I really need some advice on a confusing situation with a girl in my department. We went to the same high school and she recently shifted to CS while I am in IT. I have a big crush on her, but I do not have much dating experience. I have only had one relationship in my 22 years and approaching her specifically makes me really anxious. I tried adding her on Facebook and Instagram, but after a few months of her not accepting, even though she is active and adding other schoolmates, I got discouraged and canceled the Facebook request. I was ready to give up, but lately, she has been doing things that leave me confused. My friends saw her hanging outside my classroom staring at me, I caught her peeking from a hallway corner, and she even chose to sit right next to me when there were plenty of other empty couches. I talked to her once at a booth presentation, but it felt awkward and I still cringe thinking about it. I overthink everything to the point where it is hindering my life and how I interact with other people. It is hard to stay confident and it honestly breaks me to see this getting in the way with someone I actually like. I have asked a lot of people for advice and most told me to try grabbing her attention, like resending those requests or even giving her a small gift with notes. I want to do these things, but my thoughts just completely freeze me and stop me from moving. Do I even have a chance here? Is it possible she thinks I am weird or creepy and is talking about me to others? What do these signals mean, and if I catch her alone, how do I actually step up and start a conversation without my overthinking taking over?
#I really like this girl but I can't stop overthinking things.
glacial nacelle
silk bloom
I really need some advice on a confusing situation with a girl in my department....
"I was ready to give up, but lately, she has been doing things that leave me confused. My friends saw her hanging outside my classroom staring at me, I caught her peeking from a hallway corner, and she even chose to sit right next to me when there were plenty of other empty couches."
from this it seems like signs of interest in you, I am no expert in relations too, so I feel you cause I love thinking and as a consequence I overthink a lot mainly with girls too
in relation to "Is it possible she thinks I am weird or creepy and is talking about me to others?" do you actually think you do creepy things or weird things?
glacial nacelle
I think I do?
silk bloom
are at least that would be enough for her to almost "spy" you or something from what you described just to tell her friends
glacial nacelle
You ever seen one of those ppt memes
silk bloom
I think I do?
I am the one who doesn't know😄
silk bloom
You ever seen one of those ppt memes
i don't think so
glacial nacelle
oh
well
At some point in my college life my friends kinda started teasing me and the girl
It wasn't that bad but it reached a point where I felt I had to reach out
and maybe uh
I thought maybe I could try something
silk bloom
I see you are overthinking a lot what she might have done, or been doing, but my advice, or one of my advice is to think if it actually makes sense some of those scenarios
like if you don't do creepy or weird things then the scenario of her telling her friends about it makes no sense you get it?
glacial nacelle
like addressing the situation in a kinda funny way
silk bloom
I thought maybe I could try something
it seems like a good opportunity
glacial nacelle
I thought so too
would it be okay
to send u a dm
about the youtube meme Im talking about
silk bloom
about the youtube meme Im talking about
yeah absolutely feel free
glacial nacelle
yeah absolutely feel free
Thank you
uneven tinsel
I really need some advice on a confusing situation with a girl in my department....
Just find an excuse to talk to her . There isn’t really any other way to do it better
And don’t get high expectations, just treat it as a practice of social interactions
glacial nacelle
And don’t get high expectations, just treat it as a practice of social interacti...
I'll try but
Its kinda hard for me to do
I've been crushing on this girl for 1 year and a half
uneven tinsel
I've been crushing on this girl for 1 year and a half
Bro don’t waste time , because the likelihood her being the one is very low so you really gotta do it in a couple weeks from now . So then you can move on to the next person
What’s holding you back ?
glacial nacelle
What’s holding you back ?
I guess its the fear
of being called a creep
or a weirdo
I don't really know too
when exactly will I know the signal of when to stop?
Will she just block me?
will she spread rumors or something
uneven tinsel
I guess its the fear
If you know it’s not creepy then it’s her being weird.
If she spreads fake info
It’s doesn’t happen often but it can happen if she is some deranged individual
uneven tinsel
when exactly will I know the signal of when to stop?
Wdym so you don’t know when you should stop pushing?
glacial nacelle
Wdym so you don’t know when you should stop pushing?
kinda?
I mean I was thinking of giving her candy with a note on it
uneven tinsel
kinda?
You can feel if it’s forced or not . If you have to go out of your way and put extra effort and her kinda avoiding you then you know you should stop but that’s for later tho
uneven tinsel
I mean I was thinking of giving her candy with a note on it
Idk it gives high school movie vibes not real life yk
Because you actually gotta build the convo
glacial nacelle
Idk it gives high school movie vibes not real life yk
Im kinda childish like that lmao
Was thinking of just giving the candy with a "funny" note and dipping
uneven tinsel
Was thinking of just giving the candy with a "funny" note and dipping
Nah man only if you talk to her and give it at the end of the convo
That would give more impact
You gotta go from stranger to friend fiets
First
glacial nacelle
That would give more impact
You're right