yea no
#My girlfriend completely broke up with me couple days ago
dusky haven
Bro the harsh truth is she didn't leave because of your attitude, she left because she stopped being attracted to you, the attitude stuff was just the story she told herself and you.
No amount of changing or begging was ever going to fix that. Stop checking if she unblocked you, take the self-awareness you gained, and move on.
i understand it's harsh and kinda bad to hear
but being so genuinely attached is just gonna repulse her even more and worst of all leave you suffering for no reason
can vc if u feel comfortable, didnt wanna come off as an asshole
rich oriole
Long distance is gruelling for most
It makes sense that people lose a sense of attraction over time, and there’s really nothing to be done- people drift apart in life
She won’t be the only girl that you’ll date, and despite being great for you, if she couldn’t see you change or devoting so much, maybe she wasn’t the right one for you
Because you committed more than she did
You were obsessed (at least I got that impression from what I read)
Thing is bro
I get you’re sad
Like I genuinely do
I can only imagine how much ts hurts
But you’re just draining yourself by trying to figure out why
Cause the truth is you’re just guessing
And
You were changing
Relationships have ups and downs so it’s fairs
But you still ain’t over it
To some degree you’re still not fully over it
It’s okay but like
It’s not worth thinking about it more, it’s okay to cry to vent etc but
dusky haven
yea happens a lot especially long distance
rich oriole
You gotta keep going forwards yk, you sound genuinely like a good guy
You’ll find the right person but I can understand that you put so much effort in
dusky haven
the moment you changed for her you sealed your fate i'd say but it was basically over the moment she lost attraction
rich oriole
And now it just seems like how can she just do this to you
rich oriole
the moment you changed for her you sealed your fate i'd say but it was basically...
Again tho we don’t know
This is all assertions
Which leads to nowhere
dusky haven
thats the only thing we can do
rich oriole
It’s done, process emotions and move on, you’ll find someone more compatible
rich oriole
thats the only thing we can do
We can just stop analysing it
dusky haven
the moment you change for someone who shit tests you, is the moment you're done
rich oriole
Yeah but there’s no point lmao, it’s probably a mix of reasons instead of only one
dusky haven
well hopefully we can all learn something no?
rich oriole
That’s good
dusky haven
by dating other people
rich oriole
well hopefully we can all learn something no?
There’s realistically nothing too deep to learn, sure we learn long distance is normally ass
Noo don’t go for a rebound
Well
dusky haven
getting validation through multiple streams is the best cure, if thats your issue
rich oriole
Do what you want actually
dusky haven
you'll stop seeing ur ex as special basically
rich oriole
But yea I wouldn’t say get into something immediately, talk with friends, do something u like e.g gaming music sports whatever
dusky haven
this might actually make you more jaded but that way you wont fall for it again
dusky haven
well she got with you when you were doing it, and dumped you after, so go figure
what you believe might be bad might not necesssarily be
idk what that bad thing is so cant say for sure
rich oriole
Yea
dusky haven
but you gotta prioritize yourself yk
rich oriole
That’s true. Lots of ways to do it, find the right thing to get thru these tough times
Damn bro that’s not even that bad
😭 😭
dusky haven
girls stay with junkies who beat them lol
a joke wont make her lose love towards you
rich oriole
Yea
Unless they’re really sensitive
I feel like I’d laugh rn but it’s inappropriate
😭
dusky haven
what does this even mean
english is not my first language so my bad
ah ok
well thats an indicator already honestly
rich oriole
Yh
dusky haven
unless shes a prude or something, a girl who doesnt put out doesnt like you
but yea its the same
rich oriole
Yeah I thought that’s what u meant
rich oriole
the problem is you should never be pleading with her
Yh ts makes it too imbalanced
dusky haven
demand and if she dont comply move on, but i understand this is hard to do in a long term relationship because unless she loves you more than you love her