I've been lying to my online girlfriend for a year now

[torn rover]

Oh God why would you lie about something so big.
You're in luck she is a very open-minded and understanding person.

Just tell her the truth immediately. And apologise. This hurts.
To be attached to someone who is not even the opposite gender.

[tulip hamlet]

That's really messed up, pal.

You should definitely tell her; you're not being fair to her at all and since this has been going on for a year, imagine the kind of hurt you're gonna give her if you keep on doing this. "I love her, and she loves me" well she only loves the portrait you've shown her, she doesn't love the real you because you've kept yourself hidden; this isn't right.

[torn rover]

🤯

[sand drift]

yeah no youre totally right it's definitely messed up but what am i even supposed to say how do i start a conversation like that

[tulip hamlet]

Come clean, tell her you've been wanting to talk about something and be direct. That's it.

[sand drift]

yeah but what if she hates me for it

then what

[tulip hamlet]

Then her potential hatred towards you is only gonna grow if you keep stretching the relationship just like it is right now

You surely can't expect her to be all elated about it, right?

[sand drift]

i know she probably won't be okay with it which is what makes it so hard because i like talking to her more than anything if i could take back what i've done i would

[tulip hamlet]

If you keep talking to her without telling her the truth then at this point, you're just being selfish for your own good

You should have thought about this before but now it's too late, I'd say you need to deal with the reality.

[sand drift]

it's not even just her it's everyone i know online every friend i've made basically this lie didn't just start with her so admitting this is something i really never thought i'd do

[sand drift]

i told her

[wide tree]

How did it go?

[sudden sand]

To be fair, you told her whenever you said "What if someone you dated lied about their gender"

So, she atleast had time to gather her feelings and decide properly

[sand drift]

it went good to be honest

she was mad i lied

and she felt betrayed

but

she told me she didn’t care about the fact that i wasn’t born a guy

[wide tree]

That's good

[sand drift]

she just doesn’t trust me as much anymore

but overall i think she accepts me

[wide tree]

Now you have to work on getting her trust back

Start slow and then work your way through

[sand drift]

that’s the plan i will do anything to prove to her that she can trust me again thank you for your advice 🙏

[wide tree]

Ofc

Godspeed soldier

[sand drift]

bless 🙏

[hybrid temple]

You can’t lie just like that . I would tell the truth even if there is a cost

[sand drift]

you’re right

I regret lying about something like that, so I confessed.

[hybrid temple]

What did she say

[sand drift]

Sorry a bit late, but at first she was very upset, saying how she’s just a joke to me and how I never took her seriously. She was mad that I lied to her for so long but she didn’t even care about the topic itself, more so the fact that I lied. We talked about it, she ended up accepting my apology, me and her are on great terms as of now. I’m sure that she doesn’t trust me as much anymore, that’s fine because what I did was very untrustworthy and stupid

[boreal moth]

you know im really glad it turned out well

cuz in most cases, the other person wouldve surely left being revealed to a lie as big as that

I hope you guys continue to communicate well and I hope you guys have a great life together

[plucky sonnet]

Good that it turned out well. But you have to understand her POV that you made her get attached to you then poof everything was a lie. Good luck

[tulip hawk]

I was going to say, what if she was secretly a guy. But then i realised. 1. Its Been solved. 2. It's disrespectful for me to say that 😔

[plucky sonnet]

Bro is here for the plot twist 😂

[fickle elk]

I'd say be honest and transparent but it is best for you to seek a guy instead and be transparent.

[torn rover]

Hey @plucky sonnet
How is going ?

Did you finally break up ?

[wind brook]

It doesn't matter what gender you are, the only thing that matters is do you like her.... But that's still pretty messed up on lying. @sand drift

[sand drift]

Are you asking me if I like her?

Because yes I like her a lot I just wasn't honest and that's my fault. I wish I could've been honest from the start.

[sand drift]

thanks for the advice but I've never liked a guy in my life so i don't think that's relevant to me plus i meant it when i said i loved her

[wind brook]

Does she like being Lebsian

Or Like that

Stuff you know

Or just like being Straight

[sand drift]

Yeah, I definitely see that now I don't know what I was thinking lying like that, I just got used to keeping that aspect a secret I guess.

[wind brook]

maybe you can like tell her if she like being like LGPTQ

And like that

and if she says no

Uhh good locuk with that

[sand drift]

Well to be fairly honest, we're still in a straight relationship slightly. I told her I wasn't born a male just a trans male, I'm not cis. I just wrote here that I was a female because it's true, I was born a female

[wind brook]

So you told her your Trans

[sand drift]

Yeah I told her I was born a girl and not a guy

[wind brook]

Then she knows your a girl then

[sand drift]

Yeah she does

[plucky sonnet]

I am doing great my man, yes broke up, the other girl is just.. awesome

[wind brook]

Since you said you trans that means she knows your a girl in Gender

[torn rover]

This one is same religion , right?

[sand drift]

Yeah she knows that she accepts it basically

[wind brook]

Is she Calthoic

Or not

[sand drift]

She doesn't believe in anything

[wind brook]

oh phew

Cuz if Catholic it harder

So ya phew

[torn rover]

Hey Ray would like talk more , open a forum I'll join.

[sand drift]

very true

She probably wouldn't have been okay with it, if that were the case

[wind brook]

Wait @sand drift Here a thing there is two plans I think of 1. Just tell her the truth and wish for the best 2. Talk to her parent first and make her parent tell her

That like the safest

Cuz I am know a third one but...

Bruh 💀 😭

What did she say back?

[torn rover]

Seriously??? That would be very I don't know. 😁
Thanks for making me smile.

Also your profile pic looks awesome honestly. And also the colours and shades you chose for your profile.

[sand drift]

At first she was surprised, she actually didn't believe me so she made me pinky promise it were true after I did that she got upset and told me that she couldn't believe me and how I should've left her alone the day I met her. She told me that I don't take her seriously and she told me that she can't believe a thing I say anymore. Then it calmed down and she vented to friends about it, then she came around and told me she didn't care after that she started asking me questions and asked if it were okay for her to tell her friends, I said yes. Then basically she asked me a lot of things, to which I answered, she ended up being okay with it and accepting. We're now we're back to normal, even better than before.

mb for the yap

[sand drift]

that would indeed be a plot twist

😂

[plucky sonnet]

For sure, yes the religious girl. I just need some sleep at the moment then will open one later on today

Actually I’ll open one now, then i will take later

[torn rover]

Sure no hurries , have a deep and clam sleep ahead of you man. Good Night .

[plucky sonnet]

It’s morning, 9:30am atm i just need a few more hours

[torn rover]

sure , no worries. Its weekend , thy are meant for sleeping , happy sleeping.

[hybrid temple]

Well are you actually trans ? If you’re a girl

Isn’t that lying even more

Wait so to be trans you just need to want to be the other gender ?