Seven Months Unemployed and Lost

[hot gulch]

can you go into more details shana ?

also don't just focus on unemployment you are trying and many don't

[ruby gorge]

like basic steps toward improving my situation feel heavy. I want to move forward and get back on track, but I feel mentally drained most of the time.

It’s been affecting my confidence too, because I feel like I should be doing more, but I can’t seem to get myself to function the way I used to.

[hot gulch]

No i mean what do you do exactly

what have you studied and what you want to be ?

[ruby gorge]

I studied something in technology, but right now i don't know my next step

it's my first time being unemployed and my parents pressuring me much about this

[hot gulch]

technology lol wdym

Cybersecurity? web dev ? software eng ?

[ruby gorge]

Software engineer

[hot gulch]

I see

[hot gulch]

what do they expect the pressure will do ?

is the money situation that bad or they just pressuring for no reason ?

[ruby gorge]

and now i feel like i'm stuck here and don't want to pursue anything. i feel like crying everytime.

[hot gulch]

have you made a portfolio and tried solving leet codes ?

many want to see active skills in interviews these days for software engs

[ruby gorge]

I feel pressured because they’re worried about me not having a job in the future and not being able to support myself.

yes i know but my problem is i don't have the energy to do it and i don't know why.

low energy, brain fog, difficulty starting tasks, feeling stuck, loss of motivation for months

[hot gulch]

have you seen a therapist ?

[ruby gorge]

No i haven't yet

[ruby gorge]

my family is not open to this kind of things

[hot gulch]

motivation is just buzz words discipline is what matters

[ruby gorge]

it's like depression and anxiety for them are simple things

[hot gulch]

oh are you from India ?

[ruby gorge]

I had an interview once, but I cancelled it the same day because I was too scared to go through with it and fail. I ended up crying because I felt overwhelmed and couldn’t handle the pressure at that moment.

[ruby gorge]

No

[hot gulch]

hmm how come it's not taken seriously then ?

you really need a therapist or a person to talk with

[hot gulch]

You are currently stuck in a cyclical loop shana try to take it one step at a time or else this will spiral into something dark

[ruby gorge]

I don’t know how to deal with it. i just can't start this sht i just don't know why it's hard.. can't explain this.

[hot gulch]

do you have best friends or people you trust ?

[hot gulch]

I would really say take things slowly

you are spiralling currently

[ruby gorge]

I don’t really have a best friend, but I do have a few people I trust. The thing is most of them aren’t very stable either so I don’t really want to add to what they’re already dealing with.

[ruby gorge]

i've been saying this to myself and now it's been 7 months

do you know any meds that can help with this things?

[hot gulch]

No there's no medicines no magic fixes to this

take things slow but still Move forward

[ruby gorge]

it's so hard to rewire your brain.

[hot gulch]

of course it is in your position specially

it's literally a cycle

your parents pressure you,you try to get a job,you are unable to get a job,you feel pressured

[hot gulch]

no one is free of issues shana not even me

that doesn't mean you stop sharing with people you trust

[ruby gorge]

fk this cycle

im sorry i just hate this

but thank you for responding to this thread i appreciate it

[hot gulch]

the only solution is of course moving forward in your pursuit of job and sharing what you feel with others

or else you will continue in this cycle endlessly

[ruby gorge]

yes thanks that's why i'm looking for people to talk to in discord it's really hard.

it's draining even though you don't do anything to improve.

[hot gulch]

it's more draining to do nothing than doing something