#FIRST LOVE

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gray spoke
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Tell us about your first love. Your crush. Your first kiss. Pics are encouraged as well

halcyon dove
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PFFT imagine having a first love 😎

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when u could instead, be a chad like me

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and kill ur feelings 😎

gray spoke
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I actually never been in love. I'm too mature for love. Just wanna hear stories from maa homies

swift granite
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I'm narcissistic, I love myself.

gray spoke
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Cool

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Ig it was a bad idea making this forum.

halcyon dove
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nah dw about it

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soon u'll hear peeps talking about their first love

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u just had the bad luck of having me and ANEE notice ur forum post first xD

maiden mesa
gray spoke
vestal tiger
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Damn people that have had love before don’t want to share it seems

swift granite
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Where are all the love gurus at

patent pecan
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the person reading this

tulip fable
sand mason
sand mason
sand mason
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i’ll talk about my stuff later btw

tulip fable
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slowly learning to fix it

sand mason
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easiest way out of the friend zone is to not be friends when you start

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and most importantly, just have confidence

tulip fable
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then make a move

sand mason
sand mason
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have basic convo with her to get name and general info ofc

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but then ask her out

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don’t wait to make a move since longer you wait the worse your chances are

tulip fable
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she doesn’t even know who tf i am

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she sees me

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but she has never talked to me until like friday

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i’ll make my move within the week because doing so immediately. she’s also kinda shy so i need her to be comfortable around me

sand mason
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introduce yourself and ask her out

sand mason
tulip fable
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cause it seems like it worked

sand mason
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the entire point of dating is to learn about eachother

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at its base that’s what it’s for that is

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don’t become friends then ask her out

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that’s how you get slapped into the friend zone

tulip fable
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i’ll try it out

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thx man

sand mason
sand mason
patent pecan
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you bby ❤️

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😏 😘

gray spoke
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What?

brazen ember
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I love working out

flint depot
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yeah i would give you everything just to forget about this
that was my first love

vestal tiger
upbeat otter
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… I read the first 4 chats of this thread and I’m very concerned for y’all 🤣

upbeat otter
# sand mason easiest way out of the friend zone is to not be friends when you start

Personally I disagree, but I think that depends on the person. I wouldn’t date someone I wasn’t friends with first. I think the base of a relationship is friendship. However this may have worked for me in the past because the people I dated I had become friends with first not really interested in dating and then began to like later on. Usually would start flirting a little bit and if they reciprocated asked them out. I’ve tried it twice, it’s worked twice but that’s just my experience

astral perch
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my first love was my drawing teacher in high school. Mamta mam. She was around 27 that time and I was 17. I left school and her as I could not express to her. Now I don't do this mistake of making friends bcse it hurts when they leave. I many times after that tried to make friends. My eyes find pure soul but I cannot find. Mostly when I say that money does not matter to me mental connection does people vanish. So I only love my pc bcse it powers on when I need and I achieve many things with help of it.

snow rain
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For some reason I was so much more of a simp in 1st and 2nd grade than I am in 7th grade. People always say that you start simping for people in middle school, but I was a HUGE simp in 2nd grade. Anyone else experience this?

kindred vale
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a random girl I met (and didn't talk to) when I was like 5 or 6 years old LOL

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maybe that was a crush or whatever and not love but...

gray spoke
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Girl I liked in 2nd grade laughed at me when I said I liked her

gray spoke
gray spoke
gray spoke
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dunno, dont remember all that

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love is temporary, being strong and discipline are eternal

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that's why i lack them all

weak lynx
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Fax.. But y r the first love stories soo much painful.. 🤕

vital yoke
gray spoke
uncut plover
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Guys what’s a gorl

gray spoke
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jim

weak lynx
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ye..finally resorting to jim ..

weak lynx
quasi sierra
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I don’t know what loves feel like, I’m not being edgy but like 2 years without touching grass because of quarantine, made me not met a lot of people irl, but now it’s over. Met a lot of people at school, but I don’t know if I have a crush, I don’t have any feelings towards any person. I just don’t know.

grand imp
# quasi sierra I don’t know what loves feel like, I’m not being edgy but like 2 years without t...

I know the feeling. Sometimes you don't know you love someone until something happenes. I had a really good female friend I met at university. I liked her the most of all people outside my highschool friendgroup. I long thought it was just friendships. One day see asked me out on a date, we converted something we had planned a month before into a date. That month long my head was spinning from the feeling getting asked out by her. Then I knew I loved her. Date happened and we're now three months into a relationship.

gray spoke
gray spoke
quasi sierra
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Idk

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I’m mostly wanna have fun and don’t care about relationships yet

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Just wanna live young

gray spoke
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I'm not in a relationship either

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I'm just not a relationship guy

orchid dawn
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My first love left me
My first crush said she hates me
I've never kissed anyone
My life's dry. I get no girls. It's not like I want any. I want women. MUSCULAR WOMEN who'd encourage me to workout and maybe workout together. I girl ik from my prev school (junior) supports me a lot and also works out a LOT. She has a boyfriend though and ofc wouldn't say yes to me cuz I'm a lazy idiot.

gray spoke
restive canyon
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Interesting

brazen ember
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I fucking love hamburgers

vital yoke
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REALBRO

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REAL

restive canyon
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Dub

slim mica
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better to have loved & lost then to have never loved at all

restive canyon
slim mica
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i see things that way

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what would be ur perspective

restive canyon
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Well

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I hear it hurts a lot emotionally

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Plus it can ruin other aspects of your life

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That’s not cool imo

slim mica
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i was quite distraught the next 2 months after i lost her, quite, still find myself talking at the wall

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but what doesnt kill u also makes u stronger as long as u dont let things kill u

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let me SAY i felt suicidal once more, when prior i was fine & stable, but the negative feelings just dont last forever

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you will lose people in life, they could in fact get taken at any moment so being able to handle that is pretty nice imo

restive canyon
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Hm

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I’ve not had that before so I suppose we will see

slim mica
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yk in the beginning of january this year i was thinkign “wow i havent had a death in my family before, like none of my relatives have not died from old age essentially” then my aunt ran over my 1 year old cousin

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& in december was when i was broken up with, so its like

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things can also ALWAYS get worse

restive canyon
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Wombo combo

slim mica
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IKR

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LMAOAO

restive canyon
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L

restive canyon
slim mica
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well i dont wanna sound like a bad person but like idk

restive canyon
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Haha

slim mica
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cus the situation with the kid getting run over was like

restive canyon
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Oh no

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Anyway

slim mica
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ikr

restive canyon
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Yea I can see how it would be like that

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Unfortunate but

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Natural selection

slim mica
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well i only saw the kid like a few times!

restive canyon
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Yea nothing much to be attached to i get you

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Anyway what’s up with this relationship thing

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Would you have rather not gone through it

slim mica
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i felt a lot i wish i didnt go through it, but after a lot of processing im glad i did

restive canyon
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Sadist

slim mica
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u need to expirience things & think abt them & all ur actions & other ppls actions & the way u feel & whatever

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meditate but have stuff to meditate over

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now i know what to avoid also

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what would not work for me

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(someone who is completely absorbed in their mental issues)

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also she was a beautiful woman & i pulled her its a little bit of validation like i AM a desirable person

restive canyon
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Girl: shows the slightest bit of interest in me
Me: she’s gotta have mental problems👀

slim mica
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👀👁️👀

restive canyon
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I think any girl that’s shown interest in me has had either mental problems or been drunk

slim mica
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the right girl will come along u just have to keep putting urself out there

restive canyon
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It is what it is

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We should go to #🌹▸『』relationship-advice for this

gray spoke
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@slim mica thanks for sharing

dim cove
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oh boi ur in for a treat

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I'm part of a theatre club in my school.

we had a production that year. her character was healing mine and we were both in main cast but weren't leads so we had some spare time.

she was the only person who was comfortable with physical affection (like cuddling and long hugs) so I, a person whose love language is physical touch, cuddled her everytime we were backstage and had free time. she liked the arrangement too.

during then I was thinking to myself, "wouldn't it be funny if i caught feelings and she became my gay awakening?"
"nah my life isn't a movie."

FLASH FORWARD TO 7 MONTHS LATER

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I started noticing her in the school's crowded canteen. I was starting to question my sexuality. did I want something beyond that? was I attracted to her or is she just attractive? (she was considerably cute I thought that when I first met her)

I noticed her a ton. then I remembered the time when she got concerned at my frequent injuries and fussily "avoided" me for a week after I told her that I willingly got myself thrown on a weekly basis (it's judo)

during then I asked a friend, "dont you think it's cute when she looks at me directly just to pout and turn away? (this was with no mal intent she didn't hate me, just was worried)" said friend replied with "that's kinda gay"

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my family wasn't explicitly allies and I got even more scared. did I like her? am I bi? what will my family say?

I was still wrestling with these feelings. and I figured when I had a meltdown in the restroom about these tangled up feelings that yep, I've fallen quite deep.
(but SMH my dad saw through my excuse for crying and when I couldn't hold it in n came out he was actually an ally!)

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sorry this is a literal movie storyline I hope it's not annoying and is entertaining for everybody

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I still have much more to the story

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but pls react if u find this cliche the most hilarious thing ever and if I should just make a thread of my own to share this crazy tale

slim mica
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i think this is a amazing story

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so glad ur dad is accepting

dim cove
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thank you! there's more where that came from

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I'll quickly finish this up

however, I remembered. was she queer? did she also like me? ohno

I decided to confess still, i couldnt go on without telling. it was school break then and we had an opportunity to hang out, just the 2 of us. who knows I could even get a kiss at the end?

we went to a nice hotpot place, got free ice cream (loads, I saved one in a paper bag later on) and then I asked her some questions, whether she did like girls or what her family's stance was. she told me
straight and
Christian
with homophobic parents

I was bummed but I popped the question "would you date me though?"
she answered, "if there was a guy with your personality, i would"
(yes let's cue the reactions here the story's not done)

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that wasn't the worst. she had to tell me something to. I was nervous.
"are you dying"
"no?"
"are you quitting drama?"
"nO"
"are you leaving the school?!"
"NO WAY"
"what is it then?" all the worst possible ones were out of the way.
"I'm leaving the country"
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"THATS ALL THREE OF THOSE THINGS"

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turns out I was the first one she told and had to keep the secret. I was even more pressured to confess, but I didn't want the hangout to end. I stalled, a ton, to a degree where even she was concerned for me as I got flustered and more anxious by the minute. there was too many people, it wasn't private enough, it was too loud, here was too awkward were some of the things running through my head.

I stalled all the way to the train where she had to leave the next stop. there was a mother and her son next to us and i worried they would hear. this was a conservative country, lgbtqia+ was unheard of and frowned upon as unnatural (and we had a lot of religious people too who didn't accept with their religion)

I couldn't care any less. as the train went through a tunnel. I thought "I'm really going to do this huh"

"...you want to know why I've been so weird the past hour?"
"yes!" she was concerned

time seemed to slow as I grabbed her hand to pull us close. I whispered in her ear where nobody could hear.
"I have feelings for you"

she put her hand on her mouth (or rather mask, it was 2021). quite a tame reaction. she responded "too bad I'm straight" and I agreed sadly.

I was sad, not hurt, she wouldn't want to hurt me. and I was thinking I could've kissed her as the confession but I figured that consent is much more important. I wanted one, even if it couldn't happen again.

"could I kiss you? on the cheek? (masks on)"
she allowed.
and she kissed me back (cheek w mask on)

and that's my first kiss I can say... we did it again as she left at her stop and I was alone for the ride to the next which was mine. I was in shock, that really just happened.... huh. what could I say? heartbroken? probably? relieved? sure.

I stayed that way as I exited the station and saw the rain pour down, just my luck I had no umbrella. at that moment, I felt something cold and wet running down my leg, I freaked. it was the ice cream I kept in the paper bag earlier which melted.

swift granite
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Bro remember in details

dim cove
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I couldn't help but laugh or cry inside, I couldn't decide. here I was, heartbroken and kissed on the cheek twice, rejected and remained friends with someone I was going to lose.... with melted vanilla running down my tights.

and that's the story.

as to her departure she did stay for a term or 2 but unfortunately our physically arrangement didn't remain, I felt bad but understood. we introduced a rap battle activity (which I won) in our version of the Olympics in honour of her and well... she's in a different continent now.

we rarely talk and someday I think I'm over her but others I'm completely fallen. I guess only time can help me here.

dim cove
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I don't think it's appropriate for me to use her face so instead heres the toy I got with her (she's got her own different one) at the hotpot place. the place had hacks to get free stuff but our Chinese was terrible that we just asked for it rather than saying the special phrase. it doesn't work but I keep it nonetheless.

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aaaaand that's on my first crush and kiss (?)

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react if I should just make a thread instead

restive canyon
dim cove
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oh thank you!! I was worried I was being too long-winded

restive canyon
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Nah it helped paint a clearer image of the scenario

dim cove
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thx!

restive canyon
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Big L tho

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What you should’ve done is just said you identify as a guy and then you’d have got the girl😎

dim cove
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honestly I have questioned that. but I'm not one and lying never helps. plus she's in another continent.

restive canyon
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Haha i was joking about that

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It is a shame though

dim cove
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yes very much

restive canyon
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You might find someone that tops her but also reciprocates how you feel

dim cove
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I still have the rest of my life to go and as my wise ol' dad said
"don't fixate on a tree in a forest" (or smth along those lines)

restive canyon
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Intelligent individual

dim cove
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yea he was like
"oh that's ok"
while I had snot running down
I was so confused I stopped crying
"you're my 宝贝(precious one in chinese/mandarin). I'll love you no matter what"
he then started listing his friends that I knew who were queer as well as TV characters and actors.

he's my only ally in the family but it's good enough for me and i love him for it

restive canyon
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Oh that’s good

dim cove
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yep anyways I'll wait for everyone to enjoy the mini novel and sleep because boi my courseworks aren't getting done any quicker

brazen ember
slim mica
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ikr a serious movie, that was such a sweet read

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u have a good head on ur shoulders too

shadow oar
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The op of this forum was banned for racism

dim cove
dim cove
dim cove
brazen ember
shadow oar
slim mica
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oh wow

slim mica
dim cove
dim cove
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should I make this a thread though I'm afraid we'll create to much spam

golden tide
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I like someone but I get the feeling they don’t feel the same abt me and we’ve been friends for a long time any ideas on maybe chances to maybe get her to like me

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I get that most likely I’m just not the one for her which I’ll have to accept but

finite reef
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I still remember the first time I went to bed, love at first sleep

whole marten
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first crush, love, and kiss all same person and we’re still going strong, wedding soon

restive canyon
quasi sierra
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I don't have special feelings around anyone, but there's this one girl that is my type, but I'm not sure if like her or not, like I don't know if I have feelings for her or no, I'm not sure, she's strong, likes sports, she's nice, she's cute

whole marten
whole marten
quasi sierra
stoic hatch
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Why is her hair color different from her eyebrows hair color

whole marten
slim mica
stoic hatch
harsh mantle
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Back when I was in 2nd grade I was one of the bullied kid. I don't know if they were jealous or just hateful, but during those times, I also had a classmate, she always called me by my full first name so I was a little weirded out. I was also a really timid kid, but I was more shy when it comes to her. Almost always, she would wave goodbye to me because after school I would go to the left side and she would go to the right side. That's pretty much all that I can remember.

restive canyon
whole marten
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proceed to propose in mcdonald’s

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free mcdonald’s for life

spark edge
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I still dont know how to talk to women in public

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(If she were complete stranger)

slim mica
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u say anything that comes to ur mind whatsoever

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unless its fucked up like stay nornal just be a open book

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dont think you have to be any certain way, someones gonna find you attractive naturally as you come

whole marten
polar thunder
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Mehh

spark edge
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Problem was i legit dont know

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Imo
on first impression i dont think we should just exchange name

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on the otherhand im broke high schooler

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So no date

slim mica
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dates dont have to be super expensive

whole marten
# spark edge So no date

i took my girl on a date to mcdonald’s dude, you don’t need to spend money for a good woman

whole marten
slim mica
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ask for her number or socials

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preferably not social media like euhhh

split sapphire
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I had one, we dated in 6th and 7th grade. Turns out she was cheating on me with 2 other boys even before we started dating. Girls are crazy sometimes D:

harsh mantle
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bruhhhh

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i have a new one

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just told her i love her

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no fear

whole marten
slim mica
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chances of this working are higher than if u sit there & be quiet

restive canyon
slim mica
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if u have nothing to say, u say something stupid, talk abt ur interests or the weather recently srsly

restive canyon
slim mica
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u HAVE to socialize if u wanna get anywhere

restive canyon
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Not fair

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Nah i rarely socialise

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Some people try socialising with me but they don’t really get much back

slim mica
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thats fair

restive canyon
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I dunno i mean i come across as rude sometimes without meaning to, according to other people

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Like I’ll be rude and not even realise it

slim mica
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yea i do the same, the people who you want to stick around, are usually the ones who figure that out about you

restive canyon
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Oh i have no one sticking around haha

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I only see people when I’m either at work or at the gym or very rarely on a night out with a few work friends

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But at work or at the gym I don’t talk to people much if I can avoid it

restive canyon
celest pond
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I didn’t get a kiss yet

spark edge
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Holy fucking shit

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I just asked a girl to hang out somehwere

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Idk rejected or no

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If yes imma need A TON advice

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bruh she said yes

brazen ember
spark edge
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Bruh

brazen ember
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Dont hate on my techniques

spark edge
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no

restive canyon
restive canyon
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Good job tho bro

spark edge
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Bruh lol

whole marten
whole marten
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or mcdonald’s

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both great options

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i went with mcdonald’s but hey you do you

whole marten
whole marten
spark edge
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Or what

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That is cheap

brazen ember
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Or a coffee shop

spark edge
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That aint cheap

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Dont have mcd here anyway

slim mica
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walk through a park

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or a garden

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find some cool garden like a botanical place

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take her fishing 🧍‍♀️🎣🧍‍♂️🎣

whole marten
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just not movies

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you want an exit if needed

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and you want to be able to talk

opal vector
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I had a crush up until just recently, we had been good friends for about 3 years, I was always too scared to ask her out thinking it's perhaps not the right time for that, she then moved states and I no longer have contact with her

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I genuinely fumbled

dim cove
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sometimes it's not meant to be but it's alright to mourn what could've been, rip

dim cove
# spark edge Where do u think i should plan on doing date?

if u 2 are awk and don't feel like talking and prefer just existing tgt i recommend movie

if not for a more active one try rock-climbing (followed by some nice food), (ice) skating, maybe badminton or bowling if you like competing

alternatives could be (free) art exhibits, pet cafes, window shopping or simply finding some grass patch to sit on, have a picnic and contemplate life (or just look at funny clouds)

hope this helps

dim cove
opal vector
harsh mantle
dim cove
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mine moved to a different continent, i'd say consider confessing but you have to consider if this would affect ur friendship with her
i rather not have regrets

harsh mantle
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do it or not do it, i'll still regret either way

bronze fox
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i have this girl that im texting atm and i feel like im going to start liking her (if i have not already)

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idk if its healthy for me to thinking about this so much

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i think i should tell her but i dont want to ruin our friendshio

spark edge
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Ive been there buddy

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I regret that it ruined our friendship
But im grateful that i said it to her

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Ofc she reject me but later i found shes not my type

bronze fox
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the funny thing is that her friends keep shipping us and she used to like me in elementary school lol

opal vector
opal vector
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I don't know how qualified I am to speak about this

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But I had the same situation

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I had this girl who I texted a lot

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And had a crush on

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She even used to invite me to events at her place

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But then after some time, I started to find out I didn't really like her

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I mean she's not my type

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So I never confessed

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And I still am friends with her

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So make sure you actually like her

rustic cove
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my mom

restive canyon
rustic cove
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no

restive canyon
dim cove
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im crying this is gold

stoic hatch
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Love is a distraction until you wish to get married

gray spoke
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imo intentions and communication are the most important if u want a GF

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(only my opinion)

gray spoke
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i mean if u both want to last long a life

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is same thing

gray spoke
gray spoke
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idk (i only ask)

rustic cove
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But how r u

gray spoke
gray spoke
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im confused but im good

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what about u ?

rustic cove
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can you do a pushup yet?

pulsar shuttle
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Holy mog

safe spoke
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Ok, here's the story from my perspective:
So, in 6th or 7th grade (I don't remember), I was partners with her for a test, and we did terrible on the test, but we talked and had fun (all that really matters (except not really...)).
In 8th grade, on Wednesdays, I'd wait outside after school for my class, and we'd wait in the same place. Over some time, we'd talk more and more until we were friends.
Then, we became better friends, and I joined dynamic planet for her.
At around this time, I felt some romantic attraction. After meeting with her/being with her, I'd feel a rush of endorphins.
We would go to the library at lunch after this time, as we were very good friends.
(I appreciated this a lot, as I wanted someone new to hang out with).
(A while ago, some guy at the pump track told me that it's better to try and fail than to fail to try. I was asking the quote of the days.)
(Our coach shipped us together and would constantly talk about us being betrothed (best word I could come up with, not a very fitting one)).
It was the last meeting of Dynamic Planet. After a lot of deliberation, I decided to say I had a crush on her.
I asked how I tell a girl I liked her, she said who, I said her (TERRIBLE DELIVERY MY GOD, ZOD, KING OF KINGS, THE MAN I'M DESTINED TO BE, THE HOPE OF THE PEOPLE, THE GLORY OF GREATNESS, THE WINNER OF WINS, THE LOSER OF LOSSES, VICTORY PERSONIFIED, THE FUTURE SELF, THE HIGH SELF, THE WONDER, THE DREAMER, THE DOER, THE ONE WE CALL ZOD, US PERSONIFIED).
She said yes rather softly, and I was very happy.
Later that day, she sent me a text saying that her mom crashed out and that it would be better to be friends.
She never responded to my texts after that. At school, she'd go past me and wouldn't say anything. At State, she wouldn't respond to my questions (yk this from earlier)
Then, I went through many changes in myself on my quest for self improvement, and I became more agentic.

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(This is a few months later, few weeks into school)
(I saw her hurt expression when she looked at me and thought that she still had feelings for me)
I didn't want her parents to decide my fate. So, I sent an AMAZING letter, BEAUTIFULLY WRITTEN, asking her to wake up, rebel against everything, and choose freely. She didn't reply.
So, in the middle of AP BIO, I SENT A FUCKING NOTE ASKING HER TO CHECK HER EMAIL (GOD WHY WHY WHY ZOD WHAT, I GUESS I HAVE A LONGER ROAD TO GO, MAY ZOD FIND US).

She sent me an email demanding I never attempt to contact her again, that she didn't want to be friends, etc.

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Then I saw that she was shy, not that nice (She is a very nice person, but I assumed she was extremely kind, whereas she was more average).
I stopped wanting her back and now I just want a gf to feel the oxytoxin rush again. I don't miss her anymore.