Need advice

[craggy bough]

I don’t think you should be having intercourse with anybody that resembles/is physically depicted as a minor, I’m not calling you a pdf just.. Saying my first thought honestly

[lofty lagoon]

as long as young is over 18 it's fine bro

but if it's under 18 you are cooked ngl see therapy

[thick carbon]

It really is a social moral issue. A lot of people do not like being perceived in a wrong way and that is normal to feel. Even for me I do not like engaging with people who are younger than me at a conversational level because it feels morally wrong. You feel the way you do because that is what you were taught to feel by your parents, society, social media.

[harsh sinew]

I am talking about adults that look younger

[lofty lagoon]

Then it's nothing wrong lol

Go ahead why not date one of them

[harsh sinew]

Bro I love how most of them thought I was talking about minors

[lofty lagoon]

Bruh your wording was like that

what else would people think lol

[harsh sinew]

I just edited my statement,can u read it again and let me know what answer do you have for the last question

[lofty lagoon]

What sensation I don't get it

You are literally sleeping with adult women according to you

[harsh sinew]

Automatic arousal by itself

[lofty lagoon]

Yeah what's wrong then

[harsh sinew]

It's triggered by the underage look but I don't indulge with it or enjoy it

[lofty lagoon]

what else are you suppose to do while literally doing s*x

[harsh sinew]

When I say underage,more precisely I mean someone who looks around 16-17-15

Not younger than that

[lofty lagoon]

It doesn't matter tho ?

[harsh sinew]

Either way I don't indulge with that feeling

[harsh sinew]

Right

[lofty lagoon]

it's a pointless overthinking if they are an adult

no one cares if both of you are an adult it's 100% morally right

[harsh sinew]

My mind is saying "if you know this certain adult is triggering your arousal cuz of the underage look,you have a obligation to stop having intercourse with then

[lofty lagoon]

It's still an adult obviously

That's just your overthinking

[harsh sinew]

Let's go

Bro I can be like others now finally

[lofty lagoon]

wdym like others lol

[harsh sinew]

U don't know what I have been going through for the past 8 months

[lofty lagoon]

Were you really overthinking about this for 8 months ??

that is insane

[harsh sinew]

Talking about adults btw

[harsh sinew]

Yes,I wasn't even going around and asking others

I thought my mind was right and I had to live my life like that

[lofty lagoon]

Lol now you know it's morally fine you just have a type

[harsh sinew]

Why do you think it's not wrong ? Other than us being consenting adults

My mind is asking for a reason

[lofty lagoon]

wdym how else it is suppose to be wrong

there are thousands of people liking lolis these days even they aren't looked down on much

you are literally with an adult

what other reason will it be bad ?

[harsh sinew]

that I am having intercourse with adults that can trigger this consistently

[lofty lagoon]

So ?

[harsh sinew]

If I know it will why not just step back from it

[lofty lagoon]

Lol i don't understand what is even wrong according to you

[harsh sinew]

It's according to my mind

I don't trust my mind

[lofty lagoon]

then just accept it's normal bruh

recognise you are overthinking for a dumb reason

[harsh sinew]

Ty for Ur time

Validation helps

[lofty lagoon]

Welcome man you are just overthinking like crazy

[craggy bough]

You said mid teens but edited your post into “young look”

I’m just saying, if she looks 15 and you have those thoughts internally you should probably end the relationship/not touch her.

[harsh sinew]

Is that a personal opinion?

I have asked dozen of people they said
As long as I don't indulge with that feeling and like them for other reasons it's not a moral obligation to continue having intercourse or relationship with them.

[craggy bough]

Just moral opinion tbh, if she’s 18+ then that’s good enough just be careful where those thoughts could lead you down the road

[harsh sinew]

Bro

Let me explain again

[craggy bough]

?

I answered your question correct?

[harsh sinew]

Ty

I was talking about adults

[craggy bough]

Yeah ik, that’s why I said 18+

[harsh sinew]

I don't indulge or deliberately enjoy them for looking a certain way.Its just automatic by itself and those thoughts/sensations don't lead me nowhere.

I would say I am the most safest person in the world

[craggy bough]

I’ve seen thoughts destroy a lot of men before tbh

Not saying you can’t control your mind at all, but it is proven that thinking of something too much changes your default mindset

[harsh sinew]

Yeah I agree

[craggy bough]

Yeah, just want you to be careful yk

[harsh sinew]

Did u get my question tho

It doesn't seem like u did

[craggy bough]

Yeah I did get it mostly

[harsh sinew]

So are you saying that I have a obligation to stop in these scenarios and not continue or what?

[craggy bough]

If I’m honest? I’d try diving deep into your head and figuring out the issue, also body a bit too

If that doesn’t work

Idk, probably not continue, just really depends

It’s your choice and your road rlly, can’t control what other people thinking is

[harsh sinew]

What does it depend on?

° I don't indulge with that automatic body sensation,even if it's consistent

° I redirect my focus and try to sexually like the person for other good aspects

Are u 17?

Bro I don't think this topic is for u then

[craggy bough]

Redirect your thoughts tbh

[craggy bough]

Yeah, just wanted to share my opinion

[harsh sinew]

That's what I am doing

That's what I always do

[craggy bough]

Does it work out of curiosity?

Burnout does exist, even for thinking

[harsh sinew]

It does,it is true yes even if I am getting triggered by these automatic body sensations,during intercourse I can still focus on other good aspects of the person

Which is why I feel like I am not immoral for continuing

[craggy bough]

You’re not immoral which is good, just your internal thoughts is the problem

[harsh sinew]

Ik but my question is:
During intercourse,If these automatic body sensations are triggering,am I obliged to stop the activity? Or am I allowed to enjoy it for other reasons?

I wish if there was a website for universal moral laws

[craggy bough]

From my perspective? Probably stop rlly, it’s in the line between wrong and right

[harsh sinew]

But can u give me a reason why

[craggy bough]

This whole entire thinking + factors

[craggy bough]

It’s kinda strange, yk

[harsh sinew]

My mind is asking for a reason

[craggy bough]

Yk that whole entire “she’s 5000 years old” argument some anime fans make in order to sexualize a character that looks like a minor?

It’s kinda like that, wouldn’t say worse or better, just.. Really don’t know what to say besides that

Not calling you a pdf though, but I’d stop if I was you until she looked 21 even though she’s your age most likely

[harsh sinew]

Bro do you know that there are soo many adults who look like mid teens

Look up Sophie rain

Ariana grande

I didn't choose that person for that specific reason

[craggy bough]

Yeah there’s a lot out there, but I still wouldn’t since I prefer the physique of an adult yk?

[craggy bough]

Yes, I know

I guess all you can really do is internally punish yourself for those thoughts

When I struggled with addiction, I personally did pushups whenever I had a negative thought that would lead to me relapsing or redirect to something else quickly

[worthy grotto]

Hey yall, just a friendly reminder to keep stuff SFW and respectful, try to avoid getting too off track and talking graphically about stuff that shouldn’t be mentioned

[humble helm]

nah I think ur good

attraction is involuntary you can’t force yourself to stop

like you should if you genuinely feel like like acting on weird thoughts but it’s clear u like adult women and u have morals and that’s completely valid

but I understand u could feel like u should feel shameful for liking younger looking women