how do i move on guys

[gilded pewter]

omg js realised u cant include pics here but ye one word replies mostly

[barren talon]

Why did she stop talking to you ?

Let’s first start with the cause of this

[gilded pewter]

i have no idea

we talked after what happened and she clearly stated that she still cares abt me and so

idk if its true tho

with how she acts

and being rude sometimes

[barren talon]

But she cheated and is very dry did you ask her why

Because that’s very weird

Was it gradual or did she all of a sudden do this

[gilded pewter]

we broke contact after that but i js couldnt let go off her so ye i msged her and thats when she started acting like this

[gilded pewter]

no i never asked her why

[barren talon]

Alr but why did y’all broke contact

[gilded pewter]

we decided it would be best for us since well i caught her flirting w someone else

[barren talon]

Did you notice any signs before that she didn’t want to stay anymore with you

[gilded pewter]

no

[barren talon]

Because you said every activity you did was with her

Why didn’t she want to keep you

[gilded pewter]

uhm

she said she did it cus of i acted everytime something was wrong

like during arguments

id always close and wont do anything

idk but it hurt everytime i tried to step over myself and maybe try to communicate w her somehow

basically silent treatment

its awful

[barren talon]

Do you have examples . Like what kind of arguments how frequent . Was it just you not being able to communicate or it’s also her

[gilded pewter]

mostly me overthinking stuff

her adding someone new on her socials

i was rlly paranoid

[barren talon]

Is that the only type of arguments

[gilded pewter]

yep id overthink and not tell her about it and then close again

they were pretty frequent

[barren talon]

Well is she together with someone rn ? I think it was your issue with communication but also her cheating while still being with you is wrong

[gilded pewter]

or it could be anything like even slightest change in her mood or she couldve said something wrong not actually meaning it or it could jusdt simply be me not getting her words right

[gilded pewter]

no shes not

we "broke up" like a week ago

[barren talon]

Does she still love you or not ?

[gilded pewter]

i dont know

[barren talon]

I think you should have a deep convo abt this . Ideally you should fix yourself but still stay friends till you’re ready

But also maybe she is not the one idk

[gilded pewter]

we kinda did already

she said it was her

uhm

self sabotage

or something

[barren talon]

Wdym

[gilded pewter]

i have no idea aswell

thats what she told me

[barren talon]

I mean you should’ve asked her to elaborate you can’t take something without knowing what it means

[gilded pewter]

she said she was afraid id leave her so she decided to leave first so it wouldnt hurt as much

[barren talon]

She could be lying because how can she do that and then become dry . She would’ve at least stay friends with you

[gilded pewter]

i was thinking maybe shes doing it to push me away from her maybe shes trying to make me lose interest or something

but

i literally

have noone else but her and my bsf

idk what i want more atp to move on or still have atleast some contact with her

well obv to move on but damn

cant even sleep without talking to her first

[barren talon]

If you want to move on it will take a couple weeks . One week is not enough

You would also need to stop contact with her

[gilded pewter]

is it maybe possible to do so

without breaking contact

i js know i will fail miserably

[barren talon]

But it’s an end of a chapter

Is she in your future plans ?

[gilded pewter]

honestly

not rlly

but i js cant do shit without her

when shes not around im starting to think some bs like i want her back or smth

[barren talon]

You have to resist

It will take some weeks

You just gotta start there is no easy way

[gilded pewter]

ive just grown really attached to her

[barren talon]

Yeah that’s why it’s important to keep the decision to stay away even if it’s hard

You know what’s best

[gilded pewter]

ill have to isolate myself then