4 it

i can maybe ask them to suggest a good podcast by a professional if u or whoever needs it

[undone roost]

Drop the name