#Asd’s Bait and Switch Situation

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hidden rivet
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What was the bait and what were you switched to?

misty plinth
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the switch (which was the actual role) was some low code dev role. basically this was always the role, but never made known to me somehow. because it was via an internal recommendation (a third party) that never followed the org SOP. so the third party became an innocent misrepresenter becos they never knew the truth too. it was told to them that it was a PM role and basically we never scrutinized what the role actually was because it was aligned with their colleague on a good faith basis. Never expected it to turn out this way.

BTW, the bait was only specifically to "target" me. Because there was indeed that role being put up and advertised... just that because as mentioned, not following the org's SOP, me and the third party never ever got to see the real "advertisement".

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So, because of the role conflict, there was never any substantial amount of PM work available. It’s all scraps, akin to how maybe you’d expect a dev to fill in for a PM for a short period. I never had to do any low code and won’t need to do it, because eventualy I successfully escalated this nonsense to defend myself.

But now I’m still in a position whereby I need to get myself into a new role because this is toxic af.

hidden rivet
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That sucks 🙁

misty plinth
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it's a complicated situation to navigate out of.

for instance, using networking.

i'm willing to do an internal role transfer, but essentially i don't think my department has anymore legitimate PM roles for this FY and the next FY. My boss had tried to "spin the narrative" that I wanted to move into a UX role, but its out of our department and there's only 1 UX opening for the whole org. I haven't heard back about that opening since I've applied.

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Because of the misrepresentation, the department director said he'd be creating a new legitimate PM role for me. Not sure if there would be any legit tasks though (because it's on my boss / manager to allocate those to me. which i had been trying for so many months, but nothing at all..)

hidden rivet
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Coaches can soak up a ton of money for not many results.

The basic strategy for any kind of trauma is CBT, then DBT if it’s resistant.

Step 1 is basically saying:
“Yea, something shitty happened, and sometimes that happens, but I’m not going to let it change how I see myself or the world” and you’re done

Step 2, if that doesn’t work, is to go “I can definitely get screwed over and I’m not going to let it change what I want out of life”

misty plinth
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Like imma be real.

There's so much role conflict and drama that maybe (probably) is affecting how I view this role. I felt like my stint as a SWE for 8 months (left due to M&A) had more substantial work experience than this one, even though it's the same duration.

Basically every other role I've had up to this point, I felt that people were giving me opportunities to try to build me up and to suceced in the role. Whereas this one .........

hidden rivet
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You absolutely can still get a career coach if you feel you really need it, but I think you’re just needing a bigger network outside your current org

misty plinth
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Have you worked with a career coach before?

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Yeah I'm defo thinking to build my network and all.

Mostly, aside the therapy, I feel "alone" for this job crisis though. Lol.

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Like, my recommender and other related people are sorry to hear about my situation, and did provide testimonies to say that we were really presented the role as such. but no one else faced this issue before. I'm also wondering how appropriate is it to ask about their networks :/

misty plinth