VPS at 100% RAM but Server Disagrees?

[modest nest]

pycord has been warned

Reason: Too many spoiler tags

[spice raft]

1. OVH Dashboard shows 99.699% RAM usage

2. Server doesn't.

total        used        free      shared  buff/cache   available
3911716     2068868      906344        2664     1183448     1842848

MiB Mem : 53.8/3820.0
MiB Swap:  0.0/0.0 

%CPU  %MEM     TIME+ COMMAND
6.3  30.4      8,05 python3.9
0.3   0.5  60:52.85 containerd

[odd otter]

do you run like proxmox or something like that inside ?

[spice raft]

no. I use screen though, but that 30.9% mem python3.9 is one of the screens so i know it's not hiding those
I also use flask with nginx/gunicorn and my database is also here that that screen connects to every 30 seconds or so.