transdome

[winter comet]

he's actually been my fiancee for a while but i dont really like using that word

[west anchor]

I get it

It's French

[winter comet]

i have yet to tell my mom and his parents we are planning on marrying like this year

it's not bc im keeping it secret its just we genuinely keep forgetting
i don't want a wedding ceremony bc we can do a symbolic one in the future if we want so i just need to apply for the license, 2 people to witness the court marriage and we're good

[west anchor]

Nice

[final heart]

Twins haha

[winter comet]

why did all of us used to live in dfw

[final heart]

Family moved

[winter comet]

salute the real texan flag 🏳️‍⚧️

[next harbor]

To escape DFW I drove nearly 20 hours just to move to another southern state but we eventually jumped one state north and it's a lot more progressive here

[winter comet]

i got lucky and decided to date someone who already lived in washington state

[misty harness]

yeah it's kinda crazy lol. when we used to vc in this server a lot there was a kid who joined one day who worked at the starbucks my gf always wanted to go to before work

i knew they lived in the area but didn't ask for details cuz minor, but i pulled up to the drive through and they were like "hey are you sol from the machine girl server" and i was liiike ?????

[winter comet]

and now your girlfriend is my boyfriend's former coworker

small woild

[next harbor]

That's so wild though. Meeting someone like that must be surreal

[winter comet]

its more likely now that sol and i run into each other and not even know it tbh

[digital geyser]

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdRjrN5Q/ i hope this is useful info for American siblings. the main assistance is apparently focussed pn hate crime victims but i think its important to be aware that this kind of support exists

[grand hearth]

New badge for a new beginning

[bronze ocean]

☝️ samael they/them above

hell yeah!!!!! :DDDD

[grand hearth]

yeeeeeeeee

[jagged quiver]

dude ur last name is they/them thats so cool

ur parents must have predicted pronouns

[grand hearth]

I know……so cool

[dull raft]

tansqender

[west anchor]

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1351425290814881812/1351457242364510218/ezgif-2f44c4d8d5f120.gif

[grand hearth]

i've got too much blood 😬 so i'm donating today

[balmy pond]

Real

Going to the plasma clinic to let off some steam

[golden plover]

Medieval doctors when they get a cold

[valid sun]

this is my exact same issue LOL

[winter comet]

its really funny that being on t can just make you have too much red blood cells

[dull raft]

wait they were being fr? 😨

fruit gusher human...

[winter comet]

yes testosterone stimulates red blood cell production

you can develop too many and it has to be treated by either changing dose or taking blood

probably some other options too but i assume the easiest are those

[dull raft]

free money i guess LMAO

[winter comet]

hrt is a very extensive package deal all sorts of stuff happens as a result that extends past visible "sex characteristics"
a lot of baby trans ask if they can cherrypick what effects from it via dosing and stuff but largely, nope
its so dependent on genetics and personal biology

[dull raft]

yeah that makes sense

can masculine hrt make you grow? i know it can change ur facial structure a bit but past that idk how it affects the skeleton

[winter comet]

saw "testosterone wont make you look like a twink itll make you look like your dad" yesterday and i wheezed

[dull raft]

i ask because my biological dad is super tall, and my half brother is already taller than me even though hes only 13

[dull raft]

LMFAO

[winter comet]

ive heard some tguys swear up and down theyve grown but im p sure post puberty the growth plates close

[dull raft]

https://tenor.com/view/god-damn-it-rouxls-kaard-rouxls-kaard-damnit-gif-23440867

[winter comet]

like i can't imagine once you're done growing t will just make you grow again but im no doctor so

im gonna be a little cynical i think the observed height growth transmascs experience is them just standing up straighter

bc theyre more confident

sorry kings

[dull raft]

maybe, i hunch over a lot to hide my chest ngl 😭

[winter comet]

my dad was 6'7

my mom 5'2

[dull raft]

JESUS

even taller than mine wtf 😨

[winter comet]

i middled out at 5'8ish on a good day

[dull raft]

same lmao

my brother is like 5'10 i think??

[winter comet]

so "for a trans guy" i'm "tall" but i dont think height is as gendered as people swear it is

[dull raft]

oh definitely not

[winter comet]

5'7-8 is average height

people think calling me a short king is gender affirming bitch im average
im taller than many cis men even

[dull raft]

my dad (the one i live with) is 5'8"

[winter comet]

my sister is nonbinary fem and they are considered tall but bc i present more masc im short

[dull raft]

damn

[winter comet]

we r the same height

[valid sun]

it's because female puberty closes growth plates way younger (11-14ish) than male growth plates (14-16ish)

thats why women in general are shorter than men

so either way you transition you wont shrink/grow if you didnt have puberty blockers

any height growth is likely due to cartilage

which will expand with testosterone and shrink with estrogen

[winter comet]

yep

height is kinda hard coded
i've seen so many cis men under 5'8 especially among some ethnic groups so i think the standard of "men should be 5'10 minimum to be masc" and the prominent gendering of height is stupid

especially bc as a half korean "girl" growing up and the expectation of korean women to be tiny i was gigantic compared to my mom and her friends lol
and i've met fully korean women as tall as or taller than me

also tall women are cool if you're intimidated by a tall woman you are a fool. you should be intimidated by every woman ever actually /j

[grand hearth]

accurate

[ripe burrow]

honestly height really shouldnt be gendered cuz thats a little stupid but its those stereotypical societal standards that say that men should be taller i guess because its viewed as a more dominant and masculine trait whilst a woman should be shorter as its seen as more submissive and feminine, but these standards are sooo outdated that its like poo

its not the 1900s no more

guh

[grand hearth]

I used to be self conscious about being short until I started presenting more masculine in general and then I was like Yeah I’m Vegeta

[ripe burrow]

exactly

rise up vegetab

[winter comet]

i'd rather die than look like my dad but luckily i look like my maternal grandpa in the face shape so i think i might just turn into my 할아버지

i don't wanna be a twink so i'll gladly look like my granpa

no offense to twinks

[grand hearth]

I got dad bod

[ripe burrow]

i too am thankful i got my grandpas looks

#dab

[grand hearth]

I prolly look like my maternal grampa whoever that is

Actually I was asked if I was Filipino the other day

Which is interesting because my ma gets constantly mistaken for being Filipina. She’s from Vietnam but doesn’t know her dad

[winter comet]

it's funny that i say when i get on t i want to manage my facial hair and people think i want to be a twink
no i want to be hairy as fuck just not on my face

i already am hairy as fuck

[ripe burrow]

i want my twink death to happen RIGHT NOW!!’ #gymbro #winterarcstartsnow

#mog

[grand hearth]

twink death happened as soon as I started taking psych meds #weightgain

[winter comet]

my mom is tan and the common image of a korean person is pale bc of beauty standards so sometimes korean people don't recognize she's korean until she speaks it and i'm just like ⁉️

[ripe burrow]

if i had a £1 coin any time i got called a twink i’d possibly be in the thousands by now guys

[winter comet]

tan korean people still exist but also her features look very classic korean

[ripe burrow]

frig beauty standards im becoming an alien

[winter comet]

i get confused for chinese by both non asian people and asians

[grand hearth]

Vietnamese people tend to know my mom is Vietnamese but we’ve had a few Filipino people come up to her and start speaking to her in Tagalog

Er no maybe not Tagalog

Just Filipino in general I think

[winter comet]

i once got asked at a nail salon i was at w my sister if we were half viet bc the people doing her nails were vietnamese

[grand hearth]

omfg?? 😭

[winter comet]

which is funny bc my sister gets confused for all sorts of races and ethnicities and i usually just get diff types of asian and what people think latino means (latino is not a race, anyone can be latino)

[grand hearth]

lmfao yeah

[ripe burrow]

what does it even mean to be latino

[winter comet]

to be from latin america or have familial ties to it i guess

[ripe burrow]

oh right right

[golden plover]

I mean, I'm fairly tall for my birth sex, and my cis gf is almost as tall.

So I don't get this standard at all, there are plenty of tall women.

[winter comet]

the (non-latine) wasian experience of being asked if you're latine

[ripe burrow]

😓 yea its super outdated but people still follow it

[grand hearth]

I’m a fan of tall girls (my girlfriend)

[winter comet]

my bf is my height but we both t4t so it's not special /j

[ripe burrow]

all my side hoes (my bffs) are tall and they give the best hugs

i luv my friends

[winter comet]

average height tguys

a man has fallen for a man in lego city

[ripe burrow]

ghastly

[grand hearth]

t4t 🤝

[ripe burrow]

t4t is cool

[winter comet]

it's funny that we pass for a cishet relationship in some circumstances bc im not on t and he has a bushy beard

[grand hearth]

I think my gf’s egg cracked all the way through after we started dating lol bc she was initially transfemme nonbinary and since then has been like Fuck it I’m Woman

[ripe burrow]

i was in a t4t relationship but the guy had a superiority complex for starting testosterone at 15 and belittled me #notcoolbro

anyways im a free man now WOOHOO!!

[winter comet]

unfortunately sometimes t4t can go badly if internalized transphobia is strong in one or both (or more) people in the relationship

💔

[ripe burrow]

yea…

[winter comet]

my previous partner presented as a cis dude when we first started dating but when they came out as nb i was the least surprised person in the world

[golden plover]

Same for me.

I converted my gf into a lesbian by secretly being a woman!
(She wasn't fully straight before, dw)

[winter comet]

like i never poke at someone before they're ready ever. i don't even comment on the possibility of them being trans, i just let them figure it out
but when they come out i just go "oh ok cool" bc i kinda already knew there was at least inner exploration going on

[grand hearth]

real

[winter comet]

when ur as old as i am in trans terms you can just tell sometimes
like not necessarily that someone will come out or is trans but you can kinda tell when someone is open to questioning or exploring

[ripe burrow]

being trans is both the best and worst thing that happened to me in terms of gender identity because i finally feel comfortable in what i dress in and present myself as but the negative is that i will never be ‘fully’ a man and i got that feeling that i missed out on a lot of stereotypical boy stuff as a child oughhh…
the future awaits and im honestly so fricking excited to find out more about myself and see who i’ll be then

https://tenor.com/view/hypnospace-transgender-trans-rights-skeleton-gif-21237962

[next harbor]

https://tenor.com/view/smt-nocturne-hell-biker-shin-megami-tensei-smt3-skull-gif-27250699

[winter comet]

there's nothing more Fully Man than being a self-made man brother

https://tenor.com/view/shadow-the-hedgehog-hoverboard-the-moves-cool-lit-gif-14188011

all these other dudes are nepo babies /j

[ripe burrow]

BAHAH THATS SUCH A GOOD WAY OF SAYINH THAT

[golden plover]

I bet their mom gave them their names even!

[winter comet]

HEY GUY NICE NAME. DID MOMMY PICK IT OUT FOR YOU

[ripe burrow]

😂😂 fukin loser imagine your MUMMY picking out your name pfftt, poser, only true men pick out their names

mamas boy 😂😂💯💯

[winter comet]

i once had a kid named tyler bitch at me for changing my name in middle school before i came out as trans to something still feminine but different to my birth name
he was like "you can't just pick your name" and i was like "then why did i just do that then"

sorry you're upset that ur name is tyler my guy you can change that too

[ripe burrow]

tyler is a bitch boy name for cis guys

[winter comet]

also pen names and stage names are literally people choosing their own names

[ripe burrow]

LITERALLY

[scenic falcon]

I think it's funny how a guy with a generic name like "tyler" is hating on you for changing yours 💀

[next harbor]

envious hater

[winter comet]

straight cis dudes will call trans people stereotypes for being named aspyn and having blue hair but nothing is more stereotypical than being a white guy named Dylan, and doing missionary

so i mean if the shoe fits brother

[west anchor]

🫡

[winter comet]

we both wearin shoes

and what now

[west anchor]

Footsie time

[winter comet]

no

[west anchor]

XD

My dead name is Spanish but I was born in the north of England

And my parents arent Spanish

Hot take maybe

Xavier is just Javier but worse

[scenic falcon]

Zzzzavier vs. havier 🌹

[ripe burrow]

oh and having broccoli hair

[west anchor]

Ewww

Idk why that cus popular its terrible

[west anchor]

EXXXXAAAACTYLLL

Don't look up Xavier on gufa isss weird

[digital geyser]

tbf the reason is bc of sex differences, people assigned male at birth are on average taller
but i do agree bc not every cis man is taller than cis women and vice versa

i mean im taller than the average height for afabs in my country

and have been taller than cis men before

its all partly genetic, partly sex based, partly environment (mainly nutrition can play a big role)

[grand hearth]

There’s like several alleles determining height and they all get shuffled randomly so u never know what ur gonna get

I ran smack dab in between my parents’ heights tho (dad is 6’1, mom is 4’11, im 5’5)

[digital geyser]

fr, ive seen ppl where they are leagues taller than all their family and afaik im shorter than my parents

[grand hearth]

genetics gacha 💔

[digital geyser]

and like i was tall as a kid and grew fast n then stopped growing (i’m 5’6)

[grand hearth]

Oh ya samesies

That tends to be the case for most AFABs I think

[digital geyser]

like from age 12 i stopped growing

[grand hearth]

Don’t remember if ur afab tho

[digital geyser]

inchresting

i am afab

[grand hearth]

ah yee

but yeah amabs tend to have a later growth spurt iirc

[digital geyser]

i went to all girls schools so from age 10-13 went from one of the tallest to still taller but not tallest

(like i’m 5’6-5’7 somewhere in there)

[grand hearth]

What’s funny is every now and then I find (well known) cis men that are my height and I’m like o wow I’m just like him…………..

[digital geyser]

yeahhh

i was waiting for class once in sixth form which was mixed and was chatting to this cis guy and noticed he was like noteably shorter

was so affirming

[grand hearth]

Short kings unite 🤝

[digital geyser]

all the amabs around me are so tall its so :(

[grand hearth]

It’s ok…if you ever need to judo throw any of them remember you have an advantage (jokes)

[digital geyser]

having said that i know this one transwoman who is like over 6 ft and wore platforms to an event and i think it put her over 6’5 and she slayed

[grand hearth]

fuck yeah

[bronze ocean]

being 5'9 in the netherlands is funny cause half of the dutch women you see here are like

almost a full head taller

[misty harness]

tall women >>>

I've never dated someone shorter than me lolll not on purpose it just keeps happening....

[winter comet]

my bf is like not even a cm taller

[balmy pond]

Tall women are magical I stg

[digital geyser]

my gf is 6ft🥰 altho they dont like being called a woman

tall girl

idk how tall my ex was we dated online lol. i think he said we were the same height?

doesnt matter much anyway i barely even consider him an ex more like “a thing that happened”

[frozen breach]

cis people being gender nepo babies is the funniest fucking concept

it's like an extension of the "nice name, your mom pick it out for you?" joke

you just got your gender handed to you at birth while we had to work for it lol

("you" here being cis ppl to be clear)

[winter comet]

and the thing is not all cis people are gender nepo babies because there are cis people who actually sit back and look at their gender and their expression and how it relates to who they want to be and those are the people who tend to be the most comfy with themselves but many are just like. holding up rules that don't matter and acting like they're happy and fine and Normal and everyone else is the collapse of society

[frozen breach]

oh yeah absolutely

tbh i've met a couple of cis people who either detransitioned or seriously questioned their gender before coming back to what they were assigned at birth who honestly seemed to have an even deeper and more nuanced self-understanding with regards to their gender identity than some of the trans people i know

as we all probably know, it's really fucking hard to look at oneself and say "i'm not the thing everyone else thinks i am", but in many ways it's at least as hard to look at oneself and say "i'm not the thing i thought i was", if that makes sense

not trying to be like "oh detransitioners are so stunning and brave for daring to not be trans" lol, just that self-exploration is really difficult and changing your mind/admitting you were wrong instead of getting trapped in sunk cost fallacy hell is also really difficult

[winter comet]

yes exactly my thoughts

trans people just Tend to have a nuanced self understanding at least in the expression department but with some cis people who do the self work, the distinction is we walk a similar path but end up at different doors

that being said all transphobes are gender nepo babies and arent even gendering good

[digital geyser]

yeah the person who made me realise i was trans is cis now afaik

they were last time we spoke like 2 years ago

[winter comet]

i dated a then-trans dude in high school who detransitioned and she still has her court changed name bc she still liked it which is kinda cool

[digital geyser]

a friend of my partner who is a cis man changed his name to a different man name bc he just liked the new name more and felt ok doing it bc he was friends with so many trans ppl

[winter comet]

this is why i frame gender affirmation as something every single person can experience

bc cis is not the default and cis people should have their own gender journeys too even if they don't transition to something else

like you can do anything you want if it makes you feel more you, don't gotta be trans to do that

[digital geyser]

happy trans day of visibility!!!

[west anchor]

🎊

[hallow bronze]

happy matrix release date as well

big day for trans people

[grand hearth]

O damn ur right

[grand hearth]

https://youtube.com/clip/Ugkx5M4RV6-iC6he38_LyzWFLA8S3bnxUz9Y

going 2 da blood drive

[winter comet]

i asked my bf if he ever had too much blood on t and he was confused

apparently he did not have too much blood

[grand hearth]

good job Danny bf

[winter comet]

he valiantly fought off the extra red blood cells

[steady swift]

so im writing a creative essay on how fiction and art have helped my self discovery as a queer trans and neurodivergent person

been running through some different versions of a title i drafted and was wondering if i could get some opinions

spoilered for reclaimed slur usage(intended in a positive/affirming light), i havent started the essay itself yet but as i was brainstorming the first one and its original version rlly resonated w me

im rlly tapping into my love for unapologetic queer literature here i fear

[odd vessel]

i rly like the original ye

[paper totem]

https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-025-01029-8

[digital geyser]

https://tenor.com/view/sad-cat-sunakook-tired-exhausted-gif-24687868

are you trying to outdo the cas report

[golden plover]

So, that removes all objectivity from a otherwise scientific study.

Does he expect people to still trust what NIH says after that?

[golden plover]

"Let's reference that source that was paid by a biased person with a agenda that changed the methods!"

No self-respecting scientific writer would do that.

This will be like that "vaccines cause autism" research that was majorly influenced by the researcher's mother that was a anti-vaxxer.

[chrome snow]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Paperclip

Instantly reminded me of this.

[dull raft]

its already been studied and the regret rates are lower than the regret rates of a hip replacement!!! he needs to stop trying to get people to focus on the wrong 1%

[digital geyser]

and most of us "regret" because of trnasphobia his fucking gvt and terfs are pushing

or are kids experimenting with identity who decide its not them which is totally normal and they aren't getting pushed to medically transition. most of them probably dont even come out to their parents

[dull raft]

THIS !!!!

transmedicalism is so RANCID dude

same vibes as "gays for trump"

[ripe burrow]

what the fuck is happening in the usa anymore

i hope all the best to my trans siblings who live in the USA cuz this shit is actually terrifying

[digital geyser]

yeah fr

[golden plover]

I would barely call it science, they are known for believing in a lot of pseudoscience.

[grand hearth]

I don’t even know dawg

[molten kite]

It's trying to provide scientific basis for legislature

[winter comet]

people love to either thump bibles or bunk studies
because if you're irreligious or ideologically transphobic beyond religious justification you can claim "trans people dont know science" but if you fudge the circumstances or wording the presentation of science is fallible and intentionally conflated with science itself

and then they can act like the facts are irrefutable as just baseline science when the delivery of science moves by money too
studies have to be paid for, people have to be paid to work

[magic verge]

chuds like to scream "facts over feelings" over and over again until the facts aren't in their favor. then they scramble to scrape together inherently flawed studies or horrendously skew data to prove their point

it's willful ignorance because they can comprehend the idea that studies and data are paid for by entities with some sort of ideological bent, since they always claim that academia is overrun with communists (based if true)

[clear zodiac]

y'all i might not be going homeless with my family this year

i emailed the lgbt center in san diego so now i'm waiting for a response

[winter comet]

god i wish academia was run by communists

[golden plover]

Our kids are getting brainwashed into getting hip replacements!

Think of the children, don't let your kids get hip replacements, it'll fix itself!

-# /j

[vapid dune]

I did my boy's first T injection for him

[dull raft]

HELL YEAH!!! may his transition be smooth and as problemless as possible 🙏🙏

[last pilot]

idk what happened but when i went to pick up my t gel today, it was free???? I usually pay like 40$??? epic shit?? I could get a sweet treat for myself????

[sudden zephyr]

They just handing that shi out?

[last pilot]

nah it was w prescription ofc

[grand hearth]

Maybe your insurance decided to cover it?

[frozen breach]

exceedingly rare insurance company W if true

[next harbor]

Ya it's been over a year and my insurance still won't cover it, even though there's medical documentation that I can't do ||needles||. I literally get my partner to do it to me

I feel like if you can't administer your own medication, maybe there's an issue

Fuck insurance companies

[grand hearth]

Yeah my insurance doesn’t cover mine 🤷 I pay like $40 out of pocket for 2 vials if I’m lucky

I used to get like 6 vials of 1mL T for $30

[winter comet]

my bf found an old vial of t tucked away in his injection kit

and i joked that he should give it to me to drink

[grand hearth]

liquid gold should ne’er be squandered

[winter comet]

he hasnt been on t in over a year and ive never started so its just kind of a funny little item

like i think it's still within its expiry but it wouldn't. do much to either of us so it's just sitting there

[winter comet]

who else feel like a trussed ham in a binder sometimes

[ripe burrow]

yea 💔💔💔

i hate my binders grrr

[winter comet]

im too old to bind
been binding for a decade
my ribs are powder

[dull raft]

trans tape is a good alternative if u want one !

it can be itchy though 😭

[ripe burrow]

i’ve always wanted to try it out but im worried it wont bind as well as i’d like

sighhhhh

[winter comet]

believe me ive tried
that doesnt work for someone w my chest size

it gives me no more compression than a sports bra so for all the trouble itd just be easier to wear a sports bra

but i look flatter without a sports bra so i just dont wear anything most days

[dull raft]

aw damn that sucks :(

i hope u both find good alternatives!!!

i know how bad chest dysphoria can be xd

[ripe burrow]

thanks! :D

[digital geyser]

lighthearted video about whats going on in america (and other countries too). spoilered if you dont want to see that rn

even in the uk i dont feel safe that i’ll have all my rights next year, esp around seeking medical transition

(n also my rights as a disabled person to receive financial support to cover the cost of being disabled)

[grand hearth]

Why is so much of my facial hair growth in a neckbeard distribution waaaaaaahhh

[frozen breach]

IM SAYIN‼️‼️‼️

mine is also blonde so you can barely even see it, so all it really does is make my face itchy

[jagged quiver]

i also have hella neckbeard and like nothing else

genetics just be trolling some people

[grand hearth]

It’s trying to cover more of my face

I might just end up with like

Wolverine beard

Mutton chops lol

[winter comet]

honestly wolverine is already a tmasc slay

[grand hearth]

very true

[golden plover]

I know, you don't shave in 12 hours and you become a neckbeard,

but your mustache hasn't grown in the slightest, you know the part that is usually nicer to have than a neckbeard.

[ripe burrow]

gulp

i’d rather have whats called a pedostache than a neckbeard

[winter comet]

i wanna get laser hair removal for my face when i get on t

[ripe burrow]

i want to grow out a moustache and become the next pink sheep

im lowkey shitting myself on getting a buzzcut but i really want one BUT IDK WHAT I’D EVEN ASK FOR

IDK IF I SHOULD GET A FADED BUZZ OR NOT

[grand hearth]

Huh?

[golden plover]

I sadly have testosterone in my body, and I grow so much stupid body/facial hair, especially on my neck.

I grow a neckbeard really fast, and I hate it, idk if that's just how it works or something.

[grand hearth]

o yeah

I think it just depends on genetics tbh

I’m half Asian so it doesn’t help me much there

[golden plover]

Not a single person in my family grows a neckbeard, am I cursed or something!?

[ripe burrow]

maybe… laser hair removal is always a thing to look into but ifk if thats a temporary or permanent fix

i have a baby stache growing and as a pre t trans dude whos not rlly out to everyone, i grt comments about it a lot and its like yes…tell me i have facial hair yes…..

https://tenor.com/view/devious-devious-smile-devious-emoji-gif-12743683124666080615

[winter comet]

i am like one of 5 tmascs who does not want facial hair

i already grow a little and it pisses me off

[ripe burrow]

i’ll manifest you hair loss for your face king trust 🤞🤞🤞

[dull raft]

when i start t ill probably get a natural goatee/soul patch wtv the hell theyre called LMFAO

i do not think i am a goatee guy but if my genetics say so then theres not much i can do 😭

[digital geyser]

hi gang i’m dealing with hand dysphoria??? and would like to ask if anyone knows:

what is the societal expectation/norm for cis men and keeping on top of clipping their nails

how long is a cis man supposed to go between clips

reason i’m asking is i normally keep my nails super short (and often paint them which is obivously a bit more fruity) but ive been feeling like maybe thats too much care into my nails and i need to leave tjem and its coincided with a period where i’ve been so busy and so exhausted ive not had the energy to motivate myself to clip them so they’re longer than normal rn

my dysphoria is so weird bc wdym idc about passing most of the time bc i know i won’t anyway and so i just look how i want to but i’m dysphoric about my fingernails

[frosty ice]

personally just used to clip them whenever they got annoying using a keyboard when i was a teenager

seems to me like cis men are mainly just expected to not think about their nails first and foremost

[digital geyser]

ok

ty

[ripe burrow]

the cis men who ive ever met rarely had their nails clipped, its gross to think ab but lads who dont rlly take hygiene as a big thing will just bite their nails and call it a day, so dont worry too much about how your nails look boss!!

clip them whenever you feel discomfort, its the best way to go about it

[digital geyser]

yeah tbf i used to be a nail biter but it was literally grinding down my teeth😬

[grand hearth]

honestly would you rather be clean or have the filthiest grimiest nails with stuff under it

I’ve always kept my nails short because I played piano ever since I was a kid lol. I can’t go too long without cutting them because it annoys me

Many cis men don’t know to clean their asses. You want to go day to day with swampass too? Etc

Fuck gender norms I’d rather be hygienic lol

Either way, I think people are more likely to notice that you don’t clean certain parts of yourself than see that you take care of yourself and go “wow that dude is fruity” yknow?

[bronze ocean]

yeah ngl dude with long painted nails just reads as kinda fruity but if theyre just long not painted and clean its just like oh this guy knows how to wash his hands ig

can't say ive ever really looked at someone's fingernails

[ripe burrow]

i have never frlt so euphoric havinf a buzzcut

[digital geyser]

ahhh ok. mine are usually short and painted

i think long and painted would make me even more dysphoricl moa

in my brain thats like girl with her nails done which again is mostly dysphoria but wah

i also just generally prefer short nails

[balmy pond]

I dunno as a girl I've never gotten long nails myself lol

Pretty af but I'm too paranoid about them getting caught on stuff 💀

I grew up playing violin and stuff tho so I'm probably just used to them being short

[carmine cobalt]

there are also a lot of reasons to keep your nails short! i rock climb which requires keeping your nails really short all the time regardless of gender. so to me keeping your nails short just means you're using your hands for things

[balmy pond]

yea exactly!

[carmine cobalt]

im transmasc and keep my nails short and rarely painted but i think i want to get long nails done for my (upcoming) wedding bc i think they're sickening but so impractical for actually using your hands

[winter comet]

i keep my nails short and filed regardless of if im painting them or not
bc theres like a certain short length where nails get gunk under them too easily and very short and long nails don't as much

i take to filing them since they're sharp after clipping

also yea.. dont take cishet men as a metric for masculinity some of them think wiping their ass is gay because they're touching a male ass
there are cis men who take care of themselves

there are cis men who have acrylics even

"cis masculinity" is not one thing esp if theyve been raised to hold themselves accountable emotionally and physically

most of what we see as "traditional masculinity" are guys who were left unaccountable

no thanks

i don't wanna emulate that

[sudden zephyr]

I like keeping mine short but I usually tend to lose my cutters and so they get long occasionally and idfk but they get dirty within a HOUR so I'm like scrubbing my hands to get the fingernail dirt out cuz it makes me feel filthy 😭

I use to grab a mechanical pencil and use it's tip to get the dirt out

N then I scrubbed my hands

[digital geyser]

tbh i think its more taking care of ur nails = fem (keeping on top of trimming, using clippers, polish etc), not giving a shit = masc

and maintaining long nails consistently is giving a shit more than most cis men it seems

[golden plover]

The pen will just draw under your nails then, making them look dirty, don't ask me how I know.

[sudden zephyr]

it didn't make em look dirty just a lil scratched up!

I like took the uh end of it off

[karmic pier]

[dull raft]

silly joke i saw once and am now telling from memory:
a married man finds out that shes a trans woman. she doesn't know how her wife will respond, but she wants to be honest, so she goes to her wife and says "honey, i have some bad news." her wife replies "i have some bad news too. im a lesbian." the trans woman pauses for a bit and says "i have good news"

[winter comet]

i have seen this happen like multiple times

[dull raft]

LMAO

[winter comet]

or the other wife is bi so it still works out anyway

[magic verge]

i've seen people call this phenomenon "preordering a girlfriend"

or wife in this case

[winter comet]

it's true

i preordered a thembo in my last relationship

[magic verge]

love that

[frozen breach]

i have a friend who semi-recently came out as a trans girl and has mainly only dated trans guys in the past, and i've made the joke to her before that her exes weren't gay, they were just straight t4t and preordering

which isn't true in her case but it's a funny concept

i have found that any time i question my sexuality and start to think that i might like guys, the "guy" who i was attracted to ends up transitioning, so i'm like... subconsciously preordering

[paper totem]

same energy

Cigat

also in more serious news https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/the-trump-administration-is-about that cass review ripoff is apparently going to be published april 28

[sudden zephyr]

What's y'all's thoughts on facial feminization

I've been looking into it and like should I consider it or nah

Cause I know it's my choice n stuf but just curious on others input on it

[misty harness]

It comes down to whether you have specific things you want done, everyone's face is different so it'll be very specific to you

[sudden zephyr]

Yeah I know! I think I'm just gonna minimize my Adam's apple if I can

[frosty ice]

that's a tracheal shave ur looking for, not technically ffs and tends to be less invasive and cheaper afaik

also one of 3? gender affirming surgeries currently available on the island of ireland because there's one surgeon who seems to have some sort of autistic hyperfixation on the procedure

[grand hearth]

Random but I’m reminded of when I was told by Folx to order my needles off Amazon lmao

That shit was wild

[winter comet]

i think my bf just like
ordered from a medical supply

[valid sun]

thats what my doctor told me and my parents in 2018 and it stuck lol

like a year before i started they asked about medical supplies and she said "im not supposed to say this...but amazon"

[grand hearth]

I couldn’t find any that were sterile on Amazon 😬 I’ve been able to get them because they’re a prescription for me though

[digital geyser]

i am so fucking tired

i wish every social media feed i am on wasn’t full of talk on whats happened in the uk. i got back from a lovely holiday to it being the first notification i saw on my phone

my only hope is some trans man might be able to pull some fuckery using the ruling to show how stupid it is because i’m so tired

[paper totem]

yeah it's bleak as fuck

im not in the uk but hearing "allies" over there say shit like [cw actual comment someone made. it sucks be warned] "||i respect trans people but this is a country ruled by fact not faith||" and like are you serious

if you are saying stuff like that you are not an ally to us

[magic verge]

it's awful it truly is TERF island over there. i don't really see how trans men could pull something with the legislation though because it very clearly targets trans women/those primarily targeted by transmisogyny. and i think the potential for trans men to access women's only spaces is kind of an afterthought if not by design considering the fact that TERFs see us as closer to womanhood by virtue of us being AFAB. it's fucked up and obviously all of us are under attack but i think the most important thing trans men can do right now is stand up for the trans women in their lives and protect them

love the trans women in your life before it's too late!!!!!

[west anchor]

@ivory delta

[ivory delta]

Any tips for a person that wants a flatter chest as a minor

[dull raft]

two (in sizes that comfortably fit u) sports bras

one on correctly, one on backwards

its not as good as a binder but it does flatten ur chest a bit!

never try to wear a bra thats way too small for u, ull only get hurt

same goes with binders for when/if u get one

[ivory delta]

I have a binder (small) I just need tips if my chest gets sore or it hurts and what to do

[dull raft]

just take it off for a bit! ur not supposed to wear one for over 8 hours

but if it gets sore within 30 minutes u could be wearing it a size too small

or ur chest is just sensitive

[ivory delta]

I think my chest is sensitive, cuz my aunt who sells bras and corsets said I'm a small

[dull raft]

that is a possibility

[ivory delta]

(also Ty for the tips cuz Google is not helping rn)

[dull raft]

maybe buy some nippy covers? silicone should help the best if its the friction thats hurting u

if its not friction and its just the pressure tho then im not sure sadly :(

[ivory delta]

Yeah mby, I'm really tryna look like a boy

[ivory delta]

It's okay, this was really helpful:)

[dull raft]

oh the covers won't show up at all! theyd be protecting the most sensitive part from ur binder

theyre pretty thin, only a couple mm i think?

[dull raft]

no problem!

[ivory delta]

Ooooo alr! I'm probably going out shopping tomorrow anyway, so Imma find them along with some other things

[ivory delta]

:)

[golden plover]

Baggy clothes

[ivory delta]

I do wear some

[golden plover]

It helps hide the chest, as there's now other things adding mass around your body, so it sticks out less.

Got this from a non-binary friend, as well as my gf.

[golden plover]

Also oversized clothes

[ivory delta]

I WANT some but they're expensive af

[golden plover]

For example: t-shirts that are a size larger, same reason it helps as the baggy clothes.

[golden plover]

Baggy clothes?

[ivory delta]

Yeah, I got a binder I usually use them under everything I have

[ivory delta]

Very expensive

[golden plover]

I am transfem, but I do a similar thing, but with bras that hold their shape, like comfy/sleep bras and padded bras

.

So I get tactical boobs

[ivory delta]

I'm non-binary (fem) but I wanna look like a boy

[grand hearth]

having to wear sports bras/binders has been bad for having fibromyalgia lol but I’m so conflicted about top surgery

it be like that sometimes

[grand hearth]

sports bra slightly smaller than your usual size

[golden plover]

Can it be any baggy clothes?

If so, consider second-hand stores or budget clothes brands.

At least in Sweden(it can be really cold there) a lot of people buy baggy clothes, because you don't wanna freeze.

But that also means you can easily find it second-hand or made by cheaper brands.

[ivory delta]

I have a binder

[grand hearth]

even a hoodie is decent for making it less obvious

[ivory delta]

Yeah I'm planning too but I have social anxiety

[ivory delta]

It's like 20° degrees here

I'm gonna perish

[ripe burrow]

if youre able to get it then sometimes taping helps better than a binder, really depends on your chest tho

[golden plover]

#1025645033325608970 message

[grand hearth]

you can get cheap clothes!

Idk why you showed me that

[ivory delta]

It's droopy and pointy af (sorry for TMI)

[ivory delta]

There's a second hand store near my house

[ripe burrow]

right ok

[golden plover]

There are these "sports" fleece shirts that are lighter, breathes more, but are still baggy(tho not as much as a thick hoodie)

[ivory delta]

Would probably cost over 400 kr

[golden plover]

Wait, you're Swedish?

[ivory delta]

No...

[ripe burrow]

you can always find them in charity shops n stuff for a lesser price

[ivory delta]

I'm gonna try and find one close.....

[ripe burrow]

i acc found an underarmour long sleeve once for like £3 but it was too big </3, great condition tho so i hope the next lucky fello got it

[ripe burrow]

yess lad!!!

[ivory delta]

YAHHHHH

[ripe burrow]

you dont always need to grt the most high end expensive clothes to pass

[ivory delta]

:)

[ivory delta]

Nah, I'm pretty flat now with my binder, but at my age I should ONLY have it on max 6 hours

[ripe burrow]

i dont rlly follow the recommended times….dont do what i do

🙏 fr dont overdo binder wear or otherwise you will kill your ribs

[golden plover]

Idk where you live, but we got some here that are kinda like second hand stores that have a name you can find several places, like "Myrorna" or "Stockholms Missionen", like chain-stores, but for charity second-hand stores.

[ivory delta]

I live not in Sweden

[golden plover]

If you got one of those they're usually a trustworthy one to try visiting

[ivory delta]

They're already cracked tiwce

[ivory delta]

We don't have those in my country

[ripe burrow]

🙏 that should also be a reaosn to possibly wear it less bro

[golden plover]

Sry, I meant these second-hand stores with a bigger name, so you can trust them, idk if you got those tho.

[ivory delta]

It's not because of my binder, I was just stupid as a kid

[ripe burrow]

oh right right

[ivory delta]

Nope, we don't, we got Red Barnet tho

[ivory delta]

I fell down the roof of my kindergarten twice

Don't ask me how to got up there in first place

[ripe burrow]

[ivory delta]

:D

[paper totem]

a baggy flannel or hoodie as others have previously stated works well but also dont discount just a rly thick and baggy tshirt

i like shaka wear shirts a lot bc theyre really thick and have tight collars so you cant see straps or anything

[ripe burrow]

layering can also help hide the chest

[golden plover]

From a quick search it looks like a Danish version of what "Myrorna" is.

[ripe burrow]

i have gyatt to buy this

oh those t shirts are like perfect

[golden plover]

Maybe check that out.

[paper totem]

only piece of advice if ur going to buy one is that the listed size is about one size up from how a normal shirt fits

[ripe burrow]

🙏🙏🙏

thank you for this nlo

[paper totem]

if you wear a large get a medium etc

i like the garment dyed ones

[ivory delta]

Now u know...

[ripe burrow]

i dont think they ship to the uk….

ima find the equivalent some time soon

[paper totem]

pro club makes similar heavyweight shirts

i didnt know they didnt ship overseas :(

[ripe burrow]

yea they do

[paper totem]

ohh

[ripe burrow]

i have foind out that they infact do ship

lets gooooo

shipping will infact eat me tho

[dull raft]

i thought i was a rowdy child good lord 😨

[ivory delta]

I had MANY MORE

[dull raft]

i have 3 ||scars|| on my head from getting a bit too playful

and one on my tummy from again being too excited/playful

but ROOF?? WHAT

[ivory delta]

I also almost broke a kid's spine for stealing my toy

Uhm, and more!

[dull raft]

i stabbed a kid with a dull pencil once cuz he fucked with my playdoh

he was fine

[ivory delta]

I would too

[golden plover]

Deserved

[dull raft]

i was so violent and angry as a wee lad

its hard to believe that the same kid who did all of that is like... me

[ripe burrow]

i was too, still am tbf

[ivory delta]

I actually sprained my back twice last year

[ripe burrow]

jesus

[dull raft]

damn?? 😨

[dull raft]

real

[ivory delta]

That's not the wprst

[ivory delta]

Ik girl, same

[dull raft]

ive learned how to manage it but sometimes i still get a bit

GARARAGFHAHHDJW

[ivory delta]

I like pain

[ripe burrow]

im young, arrogant and hate everything you stand for….

[dull raft]

YEAHH

[ripe burrow]

meahahaha

[ivory delta]

Guys, when I was 3 I got a rusty nail through my foot

[dull raft]

i will be very kind and gentle and explain things as many times as u need to understand but god help u if ur a transphobe/just a bitch in general

[dull raft]

WHAT

[ripe burrow]

cheers for the info

[ripe burrow]

amen to that

[ivory delta]

Girl if ur a bitch or transphobic you better pray cuz u getting ur ass handed to you (not u pookie ily)

[ivory delta]

Yw

[dull raft]

LMAO

[ivory delta]

Happy fun time with uncle

[ivory delta]

I'm not joking bro

[dull raft]

😨

[ivory delta]

There was an elderly man walking by my house while I was in the garden in my binder (it was SUPER HOT, and I was covering my entire area where my ribs are) and he got super mad

He scoffed and told me that being gay was a sin, so I told him being || abusive || and did some WEIRD stuff to children was also a sin

YAY IT WORKED FOR ONCE

[dull raft]

how DARE someone dress comfortably!!! u must ALWAYS wear rhe SCRATCHIEST AND ITCHIEST fibers and always be cranky!!!!

[dull raft]

YEAHH

[ivory delta]

Exactly bro, like how dare they

[ivory delta]

TRIGGER WARNING ON THIS BTWWE

Also System I'm fine now:)

[frozen breach]

if your chest is relatively small then transtape might help (it's kinda pricey but i know people who have smaller chests who have had a lot of success with it)

although if you have sensitive skin that may not be the best idea

[ripe burrow]

:( i lost my binder and idk where the fuck it is

god forbid my parents find it, i do not need questioning GULP

what would be a good excuse cuz if i say its a crop top i fear they wont believe me because i hiss at the sight of short clothing n stuff….

[dull raft]

say its a sports bra cuz thats sorta kinda true

they both compress

[ripe burrow]

true true

im just pondering on where it couldve gone

[dull raft]

ur dog stole it and gave it to their werewolf friend

[ripe burrow]

i only own an oily cat

so maybe he was responsible

[dull raft]

oily cat and his werewolf bf /silly

[ivory delta]

Let's just say it ain't small

[frozen breach]

ahhhh okay, if that's the case then trans tape won't be great, but that's also probably the reason a small size binder is uncomfortable

[magic verge]

they do make it in a large size and some people with bigger busts have had success with it but your mileage may vary. it definitely will not make your chest completely flat but it does make the silhouette of your chest more masculine

[frozen breach]

^^^^^

[magic verge]

that being said when it comes to binders it's a good idea to go a size up from what you would wear with a bra, they tend to run kind of small

i think i usually wear a large binder even though my bust is pretty small but that's for gc2b binders which kind of suck

[ripe burrow]

SLUDGE CAT

[ivory delta]

It was the only size that fit me

[digital geyser]

i rec spectrum but they are the only brand ive used

and if ur between sizes go for the higher one

[magic verge]

my roommate tried a binder brand and then when he went to go buy another he found out it went out of business 😭

[digital geyser]

i dont bind often in general bc it worsens my other medical issues but as a C ish cup spectrum gets me pretty flat

[magic verge]

urgh same

it's already hard to breathe without binding

plus i also mask so like. i need to be able to take in as much air as possible

i've switched over to taping almost entirely but again my bust is pretty small

[digital geyser]

i mostly just take the L and have boobs or wear baggy clothing. im pre t and non oassing anyway so except allievating dysphoria when i look in the mirror it does nothing

its just not worth the pain and restriction. walking is harder for me anyway and i overheat so easily

[magic verge]

woe, boobs be upon ye

every day i wish i could give my boobs to my transfem partner

[ivory delta]

Same💔

[winter comet]

i have a bruise on my rib rn
(idk if its an actual bruised rib i think its external) and i cant bind but usually i dont anyway bc i wear 3 sizes up and i look flatter if i dont wear sports bras

[ivory delta]

Ah, you should prob go to the doctor to get that checked out

[winter comet]

i don't have insurance
like i said i think its an external bruise and not an actual rib bruise

[grand hearth]

sometimes ya just bump into things

[winter comet]

i think i slept on something hard on my bed and it pressed into my rib for hours

[jagged quiver]

when it 2 am and the "ok but do i ACTUALLY wanna be a woman" hits

🥲

if someone were to ask me that question/if i were to ask myself id probably say yes

and i think i feel that way?

idfk bro

why cant my body just tell me what it wants so i can make the according life decision bro... wtf......

i dont think im a man tho like for shore

i think?

sorry if this comes off as a vent this is just me dumping my stream of thought lowkey

LMAO

i am quite tired im probably gonna cringe at this in the morning

[golden plover]

I will use /silly so much now, thanks

[dull raft]

YEAHH

[dull raft]

dont worry, the majority of trans people feel this way sometimes! even i have felt this way

[west anchor]

I chose the girl option and I've been chilling since

[grand hearth]

it’s a meme but I feel this with my full chest lmao

[ripe burrow]

oughhh

real shit tho

[grand hearth]

any time you’re awake past 9 pm is peak rumination time don’t do it!!!

[ripe burrow]

i be pondering late at night if this was all a choice but then i remember cis people usually dont feel this way

i have been seeing a rising influx of cis girls on my tiktok saying they wanna be boys but not in a boy way and thats been making me ponder too

[grand hearth]

as a general rule a lot of times if you get a sense of imposter syndrome or questioning if you’re faking, there’s a 99% chance those things aren’t true

[ripe burrow]

https://tenor.com/view/it-gute-nacht-not-gluten-nacht-gluten-nacht-gute-nacht-gif-11419817225655515471

imposter

[grand hearth]

Banned

[ripe burrow]

but yea it seems like that

[ripe burrow]

NOOOO

[jagged quiver]

in the big year of 2025....

[grand hearth]

:}

[ripe burrow]

have you not seen the matcha among us guy

[jagged quiver]

please do not smile like that.

[grand hearth]

{:

Is this better

[ripe burrow]

hey let sam smile any way they want!

[jagged quiver]

:(

[grand hearth]

I’ve been smilin like this for years let me be!!

[jagged quiver]

:/

[ripe burrow]

:3c

[jagged quiver]

:o

[ripe burrow]

:p

[grand hearth]

(Θ>Θ)

bird

[ripe burrow]

(>д<)/

7\ apex twin

woah

[grand hearth]

oh ya that’s my favorite one

7\

[ripe burrow]

ALSO THERE IS NO UPDATE ON MY MISSING BINDER AND ITS STRESSIN ME OUTTTTT RAHHHH WHERE THE FUCK DID THIS CLOTH CUNT GO!!!!

HOW DID IT GAIN LEGS ANS RUN AWAY

[grand hearth]

what!!!!!!! when was the last time you had it??

[ripe burrow]

like 3 days ago and yesterday i was cleaning and was perplexed cuz i didnt see it on the chair i think i left it on

ive heen scavenging the house

[grand hearth]

mb family member threw it in the wash or something

[ripe burrow]

god i hope not…

gulp

i’ll do some more scavenging later

[jagged quiver]

big gulp of massive proportions

[ripe burrow]

massive sweat drops form on my forehead and i shake

i got fanta in my systemmmm

[jagged quiver]

single massive bead of sweat forms to the right of your forhead

[ripe burrow]

https://tenor.com/view/anime-the-do-over-damsel-conquers-the-dragon-emperor-yarinaoshi-reijou-wa-ryuutei-heika-wo-kouryakuchuu-yariryuu-jill-cervel-gif-2306820220636127153

[jagged quiver]

pupils constrict to a comical size

[ripe burrow]

:D pulling this face

[jagged quiver]

jaw dropped in horror

[ripe burrow]

turning blue

https://tenor.com/view/nervous-anime-terrified-scared-frightened-gif-16455119

I FOOUJD MY BINDERRRRR

LETS GOOOO

[grand hearth]

WAHOO

[grand hearth]

did my T shot to mcr. peak transgender behavior

[winter comet]

this is what gerard way died on the cross for

[sudden zephyr]

What is your guys recommendations for more feminine medium-short haircuts

My hair atm is just long, puffy and curly and atm it's kinda been annoying me so would kewl to have some suggestions I can look at or at least get an idea of what I want

[next harbor]

Def consider shaving a side for maximum gay

Wishing I could shave a side n show the wires

[next harbor]

Also met with a bunch of ||fag||'20 friends yesterday for a 10-hour constitution saving throw. My fiancée seemed to have a blast and I absolutely did, too. I pushed myself a bit too hard on our dusk nature walk portion of the party tho and now I have to rest. Overjoyed to have people stoned out of their minds while we all discuss our woke shit and how much we all love our outfits while we trade all our trash edibles. I kept hearing ppl warn others about their own shit hahaha

Felt so safe, loved, and heard. Charmed by my new friends and happy to share such gay memories.

[ripe burrow]

how curly would you say it is?

[sudden zephyr]

uhh like

It's curly but it's also kinda wavy

[ripe burrow]

oh right right

hmmm

[digital geyser]

happy lesbian visibility week trans and nonbinary lesbians of all varieties here !!!

https://tenor.com/view/pride-pride-flag-lgbt-lgbtq-lgbtqia-gif-1093076978594796471

[digital geyser]

tomboyish sidetails is one of my faves

[sudden zephyr]

I found one id like to base one off

[strong heath]

wow !!!!!!

[frozen breach]

LETS GO LESBIANS‼️‼️‼️

especially trans/nb/genderweird lesbians y'all r so swag 4ever

[west anchor]

I need a lesbian to kiss

[sudden zephyr]

It's gonna be based off this haircut but more shorter

Like around my neck

Do u guys think that'll look feminine or nah

cus that's what I'm goin for

[dull raft]

it looks feminine to me

[bronze ocean]

thats quite feminine

[sudden zephyr]

Okay cool thanks

Cus I heard that hairstyle can matter a lot with it like how you frame ur face or smth

[ripe burrow]

youre very pretty rose

[next harbor]

And your shirt is also v cool!! let's not forget the fit

[jagged quiver]

https://tenor.com/view/this-deathmonkeyxl-deathmonkey-this-post-this-message-gif-24125642

[sudden zephyr]

GUYS OH MY GOD

That is not me

That is the haircut I was wanting 😭😭

[ripe burrow]

OH MY FAULT

🙏 ITS A GOOD HAIRCUT, VERY FEMININE

i need to learn how to read

[sudden zephyr]

This is me idiot 😭 (it's from last year but still me)

I need to lose more weight n stuff

[ripe burrow]

ok so my statement still stands 🙏

[sudden zephyr]

Ok cool

[ripe burrow]

[frozen breach]

okay im so so late to this but i think the reference pic you sent for a haircut will frame your face really nicely and in a way thats very feminine

since your hair is curly it wont look exactly the same but i think it will have a similar vibe, esp if you go to someone who knows how to cut curly hair

[tropic zenith]

this is terrifying

[grand hearth]

maybe I should start a YouTube hobby reading through sham papers in-depth and analytically ripping them to shreds

[misty harness]

that would be sick actually

[balmy pond]

Yeah we need people with some background/expertise to be as loud as possible

[grand hearth]

Yeah I think I’m fully intent on doing this now

sick of ts!!!!

[balmy pond]

Same I wanna throw hands so fucking bad

Discord is a terrible place to organize but maybe we should start collating resources for folks who want to get started

Just like little things, I know there's tons of us on here who would go to protests and stuff but are held back by social anxiety and such (like yours truly)

[golden plover]

Yes, become a miniminuteman

[paper totem]

my hrt provider is quitting

:[

guess i gotta find a new doctor

[grand hearth]

Oh wow I think she might be a new favorite

[clear zodiac]

getting blood work done in two days

[grand hearth]

yippeeee

[hallow bronze]

blood work ahead? yeah I sure hope it does

[dull raft]

i just realized that the feeling towards dantdms appearance (not personality, only appearance) that little 7-9 year old me had was gender envy

i even got side swept bangs to look more like him because i wanted to look like him

and i always really liked p!nks hair because of how short it was and how tomboyish it was

i haven't thought about those feelings in a WHILE so now everything is clicking and im js like

"oh"

[west anchor]

Dr trayorus made me trans

[grand hearth]

absolute gremlin men like Daron Malakian inspire gender envy in me even before I knew what it was

[winter comet]

i wanted to look like roxas

https://tenor.com/view/roxas-kingdom-hearts-gif-23102830

[sudden zephyr]

Did I accomplish that? Hell nawh

[ripe burrow]

definitely is a bit shorter but looks fire B)

[sudden zephyr]

Ty ty

Do you think it frames my face well

[ripe burrow]

most definitely, it suits you a lot

[clever badge]

nintendo transed my gender

first it was cross-dressing link in botw and then girl octoling in splatoon 2

[ripe burrow]

lego ninjago made me trans

thanks zane

https://tenor.com/view/zane-autism-yippee-tbh-ninjago-gif-26873954

[winter comet]

why do i know so many ninjago trans people

[winter comet]

oh yeah psycho mantis also was formative in my gender

https://tenor.com/view/metal-gear-solid-mgs-you-like-castlevania-dont-you-konami-castevania-gif-18137110

[ripe burrow]

idk i blame lego for it

[clever badge]

lego x vague japanese inspirations were my 2 favorite things at like 6 years old lol

in smash bros Meta Knight has a move that i thought looked like spinjitsu so i made him my favorite character

[dull raft]

i wholeheartedly blame dantdm and jacksepticeye for making me trans

something about short hair and tunnels just... draws me in..... like a moth to a flame and oh god im burning help i can feel my cisgenderness fading help gelp

[next harbor]

Okay but as an early bionicle fan, I totally get the ninjago thing

[clear zodiac]

i blame steven universe and rwby for making me both gay and trans

[next harbor]

pretty sure mg gave me the gay

rly tho gender awakenings r neat. It's like "oh shit that's me"

same vibes as vibes

[dull raft]

real

the she/her>she/they>they/them>he/they>he/him pipeline is real /silly

[winter comet]

my bf said its bc zane is a robot

[ripe burrow]

i cried so hard when zane exploded bro

watching lego ninjago whilst i was at my grannies house in like 2017 or smth at 9pm before bed and watching my fav character basically die was not for the weak

[golden plover]

Zane is actually a very interestingly written character.

I am looking at this through rose-tinted glasses from when I was a kid tho.

[golden plover]

I never got that far

[ripe burrow]

https://youtu.be/ZJ3Kovg4mDg?si=uVkGNMnKC0NpNYmw

[ripe burrow]

jesus cheist guys i just got jumpscared by my media teacher asking if i have a preferred name CUZ APPARENTLY THERES SOMETHING IN THE GRAPEVINE IN THE TEACHER LOUNGE IN MY COLLEHE AB ME AND MY NAME

OUGHHEHFUHWS

[odd vessel]

oh my god i genuinely weeped when he sacrificed himself

im happy im not the only one

[ripe burrow]

REAL ASS SHIT

[grand hearth]

I’m in this weird in-between where I used the women’s restrooms exclusively when I started school here but has since been visibly more masculine so I want to use the men’s room more but it feels awkward suddenly showing up in the men’s room now

[dull raft]

real asf

[ripe burrow]

thats actuallt so real

i still go into the womans bathroom with my friends cuz im a little gay boy with many gurlfruends

and its a little awkward vut its ok

[grand hearth]

ya all the women classmates know who I am already so I feel safer ig?

even though I have a visible goatee and muttonchops now lmfao

[sudden zephyr]

That shouldn't matter really unless it's like a newer student

and if they're n ass too

But I don't think it's anything too weird maybe I'll get to this dilemma where I have to choose between the two

Wish they had like a bathroom for like specifically trans people still like it's not necessary but I feel like it'll remove that weird in between

But it could also lead to a bunch of stuff

[grand hearth]

Idk what you mean

[sudden zephyr]

Yeah I wouldn't know what I meant either I was high and rambling

Mb

[grand hearth]

lol

[sudden zephyr]

To put it short I just think there should be transgender bathrooms but I also think there could be a lot of issues with it at the same time ,x3

[hallow bronze]

Piss bathroom and poop bathroom is what we should advocate for as a society

[grand hearth]

The gender affirming clinic here separates restrooms by “urinal” and “no urinal”

[bronze ocean]

no urinals closed cubicles shared sink space

its so easy

[sudden zephyr]

So ppl just pissing on the floor!?

what they gonna do without a toilet or a urinal

[grand hearth]

What

Options:

1. Bathroom that includes a urinal
2. Bathroom that does not include urinals

The basis of a bathroom being one that has toilets in stalls

[winter comet]

no urinal ≠ no toilet

people piss in the toilet

[sudden zephyr]

Oh yeah I know I'm just being stupid

[golden plover]

Correction: *on

The "mens" room might be the most disgusting thing to exist.

.

The toilet ring is covered in piss 90% of the time

Fuck gendered restrooms, just let me use a clean toilet.

[winter comet]

the "women's" room is genuinely not much better

public restrooms are just grody

[dull raft]

can confirm. theres like gum and snot everywhere in my schools bathrooms

high school btw.

[paper totem]

i habitually avoid any bathrooms these days i will go out of my way not to deal w it tbh

[winter comet]

ive seen misplaced period products, misplaced period blood, mysterious floor puddles etc
also women's restrooms tend to get more foot traffic by children of all kinds accompanying their parents so like
it is grody

[paper totem]

probably not a viable long term strategy but i just get scared

[winter comet]

i went to the women's bathrooms in disneyland when i went and complained about it being a warzone and someone who solely uses the men's bathrooms said "the bathrooms are fine?" and i hit them with "the moms in charge of their toddlers tho"

[tropic tundra]

man i let two guys go in before me and they pissed all over the seat and floor like how does that even happen

there's a singular bathroom in the office i had to use like be fr 😭

[golden plover]

If you can't aim please just sit, at least lift up the seats before at least

[tropic tundra]

this😭 😭

[ripe burrow]

LETS GO GUYS MY FRIEND ASKED WHAT I WANTED FOR MY BDAY CUZ SHE DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO GET ME AND I SENT HER A BINDER FROM WONABABI AND SHE WAS LIKE “okey@

YAYYEYYSHAYWA

such a good day suayyaaggayayayayayayga

[dull raft]

HELL FUCKIJG YEAHHHH

[dull raft]

uurrmmm buttt thats SOOO emasculating!!!! /s

[ripe burrow]

:DDD

[grand hearth]

time to get phlebotomized

too much blood

[winter comet]

the bloodletting

[golden plover]

This is the discussion I imagine happening here:

(Painting of a medieval Doctor meeting)

[west anchor]

"This prog aint shit", 1 hour later: ZZZZZZZ😴

[ripe burrow]

theyre so discussing the 5 tumours and the need for them to be in balance

[ripe burrow]

choking myself out cuz we’re talking ab trans people in my english lit class and its just aughhh

[sudden zephyr]

How is it "aughhh"

[ripe burrow]

cuz my teacher was a bit arrogant

[grand hearth]

arrogant probably not young tho

[grand hearth]

humours!

although “tumor” is a descriptor for the Latin aspects of inflammation (swelling)

[ripe burrow]

oh yes that, i forgor thats what it was

[sudden zephyr]

did they hate everything you stand for though

[jagged quiver]

shaving bottom 5 trans experiences

its worth it but like i hate having to turn my brain off for like a fuckng hour and a half

and it feels way longer every time

i always feel like im in there for double how long i actually am

fak

at least im smooth now

[odd vessel]

if it's in your budget nair or veet are way quicker in my experience

[odd vessel]

but real as hell

[sudden zephyr]

Shaving is like that unskippable animation you have to painstakingly sit through

[grand hearth]

The world if transmascs could absorb sources of dysphoria from transfems and vice versa:

Transfer all your hair growth to me. I will bear the burden. Body hair Jesus.

[dull raft]

give me your facial hair NOW ⛈️⛈️⛈️

[grand hearth]

Modern medicine should let me transfer my chest tissue to my partner

Ok. Planning on matching to a plastic surgery residency so I can pioneer the boob equivalent exchange surgery

[sterile verge]

bees

[west anchor]

why cant tgirls and tboys just swap parts like bioncle

[grand hearth]

That’s what I’m sayinnnnnnn

[dull raft]

actually genital transplants are a thing now, i think!!! but a LOT of things have to go right and ud have to take immunosuppressants for the rest of ur life

[grand hearth]

Goodness that sounds like it’s still kind of an experimental procedure then

And mainly for amab individuals who lost their penits

[magic verge]

yeah i believe it's only been explored for cis people, i know that a cis woman who got a uterine transplant was recently able to give birth

genital transplants in general are quite rare

[grand hearth]

yup….usually with ftm procedures it’s metoidioplasty or phalloplasty

Don’t look those up in images if you are squeamish please

[dull raft]

oh ffs WAAAAAAA

how about we hust make like.

cyborg peanits

[magic verge]

https://transthetics.com/bionic-penis-prosthetic/ i know this company (that's owned by a trans man who can't get phalloplasty) has been working on this for years now but no recent updates

[winter comet]

tangentially related but smth i noticed is that transmasc bottom surgery is sometimes kinda poorly understood and even stigmatized within our own community

[magic verge]

yeah i would argue all bottom surgery is poorly understood but it's pretty bad in transmasc circles

it really rubs me the wrong way when people argue that ftm bottom surgery (phalloplasty especially) gives you a dick that "doesn't work"

[winter comet]

yeah i can't speak too much on transfem bottom surgery because my only experiences hearing about it were from mostly well educated transfems but i can imagine

to be charitable a lot of the mystique is due to how relatively inaccessible bottom surgery can be at least in the us + not everyone wants it but yeah the sentiment that tmasc bottom surgery is "less than" or "faulty" is really bogus

[magic verge]

i think it also comes down to people basing their assumptions off of the first stage(s) of getting bottom surgery, especially with phallo necessitating multiple steps to get a result that resembles a natal penis

[winter comet]

i think the internalized transphobia and patriarchal masculinity a lot of us tmascs fall victim to is also a big factor

phallo is honestly a medical miracle as is

[magic verge]

bottom surgery is really awesome

i also partially blame the fact that people are really stuck on the divide of binary sex and don't realize that there are direct analogues to the opposite sex when talking about genitalia

which ties in to the patriarchal attitude that you were talking about

[winter comet]

one of my friends recently got vaginoplasty and he has a pic of himself in the hospital bed with a dog cone on and i think that's wonderful

[magic verge]

medically necessary puppy time

[winter comet]

ive known of some people getting bottom surgery to where their genitals do not resemble natal vaginas or penises because they honestly do not care to resemble a cis person and it's what works for them and i bet this just grinds some people's gears

[magic verge]

oh it absolutely does

i was browsing the salmacian and phalloplasty subreddits the other day and TERFs like to gather their bottom surgery result pics to spread the whole "trans surgery is mutilation" thing

[winter comet]

to be a proper respectable trans man you must be straight and have a normal peanits and wear flannels forever more

[magic verge]

failed all three of these tasks

do i die now

[winter comet]

[misgenders you truscum style while having the trans flag in my display name] /j

[magic verge]

STOP

[winter comet]

transmascs who call each other girlie as a way to invalidate the ones they dont agree with is so fucking funny

it's so juvenile

[magic verge]

i think often about those caricatures that truscum tmascs post of like. feminine trans men with "no dysphoria" that "don't put any effort into passing"

THIS is a normal trans man and THIS is a TRENDER!!!!

[winter comet]

you're just jealous they're chillin my man

god i havent heard the word trender unironically used in so long that i forgot people still use it

[magic verge]

doing a money spread on them except with my t gel packets instead of bills

[winter comet]

its funny bc a lot of transmascs i know that do dress feminine do so bc they hate masc clothes and how boring it is and i also hate how boring masc clothing is but i also just never liked dressing feminine because it's too many bits and bobs to keep track of and the fabric choices usually suck

im pretty utilitarian w clothes but eventually i wanna get my shit back together and dress how i used to which was still all black utilitarian but also as if i were some sort of covert magic practitioner

after moving i have given up

[magic verge]

i like getting clothes and i don't like having to organize my closet. this is a bad combination

i bounce between liking to wear fem stuff and masc stuff. i mostly wear j-fashion when i'm going out (jirai kei and lolita) but sometimes i can't be bothered to do all the steps of getting ready and i realized all of my more masc stuff is from the stage in my transition where i was just dysphoric and didn't really give a fuck about what i wore

[winter comet]

i think patriarchal masculinity is so limiting and undecorative that what we prescribe as like ultrafeminine to trans men and conversely try to box trans women into or out of is like. they're mad a trans guy likes to decorate their body w jewelry and makeup because they have this idea men are supposed to be undecorative "since they're intellectual and above that and use their bodies as tools" and women are supposed to "be frivolous" and "adorn their bodies for consumption" so it's like congratulations on an ideological level you are basically a sexist cis person with extra steps

idk if i articulated this right but

[magic verge]

no i get what you're saying

[winter comet]

essentially god forbid a man wants a shimmery eyelid and a woman wants to not

[magic verge]

women have to put as much effort into their appearance as possible with femininity having incredibly high standards for what is "adequately" feminine and men shouldn't care about their appearance because that's gay or something

or if you are a man that cares about your own appearance you have to be fucking. looksmaxxing

[winter comet]

it's just minerals on the face and fabric on the body at the end of the day
not that clothing and makeup never has greater significance and shouldnt i just think more people need to zoom out sometimes in regard to gender

[magic verge]

no! essentialism forever!!!!

(JOKE)

[winter comet]

the essentiality of essentialism is essential

the essences

[magic verge]

Essence of Man (it's a pile of dirt)

[winter comet]

essence of man (a miserable pile of secrets)

[jagged quiver]

transfem bottom surgery has a lot of misinfo around it

the amount of people who just jump to conclusions upon hearing how the surgery is done is just insane

[ripe burrow]

i want that epik scar on my arm and if anyone were to ssk what happened then i’d just be like “my wiener took it” 😁😁😁

[dull raft]

LMAOO

[tropic zenith]

just got sick with probably covid AND im having a dysphoria day💔💔💔💔

[ripe burrow]

STAY STRONG YOU WILL GET THRU THIS!!’

[jagged quiver]

back at home for summer which means having to deal w my unsupportive ass family 🙃

i just have to lock in for 3 months

i need to have a talk w them at some point bc i DO wanna start HRT by the end of my sophomore year

or at least get the ball rolling

and weve been kind of in this situation where neither of us bring it up to avoid argument

but like obv if i start hrt its a much bigger issue bc my presence as a human being becomes bringing it up

agh

[jagged quiver]

also sorry i completely j flooded this message i believe in u girl

[tropic zenith]

ty!!!! and you too❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

[sudden zephyr]

Don't know if it's a dysphoria thing but I feel so randomly off and like my friend told me somthing and THEN it hit me or I'm just overthinking it all 😭

[glossy dagger]

https://tenor.com/view/cat-cat-jumpscare-cat-meme-kitty-cat-kitty-gif-7611828839152255495

[tropic zenith]

@ripe burrow @jagged quiver YALL TY 4 THE BEST WISHES IM FEELING BETTER AND HAVING A EUPHORIA DAY!!!!❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️‼️‼️

[jagged quiver]

shmoated....

[ripe burrow]

LETS GOOOOO

[jagged quiver]

(goated smosh edition)

[ripe burrow]

woah…

[grand hearth]

Helped give my partner better tips for self injected HRT I’m glad I could help because it was not well shown to her 😭

More scary than it needed to be lol

[winter comet]

not showing patients proper injection method for something you have to routinely administer is wild
at least give some print outs

[clear zodiac]

i'm considering going to the trans health and wellness center so i can get a letter of recommendation to give to my primary care doctor

[grand hearth]

Do it 🫡

[jagged quiver]

how is the hair back already bro wtf u were supposed to be gone forever

[magic verge]

i found a laser hair removal device that's good for commercial and at-home usage and i am so tempted to get it for my partner as some sort of exorbitant gift

[golden plover]

Tips I got from a speech therapist for speaking more femenine:

• Keep the tounge closer to the front(the front bottom teeth), it makes the "chamber" smaller.
• Open mouth a bit less as you speak.

(There's more ofc, but I haven't learnt that yet)

[scenic falcon]

Is there any tips for a masculine type of speech?

[golden plover]

The opposite will give you a deeper voice I think I remember them saying.

So:

• Tounge further back, when speaking larger "chamber".
• larger gap when talking.

[grand hearth]

chest voice

[bronze ocean]

step 1: mew

[winter comet]

i always spoke from my chest unless im talking to customers so i come off as more masc anyway even if my pitch isn't low
but when i really masc it up i do tend to speak like theres more space in the back of my mouth and add a bit of vocal fry

i also don't linger on words

so the fry is just there to rough up my voice a little

[clear zodiac]

it sucks that i can't get my name changed bc then i won't be able to apply for a new passport

[next harbor]

Felt. I've seen success with friends' advice of reframing it as a "government name" cuz it seems to make it more obvious for some ppl that this shit is all made up

[paper totem]

i got my stuff changed right before the new admin entered office and in hindsight i wish i hadnt went about it the way i did because its going to make my life a bureaucratic nightmare + i don't even like that name anymore

my word of advice: whoever you're going to concede to and tolerate a transition related half measure for? not worth it

it doesnt matter who it is it's never worth it

[magic verge]

i'm bummed out that i'll have to wait an even longer amount of time to have my documents legally changed but at the very least i'm not one of the folks that's having to deal with their documents being shredded

[dull raft]

wait shredded?? actual supervillain behavior

[grand hearth]

yeah before I changed my name I would call it my “legal name” and people generally got the point

[ripe burrow]

how does one deal with imposter syndrome cuz i’ve been feeling real down low and its genuinely eating at me

[dull raft]

what helped me deal w that was to imagine myself living as a woman, being called "miss (surname)" and such

and the discomfort i felt reminded me im not faking it

maybe that could help u too

and remember that femininity ≠ womanhood! you can be feminine and still be just as much of a boy/man as your father

[ripe burrow]

ohh thank tou basil

[dull raft]

no problem :)

[west anchor]

My left nipple getting bigger than other

[sudden zephyr]

pretty sure that's normal

Well actually nvm not sure for trans people i remember my friend had very uneven breasts

[west anchor]

They were already large

I think my boobs coming in

Like

More out

[ripe burrow]

oh yea thats normal, girl boobies are uneven like 90% of the time

[frosty ice]

can confirm, especially during periods of growth those things are asymmetrical

[jagged quiver]

as opposed to mman bobies whihc are SYMMETRICAL and PERFECT and made of HARD ROCKS AND METALS AND LUMMBER

[ripe burrow]

exactly #trust

[misty harness]

girls, the cissies are coming for another one: my brother has informed me that his drag race obsessed gf has started calling all trans women 'dolls'. is this an ok usage to you?

[sudden zephyr]

i don't care what I get called as long if it doesn't mean anything harmful to a person

but I think it's an okay usage imo but if someone does take offense to it than just apologize

And call them whatever they want to be

[paper totem]

slightly weird isnt it

imo

[bronze ocean]

it is a bit over familiar