bleak merlin
Man why do all these things , backup , ghosting etc etc.
If you got a gf , seriously commit with her and uninstall the app and remove everything else. And give it your best.
I am not trying to be judgemental but this is exactly why modern relationships are so shallow.
livid oracle
Removing all female friends because you got a girlfriend seems shallow to me.
bleak merlin
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Try to relax your mind , and if you feel that bad then tell your current gf , I hope she will understand.
livid oracle
Just to be clear, you know what ROCD is?
bleak merlin
Removing all female friends because you got a girlfriend seems shallow to me.
No
Wait relationship ocd
??
livid oracle
Yes
bleak merlin
Ah I see.
livid oracle
I havent flirted with anyone, i havent cheated, i havent crossed any boundaries, yet I feel like shit and cant get out of bed
bleak merlin
Sorry about earlier
livid oracle
Its ok
bleak merlin
Does your current gf knows you have ROCD?
livid oracle
No, but it might be a good place to start
but i cant help think i have actually done something wrong
bleak merlin
How much time has passed since the relationship
livid oracle
A month and a half, but this only hit me hard about 5 days ago
bleak merlin
Hmmmm , then try to resolve those thoughts. It's K .
If you didn't keep her as backup , then you didn't.
Try to sit with the anxiety and let brain adapt to it. I have heard OCD cycle strengthens the more someone does compulsions
livid oracle
Yeah, but I say "I kept her as a friend because I was guilty of just removing her coz we spoke as friends" and then that leads to "Then you were just keeping her around as a backup" but actually I dont even think I would have gone with her if I didnt even have my current girlfriend
its a brutal loop that is agony
bleak merlin
Wait you removed her and then readded her
livid oracle
Nah
I didnt tell her I had a girlfriend at the time becasue it would have just upset her so i procrastinated on it but before hand i had already told her i dont want anything romantic
I wasnt trying to appear single is what im saying
bleak merlin
So when did you remove her?
livid oracle
She removed me when I told her I had a girlfriend, and then I removed her on everything afterwards because I knew she cudnt handle that i have a girlfriend
about a week and a bit
bleak merlin
And why would she couldn't handle. You already said you wanted nothing romantic
bleak merlin
I hope you get you resolution , I have to go but before leaving , I just say one thing.
livid oracle
Ok ty
bleak merlin
Removing all female friends because you got a girlfriend seems shallow to me.
This is not shallowness , this is commitment.
livid oracle
I dont agree with that but ok
bleak merlin
Hope you get the support you're looking for. Best of Luck.