im just confused about what im supposed to do | The Therapy Center | Page 1

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 9:42 AM

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then i have problem wit friends i have very bad communication issues there are so many misunderstandings ... its been like that so many years idk what friendships mean anymore... and so bad interactions .... im so bad with human relations idk what to do anymore.... there were some stuff that happened when i was in 7th grade some friend issue and at the same timing things werent good at my house... and i was dating this guy who was pushy ......... it was horrible
after that ive never let myself attach with anyone
my present friends are pretty good they try to solve the misunderstandings .... i did try but i keep distancing myself idk what to do ... i cant understand myself anymore all i want is getting over my past it keeps getting in way of my studies
i dont understand my feelings or what im feeling anymore

stray rivet Mar 13, 2026, 9:43 AM

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hello

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 9:43 AM

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hii

stray rivet Mar 13, 2026, 9:44 AM

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how do you often feel?

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 9:45 AM

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its pretty much every 2 week .. a few times it depends on people around

stray rivet Mar 13, 2026, 9:46 AM

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eternal tusk its pretty much every 2 week .. a few times it depends on people around

like you parents?

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do you often feel hatred or sadness?

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toward you parents?

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 9:46 AM

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......both

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well i can suppress my hatred by sometimes i feel so sad its so overwhelming i sit crying for hours ... i cant sleep at night

stray rivet Mar 13, 2026, 9:49 AM

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what do you think you parents think about you?

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 9:50 AM

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idk ...... but they dont understand me

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:27 AM

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I think what I can comment is that you can start organising your list of things to solve in a way that helps you check which are the ones you can solve(within your control), and the ones you can’t solve(example what you can’t control like your parents or siblings.) Worrying about the things out of your control will just stress you out and make you feel even worse. It’s like when you grip so hard on a rope that it burns into your hand. Example, your grades,let me discuss that first. Grades don’t define a person, to me anyone can do something as long as they approach it the right way. How I improved my grades is figuring out my learning style, and I went to YouTube to see how people take their notes to get an idea. Everyone has different learning styles and abilities, you just gotta find yours(example you learn best by someone giving you instructions/lecture, or you learn by writing it down in your own understanding etc.)

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You aren’t stupid if you have bad grades, you aren’t worth-less if less people pay attention to you, nothing should ever define a person, be it a title, a score on a test etc. Everyone should be given an equal chance to learn and not be constantly pressured to be the smartest,wisest or something.

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If you are already putting in effort to ask for help like here, I say that’s a win

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:31 AM

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golden meteor I think what I can comment is that you can start organising your list of things ...

i see you have got a point there

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:32 AM

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When you go out in real world you kinda realise most people look more for someone who is open minded and willing to keep learning

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:32 AM

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but its been 3 years since ive tried to get over things idk what else i can do about it ...... i even tried talking to my mom she too said to let it go ....but its not easy

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idk how im suppose to let it go

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:33 AM

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Hm then explore, what makes it so hard to let go? Is it a feeling, or a coping mechanism,escapism or?

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:34 AM

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feelings and coping mechanism

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:34 AM

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I see.

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You know, therapy taught me something. Thoughts,lead to feelings which lead to action.

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:35 AM

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eternal tusk feelings and coping mechanism

And we can see here your feelings already leading to the action(coping mechanism)

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:35 AM

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oh

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:36 AM

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So the usual way is to tackle your thoughts, if you can’t solve something, rework your perspective(thinking), change the way you feel about it, or just accept and cope.

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Hm for starters, ask yourself what were all the thoughts that led up to this?

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:37 AM

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golden meteor Hm for starters, ask yourself what were all the thoughts that led up to this?

i think they were the attention seeking thoughts

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:38 AM

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I see, you don’t have to share here(it’s a public post), you can slowly gather your thoughts and if you feel ready, you can request for someone to help you explore

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Someone that won’t judge you

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:39 AM

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oh okayy

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can i just talk to you

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:41 AM

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I don’t mind but I just will clarify I am not a professional therapist, simply will share my experiences and lessons I got from therapy, take what I say with your own personal input.

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:42 AM

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its all good

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ive talked to multiple ppl but i think i like your approach

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:43 AM

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I am honoured and appreciate your words. Uh just I am about to eat dinner, will let you know when I leave and come back

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:45 AM

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yeah okay

golden meteor Mar 13, 2026, 10:47 AM

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How do you want to reach me? Here or a dm?

eternal tusk Mar 13, 2026, 10:48 AM

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dm

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