#What's something you wish you had learned sooner in life?

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waxen grail
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Let's share some insights we've made that have been valuable to us, maybe they can help someone else too!

heady quest
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That 2 + 2 = 4 and not FISH

waxen grail
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Thank you des, I appreciate your first submission to this post 🙏

cinder lantern
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I must be able to tell when people aren't reliable or are trying to get me into things I don't want to do so I can set boundaries beforehand.

chrome fractal
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Realizing that not giving a f is very important. In the last years i cared about everyone alot like how they think about me. Now i just do what i like even if people dont like me and i enjoy life way more. When someone says sth i just tell them idc and go on with my life. Even if only i have this opinion its better than changing yourself for someone. So even if youre alone just be yourself and you will find your people. I know this sounds dumb but its actually like that. But being alone for a long time is ok aswell as long as you enjoy what your doing

modern ruin
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don't work too hard till you lose everything else
ur grandparents will pass, ur cousins will grow up and you will never get that time back to make memories
take note of your health too, exercise and health shouldn't be secondary to your studies or work
if you are losing an hour to sleep to get one extra point on a test that doesnt contribute greatly to your graduating score, take the damn hour and sleep

you can sacrifice a lil of some stuff like scrolling on social media, gaming, etc. but don't forget to cherish the simple things in life, you never know when you'll lose them

modern ruin
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the rest of the world can wait. you're not missing out on anything. you are in control.

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// got a problem?
no:
then don't worry, enjoy yourself!

yes:
is there a solution?
no >> dw there's nothing you can do then, you can focus on reducing the impact but really, just let nature take its course and deal with what you got
yes >> then dw! seems like you've got it under control and you just have to follow through!

not everything is an avengers-level threat, your worry is valid but don't let it escalate till it's uncontrollable

modern ruin
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// there is a lot of doors that open up to you when you actually reach out. work on your charisma and social skills, they can potentially save ur butt and/or improve your life

i was interested in this one girl who liked tech, never was a tech person but she seemed super cool being a coder. i chatted and took note of stuff she did. she was v happy about getting into some coding programme which was v exclusive and helpful. remained in contact, found out that there was an event related to it, attended, got interested, applied for the following year's cohort and now i'm learning to code under Apple for free.

some companies came to my school for careers fest and i decided to just talk to the people there and crack jokes to make them laugh beyond just learning about their company and asking questions. i shared some designs i made for fun and bantered, the ladies there liked me so much one of them literally said "i want to adopt you" and said she could find me smth to do where i could just play around with cool designs and make stuff for them. at that time i was also looking for an internship so i said "sure! just ask my teacher first!" cracked more jokes and then sent a follow-up email to them including my designs and teacher's contact. now they're currently finding a way to get me as an intern and i don't have to be stuck sending formal stuffy emails to company i end up getting ghosted by.

at a tech convention, i saw that the guest speaker was actually a girl my age who was doing college courses on AI. i felt a little shy 'cuz she was so impressive, but i was like, "she's a kid like me! she won't be stuck up or something, there's no harm in talking to her" and so i asked if she wanted to steal some cake from the convention and spent the rest of the day having fun w her, now we're friends.

learn how to socialise and network, you know more about the world, form more relationships and maybe they will come in handy one day!

lime schooner
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The biggest shift for me in my music was learning to listen to my own playing as if it was the work of someone else. Now, the first time I recorded myself I wasn't perfect. (I'm still not 😅 ). But when I listened to my playing as if it was another player I heard good in it, and could see how others could enjoy it also. That was years ago, and while I've grown in many ways since then, I've found I can genuinely enjoy listening to myself now!

It's a pretty simple question - "What would I say to someone who showed me [effort in any area, looked like me, struggled in this area like me, etc]." But it is crazy how much more encouraging you can be for someone else than for yourself. Slowly but surely, it's enabled me to look at my own work that way also! Staying aware of where I can grow, but also finding the good in where I am right now. :)

dreamy lodge
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I learned a while ago that Christianity is so real. I asked the lord to show himself real to me and he did and I can NOT explain to you the joy and the realness of his love and everything

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I can tell you some of the miracles he’s done in my life alone and in the Bible if anyone is curious

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Just consider the fact that God is real and is reaching his hand out to you and waiting for you to grasp it so he can lead you through depression, unknowingness, sadness, rejection, and troubled times.

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He’s so real. 😭

modern ruin
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love urself, life will be easier
you dont have to say you're perfect (no one is), just tell urself "i like the way I am, and i have the power to become a better version of myself, i am a work in progress"
esp helps with body image, you just feel better and happy, you can still change and be happy with who you are

warm jay
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For me it's setting boundaries. Spent at least half of my childhood a burned-out wreck because I felt like I always had to do everything/be there for everyone/never have my own personal space, and by the time I figured out it wasn't reasonable to expect people to read minds and I had to tell them to back off, I had at least one relationship with someone who I think just enjoyed feeling in control and several others who were so deeply accustomed to never having any pushback from me they felt like I was being unreasonable and taking something from them if I tried to maintain some pretty basic boundaries. Not a fun transition, definitely wish I'd learned to stand up for myself before accidentally training everyone in my life to walk all over me and think that was normal.

sturdy skiff
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learn how to be bad at things
accept that you'll embarrass yourself to begin with, but the only way to achieve a high quality end result is starting out bad, then months/years of slowly being not as bad
still struggling with this but getting there 👍

modern ruin
nova haven
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To not eat too much