#scared of being manipulated

24 messages · Page 1 of 1 (latest)

jovial geyser
#

It's not possible to recognise manipulation without being manipulated however dumb that sounds

#

a more realistic solution is when you enter a relationship ask your friends or family about that person

clear elm
#

Ah you remind me of someone.
What you need to do is develop instincts to tell what is what.

jovial geyser
#

actually that really doesn't matter in a relationship good person will respect it and a bad person will use it to manipulate no one has 0 insecurities

stoic acorn
#

If you know signs or behaviors of manipulators even if you fall in love you should make it a no go

#

Kinda yeah

clear elm
#

Actually forget that

clear elm
jovial geyser
#

You can't study it really it is better to spend time experincing friendships than studying manipulation

jovial geyser
#

wait do you mean online friendship?

rose plover
#

Genuine question, what does a relationship means to you? What do you expect from it? Is it something platonic? Something easy and flow smoothly? You seem to shut yourself out from potentially new experiences because of your old ones. But, do you realize you're no longer the same person? I believe there are always risks of having a relationship with someone. Whether it is friendship or romantically, you don't fully always know what they are thinking. If you are scared of getting manipulated in a romantic relationship, what makes you so sure that you aren't being manipulated by current family members or friends? If you're sure you are not, it's because you learned about them, spent time and effort in getting to know them and developed a bond with them. So why is it that a romantic relationship is different? I think you're letting fear be the deciding factor of how you think relationships are going to go. Rather than studying psychology about manipulation, I think it's always better to experience people. Learn about them, spend time with them, and you can decide for yourself what you want from them. If things don't go well, you're always welcome to feel sad, hurt, etc. But, you can also take it as a learning experience. Not everything in life is perfect, people aren't perfect. There will always be imbalances and balances, it's just whether you learn how to accept or deal with it. Learning and growing from mistakes will make you stronger

rose plover
#

Yes it's true, a romantic relationship is obviously way more intimate than regular family relationships. However I think you seem to be missing my point. Whatever relationships you have there will always be risks of getting hurt no matter how much you intend to avoid it. But if you don't take risks and stay in your comfort zone, how long do you think it would take to find "the one"? Life isn't a romance movie, you actually have to go out and meet people. Nothing is perfect, if things don't go the way you had hoped, maybe that's ok. Maybe it's not time being wasted, maybe it could be serve as an experience where you could learn and grow from it

#

You will know if someone is intentionally hurting you, they will give you promises and not do it. They will do the opposite of what you want even if you tell them you want something else. You will learn to pick up on signs, and learn what you want for yourself

clear elm
#

I do hope you get the opportunity of a lifetime to build instincts. I got one 2 years ago. So I am thankful to God for it.

Don't enter a relationship without building those instincts.

#

Anything that helps a good kid like you.

#

I suggest not for many reasons I can't tell.
You have no idea what you're in for.
And too young to handle that.

Just build up yourself first and then wander on dangerous waters.

#

But it's only a suggestion, you can leave it too.

#

Suit yourself. I guess trauma is also experience

#

You remind me of someone , so respecting that I had to caution. That's all.

Goodbye.

stoic acorn
#

You can also just interact with girls once and never see them ever again . Get into social gatherings

#

If you get attached easily then yeah

clear elm
clear elm
#

And who is deciding this normal?
I don't know of any international organisation like

United Nations of Normalcy and Accepted Behaviours.

real berry