#early signs you were trans/nonbinary/other?

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hushed hazel
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I'm an AMAB trans woman. Mine were subtle ones.
Standing up with crossed legs. Sometimes crying at the drop of a hat. Being good at babysitting siblings (past a certain age). Wanting a Dora the Explorer toy house at 6 years old. Playing with Monster High and Barbie dolls for years with my younger sisters and not caring about how I look to outsiders about it. Unstable tomboy older sister energy. Talking in a more "feminine" language. Understanding cis women better (I'm oriented towards dudes).
I was always a woman. I did not just "want to become a woman". I just had no awareness of it until adulthood. I assumed I was a dude.

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Being a woman just felt right to my soul. Like I could finally be me.

crude spokeBOT
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For our host it took many tries being lesbian to realize they identified with their favorite youtuber Miles Makena the most when they said gender just doesn't exist in my world. Our host studied the whole list of lgbtqia plus list when they were a kid to get the idea of what fits them because they were like ok I don't fit straight what am I then, they were a determined little person. At 16 they read that and realized that they were non binary, they have also been pansexual for years but no idea when that started they just like men and woman regardless of gender even trans or people who are no gender or someone who is all genders and they also found out they were agender when they did Nonbinary because they are almost identical, they also found out the are a romantic, that one came really recently because they love their husband and do romantic things for him but only because he loves it, they don't feel romance but still have care for him and do have sex but not for the romance more for the pleasure sensation and getting to have fun with their husband. A romantic is so new they are still figuring out more about it and how they feel but they know romance is confusing and something they don't feel, even when they do romantic things they don't realize it or feel the romance of it at all. Now for me its interesting I was one of those boys that came to my mom and said mom I'm gay, I was 3 by the way, then by 5 believe it or not I met my future husband and in between then and when we started dating I feel for him hard and have never been able to give my heart to any other man but him, he is my rock and my whole world

ivory zinc
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for me ( AFAB transguy) i never liked wearing shirts as a kid, inoften played with both boys and girls, honestly until i was about 12 i didnt see much of a difference, i know my friends did but i didnt, i also played with cars and typical boys things, but also typical girls toys, i am a more femenine person even though i fully i dentify as a guy, my parentd never limited the toys or clothes me and my sibling could play, it was very subtle things, i did go through a hyperfemine phase when i was 12 and 13 trying to what i beleive was supress the transness, (also side note i did know what trans people were, my uncle is trans)

atomic oak
# hushed hazel I'm an AMAB trans woman. Mine were subtle ones. Standing up with crossed legs. S...

I think that it’s fine either way. I didn’t show many signs as a child, however I grew up in a time where the environment was very inclusive and didn’t want to sort toys etc into “boys” and “girls”. I find that a lot of therapists always wants to looks for signs in your childhood and while I’ve always got a feeling of it, it haven’t been that present in my childhood.

It actually makes me a bit sad that people assumes that you must have had signs in your childhood in order to “claim” an identity. And that therapists needs to put you in a folder in order to “prove” your identity.

ivory zinc
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yea, when i was doing a gender report for my psych i felt like i didnt have enough evidence from when i was a kid, like cause of that maybe the gender clinic would take me less seriously, haveing sutble, or no signs as a kid doesnt mean anything, its ok to not show signs as a kid

lucid pilot
# atomic oak I think that it’s fine either way. I didn’t show many signs as a child, however ...

I agree with this, while I definitely showed some signs, it wasn't a lot, and it wasn't obvious, especially socially. It makes me really dysphoric because I feel "not trans enough" because of it, even though that's not true.

I'm was assigned female at birth, I'm a trans guy I identify fully as a guy and have for over 2 years.
In terms of signs I did show: strong aversion to feminine clothes, wanting to be a "tomboy", and really liking it when I played and interacted with guys my age (so much so that I thought I had romantic interest in them when it was just envy and want to be friends.)
Despite this I still primarily hung around female friends for most of primary school, played with all types of toys (inclusive environment same as Matthew said above), and even got sad about being seen as a boy sometimes.
I largely credit this to lack of knowledge and social things, not my personal feelings. If I had not been told to be a girl by my peers and society, I may have been less averse to trying "boy" things at a young age

cold bane
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For me it was wanting to wear stuff like princess dresses & liking stereotypical girly stuff starting from age 4. I remember asking my mom stuff like "why am i not a girl" because in my head it just didn't make sense. My grandma also predicted me being queer so go grandma!

When i was around 9 i started to actually fantasize about me magically becoming a girl because obviously every cis person thinks that way! /s
Every time i started to fantasize about it, i would become extremely happy until i snapped back to reality.

When i was 13 i figured out that trans folks existed and didn't make the connection that i related to that alot until i was 14.

tulip spoke
hushed hazel
atomic oak
fleet kindle
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I refused to wear dresses. Always wore pants and shirts and hated wearing dresses for sunday school, so much so they let me wear skirts instead of full on dresses.

Genderfluid / systemfluid

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we have done suits, vests with skirts, and dresses

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androgynous feller what can i say

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anything and everything -- but masc/andro is where we typically lean

lucid pilot
fallen meadow
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I was 10-12 when I told my friends and my family "I was like a boy trapped in a girls body." I had noclue what I was talking about, olny that I felt more boyish then all the other girls my age.

vale verge
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I'm an AFAB non binary person, and i think i first realized something was weird with my gender when someone would call me "miss" or "ma'am" and it just felt, off.

jaunty vale
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i’m transmasc and i remember very clearly thinking “ugh, life would be so much better if i was just a boy” when i was around 10

sinful burrow
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I just had no concept of gender and didnt understand why everyone was talking about girls and boys. And I absolutely was not into so called "boy activities". But Im also inter I found out very late and guess that had an effect

verbal marlin
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At about 12/13 maybe a little older I'd fantasise about changing from male to female and back and not just in appearance but the whole shebang - reproductive organs and everything around 20 years later I realised I'm gender fluid, go figure. It's far more complicated than that but the server rules forbid me from saying any more than that and that much might still be a grey area. So apologies mods I'll edit this I'd needed.

robust marten
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For me I never really felt like any gender throughout my childhood, never played with barbies/wasn’t interested, had odd non girly interests, struggled with body image a lot… and I fully realised when I cut all my hair off realising that this feels so great, and that I was more interested in being a boy than I was in being a girl.
For a while being a girl kinda freaked me out and whenever people would use she/her on me I would jump almost. Then I became genderfluid and only stayed within the he/they zone. Then realised it was Demi-boy 😃. So I became a Demi-boy and still am. It just feels so me and I love it.