Cool point, problem is I can think of a few things to try but I also can't be sure if it will work and ultimately never do them, but then again therapy is mm money lpst
#Sein's Tavern
elfin gulch
My weird obsession with shits
It has gone to the extent of hindering my daily life
You know it's bad when daily I wake up at 4am to do shits but the moment I remembered "oh shit I saw this thing earlier it was ugly" the whole thing is ruined and I will have to do it again the next day
Some days I cut off everything and stayed indoors just to try and forget
elfin gulch
No it's not you're weird
But that happens a lot to other people
Take mine, I'm just afraid and overwhelmed by many things
Like sure it will make me better, but will it really? Or am I different and need another approach, but which one
I'm too uncertain about things
It's hard to help you if I'm in the same boat
Well just with a more positive attitude I'm not sure why
Well bad to be you I don't have any ego I'm just scared to ask
Hi where do I find motivation
I honestly feel like I have been set on a path too much I can't do shits for myself and I never feel too confident to try new things
So now I'm stuck behind and can't catch up unless I have a whole course and checklist to fill
New food, new routine, new people
I will only stick with what I'm familiar with
When I tried out stuff like food and cooking, I always messed shits up
Yeah like every time with 0 improvements
I didn't try cooking like once or once every year
Yeah I'm also not a fast learner, so it will take a long time for me to even do anything without watching people do it
More
There was a time I did cooking to help out
But every time I tried sometime it failed so badly I don't wanna try again, like that 4 times I failed not using rice cooker
And I can't just ask because Asian households would assume you learned everything somehow
I am paranoid and I won't be sure (cause I'm scared, that's established) I won't do something until I'm 100% sure it's the right way
It would link to childhood trauma of me being hit by my mom when I did things wrongly to the point of one time I thought she was gonna hit me cause I didn't cook the noodles right lmao
(I broke the bowl and I got hit nonetheless)
Nah not just cooking I'm just paranoid to do things properly, I got over that trauma already
And money!
I'm too used to living on the minimum I can afford, I'm fine with food for now so I just use cooking as an example
No worries I didn't go in here you did
Like I'm not in a negative attitude or anything so you don't need to feel like that, just you doing your best to help me is enough
In all cases I have already come to a conclusion that I either need a full course of my life or I need someone to become an example that I can observe
And that's a problem I will probably try to solve myself
That's why I haven't been here as much
Speak for yourself I'm kinda content with what I'm doing
Although 80% of it was escapism
elfin gulch
I just don't wanna think about it too much for the day
gritty lichen
Aw look at my two children helping each other out
I'm proud of you guys for being so wholesome
Also you can reach out to me anytime
elfin gulch
Thanks granma
So I recently had a quarrel with my friend, it started out really stupid and ended quickly
Basically I just chat like usual, but he brought up something from the topic, but steered it in a totally unrelated way and ended up all philosophical
So I called him out (or confronted him about it) then he said something like "yeah you wouldn't get my philosophical statement" and after that he left the group
And I was left in confusion, I know I was probably the core of the problem but I don't get why he was like that
So how do I fix this? (I've had quarrels with my friends before but usually it fixes itself)
rapid sluice
Sounds like he's just pissy tbh
sweet sundial
Some people are really sensitive about their worldviews and feel attacked when others, especially close friends, don't agree with it
elfin gulch
It's not like I don't agree, I just felt it awkward that he brought it up when (literally) no one asked
And more things I would like to address with him personally cause I don't think it's cool to talk shit about him
I just wanna know how to approach him
Cause we're close but not really
Like we hang out a lot but we haven't talked about things too much
sweet sundial
Seems to me like he was annoyed at something and wanted to share his opinion and get some acknowledgment for it
rapid sluice
And more things I would like to address with him personally cause I don't think ...
depends on how he seemed
was he malding
or was he condescending
bro wtf 1984
elfin gulch
Seems to me like he was annoyed at something and wanted to share his opinion and...
Might be, but you just imagine if I'm talking about planes and he brought up war casualties and weapons are bad
elfin gulch
or was he condescending
I got the impression of this, but I don't wanna provide more context since it feels like I'm talking shit behind his back
Not to say my behaviour was right
rapid sluice
So I called him out (or confronted him about it) then he said something like "ye...
I mean it just sounds like he was trying to pull a cool thing off, and failed
rapid sluice
Like, ngl here's what it sounded like to me:
tries to pull off one of those Epic Anime Quotes featuring Kaneki Ken
friends look at me weird
"Uh OK"
they don't really care about it
some guy calls me out
fuck fuck fuck
you wouldn't get it
this is my Joker moment
elfin gulch
Like, ngl here's what it sounded like to me:
>tries to pull off one of those Epi...
Yeah like this, except it was all me and him
elfin gulch
I talk with nhs a lot
rapid sluice
True
elfin gulch
I don't mind people who don't have questionable belief, being cringey makes them entertaining
So I just wanna make up with the guy and go see Oppenheimer next weekend
rapid sluice
Kaneki
elfin gulch
I like him
keen jungle
Man.. I'm having issues dealing with my pop having cancer.
I'm like.. fucking furious, and depressed all at once.
Not mad at him, of course. The situation as a whole is just fucking awful.
He's doing chemo and fighting and his side of the family are just fucking him over hard as fuck. Trying to take everything. His eldest sister fucked him out of $5k somehow, took his saving from his account "to pay for his burial plot", even though the Veterans Administration was going to pay for it, so instead the VA was like "okay no we can reimburse you for that.", and the same fucking sister managed to intercept the check, and immediately put it in her own bank account.
These people are fucking the worst creatures I've had the displeasure of dealing with and I fucking hate that I'm related to them
Youngest sister went and had all the locks changed, even though it's also legally my address.
Kinda cunty, and backhanded.
Just...bleh
sweet sundial
That's disgusting
This isn't how you treat a family, things might not have been great between you, but what the hell is that
raw lodge
Whoa, Sakoi. Thats sucks, and thats am understatement. All families have their problems, but that shit is crossing the line 🤬
elfin gulch
I'm scared of the idea of committing something. I can't think of why I don't want to, be it a thing I enjoy like drawing or playing games, I can't bring myself to do anything more than just enjoying them, or anything else, on a surface level, and it's worse for things I can't imagine I will enjoy but have to. And then I will grief myself for not doing it, it started out like not wanting to draw, not wanting to learn, not wanting to try. My friends would try to cheer me up, with good intentions and I know that, but I don't know how to deal with my problems, I would rather barricade myself than speak with one person I don't know, I would even cry thinking about doing that, first world problem, I can't even bring myself to write all this and give out more details, I hate this
How do I even try and fix this
I might even give this up in a few hours
Drawing? Sure I will learn about the names of techniques and things that artists do without actually doing anything
Games? I will just play the very simple ones, the artsy ones I will just bits and pieces and claim to like them
Study? Why would I even fucking do that, I'm in debt right now, I might even get kicked out or make my family pay for it in the next 10 years I
I want escape from all this and I couldn't even do that
I could have died from driving recklessly like 20 times now why didn't I
elfin gulch
I
Do I have both fucking autism and ocd
Can't be sure until I'm diagnosed with them but what the fuck why is this like me
sweet sundial
No, you are just worried about changes future may bring
Scared of failure and embrassement, you don't need cheering but strong push forward
It's perfectly normal and hits all of us
Don't let it take complete control over you and force yourself to take action
elfin gulch
Thanks but I'll need to make sure both ocd and autism aren't made up cause I am sure 80% of those are what happened to me
sweet sundial
THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE VAGUE
Sea, sorry to break it down like that, and I know it will sounds insensitive
There's still a whole bussiness made around mental health
You should not focus on small details but absolute extremes
And I don't think any of that happens in extreme for you
elfin gulch
I woke up at 4am almost everyday now
I talked about that before and I'm still doing it
sweet sundial
Your daily life lacks purpose
You are repeating same activites with no drive to do anything
You feel like you waste away most of your time
Don't you?
elfin gulch
Yeah
sweet sundial
We were all there at one point, don't let yourself be stuck in the loop
elfin gulch
Assuming you're correct, those are trivial things and won't affect my life at all and the fact that I lied, I skipped school and tests again for the past 4 months ever since I decided to continue and locked in my room again but this time not stashing up garbage and keeping myself clean and eating regularly, trying to treasure my body, but dumped going to school to 100% a game is a normal thing, then I will just accept that naturally I'm a shitty person
sweet sundial
It's common case, so I think the best idea is to contact the professional
@gritty lichen
You just fell down the rabbit hole
It's delicate scenario and I fear going too far on it, I don't think my concern can help you
elfin gulch
We were all there at one point, don't let yourself be stuck in the loop
Then you should know how I am supposed to stop it
If I can't have a mental health issue to blame on I will just hate myself more than before
sweet sundial
It's different for everyone, I managed to stop it early
You remember when I dropped out of college, right?
I felt the same as you back then
elfin gulch
I also have a major debt on my back but yeah I can see that, since dropping isn't easy
My irl friend also dropped his
sweet sundial
But my situation was different so I managed to get out of that phase early, sadly you have more problems on your back
sweet sundial
I also have a major debt on my back but yeah I can see that, since dropping isn'...
No, I dropped out of the college to break that phase
It was hard decision but I had to make it
elfin gulch
You know I made one too, yet I didn't commit to it
And I honestly don't regret my choice to come back, since I don't think that is a problem, I think that is different than yours
I don't know anymore, if I could come back up with words of encouragement, I've had more than enough
sweet sundial
Someone or something must force you out of it
That's the only solution someone like me can think of sadly
elfin gulch
My parents, my friends, both irl and online, my classmates, my acquaintances
sweet sundial
But it's also not a solution someone can just implement
Not words of encouragement are needed but a strong push back to reality
elfin gulch
Are you saying I need to drop out again and work at a retail store for 6 more months to think making money is hard I should commit to it and value life
sweet sundial
No
elfin gulch
Is someone but me even capable of failing 90% of the subjects over 3 years in this school
sweet sundial
I can't help you with finding something that makes you feel alive again
Right now you are just a dead man walking
elfin gulch
Is someone but me even capable of failing 90% of the subjects over 3 years in th...
I talked to a senior student of the same college and he was flabbergasted I haven't been kicked out
elfin gulch
I can't help you with finding something that makes you feel alive again
Sadly I couldn't find it over the course of those 3 years and I can't afford to let this go on longer
sweet sundial
Sadly I couldn't find it over the course of those 3 years and I can't afford to ...
But have you really comited to something
You just said you cannot
elfin gulch
Yeah, so in order to try and fix the fact that I can't commit to something, is that to commit to it
Is that what you're trying to imply
sweet sundial
You try to read too much into my words, I've got no real advice other than "harden your grip and get it together", sorry
elfin gulch
No need to
It's just, it's the same as last year and I have made the most major decision of my life, yet I still ended up here, I just
The only reason I'm not feeling suicidal because I'm aware of the efforts made for me to come this far, and the privilege I've had, the luck to be this spoiled, stupid, lack of awareness around the surrounding world and society
The only thing I did was fearing one day I might just want to stop without a second thought
gritty lichen
Thanks but I'll need to make sure both ocd and autism aren't made up cause I am ...
what are the stuff that happened to you? Also from what i saw you when i met you irl, i don't think you have autism bc you don't present like someone that is on the spectrum
you do, however, have a lot of anxiety
ocd is also a type of anxiety, but a very specific type
elfin gulch
Does that include waking up at 4am everyday, the obsession with the number 4 and doing things in a certain timeframe in a certain set of orders
gritty lichen
anyway, most of the mental health disorder present with very similar stuff if you just read it on the website
but it requires extended study to actually being able to differentiate them properly
so don't diagnose yourself via what you read on the internet
gritty lichen
Does that include waking up at 4am everyday, the obsession with the number 4 and...
yeah those are also fixation/obsession and yeah the first step i would reccomend you is to see a therapist/ psychoatrist to talk about it
but you definitely have severe anxiety thats for sure
lol
elfin gulch
so don't diagnose yourself via what you read on the internet
I know that, and I am aware that diagnosing things yourself based on what you read isn't the best thing (I even felt humored by those who did)
However, it might have been too inconvenient for me today, when I needed myself an excuse
gritty lichen
anyway, everyone feel sad at one point, everyone feel anxious and unmoviated at one point. Or multiple point. But if it happens daily and it severely impact your quality of life then it becomes a problem that isn't just about life circumstances but actual mental disorder
and that's when you need to seek help from a psychiatrist or a therapist to see what can be do because its normal
gritty lichen
its normal to feel sad occasioanlly. But people don't actually feel sad daily and feeling like unaliving themselves.
when that happen its called depression
lol
or if youre anxious to the point that you paralyzed and cant seem to get out, almost every day of your life
then yeah
its not just life, its actually a disorder
my professional opinion is you need some antidepressant med bc you do seem clinically have a problem
elfin gulch
I don't feel sad daily
gritty lichen
and its really not about "i just suck it up and bulldoze it through will power" bc trust me i tried that but the thing that actually help me is med
elfin gulch
So I might not have any mental health issues to begin with
gritty lichen
yeah to me youre more of a severe anxiety
elfin gulch
I'm just dodging my responsibilities for all those years
gritty lichen
yeah to me youre more of a severe anxiety
anyway go see a psychiatrist and get on med
elfin gulch
Thanks a lot, I will try to
I'm not sure how you apply to a psychiatry session here or if I can truly trust what google tells me
Does it sound phony idk
sweet sundial
Your school should be in touch with a specialist
elfin gulch
What if we have a session and then I can't utter any words
elfin gulch
Your school should be in touch with a specialist
I can't even walk in the room asking for the paper I need without stuttering
But good idea, thanks
sweet sundial
You have to take that one step by yourself
gritty lichen
https://phongkhamtamlycantho.com/
yeah this looks legit
he graduated from med school
there is a section for contacting on that website
just go through that
or just go to any hospital and ask to see a doctor in Khoa Tam Than
elfin gulch
he graduated from med school
(The one I'm currently studying in too but I'm being paranoid)
Thanks so much I love you
sweet sundial
You can always count on Poppy
sweet sundial
That's why you are only a poopy
elfin gulch
Jesus fuck @sweet sundial I need your help I'm panicking
For a stupid reason
@elfin gulch how about your ass AAAAAA
elfin gulch
Sorry to leave you hanging
My mom is buying a new pc soon, and uhh she doesn't need much, so when I said my pc is shit ass, she said I can just get a new one and give her my old one
So I looked it up and what the fuck
A 1650 laptop is selling at the price of my current fucking shitass pc
But only until September 4th, jesus I could have sworn I need it so badly, but then fuck, I spent 3 years doing fucking nothing I feel like I don't deserve it
But like it's my chance, like what the fuck AAAA
This is bigger of a moral problem than the fucking Trolley
1650 is much better, I don't fucking need more bro
What mentality
I'm too panicked to think straight rn
Only for 2 days left, so I had to somehow convince them that yes, I need this shit asap
Gotta go for 10 minutes you cook something up
I know, but like, I have always had this shit mentality where I think "I can't act like a good son, so the best I could do is don't ask for shits" which I rarely did, so the most expensive shit I asked for myself was the shit ass Dell laptop cause my dad said I should fucking get a Dell, so I prioritize it over a fucking functional pc that can game
So I literally just fucking had a light breakdown in the shower just now thinking "again, haven't done shit and now my mom gave this opportunity to me, like am I fucking tested"
Like I know I can just easily deceive them into buying it, but do I deserve it
Even if I bought it, I know I will not turn it on because of my other weird shit mentality of not touching things while I'm down because "I would ruin it", I haven't turned on my pc for a week and every time I did I would open some shits and just leave it there
I know, but I'm just that weird
Not to mention how I haven't gone to the therapy cause I have no fucking idea if my weirdness is worth going
I find it hard to express even a bit of my feelings for my parents
Probably not after my childhood, tho it's hard to pin since I'm not an expert
That too
Like I never told people here about my highschool, but it was a private school, so it was shit expensive, but also simultaneously my worst year in life
I just need you to listen to this part, as shit had already happened, but throughout my final year, I had to study from 0600 to 2200, 6 days a week, 1 day left for tests, so that I can get into med, and I spent so many nights thinking should I fucking do this
And then my parents would confront me about how expensive this shit school is even though they said I can fucking choose
sweet sundial
SO
I'd take the PC and guilttrip myself into actually doing something to deserve it
I just looked on it briefly, give me a second to actually read it
elfin gulch
If I go on I would just continue about how that shit school ruined me and I have been stuck in my highschool days
No because I either only have friends irl who are all from the same highschool, so I can't talk about how shit it was for me when it was also shit for them
And I've never felt the need to just rambling about myself
God I found a rtx 3050 one which is just a bit more expensive and isn't on a time limit
sweet sundial
3050 laptops are quite cheap indeed
elfin gulch
The reason I brought the whole thing up is because dreaming of a pc where I can game was the main goal I got to get through that shit year
Stupid shit
sweet sundial
That sucks, but there's no point in me telling you that
You are the one most aware of how much it sucked
elfin gulch
For now I just need someone to act apathetic towards my highschool years I hate it deeply
Wake up at 5 study at 6 sleep at 22, 6 days a week, 1 day for test, access to wifi once a month and I spend it reading chainsaw man, got forced to prepare for med like only in last year, lack of friends to talk to, draw like shits, dreamt about a lot if things
For a whole year, extended a few months because of covid
Imposter syndrome but I was legit stupid at these subjects, I had way better scores at physics and English, which I could apply for engineering or designer or shits I can actually try to do and get a decent job
Getting rejected in the last year didn't help, I was also stupid and went for the manga/anime route of just confessing directly to the girl, god it was embarrassing
I think I'm finished, I'm not in the mood to remember but I did cry in public like a lot, straight up just cried like 80s animes highschool girls
Ok fuck they're both only on sale until September 4th quick
https://fptshop.com.vn/may-tinh-xach-tay/msi-gaming-gf63-thin-11sc-664vn-i5-11400h
Or
https://fptshop.com.vn/may-tinh-xach-tay/msi-gaming-gf63-thin-11uc-1230vn-i5-11400h
@sweet sundial ignore everything just look at the specs
The most I would want is to be able to play most emulators, including wii u, ps3, xbox360
8th gen consoles?
My birthday is coming in 4 days I could sugarcoat it to be something like "my goal to study + my birthday! The last time I asked for something was a Chinese knock off Lego set"
I think gtx1650 fits my bare minimum, but 3050 with its dlss
It is to me
Idk I never bought expensive things much I live on almost the bare minimum (I eat alot)
Let's say every month my living expenses are 3mil
That shit worth 5 times that
Yeah is the cpu good also
I am completely unaware of cpu stuff
That was the main reason why my pc is so shit
It cannot stand heat
I had to limit its power so it doesn't overheat, which stabilized and increased the fps
My current one is G
Never touch the G shits
Anyway I need someone with actual knowledge of specs
That is the 1650
The 3050 is 1 mil more, which could last me half a month
Not to mention rent and electricity bill, which is 2 more
rapid sluice
Alright what's going on
elfin gulch
This shit is so overcomplicated for no reason
rapid sluice
Rare tavern activity
elfin gulch
Basically I have a chance to change my laptop but my morality is stopping my ass
rapid sluice
Why is it stopping you
elfin gulch
Or conscious
elfin gulch
Why is it stopping you
That would be long
rapid sluice
I mean tbh if you're feeling bad about the costs just decide based on value over time
elfin gulch
And I can't shorten it other than "I have no idea how much money can cost but I know it costs a lot"
And new laptop, would not be really cheap
rapid sluice
Is the new laptop likely to make you more productive? Is the new laptop easy to maintain?
elfin gulch
More productive somewhat
But I can't even be sure of it myself cause chances are by the time I touch it I would not open it after like a year
I am solely the reason why it's so overcomplicated
rapid sluice
But I can't even be sure of it myself cause chances are by the time I touch it I...
Why will you not open it after like a year
elfin gulch
Why will you not open it after like a year
Because currently I had this weird way of thinking that "this pc is my perfect zone, I can't let anything stain it" but then the said "anything" increased too greatly I can't even bring myself to open it
rapid sluice
If you admit that you probably won't open it for a year then you probably don't need it or even want it no?
elfin gulch
I want it
Because it was my dream and drive since I was in highschool
rapid sluice
Yet, when you do have it, you won't use it?
elfin gulch
No but it got me through that shit year
elfin gulch
Yet, when you *do* have it, you won't use it?
The contradictory, yes
It's like buying a new book wrapped, so you don't wanna open it
I haven't opened some of mine
What the fuck happened in Anne Frank's diary I bought the book but haven't even opened the wraps
An extra form of it I think, since I don't actually benefit that much
rapid sluice
Meaning to say, it makes no difference to your activity with or without the laptop
elfin gulch
That's why I'm telling you how this is weird
elfin gulch
Meaning to say, it makes no difference to your activity with or without the lapt...
No it stabilizes my mental state a bit I think
rapid sluice
Just buy it next year lmao
elfin gulch
That would be another story of why I should decide now
My mom is getting a new pc, and when I brought up how shit my current pc actually is, she offered to get me a new one and she gets mine instead
A year would be too long of a time, she needs a new laptop in like a few months
Yes but another chance is, I would actually play games I wanted on it, so I actually achieved my dream, no more coping, since that way of weird thinking doesn't mean it will last long
Even when I had to disappear for a whole week to reset my pc
It could also fix it
I'm not sure, I just want it, but I can't get it
God I fucking hate myself
I have been wanting this shit for 3 years, spent another 3 years with another shit I didn't want, and now when I have the chance I can't make up my mind of whether I should or not
rapid sluice
My mom is getting a new pc, and when I brought up how shit my current pc actuall...
Then just get the new one, BUT you must use it ASAP
elfin gulch
I hope if I did, I would not randomly think of "this is taking a bit long reminds me of that time I see an American in a meme" (like no joke, I don't care about fat people normally, but once I'm using my pc, thinking of that would ruin it)
It could also stem from my current state of not giving it my all on my studies, so having it would probably motivate me more than not getting it
I'm still fucked by the days
No no think about it, I'm clinging onto this
Since I didn't actually get the shits I wanted since forever, how about I get the one I want for this one time
I've been wanting to get my own pc since 5th grade
Now I'm bringing up that time I got my own laptop from my aunt, but then my dad gave it to someone else, promising me to get a new one if I had good scores, which I did and I never had one until 7 years later
And it was shit
rapid sluice
You're already making justifications to yourself for getting it
elfin gulch
And probably the "good" scores gaslighting him into thinking I'm actually smart
rapid sluice
Your mind's already made up, man
elfin gulch
It's not
It's my past vs my present
Past me wanted it even if I die the next day
Present me can't think I deserve it
I swear to god it's a fucking laptop but I've treated it like it was my will to live since forever
Should I book a therapy session for this
rapid sluice
I mean think about it this way
One way or another, someone will be buying a new laptop
elfin gulch
Thanks a lot guys, the depressed mood had gone out, I just feel exhausted now
Been forever since I actually talked in length about how shit my highschool years were
rapid sluice
Agreed lmao
elfin gulch
I thought of a way to end it
I will ask people if the specs are worth it
If it doesn't, I will just give up for now
If it does, only god will know
Well fuck
elfin gulch
I just need the bare minimum
And it satisfies me
Again, I never asked for much
(and the current one I'm using is way below the said bad specs)
rapid sluice
i mean like
these are my specs that i bothered to screenshot
and my laptop is like 3.5 years old now?
elfin gulch
and my laptop is like 3.5 years old now?
Me but 6 years
rapid sluice
i just thought that you'd be getting an i7 or i9
elfin gulch
Even the I3 can be good if it's newer generations, it's for budget options
elfin gulch
It's not
It's my past vs my present
This is the best I can sum it up for my problems
sweet sundial
Don't think about it too hard
elfin gulch
I thought of a way to end it
I will ask people if the specs are worth it
If it d...
And this is what I'm doing now
sweet sundial
You usually get max difference of 10%
elfin gulch
Don't think about it too hard
I've always been overthinking stuff instead of actually think
sweet sundial
Just get the laptop and use it as your drive
elfin gulch
In Vietnamese dong it's alot!!!
sweet sundial
Don't get it then
elfin gulch
(again, to me, idk if nhs will answer differently, I can't say I'm good at economy)
sweet sundial
You don't have the money for 3A games and other option is good enough for most of your needs
elfin gulch
Well true yeah, I only need it to play a few games I do own and enjoy, like mgsv and ace combat 7 currently
sweet sundial
No, as of now you are to uninstall those games and find new experiences
elfin gulch
Even arkham knight one day, that thing is cheap
elfin gulch
No, as of now you are to uninstall those games and find new experiences
Long story above, but I wouldn't even use the new laptop if I got it, at least for a month
I will just feel safe that I have it in my hands
elfin gulch
Me neither plus it was weird
I might really need a therapy session next week do they get paid to hear teenagers talking about minor problems but stacking up
I don't have a monthly allowance
I can get as much money as I want to, whenever I'm running low
I have never had the concept of "allowance"
sweet sundial
I might really need a therapy session next week do they get paid to hear teenage...
Yeah, Poppyma called it being "mental prostitute"
Wow guys you had allowance or money without working for it?
elfin gulch
No
sweet sundial
No
elfin gulch
Anyway have a cat pic I will think about it
Maybe I will try to get it
Maybe
(It is precisely because it wasn't my money)
sweet sundial
No
regal talon
elfin gulch
I gave up, but I'll bargain
My mom deserves the pc she wanted, unlike me
So I will try to bargain that if I get good results, I will get one
elfin gulch
I got a verbal promise from dad that I can get one after I've reached a certain goal
Or maybe even remotely trying and he will be like "this is the best thing that has ever happened to me" (in contrast to "I will kill you myself, no, do it yourself")
regal talon
@elfin gulch
rapid sluice
what
how is this the serious place
this is the place where we just trauma dump
i thought they wanted the server owner for a partnership 💀
elfin gulch
Dang we talked about laptops for 3 hours and boi now thinks this is the gaming place
(there's no rules for this place tho)
regal talon
Dang we talked about laptops for 3 hours and boi now thinks this is the gaming p...
i’ll upload my fortnite clips soon
rapid sluice
God why is dealing with emotions and despair so difficult
elfin gulch
Well, that's why the Tavern is here, no?
The least I can do is be here and try to cheer your up
How was your day
elfin gulch
What is smut
rapid sluice
I'm writing it
sweet sundial
I knew Iris is writting smuts
gritty lichen
Most of the dementia patient i got from my hospital are the aggressive type
Their family just give up and dumb them there and hoping that we would just sedate their grandma/grandpa full of psych med and paralyze them
It's really sad
elfin gulch
Well I can possibly avoid it so I don't know what's it like, but I hope you do ok
At least you can get more meat? (That's a positive thing)
rapid sluice
Well I can possibly avoid it so I don't know what's it like, but I hope you do o...
get more meat? wdym
are you suggesting for me to try to get bitches
elfin gulch
Who am I to stop you
But I don't think your body is ideal for military training or whatever they make you do in there
You can get drafted to do that?
I thought it's all walking in the rain and working out at 5am
rapid sluice
You can get drafted to do that?
I thought it's all walking in the rain and worki...
you play too much metal gear
logistics yeas
they wouldn't put me anywhere near a gun
they fear my determination
elfin gulch
you play too much metal gear
And also went in there to study how to fire a gun and stuff cause National Defense is a required subject in med school
Just your usual stuff like disassemble and assemble an ak-47
elfin gulch
And also went in there to study how to fire a gun and stuff cause National Defe...
you mean "giáo dục quốc phòng"?
Yeah now say that to people here
How did you find this thread anyway
jager pinged me
I thought national defense is taught in high school as well
Yeah but now you do it again but in a military base instead
Welcome to college
elfin gulch
jager pinged me
I will never tell him about anything ever again
is this thread supposed to be private or smt
I don't see anything serious here
No it's just a place to talk random stuff about life, a venting place most of the time
Though jager usually gave people the wrong idea about this place
regal talon
Hey I named this place !
regal talon
I will never tell him about anything ever again
I’ll still find out
Also stop calling me jager it’s Yeager!
elfin gulch
I don't carr you ruined it
elfin gulch
Less to spend on shampoo
raw lodge
Also stop calling me jager it’s Yeager!
Its boy
regal talon
I don't wanna go bald
if your mama’s papa bald
it’s joever
tho if you’re east asian it’s unlikely you’ll go bald from what i heard. which is probably true cus my mother’s side has some great hair genetics.
rapid sluice
tho if you’re east asian it’s unlikely you’ll go bald from what i heard. which i...
No I'm getting drafted
regal talon
No I'm getting drafted
ooohhhhh
buzzcut go hard with asians tho there’s that atleast
elfin gulch
I like it
rapid sluice
gritty lichen
gritty lichen
... sounds about right bc body dysmorphia
keen jungle
sweet sundial
Q9 is epic
I want both
I did it twice
Since I had hard time choosing between few answers
this literally feels like me few years ago vs me now
tho I do still love slacking
raw lodge
Slacking is the beeest
rapid sluice
Are these just Pokemon types
sweet sundial
Are these just Pokemon types
Pretty sure there's no light and superpower types
rapid sluice
Pretty sure there's no light and superpower types
Because I'm not a pokemon
Neither is Katsa
sweet sundial
Neither am I and Poppyevil
rapid sluice
Neither am I and Poppyevil
True
elfin gulch
Wow it tells me what I need
sweet sundial
You truly are a grass eater
raw lodge
Say moo, mf
elfin gulch
Goat also eats grass
So I'm one
raw lodge
"Why take risk?
I knew you were a pussio
regal talon
"Why take risk?
I knew you were a pussio
i’m never a pussio
raw lodge
rapid sluice
i hate being bald
elfin gulch
The boi really ruined the place
elfin gulch
Lol what the hell is going on
Go Katsa
Teach these kids a lesson
keen jungle
Yeager has no right clowning on anyone's looks, for one.
And dude's hairline is sus af for a teenager, for two
For three, really Yeags? Really?
regal talon
Yeager has no right clowning on anyone's looks, for one.
i do!
regal talon
And dude's hairline is sus af for a teenager, for two
i don’t!
regal talon
For three, really Yeags? *Really?*
really!
elfin gulch
really!
In all honesty and seriousness
Please stop, yaeg
I know you have to act unfunny and unmature, but I imagine for Iris, a long hair is one of the rare feminine traits she can actually have in the present, and losing it isn't as funny as you might think
rapid sluice
https://tenor.com/view/avatar-the-last-airbender-aang-airbending-goofy-funny-gif...
man
this is why i swapped to using Poole for these things
elfin gulch
The difference between saying I'm bald in #royal-capital and in #972811432750121030 is that one place is for people clowning on each other and one for people to talk to each other
rapid sluice
i'm literally waiting until i'm old enough to get estrogen so i can get medically discharged from being a soldier
elfin gulch
Yeah you believe in yourself you can get through 2 years!
raw lodge
Damn, so its 2 yrs in singapore too?
Who are SG wary of tho? Im nlt well versed in what happens over there, but arent they mostly free of hostile neighbors
Tho idk what their relationship ia to Malaysia
Or whoever the fuck it was they tried to unite with in the 60s
gritty lichen
i hate being bald
in other news that mean you have an easier time wearing colorful wig each time you go to con/fes!
like i think if i ever go bald that what i would do
just different color wig each day
also hair plug isnt too expensive in turkey...
elfin gulch
If I go bald I would buy a fedora and a goatee
keen jungle
buys a goatee
elfin gulch
I hate how anyone I talked to would say the same thing to me, but I can't see myself following them
elfin gulch
You know, when I explain my situation they would tell me "be more outgoing, present yourself more, you have the potential and chances"
I mean, yes, I need to be aware of those, and be aware of them I did
They're telling me to be a completely different kind of person, and I can't see myself just being able to force through that
rapid sluice
They're telling me to be a completely different kind of person, and I can't see ...
that's the thing
you dont force yourself
well, not that muuch anyway
you dont need to have a character arc overnight
they're missing a 'try'
much like how one doesn't simply scoff down an entire chili for their first time
much like how one doesn't simply apply for Masterchef before they've even tried frying an egg
you dont need to be more outgoing right away
you can start by just asking someone how are they
elfin gulch
How are you today
elfin gulch
Nice to hear
Well not too good but we'll have to see after this week
Basically I'm borderline getting expelled so I need to tell myself "if I don't do this I'll get fucked"
elfin gulch
Oh I've been skipping every one of them
Like I still went to class regularly, but dipped out when there's an exam
rapid sluice
why?
elfin gulch
An acquaintance of mine who my dad asked for help, asked me the same thing
But if I can put it into words, it's probably a combination of fearing having not prepared and deceiving myself that "maybe if I don't take it I won't see how bad I am"
And a small part of not wanting to be seen by my classmates
I'm just really easily driven by emotions
rapid sluice
anxiety, perhaps?
elfin gulch
Yeah, I have a bunch of them, and most of the time is for no good reason
But yeah, I'm getting more help from a senior student (said guy my dad asked for help) so at least maybe he can help me with experience somewhat
That's enough about me glad to see you're doing ok in military
Do you?
rapid sluice
could be worse
elfin gulch
Nice
rapid sluice
could always have been in Afganistan instead
elfin gulch
I was so close to rambling to my dad about how big the gaming industry fucking is instead of dudes with stable incomes and made some quick cash grabs for kids, and how no I don't even have the luxury to spend that much time in games nowadays
rapid sluice
not looking forward to returning to camp tomorrow
elfin gulch
Therapy fucking sucks it's literally what I feared
Feared that they would ask generic stuff and try to shove me whatever I have, say I have depression, give me meds and call that a day without resolving anything
elfin gulch
I wish there is a way to brute force a new personality entirely
sweet sundial
Most of them are run-of-the-mill generic "yes yes you have depresia" "that's cleary sign of autism" guys
elfin gulch
Woah, this job is piss easy!
sweet sundial
It actually is
Well, studies and getting the position is quite hard
But after that, it's just keeping the front
You need patience to deal with whining people
Unless you really want to help and you are easily affected by others problems
Then it's living hell for you
rapid sluice
you can have better therapy by talking to the bartender tbh
gritty lichen
Therapy fucking sucks it's literally what I feared
Time to get therapy in english
elfin gulch
I can tell them stuff like "do I feel depressed? Yes I do, I have depression!"
rapid sluice
gimme that ESTROGEN
elfin gulch
Hope the dude is ok
Also it looks like "I don't" and the latter were writers by different people
rapid sluice
that's the purest form of anonymity
i literally saw a half finished suicide note in the bathroom stall
sweet sundial
They decided that life is good halfway
raw lodge
Lmao
sweet sundial
Probably received cat video from discord affiliate
latent cobalt
a
forest kelp
sweet sundial
welcome to our mental problem den
elfin gulch
Not same, Ben, not same (I want someone to force me to work)
But I hope you don't overwork yourself!
forest kelp
To be fair, it’s not like I’m that physically tired or anything
I’m just a little stressed out by having too much stuff on my plate at the same time for too long
Like, I feel like I haven’t had a proper window to just chill without thinking a lot of stuff can go wrong if I’m not paying attention for a couple years now
So, it’s a different kind of burn out than physical exhaustion, so to speak
More like: feeling of unrest for too long
elfin gulch
I see, I think it's another kind of overworking where you worry about your responsibilities all the time?
You still deserve a proper rest
forest kelp
At least I’m not a parent
elfin gulch
True
forest kelp
The more I imagine the experience of being the support of another human being, the more it terrifies me
But that’s not happening just yet
Anyway, thanks for listening to my venting, Sea
elfin gulch
It's what the channel is for
I'm really bad at these things, so glad I could help in some way!
rapid sluice
Not same, Ben, not same (I want someone to force me to work)
Join the army!
elfin gulch
Might actually not be that impossible
My dad is in it after all!
elfin gulch
Alright, where do I complain about how my crush keeps talking about how she likes women as if I don't know that when she rejected my ass with the same reason
Like yeah good for her, but how am I supposed to respond to that
I would keep this to poopy but he keeps telling me to sleep on a mattress
(I'm also not complaining that she used lesbian as a reason, I'm just probably not the one, but still)
Having a r/niceguy behaviour rn
elfin gulch
The second one
She rarely mentions any women and she likes Chris Evan
So yeah it could be that the moment was so awkward she just said things on the spot
But I still couldn't get over it
Especially when she just seemingly talks about it a lot
Yes it was one sided, yeah I kinda ruined things a bit when I just burst my feelings out of nowhere and now I can't even talk about the Ken song in Barbie
Where the lyrics is
"I'm just Ken
Where I see love, she sees a friend"
I just did it to myself
elfin gulch
No I just get bugged by it more
It still comes up randomly
Yeah but I felt like it could be idk
Better
And make things less awkward
Like tf do you do if this dude who you have invited to your house like 10 times now just said shits out of nowhere in your own bedroom
That just feels real messed up if I tried to be in her shoes
And she knows I read guro porn beforehand too
I mean yeah, she kinda grieved over how this had happened too much and they all left
But then I would also lose a valuable mgsv player
regal talon
chicken nuggets
elfin gulch
The treatment for depression is expression.
elfin gulch
so as to not draw too much attention to this rant of mine I shall put it here. It might get me in trouble… so uh just uh idk mute me or ban me or whatever.
elfin gulch
Oh damn I lost it
Hmm
Maybe I won’t post it
Hmm short of it is I hate people and I wish I could live on the moon. Yeah
elfin gulch
I deleted my rant
gritty lichen
elfin gulch
good question idk
Lot of them give me entitled vibes
Oh yeah I can see that too
hmm yeah it’s like they try to cover up the insecurities about themselves by acting like they are better than others or something
Also seems like a general lack of social skills in them
Did something happen in particular @elfin gulch? Don’t have to talk about it lol
Tech is a more solitary profession, less physical interaction
yeah well those people are dumb. Anyone who judges capabilities on that level is shortsighted
But I guess it doesn’t surprise me either
Feel like those sentiments are still very prevalent
yeah…
Granted online I feel people are just more open about their prejudices
Though it might just also be a product of echo chambers
Idk. I want to think irl people are nicer… I just am skeptical
yeah I just get this feeling that they aren’t being honest or genuine
though it’s not to say they are bad people it’s complicated right?
Yeah I can agree with that
Yeah I was listening to philosophytube (some YouTuber) and they were going on about how organizations and individuals have a tendency towards this whole “reduction of variability” or an over simplification of things even to a detrimental degree.
I just have to wonder if people approach social problems appropriately
Or if the interests are just more on efficient band-aid solutions
Guess that’s a bit political though lol
I swear everything become political
Oh… hmm
yeah. It’s about balance.
so true, you are cool Joot
best one can do is just educate themselves I guess
elfin gulch
But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing changed at all?
I think the gif looks ugly personally
objectively
elfin gulch
I'm really frustrated
I want to draw
but I can't seem to improve and at one point, I stopped
never being decent doesn't help
it's just another day of me questioning why don't I draw when I can just pick up one of my 20 pencils
gritty lichen
I'm really frustrated
I want to draw
but I can't seem to improve and at one poin...
plateua is a real thing with drawing, and you just have to keep at it
and people have to draw a lot to get better
i used to be really really terrible too, but it gets better
and most people would tell you the same
and its never too late
my friend pick up drawing at 28 year old and now shes insanely good
accept commission and everything
draw a shit ton of yaoi
elfin gulch
I know the basics of it, something about sketching a lot of random thing per hour/day to improve your perception, muscle memory and all that
and I saved Proko's playlists to get a starting foot
but when I actually try it, I feel like I can't seem to grasp even the basics, and I begin thinking if I can improve at all
I'm just really easily discouraged I'm just complaining atm
can I draw you cat
gritty lichen
Okie sure lemme find one
i love this cat the most, hes my best boy
Smartest of the bunch
elfin gulch
thanks
raw lodge
i love this cat the most, hes my best boy
Is that your cat
gritty lichen
Is that your cat
Yes!
raw lodge
Yes!
Oho, i actually thought i was speaking to the other Poppy. It being your cat is totally believable
He looks smart!!
elfin gulch
you guys ever just want to watch the world burn?
I’m positively seething with rage and i shouldn’t be on discord
gritty lichen
What happened lol
elfin gulch
honestly I just have a lot of pent up anger… it seeps out from time to time over trivial things
But I managed to bottle it up again lol
People are just frustrating is all
raw lodge
Yeah, people suck
elfin gulch
elfin gulch
I don't plan to touch this place again, but well plan failed
But does anyone know a real way to change, one that you can do even if you don't want to
Sometimes
I have a crazy mood swing that can occur at any unexpected time, so having a therapist with a static time makes it hard for me to sometimes express my feelings
Cause if the mood swing hits I'll be ready to ball it
But if it hits a different direction I'll consider jumping off
crimson trench
I have a crazy mood swing that can occur at any unexpected time, so having a the...
Personally, mindfulness meditation and noting my feelings have always been methods I find useful to calm myself down and keep perspective
I'm sorry to hear you have been going through so much. Hoping things get better as things always do
elfin gulch
Thanks hexa
I'm writing a diary lately, but I don't really know what to put in there
crimson trench
I'm writing a diary lately, but I don't really know what to put in there
Just whatever comes to your mind yknow
It's your own personal space. Nobody will judge you for what you write there so just write whatever comes to mind
More important to just let it out
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elfin gulch
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urban wyvern
urban wyvern
urban wyvern
the tavern of sein
correct
plucky zenith
urban wyvern
urban wyvern
plucky zenith
gritty lichen
@crimson trench I think it's time this place retires lol
crimson trench
<@139757382375833600> I think it's time this place retires lol
It's okay we just have to ||give it 10 years for Season 5||
urban wyvern
elfin gulch
I had more than one dream of romantic moment with 1 of my few female friends
Oh god I really need to sort this out, like what to feel about her, cause stuff can get really awkward
keen jungle
It ain't awkward unless you make it awkward
I've had some out there dreams about friends and coworkers
Is vulgar
But have a wank, and then think it over
elfin gulch
Less about the dreams that are the problems, but more of a how I feel toward her
peak bobcat
Oh god I really need to sort this out, like what to feel about her, cause stuff ...
only you know tho
keen jungle
Especially if it's about a lady friend. - me assuming everyone is hetero
peak bobcat
and technically now there are three others
elfin gulch
But have a wank, and then think it over
What's that?
sweet sundial
sweet sundial
Just think it over and make a decision
keen jungle
Ooof'
elfin gulch
Just think it over and make a decision
I failed to
peak bobcat
flexing his youth in our faces /s
sweet sundial
I failed to
Then do it again
elfin gulch
I've had no prior experiences with this
elfin gulch
Less about the dreams that are the problems, but more of a how I feel toward her
Yeah but
sweet sundial
Think if you like her, if you do then start doing something
If not then just ignore it
elfin gulch
Think if you like her, if you do then start doing something
Which is the hardest part, I've never had any relationship and most of my crushes were just me chasing someone without knowing them
elfin gulch
Friend?
Maybe one of the best
She and I are the most active people in our friend's group
sweet sundial
Which is the hardest part, I've never had any relationship and most of my crushe...
There is nothing wrong with trying it out then
elfin gulch
There is nothing wrong with trying it out then
Yeah but as I said, if the feeling is not like, affection, stuff can be really awkward, Idk I'm confused
sweet sundial
There's always moment where you have to do something first time
elfin gulch
Also I'm scared of losing a friend
sweet sundial
Yeah but as I said, if the feeling is not like, affection, stuff can be really a...
Don't worry, true love doesn't exist anyway
elfin gulch
Don't worry, true love doesn't exist anyway
Motivating
keen jungle
Approach tastefully, and maybe just ask her to lunch or something. It doesn't have to be a date, but if you want to pursue that route then you could bring it up?
elfin gulch
Approach tastefully, and maybe just ask her to lunch or something. It doesn't ha...
We live 6 hours of travelling bus apart
elfin gulch
What can be
keen jungle
Trying to be optimistic here
elfin gulch
I'm trying too, I'm asking you guys
Aight, keep being yourself man, I love you
Damn it haunted me til this day when I confessed a girl I'm stalking for 3 years
keen jungle
Tbh
elfin gulch
By stalking I mean just saw her randomly and hide somewhere until she walked past
keen jungle
Weigh your friendship to how you feel, and consider how you might feel a month from now
elfin gulch
I'm shy
elfin gulch
Weigh your friendship to how you feel, and consider how you might feel a month f...
It started 3 months ago
elfin gulch
Yeah sorry for asking you guys, I just try to see if anyone have had experiences or knowledge with this
keen jungle
Don't apologize
sweet sundial
Yeah sorry for asking you guys, I just try to see if anyone have had experiences...
Many had, but it's different for different people
elfin gulch
Thanks for the help
sweet sundial
You just have to do something about it yourself, other people can offer you support, but not real advice
elfin gulch
Many had, but it's different for different people
Little helps, I'm even clueless with my own life choices (stuff haven't been that much better since the last time)
keen jungle
I'd like to think we're all friends in a weird, dark way.
sweet sundial
You need to get your stuff together sometimes Sea
elfin gulch
I'd like to think we're all friends in a weird, dark way.
With balls and ass part
sweet sundial
You are scared of decisions
keen jungle
What
elfin gulch
You are scared of decisions
Yeah
I've let my parents or people chose for me all the time
Even my fashion and hairstyles
keen jungle
Balls and ass too ig
elfin gulch
I myself can't even choose what to eat
sweet sundial
When you start deciding stuff yourself
It comes naturally after few months
I was like that few years ago too
People just have to get over it one day
keen jungle
Deciding for yourself is one of those things like being able to tell anyone "No"
Parents, boss, friends, etc
Takes a minute to set in, but it's something people need
elfin gulch
Deciding for yourself is one of those things like being able to tell anyone "No"
I'm not strong enough even when I said that
I'm never certain what I do is right or not
elfin gulch
Takes a minute to set in, but it's something people need
Yeah, guess I'll need to try
Lucky people went pass this already
sweet sundial
I'm not strong enough even when I said that
I'm never certain what I do is right...
Strength is gained by trying and doing something
Not waiting
Even if you make some wrong desisions
You will feel better about it after few years
Than after living as others tell you
keen jungle
Wrong decisions are still the right decisions, so long as you learn from what you do.
Or so I've been told
elfin gulch
Than after living as others tell you
That is also one of my wrong decisions
sweet sundial
That is also one of my wrong decisions
Not making decisions is decision itself after all
keen jungle
Wrongs. Lol
regal talon
Sea are going getting discord therapy?
sweet sundial
Yeah
elfin gulch
Sea are going getting discord therapy?
They're very helping
keen jungle
"strangers" are always the best when asking advice.
regal talon
elfin gulch
If we go that way I'd rather staying silent
regal talon
Im 15
elfin gulch
"strangers" are always the best when asking advice.
Especially when you have 8 years more worth of experiences
sweet sundial
You don't know anything about pain
Yeag is making decisions all the time (never lives up to them tho)
regal talon
Focus on sea guys
sweet sundial
Sure
regal talon
elfin gulch
Or we can shit on yeag, that is also fun
regal talon
Guys NOT NOW
sweet sundial
Like i said Sea, overcoming this will help you in long go, even if you fail today
keen jungle
Focus on sea guys
Pain is having a girl named Sheila walk out on you in the middle of downtown Baltimore for some guy named Dennis who worked as a mechanic and made twice as much money as you..
Did I ruin it for everyone?
elfin gulch
Pain is having a girl named Sheila walk out on you in the middle of downtown Bal...
Dang, true pain is having someone just basically better than you available
sweet sundial
You see Sea
keen jungle
Sheila said that kid was mine, but it looked just like Dennis
keen jungle
Better is just a concept
elfin gulch
I have this weird feeling of having myself disappear from the world and just have something do everything better than I've ever done and people just accept it, scary
elfin gulch
People don't know better
Probably no, but you guys help
elfin gulch
I might give this another serious thought, and wait what do you do to get a people of opposite sex attention?
Did what I did in highschool and straight up asking her out?
sweet sundial
Why not
keen jungle
Subtly is better imo
sweet sundial
We don't know her so it's hard to say
elfin gulch
She's like what you would call cultured
keen jungle
We don't know her so it's hard to say
This is also true
regal talon
Subtly is better imo
True!
sweet sundial
Try to not be uptight about it
keen jungle
Like poppy said
regal talon
She's like what you would call cultured
Probably not gonna work, but be nerdy af.
keen jungle
Be yourself
keen jungle
regal talon
Be yourself, but also accept that you can change, and that’s a good thing.
keen jungle
Are we setting him up for failure now
regal talon
Yegalation 16;78
sweet sundial
Are we setting him up for failure now
I'm not
He can do it, i never undestood viets after all
keen jungle
Good.
elfin gulch
He can do it, i never undestood viets after all
Average Asian with Asian problems
sweet sundial
May be true
regal talon
We should get wuaku and poppy here then
keen jungle
Idk Asians confuse me
elfin gulch
I'm afraid of changing, can we change it to improving?
elfin gulch
I figure so
keen jungle
Self reflect I guess, on things you might want to change?
regal talon
You always change sea, even a little bit. You aren’t you from 5 years ago, and yadda yadda, even subconsciously. You gotta steer it to where you want it sea.
Yegalation 15:89
sweet sundial
As long as you are not scared of doing things
keen jungle
Like, what is going to be best for you.
sweet sundial
You are as good as you can be
sweet sundial
Sea is our number one shitposter
elfin gulch
Aight I'm motivated a little
elfin gulch
So I should talk to her like normal until I'm confident in stuff and try to decide?
keen jungle
I'm very abrasive so I can't offer help there.
regal talon
Honestly you should ask her when you’re quite comfortable around her
elfin gulch
You can also go yolo and go for it right away
I did it once and still regret it til this day
sweet sundial
Or you can lay ground for time when you are determined enough to make decision
keen jungle
If suggest maybe try and see I'd she's interested in anything to start tho
regal talon
BE BESTIES FIRST GORL 💃💅
sweet sundial
Try taking small steps and not going all in
But it just that
You are too uneasy about stuff
elfin gulch
I mean, I'm already friend with her and we talked about a lot of stuff already
sweet sundial
So it may fail you
keen jungle
You can be gradual, but not that gradual. Yegalation 78:90
Jfc
Yegalation is not a thing
Last crush I had, thinking about it
sweet sundial
Usually you stop to really feel something towards other person after long wait
And just think that you still like that someone
elfin gulch
Same
keen jungle
Sweet gal. Loved the hell out of her, best friends for a while. Just didn't share the "crush" aspect. Lol
sweet sundial
That's cuz what you was feeling was affection, not love
regal talon
Honestly sea some of the best things you can do rn to aid yourself is put yourself out there
keen jungle
That's probably why I suggest 'feeling' things out
elfin gulch
Which is why I'm afraid and I asked
sweet sundial
I know a girl since 8 years, and there was a point where we both liked each other but did nothing about that, still talking like normal friends
elfin gulch
Like what if my feelings for her is just a late emotional puberty thing
Might hurt both in the end
sweet sundial
And now we are a friends not feeling anything special towards each other
keen jungle
Honestly sea some of the best things you can do rn to aid yourself is put yourse...
Shoot your shot, King. -Yeag probably
sweet sundial
Cuz long time passed, and feelings move on
keen jungle
Got frie'cord up in their feelings here
elfin gulch
And now we are a friends not feeling anything special towards each other
I need to hear that
sweet sundial
keen jungle
sweet sundial
Like I said, my love experience is non-existant
keen jungle
Mine is toxic
sweet sundial
I never were in relationship myself, I only helped out few friends with their own
keen jungle
Much like meinself
sweet sundial
I never told anyone words "I love you" or something like that
regal talon
Lots of new faces in my school this year, so I’ve focused on socializing
sweet sundial
And now i wonder if i will want to feel like that about someone again, after moving on
regal talon
Next year tho sea I shall be best advice giver
sweet sundial
I was more concerned about other said not being sure of her feelings, so i gave her time, and then my feelings just went away
elfin gulch
Do what
sweet sundial
I realised that i liked her because she gave me affection i wanted, and other way around
That's how it usually works with most couples
elfin gulch
Literally me
sweet sundial
Literally me and 14 years old army of kids with problems
keen jungle
My last few relationships were all based off codependency in a pretty toxic way
regal talon
Yeag tryin to stir the honeypot
You know it!
sweet sundial
Please keep those people away from me, they are unstable
sweet sundial
My last few relationships were all based off codependency in a pretty toxic way
Darn
keen jungle
Mixed with much fighting
regal talon
This thread should be renamed as “relationships!?! The thread”
sweet sundial
Number of kids is right
keen jungle
Am I just garbage or something
regal talon
There is like a 5 year gap between me and y’all’s
keen jungle
A plaything for your amusement
regal talon
It’s great cus the occasional adult convo is educational
sweet sundial
I can gather some 14-15 years old kids for you Boi
regal talon
Das about it
keen jungle
There is like a 5 year gap between me and y’all’s
That's cute
sweet sundial
I was trying to be person like that for my friends, but it's really hard actually
elfin gulch
I tried also, but I couldn't really help them in anyway sadly
regal talon
Luckily I got friends like that
keen jungle
Sorry I didn't even read what was happening
regal talon
sweet sundial
Being flooded with other people's problems, trying to help them even tho they were not usually listening to your advice
elfin gulch
Hear them out make me think I'm lucky even, I'm seriously not the right one to talk to
keen jungle
Having someone is nice, the reminder that someone cares and such.
I, personally, am not much about it.
regal talon
Atp the best thing is having someone that you can talk to, without draining energy
If that makes sense
keen jungle
Gotta learn to love myself first!
regal talon
Like I drain energy fast when talking, after I while I just don’t wanna
keen jungle
But I think relationships are lovely, in all forms.