#shortestservingprimeministerinhistory
#transdome
digital geyser
digital geyser
i think there was another transphobic law they were trying to pass here but i cant remember what it ws
opaque frost
I’m a Illinois riverside resident and my doctor in STL literally got investigated by the cops thanks to that cunt
digital geyser
god wtf
sturdy trail
i keep confusing stl with seattle
sturdy trail
st louis
sturdy trail
moral panic time
opaque frost
Yeah 
digital geyser
im gonna get myself on the nhs gender care waitlist as soon as im out of the house and on a new gp…so i expect to be on T in 2100
opaque frost
Mutual combat laws are undefined in MO and IL
bronze ocean
binger
sturdy trail
im gonna get myself on the nhs gender care waitlist as soon as im out of the hou...
diy 😼
bronze ocean
real
opaque frost
I’ve been in t since October 26th 2022
digital geyser
niceee
opaque frost
I wanna give my endo a hug because she bulk ordered me t due to the situation in Missouri
digital geyser
omg
opaque frost
She pushed 3 extra vials through for me
digital geyser
what is the situation in missouri rn
opaque frost
god bless her
I’m too tired to type the whole thing but basically adult hrt patients may have to receive 15 hours of therapy
Idk if they have to already on or off
opaque frost
And then there is also weird language around being mentally ill and on hrt
Oh and then they straight up said they will screen all new patients for autism and if you have it you get denied hrt
digital geyser
oh jesus
digital geyser
thats so invaisve
digital geyser
Since I’m p sure I’m on the spectrum
me too
opaque frost
People who say that self diagnosis isn’t valid for autism, when shit like this is happening
digital geyser
im not planning on getting an official diagnosis anytime soon mainly to a) not impact my job prospects and b) so i can emigrate if i need to
digital geyser
People who say that self diagnosis isn’t valid for autism, when shit like this i...
literally
opaque frost
What else do you want me to fucking do, I’m not saying I’m diagnosed, but I let strangers know I may be on the spectrum in case any awkward social interactions occur
digital geyser
self diagnosis saved me so much it explained my whole life and has helped me control myself better
digital geyser
What else do you want me to fucking do, I’m not saying I’m diagnosed, but I let ...
yeah im usually like “oh btw im not formally diagnosed” if i reference or joke about being autistic
opaque frost
Real
digital geyser
like im not trying to pretend to be autistic, i think i have it and dont want to jeopardise my future, especially when the likelihood of me emigrating if my country gets worse with trans rights (and other issues) is fairly high
sturdy trail
“do not ask who i am and do not ask me to remain the same: leave it to our bureaucrats and our police to see that our papers are in order” - foucault
opaque frost
Dude people act like I’m saying I’ve been diagnosed since early age when I say I’m most likely autistic online 
digital geyser
god
opaque frost
Me when I stim by clapping so hard it hurts my hands or by jumping up and down
But then I’m like
“Dude stop faking autism”
I STIMMED ALONE BEFORE TAKING MY NIGHTLY BONG HIT WHAT DO YOU MEAN BRAIN
digital geyser
NO FR ONE TIMEI. GOT SOME DVDS RELATED TO MY HYPERFIXAITON AT THE TIME AND WAS LITERALLY LIKE FLAPPING MY HANDS ETC SO MUCH AND THEN HAD A MOMENT OF “WHAT IF UR FAKING” gjskg
i recently realised what my meltdowns are and implemented ways to calm myself down before one started and its saved me so much pain
like now i just go and pet my cat and it helps so much
opaque frost
I def get overstimulated from work and I am always so cranky when I get home until I take a pipe hit or just do things I like
I’m a medical marijuana patient lemme clarify too lol
digital geyser
i get overstimulated whenever i get yelled at so as soon as im able to retreat i just go and pet the cat now
im gonna miss her at uni
digital geyser
I STIMMED ALONE BEFORE TAKING MY NIGHTLY BONG HIT WHAT DO YOU MEAN BRAIN
its like ive started stimming by randomly just ringing my wrist and my brain is like “ur faking” in fromt of who im literally alone in my room
anwyay god i hate the whole narrTive of if ur autistic ur not trans
like there are literally studies on how autistic ppl dont perceive gender like allistics
and it makes total sense autistic ppl are likely to be trans…bc gender is a social construct and yk
opaque frost
Real
digital geyser
autistic ppl dont tend to understand those
like evne if i were amab i’d almost certainly still be nonbinary
digital geyser
yeah defo
i always wonder if i were amab would my gender identity fluctuate between fem and neutral rather than masc and neutral. idk cuz i defo experienced some level of dysphoria as a child (nothing major but there were signs) but like ive never rlly cared much about gender
misty harness
anwyay god i hate the whole narrTive of if ur autistic ur not trans
im not in many trans communities but i typically see people saying the opposite because like you said there's a real correlation between autism and being gender non-conforming
digital geyser
i was homeschooled for aboit 10 years so i wasnt rlly forced to be a girl much, so sometimes id be all about pink and dresses and often i was also a major tomboy
digital geyser
im not in many trans communities but i typically see people saying the opposite ...
yeah i see so many gnc trans and nonbinary autistic ppl
its so common ppl think that autistic ppl just cant think for ourselves
sturdy trail
assigned sex at birth doesn’t play a part in how i engage with gender really it’s just as fake as gender is
digital geyser
pol
digital geyser
assigned sex at birth doesn’t play a part in how i engage with gender really it’...
yeah me too
like i present as masculine sometimes but yk these days i foxus less on passing andm ore on looking cool regardless of gender
sturdy trail
that’s why i don’t do those “if i was afab/amab……..” thought experiments cuz i was assigned f slur
digital geyser
gjdkg
althiugh i still cant bring myself to grow my hair out
like my brain is like “grow ur hair out you’ll like it” and then im like but then i cant pass as man when i wear dresses most days
misty harness
its so common ppl think that autistic ppl just cant think for ourselves
im not autistic but all of the autistic people i've known tend to dislike a lot of social norms outside of gender too.... funny how a type of person who is defined partially by a rejection of social norms would also reject gender norms
digital geyser
literally
misty harness
🤯
digital geyser
like gender is bs
misty harness
its all made up
digital geyser
i just wanna wear big skirt and get called a man
dream would be to be like on t big moustache long hair like i had as a kid and a fashion sense dictated by no gender at all
be like the metal gear solid alarm sound just playing as someone tries to perceive me
sturdy trail
crop top with treasure trail
digital geyser
imagine like im an old man
with long ass god looking beard
and i dress in short skirts that barely cover my ass or smth jgkdg what a look
iconic thats how gender should ne
bronze ocean
crop top with treasure trail
me this summer
digital geyser
do what u want fuck the rules they were made by stupid people
sturdy trail
me this summer
twimsies
digital geyser
wish that were me
bronze ocean
hell yea!!
digital geyser
i probably wont even go out this summer much since i’ll be done with school before the hot weeks in july-august
bronze ocean
i used to habitually shave my t-tail off before realizing that it actually makes me stupid hot
sturdy trail
so true
digital geyser
anyway trans rights
digital geyser
oj so true actually
spice sphinx
I need no rights afforded to me by a state :p
bronze ocean
i need 10 bad bitches and they all need to be emo
spice sphinx
liberation ftw
sturdy trail
I need no rights afforded to me by a state :p
realrealreal
sturdy trail
inland schooner
no this happened to me so bad with a trans masc group i used to hang out with
i used to have a friend group like this.. they accused me of alot of horrible shit that just wasnt true near to the end of hanging out with them. i feel like it was partially because i began to medically transition and full pass as cis but things that were fine before just suddenly werent for no reason
inland schooner
im not going to invalidate their er, 'thoughts' but it makes me really sad to see them accuse me of the things they did, NOT THAT THEY ACTUALLY ACCUSED ME, but i heard from a friend he was saying all this yada yada about me which i cant believe i made them feel like that but its also not my fault(in a way? ive stayed the same personality wise my entire transition). like perfectly normal shit that id do pre-T and suddenly im bad now that im on T like what
they genuinely made fun of me for being a gymbro/ going to gym
genuinely
liek thats something bad
what?
i feel like alot of transmasc culture on tiktok is to "never get better" and i mean that in a range of ways. i say particularly transmasc because i have no experience in transfem circles. you can never recover from your eating disorder. you can never recover from self harm. to try to improve yourself is selfish and you should stay miserable. especially to actually transition is even worse
opaque frost
mine constantly made sex jokes and sexual jokes about others in the group
and whenever i joined in
yknow
all highschoolers at the time
apparently i was being perverted and creepy
inland schooner
i was shamed for having a private twitter account where i liked nsfw stuff and also reading fanfics
opaque frost
same
inland schooner
like huuuuh
u gotta be joking
id understand if it was rt maybe(not really) but its a private account
u ARENT ALLOWED IN. unless you are INVITED
i was also bullied for being british
genuinely made fun of like not just jokes
im not british, im australian (same shit basically but my dad is from england). both of them were also white (russian, and croatian) and they also shamed me for being white(? they were white too er, just different ethnicity)
opaque frost
when i discussed my sicilian heritage and how technically my ancestors from there would be considered poc nowadays
they jumped to the conclusion that i was saying i am a poc
im a white mutt, point blank
inland schooner
awesome! /s
opaque frost
but they have such a black and white view of race and ethnicity that they couldn't understand I was just talking about my ancestors, not me
i dont face racism
i am a whitewashed sicilian mainly other european mutt
inland schooner
my grandpa had a jewish mother (cant continue your jewish hertiage as a man) and im not saying im jewish now am i . shut ur damn mouth (nto as u)
i cant believe they genuinely believe being croatian and russian means they are exempt from being white
opaque frost
basically they put words in my mouth like always lmao
inland schooner
ah yes, Croatia, the historically non-white country
opaque frost
ah yes, Sicily, definitely not the place where Italy sent their "undesirables" that ended up mixing with the Mediterranean folks and other non-white (by todays standards) travelers that passed through their ports
inland schooner
also trying to claim racism because they are russian (because russia considered asia or something)
i tried to explain all the things they said about me to my parents and they were like, "what?"
omfg, go outside and please get off tiktok. this is why ive stayed off that terrible app
opaque frost
yeah same lmao
sturdy trail
i used to have a friend group like this.. they accused me of alot of horrible sh...
i have a theory that they see any masculinity as a scary threat because bioessentialism and that kind of friend group is a clique where you are exiled if you do not adhere to normal female gender norms (mainly behavioral norms)
opaque frost
sorry i keep going "same" but it's fr how i feel
sturdy trail
omfg, go outside and please get off tiktok. this is why ive stayed off that terr...
same wavelengfhfg
inland schooner
i have a theory that they see any masculinity as a scary threat because bioessen...
the thing is they were all transmasc / transmen
sturdy trail
even worse
inland schooner
i was the only accepted, transitioning one in the group (as in their parents didnt accept them or they werent out)
inland schooner
sorry i keep going "same" but it's fr how i feel
nah its chill
sturdy trail
it probably has to do with insecurity too
inland schooner
oh yeah ik for sure (which is what i mentioned at the end) but it genuinely fucked me up for alongg time
i say that it was only last year but i still get anxious when hanging around people becuz what if i make them uncomfortable
i asked them (the friend group) to ever tell me if i made them uncomfortable and they culd tell me anything i understand and will back off but nope
start bullying the guy for being british and about how oil has taste(???) being cunts for no reason til he 'gets the hint'
sturdy trail
it really does more damage to the psyche than people think
opaque frost
social isolation has really fucked with people
we are seeing the consequences now full force sadly
inland schooner
they actually said to eachother (friend from group to another person who knew me) "he(me) should be locked up in a cage!" who genuinely says that what the fuck is wrong with me
inland schooner
i have a theory that they see any masculinity as a scary threat because bioessen...
also could u explain bioessentialism to me (I dont know what that means)
also all his other friends were an echochamber like they barely knew me and went "oh yeahh so true yep yep he was definitely like that" watttt
also he called me friend a whore and after she told him not to because she said something about him having DID (he doesnt have did, and i dont say this becuz hes self diagnosed, he admitted that it was a "schizo moment" (schizophrenic incuded psychosis of DID or something)
he said hes "atleast more than a quarter asian" ur still white dude. no hate to white passing peeps, he was jsut white lol
sturdy trail
also could u explain bioessentialism to me (I dont know what that means)
like in this case masculinity and males as a collective would be scary sexual dangerous predatory threatening etc like the idea that genders/sexes have inherent qualities or traits to them and are essentially different
inland schooner
sorry kinda ranting abotu this at this point but i hate this guy
sturdy trail
the ranting is warranted
inland schooner
like in this case masculinity and males as a collective would be scary sexual da...
gen why r people like this
i feell ike a lot of """"tiktok transmasc"""""" (in quotes promise i say this about the chronically online mfs) r very unaccepting of actually passing trans men. i see alot people go woahh i wanna be that gender etc whatever but when a trans man acts like a stereotypical man instead of idk, not a man(?)🤨 ur going to the void now
somewhat controversial take ig idk i try my best to stay out of trans spaces
sturdy trail
sometimes i feel like a lot of transmascs don’t conceive themselves as men because they have self hatred cuz of “men are evil” stuff
anything further is a betrayal to womanhood and feminism or something
that’s how i felt when i was repressed in middle school
and then i stopped caring about social expectations
sturdy trail
somewhat controversial take ig idk i try my best to stay out of trans spaces
i also feel this a lot i tend to gravitate towards the people who are excluded and kicked out of these spaces
inland schooner
i also feel this a lot i tend to gravitate towards the people who are excluded a...
nothing against people in those spaces, but i feel kicked out lol from my old friends
sturdy trail
yeas
inland schooner
sometimes i feel like a lot of transmascs don’t conceive themselves as men becau...
yeah fs. my friends were binary trans men but still somehow said shit like that. are you drowning in self hatred? what is wrong with you?
"its fine cuz trans men arent really men" what?
i feel even alot of transmasc (not trans men) still perceive trans men as men-lite
i went on an outing with a nb person w my other friend whos transmasc and i didnt tell them i was trans and was treated horribly lol but i bet that would of changed if i said i was trans
sturdy trail
i feel even alot of transmasc (not trans men) still perceive trans men as men-li...
ya exactly
stable cradle
i had friends who would actually ask me abt my chest fully knowing im transmasc like asking if i ||“had big boobs”|| and other trans ppl in the group wouldn’t say anything :/ I left that group thankfully bc they were also kinda assholes in a way that didn’t relate 2 being trans but that shit always rubbed me the wrong way
austere jay
i used to have a friend group like this.. they accused me of alot of horrible sh...
trans masc jealousy is something else
i don’t have any transmasc friends irl anymore cuz they’ve all been awful in various ways
also live in a small town so that’s part of it, but it’s just really sad to me
stable cradle
the nicest trans ppl i’ve met have been at concerts🫡my fav place to make buddies
that and online ofc
austere jay
i feel like alot of transmasc culture on tiktok is to "never get better" and i m...
too fucking real actually god damn
i forget other people go through this
it’s very sobering and lonely but i’m lucky to have found such a lovely little group of online trans friends
sturdy trail
🙏
stable cradle
y’all r so cool btw it’s been said before and i’ll say it again
inland schooner
im very glad my current close friends are not the chronically online type trans dudes but chill
inland schooner
too fucking real actually god damn
its very very sad i reckon
inland schooner
it’s very sobering and lonely but i’m lucky to have found such a lovely little g...
its sad that other people go thru this but im glad im not the only one (atleast here)
austere jay
most of my male friends are cis, hopefully some cool trans dudes will find their way into my life but currently i’m just rolling with the car guy/gym bro crew
i also feel you on people treating you different post t
stable cradle
honestly I only have like 3 irls rn and 2 of them r ppl I met at concerts who live hours away
tardy creekBOT
@stable cradle has leveled up! (4 ➜ 5)
inland schooner
most of my male friends are cis, hopefully some cool trans dudes will find their...
gym bros r hit or miss tbh either nicest people or not. car guys r usual cool my sisters bf is one and hes chill (atleast i think, gave me odd questions but i explained a bit he was fine)
austere jay
i don’t feel any different as a person but i’ve been told i’ve become “mean and angry” when in reality i’ve secured enough confidence to actually speak up for myself and set boundaries
people don’t like seeing you confident when you’re more worth to them as an insecure and compliant person unfortunately
inland schooner
most of my male friends are cis, hopefully some cool trans dudes will find their...
im stealth so most my friends r cis men but my women friends r all queer and i have told them im trans becuz they could tell when i was pre-t (💀)
inland schooner
i don’t feel any different as a person but i’ve been told i’ve become “mean and ...
i relate to this. no im not mean im just confident in mself to call you a cunt
austere jay
gym bros r hit or miss tbh either nicest people or not. car guys r usual cool my...
there’s a sweet little intersection between the two just filled with the most wonderful and admirable men i feel surrounded by men of character and im very thankful for that
stable cradle
people don’t like seeing you confident when you’re more worth to them as an inse...
literally!!!! my old irl group started really treating me like shit when I was getting help and becoming happier overall
inland schooner
people don’t like seeing you confident when you’re more worth to them as an inse...
oh shit yeah that makes alot of sense
my trans friends r a bit silly but i order meals for them so they cant be mad (joke)
austere jay
i relate to this. no im not mean im just confident in mself to call you a cunt
i used to be like highly highly insecure cuz i was dealing with a criminal amount of dysphoria, but now i feel like i’m able to walk around with like cis man typical self confidence it’s probably my favorite outcome of my medical transition so far
stable cradle
also have y’all ever had the thing where ppl like refuse to be excited for u
austere jay
i’m still in the like “looks like he’s 16” era of my transition but because i carry myself with so much self respect i’ve been told people thought i was like 20 which is neat
inland schooner
i used to be like highly highly insecure cuz i was dealing with a criminal amoun...
i was so insecure and dysphoric that i didnt even wait a year to go on t i did it DIY and the friends i used to have used that as something 'against me' (to make fun of me)
austere jay
also have y’all ever had the thing where ppl like refuse to be excited for u
sort of
inland schooner
i’m still in the like “looks like he’s 16” era of my transition but because i ca...
im only 15 so i get away with being short and ugly LOL
austere jay
my favorite transition validation is my cis friends just going “hey dude that’s awesome” and then hopping back into conversation i cannot explain it but it’s so validating
inland schooner
also have y’all ever had the thing where ppl like refuse to be excited for u
they dont have to be excited for me just accept it and go fuck yeah
austere jay
im only 15 so i get away with being short and ugly LOL
unfortunately i am 19 so moving through society looking like a kid and getting called buddy and sport is so weird
inland schooner
i personally do not want being trans to be any sort of inhibitor, 'brownie point' or anything becuz im just a guy who happens to be trans lol. thats why i dont tell people cuz i dont want to be seen any different
stable cradle
it was only w that old group but like any good thing that happened to me that I shared w them I would just get shat on for?? like to the point where I didn’t tell this group w like 3 transmascs that I was starting the process of getting t bc I was worried buuut i’ve gotten over that feeling since
austere jay
i tell certain people but at the end of the day i am a man and trans is just a bullet point that falls underneath it, i don’t mind discussing it but it never feels needed for me
stable cradle
realizing self worth is one hell of a drug
inland schooner
unfortunately i am 19 so moving through society looking like a kid and getting c...
i get called buddy and champion at work its awesome cuz i only get called that by other guys so i mean! trans genrder for the win!
austere jay
it usually comes naturally when i decide to tell someone i’m trans
inland schooner
the literal only person in my life who has been rude to me abotu being trans is my mums boyfriend
austere jay
i get called buddy and champion at work its awesome cuz i only get called that b...
my favorite has to be “thanks boss” that shit is GAS
inland schooner
my favorite has to be “thanks boss” that shit is GAS
or "thanks brother" hell yeah!
stable cradle
the literal only person in my life who has been rude to me abotu being trans is ...
mgcord meetup 2 fight him
inland schooner
mgcord meetup 2 fight him
watch out the left will brainwash your children to make them trans so evil surgeons get money for surgery
unborn atlas
this is pretty progressive but these subtitles are terrible
austere jay
i’ve been pretty extremely targeted for being trans, but i’ve been out for so long i’ve realized it comes and goes, im cooling with myself and that’s all that matters
if that makes any sense
like one of the few perks of being bullied as a kid is that now i respect myself and have pretty thick skin
inland schooner
i’ve been pretty extremely targeted for being trans, but i’ve been out for so lo...
r u from america or in america?
stable cradle
watch out the left will brainwash your children to make them trans so evil surge...
enjoying your gender?? is there someone you forgot to ask??
austere jay
only input i care about is from my loved ones
inland schooner
i was bullied too for being weird but ay i didnt give a gfuck
austere jay
r u from america or in america?
west coast in america
inland schooner
enjoying your gender?? is there someone you forgot to ask??
how dare you try to kill yourself because of dysphoria, now gaslighting your mother into being supportive you should be ashamed
austere jay
should be liberal but when you get out of big cities it’s all republican
inland schooner
west coast in america
makes sense then. im from australia. the people here do not giev a flying fuckkk
stable cradle
common knowledge atp but still yuuuup
inland schooner
i went for bloods and gave my medicare card which has my deadname on it and she was like that must be annoying, ill open a new file for you (i have had my name changed legally)
austere jay
i live in a state that passed a trans safe haven bill so i’m cooking tho
inland schooner
thank goodness
austere jay
my hrt is covered by state insurance which is awesome
inland schooner
be an evil transgender and use state money to get your evil hormones to make children into boys transgeneders
austere jay
next in my journey is legal name and gender marker getting changed and scheduling a consult for top surgery
stable cradle
OH YA this reminds me I go into a gender clinic sometime in may I think
inland schooner
next in my journey is legal name and gender marker getting changed and schedulin...
oh hell yeah
sturdy trail
my favorite transition validation is my cis friends just going “hey dude that’s ...
this is the best can confirm
inland schooner
i cant change my gender marker yet becuz of state law requiring bottom surgery but i hear a bill is being passed hopefully sometime this/next year where they remove the requirement!
austere jay
like they recognize it’s important but don’t dwell
unborn atlas
what's going on in here?
austere jay
most of my pals just want to talk about cars which i’m okay with
inland schooner
OH YA this reminds me I go into a gender clinic sometime in may I think
so awesome sauce
talking about transes gender maybe
hmm idk maybe though'
stable cradle
trangengar
austere jay
what's going on in here?
transmasc commiserating
inland schooner
the only thing i thinkk i gotta get done now is change my gender legally and actually get legal hrt thru a clinic andd surgeries
i got top surgery booked for june which im fucking stoked about but i also have my psych appointment this month on the 19th for that
stable cradle
top surgery so awsome
inland schooner
im so glad i can get peri/keyhole
unborn atlas
transmasc commiserating
oh I don't apply but trans men are my brothers and my comrades
that's all I'll say for now
inland schooner
praying i dont need a revision cuz lil old me only earns 4k a year and blessed my parents have helped
ive been saving for it for 2 years since my first job since i know i had to pay for most of it myself 😞😞
all good though, work hard to get what u want but super excited
inland schooner
oh I don't apply but trans men are my brothers and my comrades
lots of love right back at u zenoby :D
austere jay
oh I don't apply but trans men are my brothers and my comrades
this is beautiful
idk about y’all but i’m getting big nasty scars for my top surgery i want them visible
if someone asks that i don’t want to tell i’ll say i had surgery for gyno
inland schooner
idk about y’all but i’m getting big nasty scars for my top surgery i want them v...
so awesome
unborn atlas
lots of love right back at u zenoby :D
🫡
unborn atlas
idk about y’all but i’m getting big nasty scars for my top surgery i want them v...
I saw a guy in Atlanta who had an open floral buttonup and chest tattoo and top scars on FULL display
I was very 👀 💦
stable cradle
top scars r so fuckin cool
unborn atlas
I saw some monster art once that conceptualized top scars as gills
inland schooner
thats so sick
stable cradle
that fucks
unborn atlas
cool drawing of a fishy merman with big cavernous holes in his chest and it did something to me
stable cradle
imagine monster guy with top scars that r mouths w sharp teeth scary guy
inland schooner
so awesome
i love big burly men with top surgery scars like those cod guys w them
unborn atlas
I like when people draw trans dudes with pecs and the top scars sort of framing them :O
inland schooner
thats how they r meant to be(most of the time)! lining the pecs usually :D
just depends on the surgeon ^__^
austere jay
my favorite bit of top surgery scar interpretation has to be including them in y incision autopsy scars
digital geyser
this is pretty progressive but these subtitles are terrible
yeah i think they just used autocaptions n didnt edit them
unborn atlas
lazy!!!!
digital geyser
fr whats the point of putting captions if ur not gonna check they are accurate
bronze ocean
i love trans men, mascs, dudes, fellas, guys, bros, blokes, lads so much theyre so important
nocturne hemlock
i adore this style
unborn atlas
it's very good
valid cloud
my favorite bit of top surgery scar interpretation has to be including them in y...
THIS IS SO REAL I most likely won’t have any major scarring because of my anatomy but I plan to get a chest/stomach tattoo of autopsy scars for this reason
unborn atlas
my favorite bit of top surgery scar interpretation has to be including them in y...
I got a character who has top surgery scars and a big, vertical scar up the middle so together they look like a big crucifix
austere jay
if it’s accessible to me i plan on getting autopsy scaring work done
like actual scarification
austere jay
i really hope i can get it come day but if not i have other chest modifications planned
huge mirrored tattoo layout
sturdy trail
this is so good
The intervening years have been marked by intensification — of crisis, alienation, loss, and struggle. The right wing no longer hides behind euphemisms: they want to exterminate trans and queer people. The left offers only false solutions: vote, donate, assimilate. A decade of representation, symbolic legal victories, social media activism, and mass-market saturation has left us worse off by all metrics. Our fairweather friends won’t save us from the consequences of their strategy of empty visibility. The inescapable conclusion is that we must come together to protect ourselves.
this part especially
past saffron
hello transdome im getting a consultation for testosterone next wednesday im so happy
chrome snow
WWWWWW
inland schooner
YIPPI GOODLUCK SLIME!!!
civic ibex
FUCK YEAH
frozen breach
hello transdome im getting a consultation for testosterone next wednesday im so ...
hell yeah!!!
oh that reminds me I was 7 months on T a couple days ago
balmy pond
LETS GO
unborn atlas
zinc oriole
The effects of a good chocolate...
opaque frost
weird question, any other masc folks used to have a cis male friend who treated them like one of the boys on the surface but then they betrayed/fucked you over in some weird way
or transfemmes, have you had this experience with cis female friends?
balmy pond
U mean in the context of/related to transitioning?
zinc oriole
^ like having ulterior motives you mean? like their respect for you as a guy went away once you started to transition?
I think I can relate. once i started presenting more masc I was suddenly not treated as masculine anymore and got weird pushback and insistence on my femininity despite the fact that when i wasn't even trying to be masculine (so i thought at the time) it was regularly pointed out how masculine i was for a girl
i spent a lot of time with my stepbrothers and doing kinda (societally) masc activities with them like gaming etc. once i started actually going through with socially transitioning (even without coming out) its like a switch turned on in their minds and I was suddenly acknowledged for my percieved girlhood. it was so weird
like suddenly im not that person with a deeper voice or acting like a guy or overly masc once I actually embrace it.
that is my experience at least with that. even though they werent my friends per se, i still felt like they were treating me as one of the boys.
frozen breach
weird question, any other masc folks used to have a cis male friend who treated ...
I dunno if this is better or worse in the end, but since starting my transition, most of the cis guys I’ve known have been very up front and honest about it if they didn’t actually see me as a guy or as “one of them”
like it sucks knowing people see me as a girl still but at least I haven’t really been lied to about that I guess
if anything I’ve had cis female friends who were initially very supportive of my transition but as I’ve started acting and appearing more masc they’ve started to either stop being supportive, distance themselves, or both
sturdy trail
ya i often feel safer with cis guys than cis women cuz of that
cis guys usually don't passive aggressively trick you in that way
bronze ocean
in my experience a lot of trans women are hyperaware of how conditional any niceness is
frozen breach
yeah I feel like that applies to trans folks in general to an extent
like I feel like I’m always having to wonder how dependent someone’s kindness is on them not knowing I’m trans since I’m still mostly closeted irl
digital geyser
it's raining men, hallelujah
sturdy trail
yeah I feel like that applies to trans folks in general to an extent
trans women often do face the brunt of it tho
frozen breach
trans women often do face the brunt of it tho
yeah definitely
spice sphinx
like I feel like I’m always having to wonder how dependent someone’s kindness is...
I experience this with like, some random cis guy might be really nice to me because he thinks I'm cute, and there's no telling how his mood might change if he knew I was trans
Just a reminder kids that the gay/trans panic defense is totally legal in 35 American states
Shittest country on earth
frozen breach
Just a reminder kids that the gay/trans panic defense is totally legal in 35 Ame...
clown world fr
upper sage
Made these (not real)
bronze ocean
holy shit hell yeah
upper sage
do you mind if i adapt this?
It’s cool
upper sage
me and a friend have a top surgery scar shirt
Friendship goals
bronze ocean
not for like selling them btw just for like bootleg merch
well
not merch
you know what i mean
personal use
upper sage
Ik
I’m gonna get a plain black tee and give to my friend and them to put the thing on it
i need it
I’ve never even been to a MG show, but damnit it looks cool
upper sage
do you mind if i adapt this?
Question
My friends do not have a way to make it a shirt for me
Can I send a shirt to you and you maybe make one for me?
bronze ocean
are u in the us
upper sage
Damnit
sturdy trail
why r there so many mgcord people in alabama
i've never met an alabama person before this server
bronze ocean
real
upper sage
It sucks
bronze ocean
alabama is the secret nexus of mgcord
upper sage
it really does
Madds I didn’t know you was in the transdome
upper sage
I GOT ONE OF MY FRIENDS TO MAKE THE SHIRT LETSS GOOOOO
austere jay
forever thankful for my very close relationships with cis men where they don’t see me as trans at all
just brotherhood
life saving stuff
sturdy trail
so real
frozen breach
forever thankful for my very close relationships with cis men where they don’t s...
^^^^ truly
balmy pond
I don't think cis women even like me
fr, half the time I feel like they're terrified of me
Shout out to the cis lady friends I do have, y'all are the realest ❤️
Tbh I wish I had a better relationship with my actual sister
balmy pond
Sometimes yeah :/
It's so weird cuz all my life I was always waaaaay more comfortable around women, it's one of the things that tipped me off to being one, but now that I'm visibly a woman but not cis passing I feel this intense pressure to like prove myself to them. Its exhausting
And that's not even getting into the dangerous end of things
digital geyser
until very recently, i couldnt even talk to cis men because i went to an all girls school. but now i do i definitely feel like i can get on with them, especially if they are on the nerdier side, pretty well
unborn atlas
nerd boys are fun
frozen breach
until very recently, i couldnt even talk to cis men because i went to an all gir...
I def agree but the problem rn is that all the nerdy boys I know have known me since I was five and still see me as a girl mostly
this is why I’m excited to be going away for school next year so I can meet cool cis dudes and also other trans ppl hopefully
final heart
i’m ngl i’ve given up trying to be friends with cis ppl
if they want to be friends with me then whatever but like i’m done with that bs
digital geyser
I def agree but the problem rn is that all the nerdy boys I know have known me s...
tbf i dont present as a guy irl so everyone sees me as a girl unless i come out but that sucks i think the ones i do know would be accepting, at least one of them since he's a cis gay man and an ally, but i'm not rlly close enough with any of them to come out anyway (and im going off to university after the summer anyway so no real point)
digital geyser
this is why I’m excited to be going away for school next year so I can meet cool...
yeah me too!! im rlly excited to be able to expand who im friends with n hopefully find some new awesome people. ive had both trans and cis friends up to this point where i live, but mostly i've known cis girls because all girls school i just had a few friends come out at different points as trans
it was kinda fun being the first in the friend group to realise i was trans and then everyone else came out after 
source of the transgenderism /j
frozen breach
it was kinda fun being the first in the friend group to realise i was trans and ...
the trans agenda strikes again
frozen breach
tbf i dont present as a guy irl so everyone sees me as a girl unless i come out ...
yeah I haven’t directly come out to that many people, but my name is changed in most places, I present extremely masc, my voice has dropped like a rock on T, etc. so I’m kinda surprised some people haven’t put the pieces together lmao
frozen breach
i’m ngl i’ve given up trying to be friends with cis ppl
honestly yeah me too
platonic t4t
digital geyser
the trans agenda strikes again
transing the genders
its like i watched a friend go from "i'm 100% cis" to "hmm idk" to "maybe im not cis" to now being openly trans and i was there for each step of the journey
digital geyser
platonic t4t
i think partly bc most of the cis people ive been closest with have been queer cis women (ive had very few close friends who aren't lgbt and/or neurodivergent) ive not had that many bad experiences with cis ppl. but that might also be bc im very cautious coming out bc im not in a safe environment to be open. but there is something special in a trans trans friendship, just this deep understanding of the experiences. even in scenarios where im talking to someone trans i know who doesnt know (e.g. some of the people i work on the school magazine with) i still feel that sense there because we've both trans even if they dont know it (plus i do usually give hints in these situations like checking pronouns n names are correct n just being as much of an "ally" as i can)
obviously the trans community can be and is divided in places, but in general ive found it to be less divided than the lgbtq+ community as a whole
(queer infighting 
)
unborn atlas
wegh
digital geyser
yeah I haven’t directly come out to that many people, but my name is changed in ...
im not that far yet but me too sometimes jklfdjsdlk like i have short hair and present androgynously sometimes n so sometimes i just push out that little extra hint like "oh i use 'any' pronouns" or deliberately being as best an ally as i possibly can
digital geyser
like one time we were talking about gender in terms of language use and although that was a very binary discussion our teacher asked us to define the difference between gender and sex and i came out with this big long thing about how they are separate that, if u were trans, i think you'd pick up that i know a lot about the topic (granted the only trans person i know of in that class knows im trans)
balmy pond
Andro is such a vibe I love it ❤️
unborn atlas
my boyfriend said my voice was androgynous and ah 😊
I haven't shaved since I came back, I wanna see if my beard can still grow
balmy pond
Honestly wish I was cool with it. I've been finding that as I'm moving forward with my transition being referred to anything other than female just makes me upset
Like even if trans friends use they instead of she I get super disappointed
unborn atlas
in my case I feel that is inevitable because of my voice
austere jay
for me it’s like i’m not quite a man i’m like something different more complex but related enough to manhood that referring to me as one makes sense and is natural
i sound like i’m 15
balmy pond
Like I can do super femmey but I cant keep it up
austere jay
it’s a crime
i very very much dislike when people refer to me as they idk why
i don’t mind it pronouns but nobody uses those in person
balmy pond
for me it’s like i’m not quite a man i’m like something different more complex b...
See I always understood myself as having a similar relationship with womanhood but in practice it's looking more binary than I thought
tardy creekBOT
@balmy pond has leveled up! (14 ➜ 15)
balmy pond
Like not gender conforming just like... binary I dunno
Fuck man I just wanna be a girl whys that gotta be so hard
bronze ocean
im like if a guy was a girl but the girl was a guy 
austere jay
See I always understood myself as having a similar relationship with womanhood b...
kind of similar for me like i feel at times no different than a cis man but there’s still some elevation and change to how i experience manhood because i had to build myself out of basically nothing if that makes sense
so by nature i’m “more than a man”
i just refer to myself as a transsexual man now
balmy pond
Fuck yeah u are
austere jay
i try my best to avoid afab or ftm labels unless absolutely necessary for understanding
currently stealth in new job tho which is fun and awesome
balmy pond
"More than a man" that is, trans guys r peak masculine energy
austere jay
someone asked me if i was italian because of my name 😭 didn’t know how to tell her i picked it out myself
balmy pond
I would do that but I dont think I'm stealth at all
austere jay
"More than a man" that is, trans guys r peak masculine energy
if you think about it trans people of all kinds have to work for where they are and that makes them really special i think
balmy pond
Yeah I agree
proper igloo
im like if a guy was a girl but the girl was a guy <a:ues:945069161917329459>
so true
🤝
balmy pond
Tbh if it wasnt for all the external bs I'd prefer being trans as opposed to a cis woman
I mean shit maybe even with the bs
austere jay
Tbh if it wasnt for all the external bs I'd prefer being trans as opposed to a c...
same for me
bronze ocean
like if i was afab u know i'd be on the boy juice
austere jay
there’s something really special about transness
also nothing will ever hit like t4t does i love my silly little partner who is occasionally a girl
balmy pond
I saw a quote on the internet which was like "the reason god made trans people is the same reason they made grapes and not wine; so people could experience just a bit of creation". I'm not religious but like, damn I think they might be right lmao
balmy pond
also nothing will ever hit like t4t does i love my silly little partner who is o...
Same, I love my partner so much <3333
bronze ocean
good gender
zinc oriole
Guy to the world but smth underneath maybe a little
bronze ocean
slime man
unborn atlas
I saw a quote on the internet which was like "the reason god made trans people i...
made was made in god's image, and god creates so 🤷
frozen breach
Tbh if it wasnt for all the external bs I'd prefer being trans as opposed to a c...
real real real
zinc oriole
.....slime man gendar
bronze ocean
balmy pond
made was made in god's image, and god creates so 🤷
fr
spice sphinx
made was made in god's image, and god creates so 🤷
He mayd me in hees own imig :3
sturdy trail
yeah I haven’t directly come out to that many people, but my name is changed in ...
i like telling people i'm biologically male just because it's fun
sturdy trail
like one time we were talking about gender in terms of language use and although...
honestly i think we need to ditch this argument because biological sex is just as made up as gender is
same vibes as "born this way" stuff
bronze ocean
real!!
bronze ocean
i like telling people i'm biologically male just because it's fun
lying is the most fun a man can have without taking his clothes off
sturdy trail
exactly
bronze ocean
digital geyser
honestly i think we need to ditch this argument because biological sex is just a...
yeah true 100%
the whole topic in the syllabus is so binary already so at least doing that little bit of defining helped. it doesnt acknowledge the existence of nonbinary people at all and even the people arguing that gender doesn’t have an impact on language use have signed things since supporting free speech after terfs in academia got called out. fun stuff
anything to do iwth nonbinary language got shoved into an entirely separate topic called language and sexuality, which is where they put anything queer
the entire section is literally neopronouns and polari (a language developed by gay men in britain in the mid 20th century)….ah yes very similar topics
i dont understand why you couldn’t add the neopronouns bit to the stuff about language and gender
unborn atlas
polari's super interesting
digital geyser
fr
getting to do the history of neopronouns was cool too. we even got to watch a tom scott video which was a megaslay sdfjkll. even if the teacher came to a dodgy conclusion on their usage but hey ho she's had worse takes than that so
bronze ocean
whats polari o:
digital geyser
whats polari o:
so basically in the 19th and 20th centuries, up until around the 1960s with the passage of the Sexual Offences Act in 1967 decriminalising male homosexuality in the UK, this language developed for the reason just given. it was mainly used in urban areas, particularly in london, and also was used by other subcultures seen as on the outside at the time, but most notably by gay men. it kinda started to die out in the 60s not only bc of the decriminilisation but also because a character on this one popular radio show was using it so obviously more people began to know about it
some terms from polari have stuck in our modern vocabulary, e.g. the term naff is still used in british slang although with a very different meaning, but it's considered endangered nowadays
unborn atlas
I like that short film because the guy's reading Clockwork Orange, which is written in a similar sort of coded language
unborn atlas
there's a few documentaries on it on youtube
timid grail
insane roommates bf referred to my boyfriend as my ‘friend’ and was weird about me being trans i cant be to fully rid of them
im really not over him referring to my bf as my friend when its very obvious our relationship is not platonic lmao
chrome snow
I think I didn't get a chance to see it yesterday, but happy HRT anniversary to @balmy pond and @vapid dune!
Luv u both sm!
zinc oriole
OMG HAPPY LATE HRT BDAY TO U BOTH 🎂
opaque frost
happy HRT BDAY!!!!
gosh i gotta calculate from when i started mine
i was doing "hi this is me 1 month on T" for like 2 months but i did not keep up 😭
bronze ocean
HAPPY HRT BIRTHDAY AGGY AND CLAIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
stable cradle
HAPPY HRT BDAYS:3!!!
unborn atlas
vapid dune
Thank u people ur all so wonderful ❤️
vapid dune
OMG HAPPY LATE HRT BDAY TO U BOTH 🎂
It’s not late, it’s literally today Friday
balmy pond
Yea we were just up till 5 am celebrating last night lmao
God damn it I wanted to go to the aquarium but it's already 2:30 and I still need to shower
bronze ocean
im hanging out with my tguy bestie rn :D
misty harness
It’s not late, it’s literally today Friday
happy hrt day bitch
unborn atlas
I went to the aquarium!
vapid dune
happy hrt day bitch
Thx Sarah love u too
misty harness
since i got off vc before midnight
vapid dune
misty harness
zinc oriole
TELL TGUY BESTIE HIIII
bronze ocean
he says hiiiiii back
vapid dune
TELL TGUY BESTIE HIIII
Wayne I don’t have a tguy bestie can u be my tguy bestie???
zinc oriole
HIII
And sure! :]
vapid dune
YEAAAAAAA!!!!!!!
bronze ocean
tgirl and tguy besties are SO important
vapid dune
HIII
And sure! :]
It’s ok Wayne next MG tour I’m coming to mosh with you and we’re gonna shoot up estrogen and T in the pit
zinc oriole
WOOOOOOO >:] PARTY TIME
bronze ocean
i wanna mosh with yall soooo bad
vapid dune
Imagine opening a pit in between songs just to inject hormones into each other
Crowd better to feral
bronze ocean
rabid in the pit
vapid dune
rabbit in the pit (literally)
zinc oriole
i wanna mosh with yall soooo bad
I wanna mosh with you both too 😭
Somebody apparently said me and my friend moshing at a local show was 'annoying'
zinc oriole
We went so hard it was seen as annoying. By somebody who barely participated
bronze ocean
AND dweeb
zinc oriole
YEAH THEY JUST WALKED ACROSS THE PIT A FEW TIMES
DIDNT EVEN $&&" LOL
Levitates in mid air
bronze ocean
imagine caring that much about people moshing like what da hell
zinc oriole
Poser behavior
bronze ocean
erm respect the space guys 🤓
bronze ocean
not the crowd killing 😭
unborn atlas
Levitates in mid air
vapid dune
We went so hard it was seen as annoying. By somebody who barely participated
Then I’m gonna show up and make it even more annoying
zinc oriole
LEVITATING ZENOBY
zinc oriole
Then I’m gonna show up and make it even more annoying
:] fun squad
The stop having fun image was that person
zinc oriole
not the crowd killing 😭
IT WAS INSANE. he left after the first set thankfully
unborn atlas
LEVITATING ZENOBY
zinc oriole
Me going to the kitchen to eat bread
bronze ocean
hm mm bread
bronze ocean
IT WAS INSANE. he left after the first set thankfully
whaddahell
who was playing o:
zinc oriole
I do not remember 😭 none of them were stated except on a flyer that I didn't see lol
They just went on and played
And didn't say who they were. Either that or it was the hearing damage and I didn't hear
zinc oriole
ITS GREAT THE LOCAL SCENE HERE IS COOL
The downside is it's so local that they don't have formal online announcements or anything. U gotta hear through word of mouth
Which is cool tbh but also makes finding shows tricky
bronze ocean
ask a punk wayne hylics
bronze ocean
it's not "crowdkilling" it's "rock and stone"
unborn atlas
ROCK AND STOOOONE BRUVVAH
zinc oriole
Mortar and pestel more like
unborn atlas
bronze ocean
smoking on that Mixed Herb (G+R+B) pack
zinc oriole
what kind of herb would u be?
Cilantro maybe! Or curry powder
TUMERIC MAYBEEE
I'm just naming ones I like tbh. Maybe nutmeg
Wait
Yousaid herb I'm saying seasonings
Parsley lol
bronze ocean
hehe
well i suppose curry is a leaf... (type of herb??)
i think i would be like.. thyme
stable cradle
ooh hai transdome on wenesday I did a video call w someone at a gender clinic about starting hrt and just making sure I understand all the effects and normal doctor stuff!!! and I have an appt thursday next week where i’ll actually go to the place!!! :DD
i’m really hoping i’ll be able to start t soon, from that video call it seemed like it could be alot easier of a process than I thought :3
balmy pond
Transdome full o Ws today wtf
bronze ocean
fuck yeah!!!!! we love to see it
stable cradle
like I think the most he said that they’d have to do is take vitals n stuff which I expected lol
we also talked a lil bit abt top surgery and I learned that it isn’t strictly 18+ like I thought and they have connections to doctors who r ok doing it 16+ ^_^
balmy pond
OMFG LETS GOOO
balmy pond
I've been denied this learning moment for 25 fucking years, I WILL wear thigh highs at the beach if I so please
chrome snow
LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOOO
inland schooner
NOOOOOOOOO
frozen breach
transfems with thigh highs at the beach 🤝 transmascs wearing socks with flip flops at the beach
is this anything or am i just Weird and Insane
upper sage
Trans machines i have question
Is it weird I wanna use she/her even tho imma transdude?
I’m just
Stumped
balmy pond
No not at all, I've known guys who still use she/her
Dont quote me I dunno shit abt shit, but I hear gay men using she/her pronouns sometimes
upper sage
I’m just worried that I’ll doubt myself being trans or get called invalid
balmy pond
Just like, do w/e man. Whatever makes u feel the most like u
I so get that tho
Its hard, so fucked up how cissies have this sick desire for us to "prove" our selfhood to them
Try to embrace you're feminity? Oh you're just embodying stereotypes that's fucked up
Wanna be a bit butch? Tf u arent even trying what's the point
(From my experience of course)
At the end of the day tho it's all about u
unborn atlas
I got a beard rn
upper sage
I have a cis male friend who doesn’t use my name (which is literally just my middle name) or the pronouns I prefer and when ppls try to correct him he says “she doesn’t look like a guy”
upper sage
Sorry just had to rant that one out
upper sage
Sometimes I rethink the whole friendship with him tbh
balmy pond
Prefers he but presents femme and still uses a femmy name so he never gets gendered correctly
Honestly I would, at best thats massively inconsiderate and just shitty behavior from a "friend"
The people who really love you wont force you to prove anything. Theyll trust you enough to listen to you
upper sage
Random
But
I just remembered this one time when I was talking about my friend who is also trans to my sister. I tell her that he isn’t gay and she goes “oh yeah like straight trans people are a thing!” I was just like WHAGGGGG
it’s honestly kinda funny looking back at it
She doesn’t know shit about sexuality and that’s the proof
balmy pond
Omfg my brother
Dude straight up tim Allen faced me when I told him trans women can be lesbians
Like genuinely shocked I'm still attracted to women
upper sage
Dude straight up tim Allen faced me when I told him trans women can be lesbians
What’s that mean? The Tim Allen thing
balmy pond
What’s that mean? The Tim Allen thing
Ok in all fairness I was thinking abt a noise but this
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KnsiZOJjfUg
vapid dune
YOOOOOOOOO ARE YOU SEEJNG THIS SHIT
FINALLY THE SOCIAL CHANGE
MY DEADNAME IS NOW IN THE PAST
zinc oriole
🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊
proper igloo
inland schooner
Got misgendered by graham (mum's boyfriend) at the mother's day breakfast -_-
He uses they for me usually but I guess because it's a day for MOTHERS and I was born a WOMAN my motherly instincts must be kicking in and I'm a woman so I must be called as such (obviously)
inland schooner
I think he's making my mum misgender me too because she almost used she before correcting herself on me too
unborn atlas
:(
inland schooner
Bruh all I did was ask my mum to try harder not to misgender me becuz it upset me lol and that everytime I ask she says the same thing and doesn't change so she actually has to make an effort
i dont really get what she means by the last part, im guessing its a threat but my tired ass brain cant understand what her drunkness was trying to tell me
(anytime im critical of her in regards to my transition, she messages me shit like this, i cannot tell you how many times ive gotten the same text)
proper igloo
im genuinely so sorry you have to deal with that shit
vapid dune
I swear I love the varying ways coworkers act to my social transition and it shows everyone’s mentality regarding trans subjects
-One of my fellow bartenders gave me a weird look at the name and I’m like “what do you not like Agatha?” And she’s like “I really don’t like the name you should have just named yourself Angela and kept it simple”
-A server said “Aggy is too complicated so I’m just gonna call you Angie”
-One of the managers calls me Agatha but still refers to me by he/him pronouns
-A food runner was told by a manager what to call me now and he called me Agatha once, while holding back a laugh, and went back to my deadname instantly
-Several don’t even try or call me Agatha like in a joking manner or a mocking tone
Cis people are weird
In general tho the majority have been nice and made the switch nicely so I’m glad about that
sturdy trail
upper sage
NO BC ONE OF MY OLD NAMES WAS KEVIN
bronze ocean
FACTS!!!
vapid dune
Should have named myself like Nameless Beast of Mass Destruction
Instead I chose lousy old Agatha and sound like an old woman
We transes don’t pick cool names
small sand
IIII Felt sad in a trans way when my teacher was complaining about having children and being a motherrrr
like she was complaining but i can't even do it in the first place
sturdy trail
adoption perhaps
balmy pond
That's the goal
If I got someone pregnant itd be the end of the world 💀
I'm lucky enough to have nieces and a nephew tho so I'd be ok being the cool auntie :3
austere jay
i picked vincent but my friends all called me vinny so i just went with it
in a way i didn’t pick my own name
balmy pond
I mean your name and a nickname arent the same thing
Like I assume it's still Vincent but like everyone just shortens it?
austere jay
people call me by my nickname so much it became my name basically
austere jay
legally vincent but in all aspects of life outside of anything legal it’s vinny
balmy pond
Esp as a trans person
austere jay
nickname is vin now
balmy pond
Some ppl be fuckin wilin tho
austere jay
Eh that's kind of a bummer, theres something so empowering abt pick ur name
honestly i like this a lot more, feels organic
balmy pond
honestly i like this a lot more, feels organic
Yknow I agree, it's more lowkey and natural
frozen breach
people call me by my nickname so much it became my name basically
yeah that kind of happened to me as well
like nobody calls me oliver my name is functionally just ollie
proper igloo
-One of my fellow bartenders gave me a weird look at the name and I’m like “what...
ANGELA SUPREMACY
on a side note how tf is agatha more complicated than angela
on a side side note, i hope the people who dont even try get hit in the head with a very small yet inconvenient pebble
(a particular pebble that gets rid of any preconceived notions of gender)
sturdy trail
wdym by preconceived notions of gender in this context
proper igloo
idk if i used preconceived in the right way
unborn atlas
in my isolation, my gender molders and sloughs off my body like the shell of a pupa
proper igloo
but like id rather ppl just not have norms drilled into their head which produce these like refusals to accept someones social transition
sturdy trail
well i feel like the norms would just be transphobia and also i don't think just someone not liking the name agatha for some reason is like maliciously against someone's transition / status as a trans person
proper igloo
oh no i mean the other incidents mentioned
of the people straight up not making the effort
sturdy trail
ohhh
proper igloo
i apologize dearly for the misunderstanding
spice sphinx
I picked jen and have only ever wrote down or spoken “jen” and I still get people who try to call me jennifer or jenny or whatever
H8
I named myself after that stupid gay little puppet in the dark crystal
austere jay
like nobody calls me oliver my name is functionally just ollie
used to be my old name!!
we are like brothers
inland schooner
people call me by my nickname so much it became my name basically
Hppened to me too except I decided on the name 'cale' before Callum, and decided yeah that's just my name but wanted something longer legally
I figured I would grow out of cale and change it but I never did lol, I'm just cale 4ever now
Shoutout to this guy for being who I named myself after. Biggest cunt , I even dyed my hair red awhile back LOL
opaque frost
what is this from?
also on the name topic, I personally use my legal name with friends and family members, despite it being extremely feminine by default
it's my name and I like it, I don't want to change it even if it makes people think I'm a girl
that's why online I go by Stag, it's kind of my artist name? I also use it when ordering food cuz it's a bit more masc sounding
unborn atlas
Stag is very manly yes
timid grail
tbh i picked bruno bc i needed to have a different name when i came out like 9 years ago but ive very much grown into it
my mom hated it at first but now she can’t imagine calling me my deadname its completely unfitting
sturdy trail
encanto must have been traumatizing
sturdy trail
2 most annoying movies in recent history by far
i would like gay boys if they didn't make them turn into bubble guppies
well technically disney can never be like Gay gay
bronze ocean
we need more freaky gay boys in media
austere jay
vincent comes from a) sounding cool and b) fnaf enjoyer as a child
i hate gays in big media they will never portray us right
unborn atlas
we need more freaky gay boys in media
OORRRUGH m8 I am so fed up of trans girl rep being high femme ultracunt motherfuckers all the time we need more dishevelled breakcore bedroom artist rep
I saw something a few days ago that was something like
bronze ocean
i literally dont know any trans girls in media lmfao
unborn atlas
"we need more gay rep where they kill each other with hammers"
bronze ocean
AGREED
inland schooner
what is this from?
He's cale henituse! From lout of the counts family
sturdy trail
but I don't have much interest in relying on *Disney* for gayness
so real
sturdy trail
we need more freaky gay boys in media
pink flamingos 2
unborn atlas
I've been writing a story where a transmasculine goat demon destroys a secret society and then gives himself top surgery
zinc oriole
"we need more gay rep where they kill each other with hammers"
saw franchise
candid ore
we need more rep of gay bitches who look completely disheveled and have pen doodles all down their arms (me)
actually i've never seen a transmasc & transfem friendship in any media
sturdy trail
actually i've never seen a transmasc & transfem friendship in any media
dog day afternoon
wait i read that as relationship
digital geyser
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGJHGCr9E/ some advice for trans mascs thinking of getting top surgery
frozen breach
actually i've never seen a transmasc & transfem friendship in any media
augh this is so true this is a gaping hole in the realm of fiction
maybe I need to be the change I want to see in the world
timid grail
encanto must have been traumatizing
EVERY TIME STILL TIL THIS DAY PEOPLE MAKE THE JOKE and every time i just say i dont watch disney movies
it’s painful
i miss when ppl were like oh like bruno mars
i remember the first time someone made the joke i had never even heard of the movie and i was very confused and it was very awkward
and now ive heard it a billion times
candid ore
i only get shit for my name when i introduce myself as bert instead of robert
i always get "where's ernie" and i want to strangle them
stable cradle
my gender clinic appointment is TOMORROW!!!!
bronze ocean
LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
chrome snow
WWWWWWWWW
upper sage
I don’t own it but here’s a trans GIF that says “This User Is Trains” if anyone can find a good use for it (it just sits in my files along with other stuff)
opaque frost
I'm wondering if any of you fellow queers also feel a bit of this sentiment
do yall ever find yourself frustrated when you see someone kind of yell/get really upset with an uneducated ally for mispeaking but genuinely wanting to know the proper way to say something?
basically I feel like an uneducated ally who is willing to learn/adjust is better than an educated enemy
the educated enemy may use my correct pronouns but he wants me dead ???
candid ore
i find it so annoying when people get mad at allys for accidentally messing up
especially if they're asking the proper way of saying it yeah
opaque frost
my mom is still having a super hard time adjusting to me being trans but she goes out of her way to correct herself or just saying my name instead of referring to me by pronouns
and some people might be like "woowww, she still won't call you he?" at least she doesn't misgender me purposely???
my dad on the other hand does lol
candid ore
same thing w my mom, she tries her best to call me they but still deadnames me because she struggles with change
and i'm completely ok with it because i understand but one of my old friends would always get mad about it
opaque frost
of course people should make their best effort to change regarding new name and pronouns but if theyve known you for a bit (like your parents have known you since you were a baby!!) it's hard!!!
or like ill go out in public and someone thinks I'm transfemme instead of transmasc
(i use my femme name still)
or someone will be like "why didn't you correct that retail worker who called you maam on the way out of the store?"
bro cuz im LEAVING and i know the misgendering wasn't out of malice?
candid ore
i have never corrected a retail worker or waiter at a restaurant about my gender in my life because i'm never going to see them again i dont care
and some of my friends do not understand that and correct them for me
opaque frost
if it's a longer interaction (i.e the waiter will be serving us for an hour cuz dinner or sum) then ill correct them!
but if it's the person at the gas station counter
im walking out before i can process how i got gendered lmao
stable cradle
my gender clinic appointment is TOMORROW!!!!<:wlfgrl:725888904867348500> <:wlfgr...
AT THE PLACE
stable cradle
they make the transgender here
chrome snow
HECK YEEEEEE
stable cradle
got my blood drawn and my bp dropped to 80 bc I looked at it BUT progress!!!!
inland schooner
I got my psychiatrist evaluation today! For top surgery :D I'm very excited
tardy creekBOT
@inland schooner has leveled up! (12 ➜ 13)
inland schooner
Thank you! My surgeon assured me that he's never turned anyone down for top with her so I have high hopes!
bronze ocean
yippeeee
spice sphinx
Planned parenthood in florida just stopped offering hrt today
I hope ron desantis dies a horrible death in front of his wife and kids
I have no idea what to do now or who to turn to, if I can’t get another provider fast then I’ll be forced to leave the state
frozen breach
man the stuff going on in Florida is so fucked up and dystopian. I really wish there was more I could do to help other than just offering kind words. fuck ron desantis I genuinely hope he dies a painful death
sturdy trail
along with him privatizing public education and the book ban shit it's such a rapid descent into fascism and it's not an isolated incident either
like missouri's "gender transition intervention" government tipline just being blatant panopticon vigilantism
spice sphinx
The state of florida now has the power to just rip kids away from their families if there’s even an inkling that they might receive gender affirming care
Traumatizing
Children are going to kill themselves because of this
frozen breach
im so fucking scared like im not in florida but this shit could very well reach other areas of the country even states that many think of as "progressive"
i genuinely cant even process this it just feels so unreal that there are people who hate us this much and are this evil
maybe thats naïve but idc im just Very Scared
balmy pond
you aren't alone 🫂
I feel so fucking selfish being this uselessly terrified living in a state that protects us
vapid dune
I’m in Alabama so I understand. I feel like we’re next cus whenever a law passes in another Republican state meemaw is dickriding to be the next one to pass a similar law.
I need to get the fuck out of here also I can imagine similar shit happening here in the coming months
balmy pond
i feel like i need to be strong for everyone stuck in the south but i just can't
i cant think, just sob
we get one bad election year and everyone is fucked
frozen breach
yeah as a minor this is also scary as shit because its seemingly so easy for them to take away everything under the guise of "protecting the kids"
balmy pond
these people need to stop thinking abt the fucking kids for one god damn second
talk to a therapist abt why they need to "think abt the kids" so much before they think abt them too much
frozen breach
exactly
also in what demented world is having a bunch of miserable suicidal "cis" kids in any way better than having a bunch of happy trans kids
this world, i guess
jesus
zinc oriole
They're not ever thinking about the kids when they talk about 'protecting kids' and they know it. It's about maintaining control over children and restricting thier autonomy
They're the same people ignoring violations of child labor laws and looking into bringing back children working
Their extent of 'care' towards children is caring how much they can make it suck for them to live
unborn atlas
using kids like a weapon
zinc oriole
Exactly. They don't actually care about kids, they care about how much they can utilize them as a hypothetical for fear mongering
inland schooner
also in what demented world is having a bunch of miserable suicidal "cis" kids i...
I remember on twt seeing a mother say shed rather her child be dead than trans I was gobsmacked
My mother realised that she could have me be me, or a corpse 6 food under and she chose me
inland schooner
On the other hand of the spectrum. I am getting top next month! My psych evaluation went well. I'm getting it done at 15. I am the scary transgender child who had 'ideologies' pushed on me(I saw one transgender in media it made me trans) /s
frozen breach
I don’t have time to get top surgery this summer sadly but next summer I’m probably gonna get it at which time I’ll be 17 (yet another innocent child victim of the trans cult)
zinc oriole
If any of u switch from t gel to injections PLEASE keep using the gel for a bit after beginning injections
I didn't know this and for like 2 weeks I've been feeling crazy and didn't know why
Apparently your t levels take a massive dip at first when you switch
stable cradle
to anyone who went from being freaked out by needles to taking hrt thru injections: how easy was it to get used to?? I had to get my blood drawn earlier this week and lookign at it made my blood pressure drop to 80 and I almost passed out so
frozen breach
to anyone who went from being freaked out by needles to taking hrt thru injectio...
it was pretty easy for me to get used to. having control helps a lot; it’s way less scary than someone else doing the shot for me imo. after the first few times I got kind of dizzy, but lying down for a bit and drinking water helped. now I don’t get dizzy at all. also if you’re able to, talk to your provider about getting subcutaneous needles instead of intramuscular needles; they’re shorter and thinner and usually don’t hurt as much. having smaller needles has really helped because it doesn’t look as scary so it’s easier to stick it in.
also fwiw getting blood drawn is usually a lot worse than injections in my experience just because it takes longer and is more physically taxing. like I’ve passed out from getting blood drawn before but never from getting a shot. also again it’s the control thing; with getting blood drawn I have zero control over the needle, with my injections I do have control.
sorry for the long messages, I just also@used to be super scared of needles and I wanna help ease any fear/anxiety because it didn’t end up being as big of an adjustment as I thought it would be
stable cradle
oooh ok ty!!! i was wanting to do t injections instead of gel but I was worried that would get in the way, this is v helpful!!^_^
candid ore
i've heard of t patches and i plan to do those when im 18 because i have a severe phobia of needles
vapid dune
I genuinely hate the fact I chose to socially transition a week ago and it just boosted my hatred for not only Alabama but also most cis people. It only made me the subject of ridicule at my workplace more than before and basically almost no one gives a damn about using it or uses it while laughing or in a mocking tone. Cis people are just real cruel and don’t understand the harm they do
Manager put me on schedule as Agatha for 1 week and now put me again by my deadname because no one is calling me by my chosen name. Like okay man go by majority rule on something that pertains to me as a person
balmy pond
Fucking asswipe people, you dont deserve this
vapid dune
I have gone like. Completely silent while I’m at work. Talk to no one for no reason other than the managers which I must report to. Thankfully of course the customers do call me by my chosen name. But of course I don’t spend all day with the customers I spend all day with the shitstains that think me being myself is so hilarious
The funniest thing is how I chose to socially transition cus there’s this coworker who would keep telling me she supports me and that I should tell her my chosen name and begin going by it. And she made me warm up to the idea. So I did of course last week. She called me by my chosen name ONCE that day then immediately went back to my deadname later that day
At this point I don’t bother to correct people anymore. Legit why bother
cold whale
to anyone who went from being freaked out by needles to taking hrt thru injectio...
i just had someone else do them for me tbh
if you get someone else to do it though bring them in to your clinic so they can get a proper training appointment
unborn atlas
The funniest thing is how I chose to socially transition cus there’s this cowork...
call em out on that shit tbh
bronze ocean
thats a great way to make them get even more mean towards you tbh
vapid dune
thats a great way to make them get even more mean towards you tbh
Yea tbh. Cis people don’t get that what they’re doing is wrong. In their mind this is some little charade that we could drop anytime and we’re just doing to be silly as if our life didn’t depend on our transition
So I just don’t bother like. They don’t understand why we do it so why would they see how much we truly care about this?
zinc oriole
I got misgendered by a dude last night bc I was kinda far away and had makeup on and I just waved him off
I usually start talking bc it makes ppl correct themselves if they don't fully see my face (my hair is long) but like
I don't want the extra conflict
It could be dangerous
vapid dune
I got misgendered by a dude last night bc I was kinda far away and had makeup on...
How tf you legit look like a cis dude ngl
How have I not been clocked in months and u apparently have
Like when I see you I’m like damnnnn Wayne is fucking rad and masc as fuck
bronze ocean
thats what im saying!!!
zinc oriole
My hair probably :[
Idk
And my dose this month has been thrown off by switching to injections so who knows
I was also walking in the rain at night so
vapid dune
That wouldn’t affect anything tho u still look like. A complete dude
Wayne is the most dude ever
vapid dune
And the most hog ever too may I add
zinc oriole
Ty :]
bronze ocean
its so annoying that when trans guys have somewhat long hair ppl are like oh thats gotta be a broad but if a trans girl has long hair ppl will just be like oh yeah that's gotta be a metalhead dude
zinc oriole
I wasn't misgendered at 7/11 yesterday
bronze ocean
W(for W)ayne
zinc oriole
I'm only misgendered if ppl don't see my face or hear me speak
zinc oriole
its so annoying that when trans guys have somewhat long hair ppl are like oh tha...
ITS SO STUPID
Probably my height too I'm not tall
bronze ocean
speaking of we need more trans guy metalheads
zinc oriole
Meeeeee (kinda
balmy pond
I got misgendered by a dude last night bc I was kinda far away and had makeup on...
Absurdity, ur so manly oml
bronze ocean
its so fucked up!!!
vapid dune
Literally hair is like a good amount of passing it’s fucked up
Like
If I cut my hair any shorter or didn’t have my hair set up the way I do
My immense forehead would clock me
Although in my case I don’t mind (that much) I like my ability to present as either gender or just andro
Hence why I still occasionally take pics doing silly guymoding :3
vapid dune
That’s like one thing that made no sense to me like
During the last few times I got called sir
Like.
I don’t look the most feminine and all but
You do see the fact I got tits right homie? Fucks wrong with you
zinc oriole
I will be honest I've had my chest out without binding and still got 'man' and 'brother'
I have a small chest but still
Was wearing a tank top
People often don't look or smth
vapid dune
Summoning a top surgery for Wayne
unborn atlas
people gender me right if I wear a dress but like
that's a lil extra
for everyday wear I think
digital geyser
Literally hair is like a good amount of passing it’s fucked up
ive literally been gendered correctly in my all girls school uniform before because of my short hair
and its so annoying because i wish i could have long hair but if it goes any longer than my short haircut slightly grown out i get really dysphoric because i stop passing. and it sucks bc i want long hair and i know i suit longer hair but i literally would be miserable with it rn because i don’t have any other identifiable masculine traits
timid grail
super weird culture shock for me was being misgendered constantly when i went to the east coast when i pass otherwise bc i have long hair, im from the west coast and never get misgendered anymore
i was presenting even more masculine than usual when i visited and was still misgendered nearly the entire time 😭 i feel lucky now living on the west coast
sturdy trail
west coast supremacy
timid grail
its true
austere jay
definitely very lucky to be living here especially in light of all that’s going on with all the bills being passed
i believe washington passed a safe haven bill but idk
balmy pond
I think it did
Seattle def
yea i feel guilty, i lucked tf up growing up where i did
cold whale
same it’s so good for trans people here
chrome snow
I feel genuinely sorry for everybody that's living in the south.
Everything is absolutely fucked up.
austere jay
yea i feel guilty, i lucked tf up growing up where i did
me too, i used to complain cuz i live in one of those small red towns but damn am i lucky
whenever i start to get down about my current circumstances i remember the privilege i have living here and it humbles me lol