general-help-chat

[warped solstice]

It's so crazy it just might work.

[silk temple]

Well I can go on with my own personal experience and opinions. In regards to not taking things too personally, I have a chill personality, but I still take jokes seriously because I find it hard to identify sometimes. Like idk when someone is joking or not. But I prefer to take things seriously, but it doesn’t offend me. Unless someone blatantly decides to offend me directly or indirectly. But I’m not sure what triggers you to take things too personally

Yeah I have ADHD too, but I am taking a break for 1 year, but I still want to study at my own pace and enjoy studying. Like reading 4 different books on a subject and compile the information into my own notes. But yes, that helps with accomplishing tasks in a timely manner

But what I did try doing once was just have a clock displayed on my phone or iPad. Which helps me become aware of the passage of time

[cobalt sandal]

Different methods for different people. I’m glad you found one that works for you 🍀

[indigo kernel]

does anyone know when do james streams come back?

[rotund wren]

anyone will be able to help me with btech chemistry thermo questions? they’re simple but im losing my mind

[spark halo]

Guys i wanna do the ielts exam anyone have suggestions or advice for me ? I feel like I’m lost ، English is not my native language 🥹🥹

[wintry garnet]

ask youtube, youtube will guide you the best

[spark halo]

If i asked youtube I’ll waste my time

[oak cedar]

Guys sometimes it feels like there's nothing going on in life other than studying and it all feels kinda empty

And studying really just doesn't make much sense

Well, I mean it does

But when I'm doing it, I don't have any idea about what real world effectiveness does it even have to read something and then write it down somewhere else

It just feels kinda pointless

I wanna be doing something big that has a significant positive impact on the world

So that I know I'm doing something meaningful

But the current situation doesn't really give such a feeling

@oak cedar Well, the school system is designed to make you learn things and even if it's not that great, you can still take responsibility to learn what you can at your own pace so that you can be a better person and so that you can act more effectively in the world

@oak cedar and well, even if this stuff doesn't make much sense to you rn. The reason to do it is that you just have to do it because there's no escaping it and also because you can't let your parents' money and efforts go to waste and you can't afford to disappoint them in this regard.
So you just have to deal with it.

[grand ember]

have tried to incorporate several times but its not for me atleast
had a friend with me too while trying the an hour every 5 hour type thingy but yea even after 4-5 days we felt the need to take a long a$$ crash lol

Baseus was the original one with this design
rest were copies after it blew up
(telling as in to avoid buying if you havent already)

[oak cedar]

@oak cedar And about the impact you wanna have on the world, well, you gotta find a place in which you can do something big
And that's gonna take time and effort

[grand ember]

send ill try maybe lol
i have only studied the theory part tho ie havent jumped to the ques bank 🥲

[grand ember]

nice self talk bro enjoying it 😋

[oak cedar]

@oak cedar and you just gotta get done with this shit as fast as you can within 3pm to 9pm
So that you can have the morning hours for yourself and in that time you gotta be doing what you actually want to accomplish such as reading a book or writing something etc..

[worldly reef]

so baseus?

[grand ember]

yea this is the original thing

[oak cedar]

@oak cedar Remember to not get too selfish, Not everything is about you.
I'm trynna do this so I can be better as a person and then be better for the people around me.

[worldly reef]

the timer is more of a friendly warning than a religious order. I find that given + or minus 5 minutes, I can always reach a good stop using a 90 minute timer. You can then use the formula of 1/3-1/4 of your study time as break time to adjust properly. For example, say u needed 105m to study, and it takes you 1/3 time to recover, then you get a 35m break

[grand ember]

afaik from the internet and all research ofc

[worldly reef]

do you like it?

[grand ember]

its amazinggggg

around 12-15$

[worldly reef]

ok ill buy

[grand ember]

and working SOLID since past 2.5 years iirc

so yea

a copy wont be lasting that long ofc

[grand ember]

hehe hope it helpsss

[sly trench]

but u can use the timer on ur phone

[tropic veldt]

iphone 5 is

goated

[sly trench]

iphone 2g is the legend

[lethal panther]

I need some opinion on something. Should i buy a dumb phone or an iphone mini?

[rotund wren]

what purpose v

[lethal panther]

College, i want a phone that is useful but one that is not distracting

An iphone mini proof to be capable of being useful but it doesn't guarantee my productivity, on the other hand ... a dumb phone does the opposite

[pliant sun]

Anyone know haskell?

I need some help

[cunning finch]

Have the same

[grand ember]

https://tenor.com/view/noice-nice-click-gif-8843762

[sly trench]

Ehat do u meab the dumb phone?

If android i yhink samsung is better

[topaz oxide]

i think shes live in gaza

[young umbra]

google reverse search only gives me checkered shirts

why do you ask

[silk temple]

let me see if I can get a deep dive search

once sec

[sly trench]

who is she

[lethal panther]

Flip phonesnlike mtorola or nokia

[sly trench]

i think the nookia cannot be destroyed

[young umbra]

https://youtu.be/Z9-l6xvEZ_4?si=Ub713prXavoHMv70

i need the full version of it

can't find it anywhere tho 😔

[oak cedar]

Guys

how can i be less tired?

i mean i get sleepy a bit too early

like 7pm

and when i'm sleepy, my body starts to not function properly

and I lean back and close my eyes and i'm in a half-dream state

well, i have a problem with daydreaming and imagining a bunch of stuff so my mind starts to get noisy

[young umbra]

do you take a nap daily?

[oak cedar]

and then i sometimes start hearing the prof's voices 💀

[oak cedar]

nope

[young umbra]

so start taking naps in afternoon

at least for 30 mins daily

[oak cedar]

hmm..

maybe you're right

i'll try ig

[oak cedar]

ngl i legit started disconnecting with reality right after i wrote this msg

💀

[young umbra]

man you will end up burning out

take a rest

go for a walk

[oak cedar]

i also forget how to use languages and then i start writing nonsensical gibberish

[oak cedar]

weird thing is
i don't even work that hard at all

[young umbra]

how many hours do you study?

whats ur routine?

and do you take breaks?

do you drink enough water?

[oak cedar]

no

[oak cedar]

its a disappointment at the moment

[young umbra]

then you have no right to complain haha

fix these stuff first

[oak cedar]

yeah i knew that

[oak cedar]

.

alr well

it is what it is

thanks tho

[young umbra]

no it is not what it is

na

just fix stuff

life be better i promise

its easy to complain but hard to actually work on things.

aye i am not belittling u for opening up

but i actually want to work on urself

so these things will get better

and u be healthier

you got me? @oak cedar

[warped solstice]

Any of you guys have thoughts on study environments?

I find it almost impossible to study in my bedroom.

[cobalt sandal]

studying where you sleep and relax can be hard. when i need a change, i study at the kitchen/dining table or at the library @warped solstice

when my husband isn't working from home i go to his office. i don't usually go to a cafe because i don't always feel like paying to exist

if you can't go to somewhere that isn't your room a trick i like is to make a separate user on your computer that's only for studying and don't download any unnecessary apps or login to any social sites when logged into the studying only user

[weak igloo]

That's actually so smart

[cobalt sandal]

when you set yourself up with a blank slate, you're setting yourself up for success. there is less of an issue of willpower since those apps and games aren't downloaded and you're not logged in to social media sites and don't have your password manager set up to do it easily. you shouldn't rely on willpower so instead just lock yourself out so you don't have to make a bunch of hard decisions, just one - log into the studying only user. over time the decision to login to the study user will become easier. discipline/routine > willpower/motivation

this advice is also applicable if you're a streamer/youtuber. everyone ends up doxxing themselves because they use their personal user to make their content. eliminate the chance of doxxing yourself this way by making a separate user or use a separate computer entirely

other methods to get into study mode if you cant leave is to have a "study outfit" or "study mug" or light your "study candle scent" or put on your "study headband" or anything that is different that is only for studying to condition yourself. the key is to not use these items when not studying so you essentially Pavlov's Dogs yourself into studying

[oak cedar]

yeah thanks

[elfin bloom]

Hi, I need some advice with studying organic chem. I had my first exam with organic chem in syllabus last thursday and scored really low in it. Faced alot of problem with getting the reaction products (major) correct and which compound would react faster in reactions type questions.

Also facing problem with memorizing reaction mechanisms and named reaction

[surreal widget]

hey

anyone know linear algebra

[kind skiff]

Help!

We want to measure a tower in front of which a stream runs (and we don't want to get wet). From a certain distance we see the highest point of the tower at an angle of 43 degrees. Moving 12 meters away the angle is reduced to 35 degrees. Find the height of the tower

[full trench]

Simple but might sound goofy-
Write them on a paper sheet and stick it right in front of your study table, you gon learn them real quick. Also if it aligns with your bed then maybe you might land a bombastic side eye on it from time to time and that will just do the job. Prof told us things we look in a glance tends to be stored in our memory even tho it takes sum time. Tell me if this helps?

[karmic jewel]

Is this chat just for like study help or is it also for motivation help, because I've been really struggling w that lately

[robust canopy]

Hello guys, next week I'll have my midterms college exams, any of you guys have any study tips or study experience as a STEM student?

The topics that are gonna be tested are
Basic biology
Calculus
Basic physics
Basic chemistry
Laboratorium (had no idea about this)

I've had known strategies like blurting, are there any more recommended strategies??

[honest sky]

💀 what major requires all the sciences at one time??

[robust canopy]

I'm majoring in biology

It's my first semester so like we have to understand the basics of things first

Yeah kinda weird

[vital geyser]

GOOD MORNING AND HAPPY MONDAY Y'ALL, LETS MAKE THIS MONDAY SUCK A BIT LESS

[full trench]

I want what u on

[warped solstice]

I can't study in the house because of toxic room mates. There is no office.

I can't study at the library because they're all sketchy where I live.

I've never downloaded social media apps to my phone.

[warped solstice]

I got head bandanas, like James has in his early videos.

[elfin bloom]

Thanks for the advice, I'll try it from today ig

will update later

[wispy tartan]

Hi

[haughty nacelle]

Heyya

[wispy tartan]

Hey how are you

[haughty nacelle]

Stressed due to exams 🥲

@wispy tartan Wbu?

[wispy tartan]

Ahh i understand
But i know you will score better than others

[fading sparrow]

hi . I have homework due tomorrow. Is there anyone who can help me about universities in South Korea that have nutrition and dietetics departments?

[haughty nacelle]

Thankssss😄

[jovial iron]

Anyone got chegg membership here?

Need answer to the following question:
https://www.chegg.com/homework-help/questions-and-answers/1-three-point-charges-located-corners-equilateral-triangle-shown-show-clearly-directions-t-q91002178

[safe lintel]

https://youtu.be/hAMk9MqhYVk?si=uVmzB0sIHrTfNk6l

[opal tinsel]

anybody a cs major whos taken Computer Organization and Architecture?

[radiant loom]

Im writing a report about the French President Macron's Pension Reform. I was wondering if anyone had some sources about the background of the France's pension reform, why are people so against such a reform (other than it going though without voting), and how was he able to pass the the pension reform with lack of public support?

[gloomy wraith]

I have eight subjects nd it's getting way too hard for me to manage all of em after school nd tutions (i literally come back at 9pm from tutions). Any tips on how I can manage my time

[slate ginkgo]

Help people by praying in free Palestine

[bleak surge]

Anybody a CS Major here? I need help in my system that I'm working on. It's a billing/invoice system. I'm struggling in putting like a selection of amount ( Example 500$, 700$ ) on how much they will pay. I have no dropdown button. I need help with that. Thank you.

[young umbra]

is this the correct explanantion?

[uneven zenith]

POOKIES ugh how does one do a really big workload do you start w the EASY tasks or the HARD ones :/

me personally i wanna do the easy tasks for instant validation but i wont have energy for the hard ones

https://tenor.com/view/hello-i-am-under-the-water-gif-20279509

but if u start w the hard ones ur like

literally drowning yfm

[remote geyser]

Hi guys, can you help me with a college paper, please? Apollonius CCC. Find the outer tangent circumference to the large one and the inner tangent to the other two.
dilation-inversion

[limpid mantle]

i was wondering, do you guys preffer studying a subject the day of the class or the day after?

[pliant sun]

depends

[tawny aspen]

the intresting thing someone will be good mayor someone will be good scientist someone will be good CEO someone will be good doctor but the point all of them here right now world is so intresting

[ionic flame]

usually study for a class the same day as when i have a lecture for it

[heavy valley]

just wanted some help how to cope. ive recently been going to the hospital quite frequently for the last 2 months bc ive been having lower body weakness, shortness of breath, fatigue, and headaches. the headaches started last march, and all the others started around sept. we thought i had an infarct (stroke) in my brain so i took meds for it, then we found out the infarct is so small that its almost benign. i took a nerve test last week to see if its GBS, and my test was normal. now im scheduled for an mri next week to scan my entire spine. if the scan comes out normal too, my neuro suggests we look into rare diseases next. its funny too bc my older sister joked that im the most physically active out of all my siblings and im the one in a wheelchair now. i try to be positive abt all the medical stuff happening to me bc i dont think wallowing in my sadness is gonna help either, but its been getting difficult to manage lately. need some tips pls

[stark fiber]

i failed my first exam. it hurts so bad

i thought i did okay but

i feel so stupid

[tired canopy]

I just failed my project and failed my exam

I don't want to be expelled from my school. :/

[tired canopy]

yes me too

I don't know what to do.

[tired canopy]

I'm here for you.

[stark fiber]

what do i do

[vital sail]

just try again

[stark fiber]

it's just really depressing that you pushed yourself to the limit yet life gives you bs

i dont feel like trying again if all i get is negative reinforcement

[vital sail]

same realization

maybe you can change your view and take that as an opportunity to grow

[stark fiber]

grow where

[tired canopy]

i feel the same

[young umbra]

honestly, two general tips I can give for anyone facing any serious stuff is praying (even if you are not religious tbh) and meditating on Stoicism

this year right now has been downright the worst of my life

and after a few months of continuous suffering in several areas, I realized that the key is basically to have patience, work on what you can, don't worry about whatever's out of your control and do those two things I mentioned

[young umbra]

I get that, honestly

I woke up today and that was one of my first thoughts

but brother, what's there left to do?

if you never try again, you'll fail forever; if you keep trying, one day it might actually work

therefore to keep trying is the objectively better option

I know it sucks major ass to keep trying and not get any positive results, but that's life

[pliant sun]

Praying changed my life honestly.

It gives alot of mental peace

[young umbra]

this

I converted to Catholicism a few years ago

my prayer life is directly tied to my stance towards life, tbh

if its good, things are good; if its bad, things are bad

[tired canopy]

thanks these words are good for me

[inland pecan]

I'm not active in this server but I need serious help

I have severe depression and can't bring myself to study

I don't know what to do about it

[tired canopy]

hii Do you want to talk? I think we're in similar situations.

[inland pecan]

then how would we help each other 😂 jk ofc, dm or here?

[tired canopy]

You're righ haha

[inland pecan]

its alg, i got some tips from a friend and a lil motivation

i can try to help, i know my issues and where im stuck

im just not doing anything about it 😂

[tired canopy]

Can you tell me? :))

[inland pecan]

well- theyre pretty basic tips

pomodoro technique

[tired canopy]

yes me too I don't want to be a prisoner of my anxieties but it's hard to fight

[inland pecan]

but i think what youre struggling with would be motivation, no?

DO you want to get better and study? or whatever it is you wanna do idk

[tired canopy]

I've been working with james video all day.

[inland pecan]

yeah i thought so

[tired canopy]

I want to finish my university

[inland pecan]

shooooot well i cant help with your studies (im in hs 🥲 ) but you need to decide to get better first

[inland pecan]

how did that go?

[tired canopy]

quite enjoyable :))

[tired canopy]

what field are you studying

[inland pecan]

highschool, still have all subjects

[inland pecan]

oh thats good!!

[tired canopy]

good luck with your studies :))

[desert pine]

"If one is done with living because one fears something, one should learn to live with the feared"

[sly trench]

hi handsome

[dull raptor]

your gonna have to

what you do

is your watch James' video

the one where it's called how he studied for 12 hours a day

properly emotionally invest in that video

Everytime I watch that I cry

fuel yourself

realise the bittch your being and the person you want to be

A lot of not bringing yourself to study comes from feeling as though it's too hard

I do that all the time

But it you really want to get yourself out of that hole, your gonna have to do the following

After watch James video I told you to watch, lock yourself in a room

Lock yourself, with nothing but a pen and books

And don't get out until you've finished what you need to get done

Just that one day

Will change you

[marble ore]

Good Morning everyone

[heavy valley]

im a satanist and not rlly a fan on stoicism so personally i wouldnt rlly think both are useful for my case specifically (but i have been practicing meditation recently). tho i still appreciate the advice thank you vm

[heavy valley]

hey if youre able to, i suggest getting professional mental health if your depression has been bothering you so much. but if you cant, just remember you dont have to be 100% all the time or even 50% or lower. have compassion for yourself since you know yourself best. know what your limits are and take breaks around when you dont feel the greatest. youll be ok

[magic tartan]

hey guys, what do u think about the statistics major?

[tired canopy]

yes me too I failed an exam at university and I'm in a difficult period, I'm at risk of dropping out, I watch this video and cry, it gives me strength
I feel like I will never pass the exam, so I can't go to school. All my friends did well in the exam and I want to do well too.

[silent kettle]

what is called that thing under mouse and keyboard this pad i mean?

[thin arch]

google cutting mat

[wispy tartan]

Hey everyone

[stuck pagoda]

hello

[tropic veldt]

"as a satanist" 🤓🤓

[cunning cloak]

💀

[real notch]

starting to study here

[real notch]

Respect him

[warped solstice]

Some of the nicest people I've met are satanists.

[inland pecan]

thanks for the tips man ✌🏽😔 will try to improve

[robust canopy]

Should I major in biology or in environmental sciences

[unkempt vortex]

@heavy valley turn to christ and repent before it's too late ✝️

[young umbra]

is satanism a real thing

[exotic spoke]

Hi guys, Im a uni stu. I tried to quit social media since I first used it(in the 10th grade). I tried too much so that everyone in my friendzone is familiar with the 'disappearance' and 'appearance' of myself on it.

The problem with me is: First, Im a Asian people, so in my society, people tends to care about others more. So if I dont use it, so I dont think I have any stories to talk with them. So should I risk becoming an almost anti-social person to actually quitting it.

Second, I was taught to behave well with everyone. So if anyone using social media and they want to talk with me, can I just skip them or show my feeling with that ?

[young umbra]

It always feels like it isn't but then they go and destroy churches in my city so idk I guess it is

I think people wouldn't be so violent like that without actually believing the idea behind said violence to some degree

[young umbra]

My behaviour on social media is usually to stick around for a while and then disappear for months on end. My friends are already used to it, so they don't mind. Once I spent 2 years without talking to my best friend after we finished HS, and when we went back to talking to each other it was as if nothing ever happened.

That being said, I do have social circles tho, like my neighbours, church, especially after mass, and gym.

I wouldnt say you will become antisocial, but then again, you need to have some social activities besides the internet

Second, its nice to be respectful and polite to people, but if people want to reach you out on social media and you happen to be off, its their problem, not yours. You wouldn't spend the entire day by your doorstep because a neighbour might want to ask you something, would you?

And about having stories to tell when you meet your friends again...

Well, if you live an interesting life, you will always have something to share, even if you lived it all alone

If your life is wake up, eat doritos, spend 16h playing videogames and then go back to sleep, you'll have bigger problems than just lack of stuff to talk about

[exotic spoke]

Thank you bro

Hi guys, I used to eat my dinner and lunch alone, and it used to happen for 15 mins. I used to watch youtube and it didn't happen well because I will spend my next 2 hours dumping into my favourite things.

Now I cut off Youtube as part of digital minimalism. What should I do during that time ? I think I cant just totally focus on eating rn as its kinna boring tho.

[young umbra]

Try to focus on eating

Literally just savour the food

[exotic spoke]

I'll try to do that

[crystal sierra]

This is micro eco 101

Can someone help me with all the questions beside 2 and 3

[winged kernel]

i skipped so many programming classes

and im a freshman but i have intermediate programming cuz i did a levels

and i skipped almost 2 months worth of classes cuz the professor was chill and i was just so anxious cuz i skipped the first 2 and was overthinking it and didnt want to show up because i wouldnt understand anything in class

but then that continued and now i have a midterm thats due on tuesday before class

and i need to catch up on 17-19 classes of javascript coding

and learn it too

i never thought id be back here after what happened in a levels

but i keep disappointing myself further

[tired canopy]

I am very behind in c projects in my school, my friends are far ahead of me, but I work more than 12 hours a day to catch up, we can do it.

[winged kernel]

hopefully

its almost 2 pm already

im not even done through 1 recording

[tired canopy]

10 o'clock here

[winged kernel]

i also didnt do both assignments that he gave previously

and i still havent mailed him about it

hope he lets me submit it even though he gave one a month ago and te other one like 2 weeks ago

[tired canopy]

if I knew javascript I would love to help you how homework assignments

what the homework is about

[winged kernel]

its to make a Timer and one is like based on recursion or something

idek

[tired canopy]

Yes, you can send it as soon as it's done. :))

[tired canopy]

you can look at sample projects

[winged kernel]

no but the portal to submit has been closed already

im gonna have to ask him to open it for me if thats even possible

if not then idk what im gonna do

lol im a computer science major not being active in com sci class

[tired canopy]

I hope so. I'll pray for you.

I'm studying software at the university, it's hard but it's fun when you try hard enough.

I spent 4 months trying to pass the exam at school. :(

[winged kernel]

damn

yeaa its just really stressful rn and my procrastinatin habit has not gotten better

[tired canopy]

because the questions were very difficult and I was just learning coding.

[tired canopy]

It's very hard to get over it and I'm still working on it.

we can work together whenever you want

[winged kernel]

im on sept 19's class recording

and its only getting harder from here

[tired canopy]

In these situations it is necessary to manage stressful situations correctly, you just have to think that you can

[young umbra]

Do i actually may have depression and having self sabotages issues... Or am i just a lazy a**hole looking for excuses?

[winged kernel]

little bit of both

[exotic spoke]

bro good job

but remember to take a rest

u dont want to be exhausted

[exotic spoke]

what is your situation bro?

Im open to hear

[ripe skiff]

hey
im a grade 12 student from india, whos prepping for engineering entrances
i have my 1st attmept of the exam in jan end
the exam is about 3hours long

but rn, i cannot even focus 100% for 30-40min in a go
after like studying for 30min, i randomly find my thoughts drifting, and whatever im studying/solving just stops making sense

i have tried a lot of things,
lofi
ambient sounds
study vc w/ cams
throwing my devices away

does anyone have any tips on how to improve my focus
thanks !!

please ping w/ your replies as i have notifications off

thanks!!

[primal olive]

heyy i think before starting a session you should just try out meditating for like 10minutes. While meditating just focus on your breathing pattern as you do this you will surely be able to be focused for a longer time.While meditating you also "intend" the next 1hour of your day . Basically just think of everything in detail you are gonna/want to do in next hour. After meditating i think so binaural beats might feel good listening to. Or you can always go with uke tune yk.I hope i may have helped you a bit.

[ripe skiff]

thanks a lot gajender <3

[winged kernel]

4 am grind 💀

[exotic spoke]

if its hard for u, u can use the guided meditation

i usually use it as a way to sleep better too

[ripe skiff]

do you have any app/yt/podcast that you recommend?

[exotic spoke]

I just took it easy, dont think too much

Every sessions I used bring me the same efficiency and comfort

so just type in "guided meditation" in every platforms, like soundcloud, youtube, etc

choose something which attracts you

and then use it

remember to choose platform which has least chance to distract u

that's all my experience

[ripe skiff]

oh okay
thanks a ton <3

[exotic spoke]

Have fun with your session :>

[tranquil void]

anyone here have double major?

[young umbra]

For the last 4 years i wanst able to maintain studying habits,gym training or even deditace myself to get better at my hobbies. That happens mainly because Im stuck in this feeling of being mentally drained and exhausted. Even though its not like i have tough job or something like that.So i just feels like Im actually just lazy so i keep feeling guilty for feeling that way and being enable to get over this destructive circle even though 3 years ago this thing made me reach the rock bottom in life and now my life opportunity is on the line if i keep dealing with life this way.

At Times i did manage to get to the work.Progges in my studies and get my life to getter one piece at time. But the momentum only lasted a few weeks .it was a question of time until i fell back to old bad habits and a stagnating procastination process.

Feeling stuck really brings a overhelming feeling of shame. I know what exactly what i should do. But i keep failing to fulfill the promises that i made to myself

[deft loom]

I did have this same situation

Im having, really, but not as hard like before

[young umbra]

Its sucks man

Im afraid that i Will f* up my future again

[deft loom]

For me it was anxiety, I needed to focus on me and mental health a lot. I understood that Im just a human and I can fail, but if I have a goal, I need to start doing it, because I deserve it. I was starting to focus more on the process too, taking my time, like... Ok, I cant draw everyday, then I will draw 3 times a week for a time, and then bussines days and then everyday

[deft loom]

You will not

I did have problems with alcohol... drugs. And this year I did have a relapse, more than one time, and I did just start being more conscience about how I feel after I do something. When I sleep early and wake up early, I feel good because I have a good sleep, when I try, I feel happy cause I tried, but when I drink, I feel guilty after

I started to be more real and direct with myself, not trying to be sweet but not trying to be pessimist or bad

No, your not lazy, you are just human and something is wrong, maybe how are you doing things, maybe your perspective, maybe your mental health, but that doesnt mean that it cant be fixed or you cant do it, you just need to find your way @young umbra

[young umbra]

Thats how i got off the cycle at times. but until now i couldnt keep up that mentality for long enought

[primal olive]

💯 i was actually gonna send her lol ty 💯

[young umbra]

Thats it. But the tough part is filtering thoughs. Or i bend forward to pessimists thoughs because they always seem more honest and real Or i bend to a overly conforting narratives that wont help with growth in anyway.

[deft loom]

Work on that, is for your own good, if you can go to the psychologist, go, you will feel much better

[young umbra]

Thx for that

Its been a long ass time since i last open up about my worries

[young umbra]

I worried that if i go to a psychologist he may actually diagnose me in something and that diagnosys someway end up working as a shield to me avoid my responsabilities when things go south. I know this sounds Toxic as fuck but the "stop being a whining b**** and get the job done " mentality is what worked for me when i managed to get things straight in my life.

[deft loom]

The psychologist need to work with that as well. I have diagnose so many things, but that is just to know how to work with it

[midnight temple]

No hard and fast rule, just practice and practice,practice to bring your focus back, whenever it drifts away bring it back, the more you practice, more you will be good at it and try to be efficient in these sessions, efficiency is the thing that matters the most.

[deft loom]

You can really use that as a excuse, because you know now what is going on, if u dont work with that, then is a problem, because you dont have excuse, you know what is going on

if somebody dont know they have anxiety then it will be difficult to control it, because they dont know, but when you know, you can control it because you knoooooow

[young umbra]

brother, this sounds like a problem I had and still kind of have but on steroids

have you ever got checked up for anxiety issues?

Nope

What u mean by checked up?

I mean like

diagnosed

Oh ok

or maybe suspected something based on symptoms

[young umbra]

No

About a year ago I was in a similar situation

lot to do, couldn't do it, feeling drained, feeling guilty cuz my life was so easy and I couldnt just sit my ass on a chair and study

brought it up to my confessor once and he, a psychologist, told me that that seemed a lot like anxiety

ever since then I have been taking more care to control my thoughts, keep my mind sane, praying more, and it actually helps

you won't be able to do anything if you are always thinking about something unrelated to the task at hand, especially if you hold no control over it

Ok

makes sense

[young umbra]

Damn, i never framed it that way

[deft loom]

Thats it

[deft loom]

Is good to have more perspective

[young umbra]

Yes it is

Thanks man

[half willow]

hi, ive been struggling badly with a youtube addiction, before it was tiktok but managed to remove that bad habit out of my life, but now its like im back to square 1 and watching youtube like 5 hours a day instead of studying, or reading. Does anyone know any tips, or resources to help me block out youtube for entertainment purposes?

[deft loom]

For my laptop I use a extension, and for my phone I did a detox and put a timer

I dont have any notification and I have a moment to watch youtube, I watch only youtubers I follow and my watch later, and for study I have other extension

this one

[young umbra]

hold on

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IlkO8g_nwlI

there

[exotic spoke]

it looks awesome bro

[exotic spoke]

bro, first thing first

[deft loom]

TY}

[exotic spoke]

u need to realise that, u feel bad about being shitty, that's good

i knew a lot, a lot of people are already staying in that situation forever

i cant know exactly your situation, things you try to change and stuff, how you already did that

so i cant give you exact advices for these, but one thing I learnt is just do things step by step, slowly but concrete

[exotic spoke]

which extension do u use bro ?

[deft loom]

Minimal Youtube

[exotic spoke]

thanks bro, i will try that

[exotic spoke]

just add it to my brave

just awesome bro

I dont need to block youtube anymore :>

[deft loom]

Niiice

owo

I have minimal extension for all my social bc I draw, and when I study I look youtube videos about the subject to help me out, and I dont wanna get distracted

[exotic spoke]

yup

I dont even use social media anymore

except for discord, i wonder it counts or now

now i just use a chatting and calling app named Zalo (similar to messenger) but you need to have their phone number in order to contact with someone

so that reduces a lot of distractions for me

[vapid iron]

i use Blocksite, because even greyed-out minimal youtube can draw you in

i did a complicated password saved on a notepad offline and blocked all of those dopamine-fest websites such as youtube and reddit. it helps a bit

[ripe skiff]

alr thanks a lot
will try this fss

[deft loom]

I just use instagram and twitter just for share my drawings, I dont use tiktok, and I use YT for studying or information. My problem now is videogames, but I usually can control this things, because I concentrate more in having habits, doing things and getting bored instead of just thinking about dont using media so is easier for me to dont using the apps

[young umbra]

Well, i already got some strategies that helped me to get out of procastination and paralising self loathing cycles. The big problem is that i cant keep those strategies consistent to finally never get back at those bad habits.

I wish i could delete my insta account

[exotic spoke]

Maybe its the time to try another one

One things I also learnt is

Dont even try to apply any model into yourself

try to learn from everything for a bit

it's may tough but it'll be better through the time

[young umbra]

Makes sense

Thx man

[exotic spoke]

yup, just wanna share a story about myself

i will put it as how social media and the internet has ruined me

i used to be excel in all subjects i learnt, i mean by winning every competitions i joined

all in school

and im not a nerd or sth, my relationship with others people is excellent

the special thing is I didnt even use social media, or have a phone until I reach the grade 10 (Im 19 rn)

And everyone around always see me as a 'perfect model' and a bright people

but it turned really bad since I first used it in grade 10

i spend a ton amount of time exploring the internet

im a naturally curious person, so i tried everything, absorb everything in there

that made me having a terrible highschool time, bad relationship with my fam, bad sleeptime, suffering from overthinking everyday and wanna suicide a lot of time

im trying to get out of it since the first day using it

but my young me just didnt have enough brave and knowledge to really know how

its tough to be the only guy who refuse to use it

yup, but i kinna recover now

old good days coming back

try to quit social media guys, i never see anyone regret quitting it

[young umbra]

yeah

i can see myself in the first part

if the networking needed to my part time job didnt needed social media

i would have quitted a long time ago

but yeah social media really ruined me

[exotic spoke]

just a lot of things hold you back, i knew it

i tried to delete my fb account like a hundred times

just delete, then need to do sth, then recover, then using it, then feel bad, then delete

[young umbra]

manly during quarentine

[exotic spoke]

the first time i said i didnt want to use social media, everyone just laugh at my face

they think im crazy

[young umbra]

yeah im in this tipe of situation

but i need to work

[exotic spoke]

all my friends enjoy tiktok, facebook and stuff

[exotic spoke]

yeah its hard

but now im in a situation, i dont need social media for my life

anymore

[young umbra]

bruh i wish

i hate instagram

[exotic spoke]

sometimes its just very hard to have a chance to quit it

[young umbra]

yes

i have an issue with discord to

[exotic spoke]

my discord is just this channel, and cs50 channel, where i can ask about programming

i feel comfortable w it

[young umbra]

yeah

[exotic spoke]

a lot of time i just wondered, how others can live good with social media

but the more i meet them, the more i realise

[young umbra]

back in 2020 i was letting studies behind to spend time in discord. absolute ridiculous

[exotic spoke]

i mean they are 'good' for me, but compared to the situation, their potential, it always be better without it

[exotic spoke]

yeah me too

[young umbra]

everyone got f***ed up by social media

[exotic spoke]

i spent a ton amount of time watching streamers

then i realised recently the dark face of the media

i cant even watch any contents from it

its worse than i can image by myself

[young umbra]

half of my colleges cant even read a whole book anymore

( im in HS right now)

last year

[exotic spoke]

what is hs, i dont know it

sr because english isn't my first lang

[young umbra]

high school?

[exotic spoke]

ah

got it

[young umbra]

neither is mine

[exotic spoke]

im a asian boy

where r u from

[young umbra]

do you mean Andrew Tate and Incels ?

[exotic spoke]

nah

just everything

[young umbra]

or like fake news and stuff

[exotic spoke]

from the small and medium business

everyone try to exploit it to get money

[young umbra]

brazilian imigrant living in Europe right now

[exotic spoke]

of course there is still good one

but the number is just ridiculous

[exotic spoke]

yes

either in my country

noone reads books

[young umbra]

got it... internet was a better place when it wasnt full of companies tryign to manipulate the masses into consumerism

[exotic spoke]

when they see someone read it, they consider that people not "normal"

[exotic spoke]

yes

everything

from your unconcious mind

its not your thought

its things they want you to believe

[young umbra]

i got laughed at because i was actually reading the book that we are suppose to read for the exams lol

[exotic spoke]

thats why people always stuck

[exotic spoke]

yes

even my lecturer

he said me

why u care too much

just a course, just a subject

[young umbra]

bruh lmao

[exotic spoke]

im suprised

=))

i think he dont even know the content of the course

he's able to teach us

because he got his PhD

whenever he taught us sth

he just basically read the slides

and when making the problems, he just looks up in the book

[young umbra]

hate those type of teachers

god damn

[exotic spoke]

he said the worst thing is 'you just need to pay back the money to relearn'

it's just money

lmao

i mean almost everyone around me

look down on the importance of habit, learning and stuffs

i dont even know how they can live a healthy life without considering these aspects

[young umbra]

me neither

and those are the guys who can easily out perform me in tests and even get better grades them me

[exotic spoke]

yes,

[ripe skiff]

@exotic spoke
i can relate to you on the social media situation
one thing that really helped me was just shutting it out completely from my life
for a few months

and when i did feel like, was ready to go back, and not waste my time on it, thats when i did
now also i use only insta apart from dc(to join study vcs) and whatsapp to stay in touch w/ my school and fam
that too i just use insta for dm and posting (im into photo editing)

the break made me realise that the explore page/reels section
is a complete waste of time for me
im not a content creator, this time in life is important for my studying and imo theres no need to watch reels/like posts to stay up to date w/ trends and all

hope this helps
gl!!!

[exotic spoke]

i just realised

they got all that

by what they got from their fam, if u know more about their family condition

u will see it as understandable

[ripe skiff]

there are some teachers on yt who teach really well
you can find someone for your course
i would recommend you a few, but they reach from the engg entrance exam pov

[exotic spoke]

i used to wonder like that

i mean the unconcious action u do is the scariest thing

i dont know how to explain it clearly rn

let me think

so here is my experience:

Im a kind of person, who is naturally curious

like im obssessed with obversing people

when everyone is better than me, or any activity I can't explain it by my own logical way

i will observe them

then, i will make friend, and ask them a lot of questions

it's too much so many people told me that, i asked them because of my curiosity, i didn't even care about them

yup, so by the story they told, and the thing i saw, i will try to connect it to explain the things by my own, until it's quite good for me

so i realised that: the people u see in current time, actually doesnt the one they want to it

it's just i guess 10% they can control over

so 90% is from things they learn unconcious, by the environment, by the habits from the young age and stuffs

and myself also, i realised a lot of things i acquired dont originate from myself

that's i think can explain for u, like why they are so dumb but actually get more things than u

[deft loom]

Hey, I wanna tell my life story too

[exotic spoke]

they just unconciously get it from the subrounding

[exotic spoke]

yup

[young umbra]

makes sense

[exotic spoke]

tell it bro

im curious :3

like im actually able to change myself very quick, just by watching people and realising it by my own

after like 2 months, a lot of people just can't recognise me anymore

[young umbra]

wish that was me

[exotic spoke]

nah, it's risky

a lot of time i changed it a terrible way

so i need to have a lot of time to realise good things

the bad thing is i was taught in the way that

i must realise every opinion and every person in this world is 'good'

and i must try my best to be a good people in others' eye

so at first, i cant even clasify which is good, which is bad

all my worldview is just fake and bullshit

[young umbra]

damn

[exotic spoke]

yes, it's just the time, i care too much about others

i cant even talk any single thought of my own

its just the thing which ruins your mental everyday

i cant even talk to anymore, bc dont even know where to start, where it came from

it was just unconsciously put by my environment around me

now i can freely talk about my opinions more

i knew others dont even care about me, but i did truely believe it until i met my current gf

she showed me the way she can still live well with saying her opinion freely

[deft loom]

So, I did everything as a kid, I was a dancer, ballet, tango, hiphop, etc. I have very good grades, I did skate, rollerskate, bladeskate, I started drawing in a serious way very young, I was a very good kid, but when I grew up it was so much for me, I grew up ugly and fat, and my classmates bullied me, I felt alone, I was more online looking social media and playing games. Then I started to search validation from other, I sexualized myself online, irl, so I could boost my confident in a artificial way but I started to feel guilty, my anxiety was horrible and I started drinking, and at that time I was trying to lose weight because my dancemates were more thin than me, so I used all my money in alcohol and drugs so I couldnt eat. I met people who made to me bad things, I did bad things too...

[exotic spoke]

so what is your current situation Cerito ?

isn't it better now ?

[deft loom]

IS SO GOOD NOW OWO

[exotic spoke]

what's changed bro

[deft loom]

I still have problem trying no to drink, but is better than then.

I am in college

I can concetrate very good

I do sport again

I eat well

[exotic spoke]

good job bro

[deft loom]

I feel good about myself

[exotic spoke]

i still struggle in where to start sporting

i hated the gym, i prefer the freedom

i dont really love playing any sport from the young age too

[deft loom]

I quit dance classes because It was one of my principal pain

[young umbra]

how old are you now cerito ?

[deft loom]

Im young

believe me c,:

[exotic spoke]

it doesnt matter that much

[young umbra]

im guessing that you are in your 20s ?

[exotic spoke]

I also got a gap year, which is considered as terrible thing with people around me

[young umbra]

sorry for asking btw

[deft loom]

you can see my rol that im 18-25 years old, so yeah

[young umbra]

ah yes fr

[exotic spoke]

i fell lucky bc we can find some places like this one

[deft loom]

Sorry if I miss something at writing Im not a native english speaker

[young umbra]

this server ?

[exotic spoke]

U did it well Cerito

[exotic spoke]

yes

[deft loom]

Yes, I really like this place, Im changing my friend group cause people are just mean for some reason they like to talk about other people life

[young umbra]

i hate gossip

[deft loom]

I want a peaceful life

[exotic spoke]

but its complicated to get that btw

[deft loom]

I really like to think about how much I improved, knowing I can improve so much more

[exotic spoke]

unfortunately

[exotic spoke]

yes

[deft loom]

Yes, but I will, I think im in a good way

[exotic spoke]

yah

i feel lucky bc in this server, i can feel free to share my improvement, my question

without any judgement

[deft loom]

Me too

[exotic spoke]

my environment around me is just too toxic

just bad comparison and race

[young umbra]

i mean

[deft loom]

I loved jvs bc I felt so warm watching his videos, it was so natural and not toxic. Because some studyblogs are so toxic nowadays

[young umbra]

it is my first day actually having a conversation in this server

[exotic spoke]

me too bro

actually my second day

[deft loom]

same here

[exotic spoke]

yeah

[young umbra]

and it was already a lot more helpfull than all the chit chat that i make in scholl

[exotic spoke]

the first time i saw his vid, is the vid why he learnt 12 hrs a day

i fell like, wtf, he is so damn good

and when i shared that ideas with others, i laughed at my face

[young umbra]

manly because i fell safer opening up to strangers then with my real life friends/family

[exotic spoke]

everyone including my fam

they laughed when i tried my best to follow that

[deft loom]

Or they only care about the aesthetic, I dont really like aesthetic videos, it gives me anxiety

[exotic spoke]

yes

but its a long journey

happily now i can share all my story with my mom and my gf

not at all, some stories may let they think, so just all important one

[young umbra]

this really shows how f up toxic is the enviroment that i grew up from

[deft loom]

Same here, my bf have a similar story, and I like how we ended the same but also so different

[exotic spoke]

nah, they love tiktok and games

they learnt bc their parents forced them to do that

in other time, they just played games and stuffs

and when they saw me watching these vids, they laughed me

[young umbra]

what videos?

[exotic spoke]

like jvc vids

[young umbra]

ah ok

[deft loom]

In my college some people laugh about being addicted to social media or they joke like is nothing. Social media kills your brain bro

[young umbra]

already killed mine honestly

[exotic spoke]

it is even worse when people try to convince themself to 'familiar' w it

i saw a lot of them

like ting ting

and then like a robot

pick up their phone

although they are good in other fields, but i think through the time, it just harm them

[young umbra]

the worst part i guess

its how brainwashed they got ... like politicaly speaking

[exotic spoke]

yes

u aren't u anymore

like totally controlled, but cant even notice

[deft loom]

I feel sad when people cares so much about appareance, is not letting you live anymore, everything needs to be aesthetic and you need followers etc

[exotic spoke]

yah, like bruh

and when i asked them

why they do that

they cant give a clear reason

just saying

bc i love that

like love because of what

because others love it or sth

btw i feel sleepy rn, good night guys

[deft loom]

Night, here is 3 pm hahah

We hate speaking about social but we are in discord daaamn

Talking with people is good everyone, love yall

[young umbra]

also like

the whole romatization of mental illness

[deft loom]

Yesss

helphelphelp

[young umbra]

i cant even count how many time i rage quit insta reels because of that

[deft loom]

I quit tiktok bc of that

and the hating

I have rage issues, and them I hated everything about tiktok

I hate

Hey, jvs is doing streams right?

Someone can send me the link? Please

[young umbra]

I dont think he is streaming rn

At least not on yt

[young umbra]

Also suffer from it to a certain degree

Never used tik tok

But insta reels are no better

I could even argue that right now they are even worst then tik tok

[mental nebula]

dude fuck short content this shit is ruining lives

rotting your brain and giving you the attention spawn of a fish

[young umbra]

couldnt agree more with you

sadly i got so used to doomscrolling

my screentime sky rocketed

[deft loom]

Weekends I use my cellphone much more, but since is for speaking with my friends or info videos I feel good

I watch series too

But only when I finish my tasks

[young umbra]

its that an app?

[young umbra]

@deft loom

[deft loom]

Is my home page in my cellphone, you can see widgets of my screen time, Google calendar, Google tasks and Dreamfora

[young umbra]

oh okay

im not familiar to iphone so i assumed it was a separet app

[deft loom]

Is an android

Hihi

[young umbra]

lol

bruh moment

[deft loom]

Crazy

[tired canopy]

thanks bro :)

[young umbra]

do someone here use obsidian for studing?

[young umbra]

how do u guys not get distracted when you don't understand smth/are stumped while working on an exercise

cause i noticed thats when i wander off mostly

start fidgeting on my phone n shit

[deft loom]

I push myself to not

[solemn jackal]

it’s about the environment you work in, if you set up an environment that lets you get distracted then it’s much to get distracted. try leaving your phone in the other room or in somewhere inconvenient enough that you can’t reach easily and try to eliminate the common time wasters

try and block your time so you have a couple hours set out of no phone usage and then the rest of the day you can allow yourself back on

[exotic spoke]

that's actually a good sign bro

u realised that, it's good

than u know nothing and let it ruin u

the thing now is, just dont panic

u see it, solve it one by one

calmly and slowly

noone can help u, u know the u the most

even u watch people ok doesnt mean they are actually ok, so just calm down, look inside and be better everytime

[low crypt]

hello first year uni student here

how do I manage waking up at 5 am, coming home at 5:30 pm. going to the gym, studying and getting enough sleep

what i do currently is I come home at 5:30, lunch break for 30 mins, light studying for 1 hour, then I go to the gym at 7:20 and come back at 9

then i try to study a bit more but there aint enough time

thoughts

[exotic spoke]

i think

just spend ur time trying to adapt with the environment first

changing from highschool to uni contains lots of things u have to know

[low crypt]

Can you give some examples

[ripe skiff]

throw your phone away

or try using app blocker w/ timers
like forest

or if you have samsung/apple
you can set up modes so that you can block the distracting apps (like games or social media)
if you do have to use your phone while studying like using a calculator or seeing an assignment

[ripe skiff]

love the setup bro

[young umbra]

word bros

preciate the advice

[gentle merlin]

guys i need someone to help me how to know what the university of tokyo require an international student to enter the university

the medical faculity

[drowsy hawk]

anyone here using musescore? is it reliable?

[vivid summit]

me gusta tu homepage :>

[deft loom]

Gracias

[young umbra]

how can i set up my phone like that ? any tips?

[young umbra]

what do you mean by reliable?

[ripe skiff]

which os do you use?

[drowsy hawk]

like no viruses lol ahaha

and true scores

[ripe skiff]

|| ||

[young umbra]

do you mean the site or the progam itself?

[young umbra]

android

[drowsy hawk]

the site ahha i don't program anything

[young umbra]

pretty sure the official site is virus free

[ripe skiff]

oh alr
ig they have just put their apps in folders
or better
i have like minimal apps on my homescreen
just the necessities(i use samsung)

they also have screen time, calender widgets set up

[young umbra]

but the score itself depends on who posted it

[young umbra]

got it

i normally just use niagara laucher as my go to laucher

but i would love to have a screen time widged right in my homepage

[silver rock]

is the 5am - 5:30pm just classes for 12 hours straight?

for me, studying after 3-5 pm depending on the day isn't optimal

[granite badger]

what e reader do yall rec?

[silver rock]

you could spend downtime in that 5am - 5:30pm block studying

[silver rock]

as much as i dislike the amazon ecosystem, i've had my eye on a kindle for a while now

then again, i dont have one

[granite badger]

yeah, jv recommends some international one but idk what it’s called

[silver rock]

i buy books :,)

[silver rock]

i wonder what the difference is :<c

[young umbra]

Kindle paperwhite has yet to let me down

[exotic spoke]

i dont know about ur school

but for my school, just joining some events, a lots of events, a lot of workshops

participating in a bunch of them

i had a lot of good relationship from these btw

and going around your school during the breaktime

for some people who love watching people, it was worked

that's all i can think of for now

[normal otter]

how to cram

its 7pm now

i need to learn two subjects

idk shit

[young umbra]

hey

[eternal prawn]

hello i need a help asap related to something can anyone help?
so like i am sorry to bother i dont have any friends to suggest so can anyone tell me how you revise physics as your main subject like should i just read my notes and see numericals or i just read notes then started doing questions on it? and google isnt helping

[deft loom]

Depends on the person, but I usually read my notes, understand the rules, make questions, then I do some practical shit, formula, etc.

If I don't understand something, then I go back to the notes

I am into numbers but is not part of my career really

[dry crystal]

I’ve been using a Kobo Libra 2 for the past few months and it’s awesome

Kobo are easy to « hack » if you are into homebrew community also

[mortal fable]

hey, is anyone here ever moved from a political studies major to working in marketing & management sort of job position? any advice for someone who wants to pursue higher education, like masters in marketing & management? thanks!

[deft loom]

My screen time is 4 hours daaaamn

[young umbra]

Mine is like 6 hrs

[young umbra]

@deft loom we both need some help

[deft loom]

Yas

[sour stream]

any tips on how to wake up early and on time to study ?

[sour stream]

but ill turn it off and go right back to bed

[dry crystal]

guys I just broke my phone (while trying to repair it lol…) and I am looking for a minimal phone for college, but yet capable of running apps like Telegram / BlaBlaCar (carpooling app)… I want to get it secondhand to save more money! I think my budget is under 250€

300max

I used to spend too much time on my old phone ugh

I wanna try getting the iPhone SE 2020, it’s available under 150€ and the screen should make media consumption uncomfortable

[young umbra]

One thing that has helped is that visualise waking up early and completing my work . Idk why this helps but after this I have been consistently waking up early

[young umbra]

Visualizing things before making them really helps a lot idk why

Is like acting

But in rl

[sour stream]

i see

[sour stream]

SE is reliable , especially if u have an apple setup and friends who use apple
its power is also just enough to do normal task but also not enough to handle high end games or stuff

i suggest looking for youtube reviews theyre ur best bet

or u could just use this lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VXWW-A9mJQ&pp=ygUfbWluaW1hbCBwaG9uZXMgdW5kZXIgMTAwIHBvdW5kcw%3D%3D

[dry crystal]

I’ve watched it but phone market is changing quite fast and I wanted to know other people opinions! Thx for the reply tho :))

[lunar smelt]

why no vid for past year?

[sour stream]

ey np

[sour stream]

life
he has a life out of youtube

[lunar smelt]

ok

[deft loom]

Talking about minimal phones, It doesn't work for me because I need to be able to carry some documents, and laptops and tablets are expensive for me, so I just have settings and I customize my cellphone. I just wanted to share that

[tired canopy]

my phone is old but that doesn't stop me from working well, it's a problem when I go out

[sour stream]

if ur rich enough to buy a decent laptop , go for it and keep a dumbphone

the laptop is bulky and big enough that u wont get too distracted

and the dumbphone will fullfill all ur needs

ig the laptop does have to be able to run ur apps

maybe a tablet is better imo

[deft loom]

I have a laptop but is heavy and old, so Im wating to use it all

Im saving for a lighter laptop, if this laptop dies I will be able to buy one better

Is a good laptop

So I use my phone to carry with me everywhere and my laptop is for working home

but when I get the new one I will have a new phone also, I guess

I want a flip onw

[sour stream]

cool cool
i have a below average laptop but eh it does the job

[deft loom]

I recommend minimun 8 gb of RAM, so is faster doing tasks

[wispy tartan]

Hi everyone

[deft loom]

Hii

[strong saddle]

902/903kc but it has like 1gb ram lmao

i use it for music/podcastts & emergency contacts

[young umbra]

pretty much a bunch of recent smarphones come with custom options to help you to control your scrren time. "dumbphones" are pretty much a scam.

[young umbra]

inst 4 hours the average?

[deft loom]

Yes, but I was having just 2 hours of screen time so I double my time

I wanna eat better, any suggestions?

[glass scroll]

my fitnesspal free download calorie tracker

[strong estuary]

hey guys, can u tell me pls what laptop james use now?

[north galleon]

Hey

[young umbra]

I think he uses a macbook and ThinkPad

[deft loom]

I cant look for calories :c

but I was thinking to trying eating more in home, so I will not buying junk food anymore and I will try to do my meals

[strong saddle]

chronometer is the best free app

it allows you to see the vitamin and mineral contents of your foods as well

and buy a scale!

I swear to you that if you begin tracking every single calorie you put into your mouth

your eating habits will change

[deft loom]

Thats so nice, is really what I need

[strong saddle]

that self-induced guiltt crazy

also, if you ever get into fitness or something that'll supplement your motivation to eat a more balanced diet

[strong saddle]

good to hear!

[deft loom]

Ty for all the advice @glass scroll and @strong saddle

[cursive olive]

surely you have heard "eat whole foods"

[vapid iron]

heya. kind of a "how do I get out of this rut" question, sorry for the length.......

i'm a postdoc with a full-time job (45h/week) and additional writing work in my free time (10-20h/week) since a few years. I've been fighting procrastination, which worsened over the years, since 2020: blocked all the social/websites/apps, journaled and assessed my working time, reconnected with my fears, worked on feeling my emotions, did little intermediate chapter-finished-rewards, etc..

After a year filled to choking with work (50-75 hours/week), and now several setbacks/rejections since July, i'm really worn down, but only like 75% to the goal. I have 5 open projects I need to finish, which all require so much to get finished and are all so anxiety-inducing (what if they get rejected?! what if there's a problem? etc)...
how do I actually get the motivation to finish these? I know of the 2-min technique, of 25min pomodoro, 5-4-3-2-1, putting yourself deadlines, but if you really don't want to do it in your gut, it all doesn't help. but all the years of work would be lost if I don't do these 25% ... one year more. Anyone got an idea?

[deft loom]

So, sometimes the basics is all you need, when I dont feel like doing it I go really honest with me, like: TF ARE YOU THINKING? IF YOU DONT TRY YOU WILL NEVER KNOW, SO GET TF UP AND JUST DO IT! because when you finish, you will feel much better

[vapid iron]

I actually would like to do those 25%. But every time I sit down to write, I spend the time surfing on unblocked websites or finding newer and newer ways to kill the time..

ah. the caps actually helped

[deft loom]

Sometimes we overthink and we need to take action on that, be conscious of what you think

Get honest and say it outloud! are you losing time daaamn, need to finish that crap as fast as posible

like me now

I need to finish this thing, wait a minute

[vapid iron]

yeah totally losing time! I hate it. It eats up all my life, procrastination and work...

[deft loom]

Just do it, eat the frog now so you stop thinking on that

Be conscious on what your doing, it has conscequences and you dont want that consequences, so keep working

I believe in you

[drowsy hawk]

I'd say you are on a good path and some projects just need more time than expected. If you pressure yourself so much that you don't even enjoy it, you're going to postpone it undefinietly until you have an actual break where you can rest and do nothing. Pushing yourself is good, but you're flirting with/ if not already in/ burnout. So schedule some time to rest, and only if you have an idea, write that down and go with the flow. Going on walks with no intention of working can help out tremedously with processing information and connecting things out for a new perspective ^^

[vapid iron]

Thank you to both of you :)

[deft loom]

Im depressed :D

[sly trench]

Why are y

[young umbra]

I recommend you justin sung video on youtube

[young umbra]

finally someone who knows about Justin sung

his method of learning its really life changing

[young umbra]

Me too tbh

[exotic spoke]

too much aspects bro

i think just choosing one to improve at the time

think of the most important in these aspects rn for u

Okay, I want to have some advices about my problem btw

The thing is, my life is turning excellently. I quit social media, building good habits, improving my concentration (1hr rn depending on the learning materials), but the problem is Im in a relationship rn, and I dont really have any experience with it yet (my first gf btw).

So, for me, love is empathy, understanding and spending worthy time for each others. We can honestly tell every parts of our life to the opposite and can listen to other heartly.

But for my gf, from my perspective, i think she is currently spending a lot of time trying to call me, like sometimes she just calls me a lot (2-4 hrs calling a day). Im okay with that, because I think it's norm if she misses me and want to talk to me, and I too. But through almost the time during our vid call, she seems to be busy, talking with friends, doing stuffs, and dont really pay attention to the talk.

Yup, so that bothers me. I tried to talk to her, but she said that she missed me and want my existence. I also talked to her my opinion and my schedule, always announce her what Im doing and why I hate wasting time on nothing.

So I wonder if I just "dont love her enough", love her less than she loves me, or she is just childish and stuffs.

[exotic spoke]

yeah, I appreciate that

I mean, I dont know how people are absorbed the idea of 'taking a rest' and 'burnout' everywhere. I mean right here is a lot of them dont even try to do anything, just thinking and procastinate all the time. And then, after working like some hrs, I said they're burnout and need rest. They dont really focus while they was working too.

Sorry for my bad vocab and grammar, but hopefully u guys can get the idea.

Due to my experience, learning and working is the most fullfiling and relaxed experience u can ever get

I dont mean the act of learning all day

but to learn hard and then, u can apply it, u can connect the ideas between different categories, between different courses, it's just amazing

It likes the ability to have your own interesting world on your brain

So for me rn, Im trying to maximize all the support I have, all the habits in order to learn as much as I can

So its so inspirational to see other case of working hard

[deft loom]

Its not something easy to answer

[sly trench]

just vent that here

[deft loom]

The burnout is more when you only use will power and you dont really make yourself to like what your doing, but when you do creative stuff like cinema or painting, is normal

[deft loom]

So, I think is that It happened a lot in my life and I dont have selfsteem, I feel really lonely... Im like a sims with the social bar in red. I have suicidal thoughts, but I will not doing that, Im conscious that is bc I dont feel good and I wanna relax, my anxiety is very bad this days... I think I am not prepared for my final tests and that is now, I think. Also I have problems with my bf, is not big deal but I feel lonely so, I cant see him that often bc I live in other city and we dont write really, is just good morning and good night, but It doesnt affected me until now cause I have this problem in my mental

[sly trench]

just this?

Don’t invalidate what you experience because there are others who experience more or less

lol

[deft loom]

I dont invalidate bc of that

[sly trench]

i mean that is fine

[young umbra]

This reminds me of a Mac miller lyric " I spent the whole day in my head
Do a little spring cleaning, I'm always too busy dreaming
Well, maybe I should wake up instead
A lot of things I regret but I just say I forget "

Most of the time the problems are just created by our head . I wish there was a turn off switch for my thoughts

[snow lagoon]

If you do nothing but think, all you will have to think about is thoughts

[deft loom]

yes

[vapid iron]

Thomas, I think your gf might be in a similar situation that I had been as a student with my LDR. I was egoistical by not realizing my impact on other people, even though I wanted to be nice and welcoming and the best person ever, I never reflected much, and never dug into my feelings or what I wanted from people. For example I wanted to voicechat while I was cooking, and my bf talked to me, but when I once called my parents they were like WTF this cooking noise is so loud we can't stand it and you're not focused on what we talk.

But one of the most valuable things in life is someone who really listens to you, really focusses on you, and thinks about the things you say - when you want to talk, and not when they want to listen to you. Don't squander your valuable resource, time, and energy, because she might not be aware how much the 2-4 hour inane chatter costs you. And this might cause resentfulness over a long time
Alternatives: So maybe, tell your gf that you can be there for her, for example as video in one of jvs' rooms, so she can watch you studying, when she needs a bit of accompaniement. Or you jog/game/clean and talk inanely with her doing the same things, not properly listening.

[novel basin]

Hello folks, how can i mute join sounds on discord on phone

it interrupts me all the time

[young umbra]

settings > notifications > disable sounds

[sour stream]

|| Hey guys so I'm in grade 12 and I have a life deciding exam pretty soon , 2.5 months to be exact
And we'll recently last year I found out about porn and started beating the meat
Anyone have tips on how to stop it ? It's gone beyond my control I've tried so many things
No I'm doing it almost twice a day everyday and I feel like a loser and this addiction keeps distracting me from what I do and just guilts me into doing it again
Idk what to do now ||

In appropriate question above , adult content warning

[vapid iron]

check out HealthyGamer youtubes. he's got a lot of podcasts talking about the dopamine rush and addiction regarding this

there's several other youtube and podcast resources all going towards dopamine fast and similar that talk about this spiral you're in. hormones suck sometimes, and we add our own swath of problems with procrastination

there's two problems, one is the procrastination because of the large test, and the other one is this new-found habit you want to shake.
it's great you've found a problem to improve on :)

[sour stream]

Alright , will do

Read your earlier messages and I see that you are a postdoc ! That's actually really interesting imo
I wanted to do a PhD in astrophysics , I just really like the amazing things that you learn in that field , but the country I live in mostly just supports engineers and doctors , and in engineering only 'popular' branches such as computer science, electronics etc.

I just wanna ask a few questions if you don't mind :))

What field do you specialize in?
What's your salary ? is the salary the same forever or will you get a raise ? Private or gov sector ? Is doing a post doc even worth the effort ? Is the path to getting a post doc expensive? If I have a family to provide for should I even go for a post doc in the first place ?

I'm really sorry for bombarding you with this lengthy rant and random questions I just couldn't stop myself from asking
If you'd like to not answer some stuff I totally understand ! Privacy is of utmost importance.

[sour stream]

I know this sounds like Im-a-knowitall but I've seen so many videos talking about this and they provide the same solution
They give the same ' oh you click and hormone and you click again ' yes , I get it but how do I fix it ?? I've tried so many of them my mind hurts

[sour stream]

There's always something to improve on !
Can never be perfect but you can always be close to it 😉

[vapid iron]

:D i'll talk a bit about the fields I know, biology and medicine. The core issue with biology is that it functions on grants and you will very rarely find a job that is time unlimited (what's that called in english?). it's like applying to find a new job every 3-7 years. this is OK in the first 10 years after uni, but when you're 45, have kids, and really want to just buy an appartment or a car or have some financial stability there is very little leeway regarding possible avenues for your career. a lot of my colleagues became salespersons for pharma industry or similar because they couldn't stand the constant strain of grants/jobs/papers/rejections.
Biology in the lab is also a lot like gardening or cooking. if you like either, enjoyment is certain. But between constant repetitive workloads and frequently frustrating results, you need to have a good idea of why you want to do this work to keep a level head. as a postdoc in this sector, you will ALWAYS be the one in charge, responsible for everything, and some experiments are merciless in their time schedule. Consider well which times you want to go to work to replace your colleagues or students. Because people get sick, people need to do xyz in the weekends, and if you're a nice person or someone who can't deal with conflicts, you will find yourself frequently upholding your work like Atlas the world globe.
Medicine is a shitload of responsibility which will creep and creep and creep up on you over the years. At the start it's a lot of rote memorization. if you're really, really bad at memory, I would actually not recommend to do any "talkative" medicine such as internal medicine, neurology, pathology... consider your 3D talent when you consider surgery. and lastly, remember that some docs work in really weird, body stressing positions (dentist; ophtha, ortho,..)

However, with medicine, you will have the possibility of a very long contract and job stability. Both job groups after about 10 years experience make up for a salary of 100k in Europe. Which is middle-upper class, like, a house or larger flat is really fucking expensive and you'd never be able to save for one, but you can have a medium car, one kid, decent food, and two holidays per year for that money

[sour stream]

I see
So it's either enjoy what you do 24/7 or stress out
Just reading this makes me tired , can't believe how much you must go through everyday talking to people controlling things being incharge , Damn I'm getting a headache already!
I actually had the impression that doing research/academia gives you a lot of job freedom and no stress/pressure from superiors unlike IT jobs , looks like its just as hectic
But I mean medicine is in demand it makes sense that people with a good amount of experience get 100k a year which is still middle upper like you said not too fancy

[low nymph]

Wow!

[vapid iron]

Finding and suriviving a phd, the supervisor is key, and the lab boss. Those persons can make or break your entire existence. I spent 3 years hacking through the underbrush of the jungle, trying to drink the ocean, coping with having absolutely no help aside of accept/reject feedback at the end, and still prevailing. but it's not really a case of what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, because with a team which you love, colleagues which are not your direct intimate competition, and a boss that you can ask stupid small questions at and get actual usable answers from, will make you bloom with papers and happiness. publishing is the lifeblood in both med and bio lab stuff, so if you find a group with people who help you with statistics, who tell you which authors and papers are relevant, what is important ... you will skyrocket much more easily than when you have a dire, but well-payed job.

it's also a question of your own character. I think I was intimidated by people easily, which made me have this experience. in the work, usually, somehow, you get life lessons thrown at you which should be adressed by soul-searching and correcting yourself and your self-confidence and self-love etc, and if you don't learn the lessons, work will hit you again and again with these lessons relentlessly until you understand them xD

in central europe, university and phd's are free... some even have phd programs to accomodate people who work. in this case, it is absolutely worth it, because it'll raise your "worth" to the job and give you another argument for yourself. if you need to pay it yourself, you will need to consider very hard if it's worth the investment.
with kids/family, you will feel immense amounts of regret, I guess. I felt regret that I couldn't be with my parents, so I can't fathom what you feel if you have a spouse/kids.

one last consideration - if you're a chronic, severe procrastinator, an academic work surrounding WILL extend the SAME work surrounding that you had as a student. If you do consider to go towards an academic route with lots of work in your free time, procrastination WILL eat your entire life - if you do not smash it into oblivion with clear structures, deadlines, and extremely clear work/life borders. it's absolutely possible and very rewarding, but procrastination is insiduous and will strip you of any enjoyment for years if you don't act decisively.

also, astrophysics?! How incredibly awesome is that!! 😃

[sour stream]

Wow.
These answers are phenomenal
Nothing like what you'll find on Google or other websites
I'm going to probably read these pure texts of knowledge a couple times
I really really thank you for your time and patience
♥️🙏

[vapid iron]

Nah no worries, it's really just a small glimpse into a category full of different perspectives, full of different characters!! it was fun to write something at long last xD i'll be around :D

But, to go back to your question. did you try switching that one addiction with another? such as stopping in your tracks when you go to this site, and then rather watch youtube shorts or something similarly activating? I think you compound the procrastination first with "dopamine"-"dense"-stuff, and then secondly you compound that "dopamine"-dense stuff with your bodily hormones that are extremely intense || when considering sex || as that's one of the base essences of our lizard brain

i've switched out youtube and reddit for reading fantasy books. less impact on my life, same amount of hours wasted. but after a reading some airport literature for 5 hours you feel less disgusting than after watching youtube or your similar stuff for 5 hours. So if you take a first step, could you eliminate that factor in your issue? or at least do some "intermittent fasting" and only start after 16:00 ?

[sour stream]

I've tried some things like that
Studying instead of thinking about it
I've tried yt shorts too
But it always circles back to the same thing
Even shorts has highly explicit content that you can't avoid but yeah I'll try it again especially things that replace the dopamine things with other activities
Im thinking of reading books too
I'll start today and see how it goes ! Haven't got any good books yet but do have a lot of studying to do :)

I've done many methods and have been able to manage to hold a streak for a few days but always don't hold it for longer

I guess I have to avoid the triggers mainly

[lyric kindle]

surely someone who hasn’t had temu..

https://temu.com/s/AAjgj8UFPGNPlXrP

pls bro im desperate

[warm lantern]

I already have Temu :/

[lament bay]

Hey, I have to study a subject that involves a lot of cramming. I haven't had these types of subjects in years (they usually involve maths or programming). And I really don't know how to get into it. I can study but the next day I dont remember most of it, any suggestion?

[ivory vapor]

nah Temu gonna sell your bank info fr

watch out

they're wilding with that shit

[young umbra]

cramming is harder when it involves math

cuz you not only have to learn the theory, you also have to learn to use it in problem-solving

[lament bay]

Nono

I am used to study maths and programming

This is note one of those exams

Sorry if I wrote that wrong, english is not my native language

[young umbra]

whats your native language?

write in it, no probs

[lament bay]

Spanish

But the thing is this is a cramming exam that doesnt involve maths

[young umbra]

so you need to cram a lot of text but you have no practice doing that?

[silent kettle]

Anyone knows how to install codeblocks on macbook so it will not crash every 5 seconds

[lament bay]

Yeah thats It 🙂

[young umbra]

hmm

what I'll usually do in that situation is write a lot

I will just read it all if I only have time for that, because that is better than nothing

But if I have enough time for it, I'll also write it down somewhere, to remember it better

bonus points if you have enough time to practice it

now, it is pretty tiresome

but it has yielded good results

[lament bay]

So.. write a lot right?

[young umbra]

ye

preferably by hand

[lament bay]

Okeyyy, thanks a lot

[young umbra]

no probs

[sharp hinge]

hey people
i have a very important question
COSIDER you are studying right, you studied studied repeated and wtv but when you come to solve an exam question, you notice that you have information but you cant make connection between the slides and the question. i mean, you see a question yeah? but you forgot/dont know where the professor asked from what slides
how can i solve this issue guys ????
PLEASE help

[keen condor]

solve some old solved questions so you can mix all your knowledge

[clear storm]

depends on the subject but for ap economics (currently in micro), i like to take my notes and make myself my own test- definitions first, then like a comparison thing for different topics and then the graphs and equations.

but i'd imagine there are times when the professor/teacher didn't cover that question at all but it's there on the test.

[noble hedge]

Yo just wanted to say after watching the most recent video I was reminded of why I wanted to purse digital minimalism but I just have not figured out how to do it consistently, I'd love to hear anyone else's experience and recommendations with trying to manage their time well consistently.

[novel pewter]

I feel you. I dabbled in it during my last year of high school but kind of forgot about it after the year ended. Now that I'm in college though it's kind of become more necessary in order to manage my time

At least for me it's definitely something u have to ease into otherwise it's just like going cold turkey and you're not gonna last. if you have specific tasks to accomplish or hobbies you'd like to partake in in place of when you'd normally just turn to your phone or smthn it definitely helps than just saying "I will not use my phone/devices for X amount of time"

Im still trying to figure out the balance too since ive only recently looked to these ideas again

[noble hedge]

Still, thanks for sharing

[novel pewter]

np

[lyric kindle]

wait actually i think i can still get cuts from existing user :0

[lyric kindle]

algs i was probably already on their radar 🔥

[young umbra]

what do yall use for timers

cause im looking 4 shit that wont have me needing my phone

[young umbra]

I use ticktick. It has app blocker and quite nice user interface

[young umbra]

digital minimalism and time management are two different things. DM will allow you to have more time in your hands and less distractions, but how you use that time is a whole beast of its own to be solved.

if you pursue digital minimalism to become more productive, you need to develop digital minimalism AND time management side-by-side

[sour stream]

Completely agree
Going minimalist means you'll lose a lot of things that you might need , cloud storage , online lectures , apps such as obsidian or notion or whatever u use , some educational institutes may or may not send updates/messages in an app that is not supported by your phone
You'll lose contact with what's happening in the world , even if it doesn't matter , staying up to date helps sometimes

[young umbra]

the forest app is paid...can you suggest any free alternative

[noble hedge]

Dude I love ticktick one of my favorite time management apps for when I do manage my time

so worth the 20 something a year for the subsciption

[young umbra]

what would you use it for?

[young umbra]

ooh i found one ty for replying tho

[oak cedar]

Ok so

I have a problem

Well kinda

And it's like, there's some stuff I just have to do to get away from work and to just chill

So like what's something I can get into without messing up my brain with screen time and useless crap

[deft loom]

Sooo, you need to find that yourself, but If it helps I read, also I do skate, dance, listen to music, meditate, just sit down and relax, work out, DIY, organization...

audiobooks

I do scrapbook too

[oak cedar]

Hmm

Ok