#I need opinions

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quiet grove
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Hello, I perhaps have a potential relationship in front of me but I'm not sure if it's a good idea or not and I need more opinions before I wanna commit to something.
Back story: me and this person met online around 11 months ago now, we've been hanging out nonstop daily since then I'd say, I at first always thought that we were knowing each other just as a friendship and nothing more but at the 3-4 month mark he says that he's interested in more perhaps more then that down the line, and he told me that I should really consider it, at first I wasn't really interested but then he managed to convince me into considering it, even though I honestly don't know how I feel about the idea of an online relationship but anywho we continued talking and bonding and I think I kinda like him? Sometimes I feel like I do and I'm hopeful sometimes it really doesn't feel right and that this is all a bad idea, I'm not sure how to feel because he keeps remaking how important for him the sexual side of a relationship is when I'm mostly asexual, at first when I met him he kept advertising that as a + of me dating him that I wouldn't have to worry about it but now he switched up and he expect me to eventually have sexual attraction for him when I don't know if I'm able to since it's a touchy subject for me, but now he 180'd and says that he dislikes how he's feeling right now that he likes me and I'm unsure what to answer me because I can't understand my feeling , has anyone got tips to understand if I really do like him or not ?

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We have a lot in common and I'd say we are both reasonable but we still end up arguing all the time over nothing, we always make up but that also bothers me, he says that I'm thinking and stressing to much about and that I should just go with the flow and that I only put so many barriers and worry to much about the future

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Sorry if this is messy, this is honestly just something really long and we argued countless times over this and how I feel and I never knew how to truly answer him because I didn't know myself, this honestly goes a long way back and I've tried this to keep as short as possible

versed wren
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Idk why he wants the sexual side but aren’t y’all online talking so how would that even work

quiet grove
quiet grove
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They said that If weren't going to be anything then that things were gonna be very different and multiple times in the past said that either I considered them or that they were going to leave

versed wren
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You said you have alot in common but why does he want to rush

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I guess he doesn’t want to waste time but still doesn’t he consider the friendship alone good enough

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My guess would be that if you got now together with him it wouldn’t end well

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Does he want to adress the issues and work on them and like when y’all argue is it calm or

quiet grove
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He is not saying this anymore now but he used to and we almost stopped talking when he first confessed how he felt

quiet grove
quiet grove
quiet grove
versed wren
versed wren
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Then yeah you can make things work but do you like have feelings for him 100%

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As you said you just wanted to stay friends

quiet grove
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Sometimes it feels like I do, but sometimes it feels like I don't

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But I do really care about him

quiet grove
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Most of the times

versed wren