#I just broke up with my bf because his friends are not good for him

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unborn flame
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It's just he doesn't tell them anything and he doesn't tell them to stop and he wants to be friends with me but I said no, so what I do now, bc he is crying now bc of me

cyan turret
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I meant for the friend parts

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What do they actually do

unborn flame
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They go at me and my friends for no reason and they are mean to me and for my friends they get freaky with them and including my ex bf and my friends tell me they get uncomfortable with my ex bf friends

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And I broke up with him because with that stuff

cyan turret
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What does "get freaky with them" means?

unborn flame
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Like saying horny stuff to them and or weird stuff that makes them feel uncomfortable about it all

cyan turret
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You friends say to his friends or the other way around.

unborn flame
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The other way around

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His friends saying to my friends

cyan turret
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K , and have you all communicated that to all of them

That you all aren't comfortable with that kind of talk?

unborn flame
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Not really

cyan turret
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Why?

unborn flame
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But we joke around but we don't take it seriously but the horny stuff no

unborn flame
cyan turret
unborn flame
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Well group B doesn't like the dirty talk of Group A

cyan turret
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But I am asking , has Group B communicated that to all the boys of not?

unborn flame
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Some times..

cyan turret
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Both Group A and Group B are groups of girls only.

I am assuming all boys are into dirty talk so no groups on their side

cyan turret
unborn flame
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Group A is just boys and group B is a few girls and a boy who is a different form man

unborn flame
cyan turret
# unborn flame Well group b don't like the dirty talk

I think we have a miscommunication.

Let's restart.

Ex bf and his friends

You and your friends

K. Dirty talks are happening , K.

There are some girls who are into this while others who dislike.

Let's call the group of girls who like = Group A
And the group of girls that's don't like = Group B.

Assuming all boys is into that , so no groups there.

Any confusion or anything wrong??

unborn flame
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Yeah

cyan turret
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Tell me what's wrong or whats the confusion so I can correct it

unborn flame
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My ex bf talked dirty with my friends while I wasn't there

cyan turret
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Now I removed the (except your bf) part.

Now is everything correct and there is no confusion?

unborn flame
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Yes, everything is correct

cyan turret
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K

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Now specifically

Did Group B ever clearly communicated their dislike to all boys and told them to stop??

unborn flame
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Yes

cyan turret
# unborn flame Yes

And why in the early conversation the answer was "not really" and then "sometimes.."

unborn flame
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It's just group b not really like the boys and group a is sometimes

cyan turret
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K it was about groups weren't formed , right?

unborn flame
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Yes

cyan turret
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Then boys are wrong

unborn flame
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Yeah

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They do bad stuff that makes group b uncomfortable about it

cyan turret
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And did you personally have an honest conversation about this and how does it make you feel with your bf?

unborn flame
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It's just I want him to tell them to stop them but he doesn't tell them about it and he told me before breaking up that he is scared to lose his friends

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But I know they are not good friends for him

cyan turret
unborn flame
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Yes.. But I have known him for a while and I dated him and my friend C told me that he wasn't good for me because how he acts and what he does

cyan turret
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After honest conversation , did he agree to stop and actually stopped?

unborn flame
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No

cyan turret
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Bf is wrong too

unborn flame
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Yeah

cyan turret
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Did you have an honest conversation with your bf that you will not be able to continue the relationship if he keeps dirty talking to your friends and keep making them uncomfortable?

unborn flame
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Because we have a server that I made and I added rules to it

cyan turret
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No ,I mean you can't post a rule that

Rule number 5 , I will not be able to continue........

I am asking about genuine honest face to face or in DMs.
The point is having conversation not physical presence.

unborn flame
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Like in dms

cyan turret
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Yeah like 2 people having conversation. DMs , face to face , pigeon , mail letter , email whatever.

cyan turret
unborn flame
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No

cyan turret
unborn flame
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K

cyan turret
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All I can say is you just missed a step but not wrong.

If someone isn't comfortable and they have communicated then normal human decency is to stop at once.

Which he didn't do , meaning he is wrong

And you are right.
It's K to breakup.

Just next time don't miss the last step in next relationship.

unborn flame
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Okie, I will probably have a break from dating for a while, and thank you so much for the help ^^

cyan turret
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Yes K.

Just note this that even through you are not wrong
But you still missed the last step.
Keep a reminder of that , in the future.

Rest all good kid.
Don't worry , don't feel guilty , don't anything. You are on the right side and he is on the wrong side.

And case dismissed.
No further doubts needed.

Yeah you're right about that , try to take a step back from dating and heal a little.
Best of Luck kid.
You are a kid , meaning future and that's should remain bright.

unborn flame
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I guess if more stuff happens, I will talk with you about it

cyan turret
unborn flame
cyan turret