#Problematic age gap

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inner canyon
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Well ik you’ve heard from me already but well generally if you turn 18 soon it’ll be legal then

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If you’re comfortable sharing do you turn 18 soon?

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Oh okay well

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If your patient and can wait until next year then it’ll be legal then there’s not much I can say about it but love is love and if you feel he’s the one then I hope you’ll be willing to wait too

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Well yeah that works but make sure that your sure about him it’s not a warning am just looking out for you but yeah waiting works

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There’s not really a problem as long as your 18

long matrix
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its prety bad tbh it come out as predatoral thats like a 18 dating a 14 yo.. different stages of life

long matrix
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Well when are u 18

dark wharf
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As long as theirs no "groomy or pdf vibes" i think if theirs love respect and boundaries it might be morally okay

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If u really are sure and trust his words

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as long as u feel safe and u dont feel used

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He respects ur boundaries then yes bht for skinship and the like id wait a year so its barely legal atleast

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Well u can relate to that barely legal frank ocean song now💗 🥀

simple flame
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The main problem is what do you have in common with him . 21 olds usually have a completely different mindset , life experience than a 17 year old . If you’re so sure abt him then wait a year before your 18 and just keep it family friendly for now

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After 18 do whatever u want

simple flame
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Why do you feel that ? But the age gap is always suspicious

simple flame
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So this is not irl relationship?

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It’s easy to talk on text but irl it’s a different story

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Yeah then wtf

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You’re not near his priority

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So do with what you will

floral linden
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Its actually fine yk

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You are young and u love him

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If he treats u right sure

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Just be careful

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Like stay close friends until u turn 18 and then start dating

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If he treats u like this now, I hope he continues treating u like this forever

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And yeah its not smth I would go for but theres no harm in trying

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🫂

floral linden
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How come

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Well

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I mean

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Can i ask how u met

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If u don’t mind sharing

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We can also vc if you prefer idm

inner canyon
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Well since he is grown you can always expect that stuff like jobs taking his time stuff like that

floral linden
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Sure ofc

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Id prefer vc cus i am a yapper

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But dm is fine

subtle monolith
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tyrone the third lowkey cooking this shit

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anyways lol yall are feeding into this delusion n its kinda cool to see

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17 and 21 is a horrible age gap

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you are a child

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like straight up

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you have not done anything in life

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you're still dependent on your parents

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21 is a full adult

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like

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you can graduate at 21

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do whatever you want but this is a horrible age gap u should lowk stop talking to this guy

shy sorrel
frank wing
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I originally didn't plan on saying anything but I'll give some food for thought from my own experiences.
I was in a similar relationship before, although the gap was significantly larger, and honestly? It should be fine as long as you don't get sexual.

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Obviously there are plenty more ways he can use you, but it's good to at least check that one off the list

west rock
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A lil late but I think your relationship seems nice as long as it isn’t all about the deed I think it’s not that problematic it’s not like a Scott and knives situation

simple flame
shy sorrel
simple flame
inner canyon
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You didn’t dw just know it’s okay as long as you wait unlit your 18

kind quartz
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imagine if it was 16 and 20

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that sounds bad now

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yeah that is rlly bad

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still

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if u really want to date him

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thik about this

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is he a ped

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o

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like he likes children

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and is only dating u for those disgusting things

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cause a lot of older guys do date younger ladies just for that

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be careful

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if he is not like that then go for it

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cause age gap for me deosnt rlly matter until its really far off if 2 people love each other

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yeah then go for it

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if he respects them then he will understand how far he can go with a minor

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ohhh but still be careful

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tell me if u do go for it or nah

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thats goodd

mellow heath
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yeah thats odd, like grown adults shouldnt be with school kids,
can be dangerous they can take advantage of you

hollow osprey
mellow heath
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That doesn’t change anything, you’re still in a very different stage of life and you might be underdeveloped if you started puberty late for example

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Good but you should inform your family and friends about it atleast too and see if they disagree with it, do listen to their concerns

mellow heath
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Still don’t recommend it, if you could wait longer you might be in a better scenario then !! But I can’t control you

kind quartz
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the main concern is if she gets gr**med or nah but if he stays in his limits and is a gentleman then that wont happen

mellow heath
kind quartz
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thats one way to put it

mellow heath
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Very true tho

kind quartz
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fr

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i think it canwork tbh

mellow heath
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The internet literally has taken people offline and doxxed them over a 1 year age gap

kind quartz
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love shouldnt have an age boundry as long as its true

mellow heath
kind quartz
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not like 80 and 11

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but like if its in some close range then its eventually not gonna look weird inthe long run

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imagine 22 and 26

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that doesnt look weird right

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or even 25 and 30

mellow heath
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It’s just easy to be used and grmd when one person is still a child

kind quartz
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yeah man i get your point

mellow heath
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When you’re both adults then it’s usually fine no matter what age gap

kind quartz
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but like she described he is not like that

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so im p sure he wont do that

mellow heath
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But it’s just because some people start puberty late so you could be a dumb developing child at 16 dating a fully matured adult which has knowledge and position of power to use you

mellow heath
kind quartz
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i get your point now man

mellow heath
mellow heath
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Even if he is a nice person I still think it’s weird, why can’t he date someone his own age

kind quartz
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real

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what if he is a discord mod in disguise

mellow heath
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Online dating sucks anyways!

kind quartz
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btw are u both online or inrl

echo knoll
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Both kinda

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I met him irl and seen him a couple times irl cause he has family here he visits often but we are mostly online cause most of the time he is in a different state also we are not even official or anything cause I won’t commit

mellow heath
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Don’t commit until you’re older, for your own sake

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So is there anything else you need help with

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Okay 🙏

kind quartz
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np man

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stay safe

simple flame