#Errmmm js wnted to vent

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sturdy badger
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just wanted to vent abt this thing nd hv someones thoughts

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i js rlly wanted to rant abt someone that i met online since 11 nov 2024.

basically i met them on an online game called mobile legends. And i asked for their discord and we became friends. I was 16 at the time. And they told me she was 19.

At the time i was in a rlly dark place of my life and i basically rlly needed someone to rely on. And so i texted to her almost everyday. And essentially i trauma bonded with her because i found out that she had alot in common with me like she had rlly strict parents and she had a past with like sh and depression and she rlly helped me when things got bad.

She told me her name was callista. And that she lived in the same country as me. And she mentioned tht she was rlly rich like priv jet level rich.

Basically bcs she always helped me when i got rlly sad i started to rlly rlly like her. And i even told her tht i liked her but she told me tht she wasnt ready and like she still missed her ex. And i told her that i was like okay to wait till she was ready. and so we essentially spent everyday playing games.

But she never spoke in vcs because she always excused it to be like her parents being strict and i accepted it so i just talked to myself in vcs while she typed. But this got rlly tiring for me?

Because she wld play at unhuman hours like 1am to 1pm and i had like a life to tend to and i rlly cldnt keep up with her schedule because i had things to do in the day and i rlly cldnt spend all night playing w her and sleep thru the day like her.

But i rlly rlly liked her so i sacrifaced my sleep. and i was also abit chopped so i started like losing weight to impress her or at least not dissapoint her.

i picked her over my friends regularly. and tried my best to be exclusive to her. while she spent alot of time with other dudes because i cldnt keep up w her schedule she wld like play with all these other dudes and also empathise with their situations if they like ranted to her etc and this lead to like large amounts of guys liking and confessing to her regularly even tho she nvr rlly did anything?

and i was constantly rlly jealous of all the other guys. i was also rlly deprived of her attention so i wld get rlly happy whenever she was toxic to me..? like she wld ask to share my screen and go thru my phone etc and i gt like happy because it showed that she was paying attention to me.

i also started having a rlly soft spot for her and bcs her parents were strict she wasnt allowed to spend on games let alone even play games. So whenever she asked me for skins i wld give them to her and it eventually ammounted to maybe $300-$400? possibly more i didnt keep count. But i wasnt working so i was rlly sacrifacing everyt i had bcs i had a rlly soft spot for her.

around 1 yr in she showed me her face thru like her gallery…? like she screenshared and like opened her gallery to show me her tiktok “drafts” and she always warned me not to screenshot.

this year in march. I google lensed one of the screenshots i took of her face and i found out tht it had like a instagram account linked to the picture..? and i found out tht she was catfishing me and when i confronted her she immediately went offline.

I tried begging for her telling that its okay even if she lied bcs i still rlly liked her and that im willing to forgive her.

18 days after(24/04/2026) her discord account was officially deleted.so i tried contacting her thru other means of contact. Her email, her phone number( she accidentally leaked this to me by openning the share contact when she was screensharing and i screenshotted)

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And i kept spamming this phone number and i sent emails to the email telling her that im not angry etc. and tht im willing to forgive her.

And on 6 may i finnally got a reply saying “Hello, I just found out that my sister has been using my number to message you and pose as someone else and I was not aware of anything that she has done thus far. I apologise on behalf of my sister.”

And according to the brother he said that his sister was 16 turning 17 this year. Im 18 this year. But i was js rlly confused and it got rlly hard to believe. But after tht one day of texting his brother he stopped replying. But her brother said that she only lied abt her face? And that they are well off. Fyi the brother has a rlly diff typing style from her.

One week later someone added me on discord. And it was her(the person tht catfished me)

she told me that she rlly liked me and that she wanted to seem perfect to me therefore she lied abt like her face etc. and she was shy..? to reveal her voice and her parents also wld find out and she was scared.

now im like still talking to her but im rlly rlly doubtful because i havent like clarified anything at all even tho she came back she hasnt spoken or like showed her face and im rlly lost because i rlly like her but i dont want to be lied to?

I know its rlly pathetic of me and theres some cut out parts to my story as its abit long. I rlly want to know what yall think? If i shld continue trying to like her or give up soon or ?

foggy cosmos
# sturdy badger And i kept spamming this phone number and i sent emails to the email telling her...

To me, seeing someone you wanted to be around and confessed your feelings towards, then for them to give no clear answer as to whether or not they'd be into doing that with you puts me off in some way, because it sounded like you asked her out near the start of the relationship, giving her a clear amount of time to search her feelings and give you a response because after all the effort you went through to be with her, and buy skins for her (which you never had to do, but the sentiment sounded worthwhile), it was something you felt would bring you both closer and together, and I think she knew that.

But coming from all that effort it didn't seem like she was reciprocating those same feelings and taking time out of her day to be with you, and that level of effort to do so, and I know that after doing all that for someone you should recieve a level of respect towards your actions, to which she hasn't really given any appreciation for? It sounds to me that it might be better for you to lean away from getting closer with her again, since she might use you for her own needs like she's done in the past.

And if your feelings are genuine, then maybe confront her directly about these feelings and you can get an idea on how she reacts to it, if she beats around the question rather than answering it then it's a clear sign to move away from her.

All in all, I've had people who've catfished myself in the past too, in fact I recently had to deal with a catfish quite like yours (gf now ex because she outright lied about her pics and jumped over any boundary we set in place) and I do believe some catfishers are doing it because they felt they couldn't show people their true identity, but after almost 2 years in your case and for her to lie to your face about herself still seems like the catfisher has other intentions than wanting to show their actual identity to you.

(First time responding so take it with a grain of salt) but if you want to talk more feel free to @ or dm

sturdy badger
# foggy cosmos To me, seeing someone you wanted to be around and confessed your feelings toward...

oh i rlly didnt expect someone to even read anyt😭 because it was so long

im just rlly confused because she came back and shes like saying everyt i ever wanted to hear like how shes saying she actually rlly liked me from the start and everything js seems rlly surreal and unbelievable and as much as i rlly wanna believe her shes rlly not making it easy for me to even believe her. and its not like its the first time i found out shes lying as well? she did like try to pretend/catfish as someone else in the past but its like rlly brief claims? like she js said pics of other people are her and i did call her out and she wld js like downplay it to be ragebait etc

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and its like i rlly rlly trust her sm already and its like onesided trust

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and she came back and shes like js acting as if nthg happened

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as if like lying abt her identity is js a small thing whn i feel like its the bare minimum for me to trust someone

foggy cosmos
foggy cosmos
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From what I've seen she hasn't really given any reason for your level of respect and trust

foggy cosmos
sturdy badger
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ermm i rlly cut out alot and i wldve typed longer i was js rlly scared people wldnt read it

as for what caused me to trust them so much its rlly js abt how she was always there for me. like bcs i was rlly isolated myself and she always comforted me and i did change myself for the better ironically? like i found a reason to live? i was like rlly rlly sad everyday and i was like rlly going from bad to worse so i wld say my trauma bond rlly made me to trust her sm?

sturdy badger
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wasting my time?

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i dont think its healthy for me

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and its not just that

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everyt that shes saying even if true is rlly hard to believe

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u cant tell me its easy to believe someone has a priv jet

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and they are interested in "you"

foggy cosmos
sturdy badger
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i mean whn u have nothing anything is good...?

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like i had nobody

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so anything and everything seemed better then nothing

foggy cosmos
sturdy badger
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i wldnt be able to tell if it were geniune or just for show because its all over text and im rlly gullible by nature already

foggy cosmos
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Now that you see her in a different light

sturdy badger
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uhh i cant do that

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my texts with her

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are like

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deleted?

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its complicated but basically the parts where she mostly comforted me dont exist anymore

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but from my memory

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it was geniune

foggy cosmos
sturdy badger
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even if she was lying abt her identity i do think they are someone of a emotional background?

foggy cosmos
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With the private jet and all

sturdy badger
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yeahhh

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its so hard to believe bro

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how am i supposed to believe that

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im a nobody

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litterally

foggy cosmos
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Yea and why would she ask you to buy her skins if her parents could afford a private jet?

sturdy badger
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her excuse was that like

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her parents are rlly strivt

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strict

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so she wasnt allowed to even play games

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etc

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let alone spend money

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like i js feel rlly pathetic for trying so hard

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like im typing all these long ass paragraphs explaining whts wrong whts hurting me nd like

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idk

foggy cosmos
sturdy badger
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no

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on a gane

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game

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hi seo yeon/callista/cvlsx/yu xin/airi, i know that you wish that things could go back to how it used to be, and things only became like this because you wanted to present me with a perfect image of you, where you looked like wonyoung etc.

I already rlly rlly like you even if u didnt show me what u looked like. Im pretty sure i said this a few times tht i look up to wonyoung’s work ethic nd how she carries herself but i wldnt say shes someone perfect? for me..? so udh to push yourself to be a “perfect” for me. this is the same for the age whr u lied. You dont have to be a “perfect” to me i dont deserve tht much and i just want you for you bcs thts who i like.

you said that i didnt rlly have a reaction or i didnt rlly care until u showed me that you looked like the person you were pretending to be. And once u showed me that u looked like them i said i rlly rlly liked how they looked etc whereas i didnt say that in the past when its you or what you claimed to be.

And honestly the reason that u felt that i didnt rlly gave a reaction to how u looked until u showed me her pics was mostly bcs it was your full face nd you were consistently showing me? I felt that u finally trusted me and u started showing me what u actually looked like whereas in the past u wld always claim to look like all these ppl and i honestly didnt knw what to say or react because some of them were blatantly not you. So it was js rlly hard for me to close both eyes and js say tht u were pretty etc bcs its obv nt u.

as for the pictures that u are claiming are you, the cos one? And idk what else i do think ure rlly pretty and honestly atp if its rlly you. you didnt have to lie at all i wldve said ure pretty regardless.

I just rlly hope you know how much u matter to me and how sad i am tht u had to resort to lying to me to make me like you whn i liked you for you.

Im sure ive been rlly patient with you, ive forgave you many many times for lying blatantly and dissmissing it as ragebait and im willing to forgive you again for this. I cant even bring myself to hate you. Every single day that passed without you feels like an eternity.

I want you to know that i rlly like you and honestly ive been confused abt what i am to you for the longest time. I know that you dont want to put a label on this? Or what we have esp bcs of what just happened.

But if i was truly that important to you. Did you really think that i would never find out? That u were lying to me. if i was rlly so important to you was it rlly worth risking me hating you just so i would perceive you in this perfect image.

I honestly dont know what to think bcs, i feel like ive been liking you so onesidedly and even though it seems like you like me bcs u went through all this js to show me a perfect image of yourself. It has nvr seemed like you were ever exclusive to me and it js seemed like at one point i was just another dude.

im not sure if you’re trying to make me jealous so that i wld want you even more then i already do but i hope you know that before i even found out that u lied to me abt how u looked, it was rlly painful for me to stay and yet i still wanted your company so badly. It hurt so badly bcs of how much u seemed to miss your ex, liking tts abt missing your ex, liking tts abt hving limerence bcs your ex is someone u cn nvr hv, nd it js rlly hurt me js staying nd seeing that. I liked u so so much and ive tried my best to even get you to turn in my direction and yet it seems like no matter what i did it didnt seem to work.

I feel like you did like ashy at one point and even though you deny it, its pretty clear u liked him. And its not js ashy, you do still seem to miss your ex and all. And if you were willing to go thru the trouble of showing me this “perfect image of you” but it seems like you dont even trust me at all. I opened all my doors for you. I showed you everything and it js seems like you’re still so closed off to me

foggy cosmos
foggy cosmos
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I've done that way too many times lol

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It's somehow the reason I end up in toxic relationships

sturdy badger
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lol

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for trying to send the 2nd part of it

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im not sure y

foggy cosmos
sturdy badger
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we are still talking...

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im matching w her

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actually

sturdy badger
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she replied with

foggy cosmos
sturdy badger
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i mean

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how am i supposed to date someone whos identity i dont know

foggy cosmos
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Maybe it's time you gave her a crossroads or an equilibrium

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Like

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"If we actually get together then you have to show me the real you, not this fake one you've shown me"

sturdy badger
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fmlll\

foggy cosmos
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Dw bro I gotchu

foggy cosmos
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Ok, but bro she mentioned after you left

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Which might mean that she missed the free uh

sturdy badger
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right.

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free money