#If I love him less will he love me more?

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royal lance
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Since it seems like he avoids you and you want to unlove him, cut his contacts and stop waiting or seeing or whatsoever, just dont do those. This might feel really really difficult but trust me, this is the effective way someone could unlove. You will get reminded of him every hour and when you get reminded, just shift your focus; like go for a walk, watch your favourite show or movie, exercise or even play games. But dont try to reach him by any means.

If you want to start slower, I would ask you to stop waiting for him and shift your focus just like I said above whenever you get the thought of him. You can chat when you have some free time but dont extend the time.

I think that he might have joked when he said 10% , cause no one says something this clear and open to their partner. Like , if my gf asks me if I would cheat on her, I would say no or might joke or even prank her. And idk for sure if that was a joke or prank but I think it is...

royal lance
# royal lance Since it seems like he avoids you and you want to unlove him, cut his contacts a...

I only hope I could do this, but it's really hard for me not to try to contact him. It's always been like that whenever there's an argument between us - I'm always the first one to fix things up, while he doesn't seem to care anything about it. I think I blame myself for this because I started this relationship with him, and he just went along with me. Like, I don't think he really likes me... well, he told me he did, but I don't feel it. Do guys normally do something like that?

I'm wondering if it's normal for guys to be like that, or if it's just him?

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Not talking to him is tearing me apart because we've never even met, it's a long distance relationship, and I'm usually super paranoid. So I don't think I can handle it

royal lance
royal lance
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Even when you met him online, are your really that attached?
Does it feel like a real relationship ?

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I never love someone like this before so maybe yes

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Do you have any crush on someone irl? Like any interest on someone, even if its slight its ok

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Yo now that you have said its online, there might be chances that its real that he said there is a 10% chance of cheating. You wont know actually as he is not with you irl or seeing you irl...

royal lance
royal lance
royal lance
# royal lance Somehow, yes... it feels like a real relationship for me because we talk every d...

Its just your anxiety and your brain overthinking. The thoughts like "what if" would destroy your peace. I have been in this loop and the only way to stop is just name those thoughts. Like, if you feel anything just name it, for example if you overthink name it "overthinking thought" and cut it off. When you get this thought just name it and start thinking about something else. And now that you have said he updates you with what had happened that day, he might have joked ig, and someone who says all the truth might not lie.

royal lance
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we've been almost 3 yrs so maybe I deserve it for tolerating

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yo

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what the

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3 years?

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if I love him less will he love me more if I did that?

royal lance
royal lance
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If he does this when you gave him more love, then imagine what happens when you love him less

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I mean you're a guy right?

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do guys normally like us girl if we love them less?

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Mb sorry for assuming your gender

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yo no problem

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just vent your feelings i dont judge or anything ; )

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As a boy, I would love my girl if she loves me more. If my partner loves me less like speaking less and other things, I would assume that she had lost her interest on me and is interested in someone else.

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But if the love is strong, love destroys doubt and assumptions.

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so it's just him?

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It can be or many ppl be like him too

royal lance
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Honestly, I don't know what gonna happen to me after if ever we broke up. I live for him and I don't think life matter anymore if that happen

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back then life feels meaningless

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I seem to be just drifting... Through life

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Your life's worth isnt compared to this love as you wont really know who your soulmate or whatever is, and dont try to end your life because of this. Trust me, you will move on in your life even if you break up. I have met a lot of people and trust me, everything gets back good in a matter of months or days

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I really don't see myself reaching 30 tbh

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You are ahead than most people when you know what your problem is...

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He made your life happy or miserable?

royal lance
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There was no particular reason why... I decided to stay longer

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I had no destination

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I CAN ALREADY FEEL IT

royal lance
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Ik but is it too much to ask if I want to be with him? I know I sound cheesy or cringe rn. I think Im losing myself thinking about it.

royal lance
royal lance
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Try meditation or jumping when you are free

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helped me a lot when I was mentally freaked up ❤️

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for now I don't think I can handle the break up because it would be the end of me Im trying to accept that he doesn't love me that much the way I love him. I wanna get rid of this feeling for now while still in a relationship with him

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Try getting committed with someone else you have crush on

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Almost, but Im afraid I'm cheating on him, that's cheating right?

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Kinda

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Just break up with him and then get committed

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now it isnt cheating right?

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idk, but I don't wanna be someone else gf anymore if that happens

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I think i am being a bad advicer rn

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no you're validating my feelings rn and K really appreciated it

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Thank you so much

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But whatever happens , just dont try to end your life, try contacting a therapist real quick if this continues

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sure bud thanks

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I think i am a good advicer ig 😅 welcomee

royal lance
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uk i have attempted to end my life before

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Thanks for the compliment

royal lance
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bru-

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it's lonely... If you know what I mean

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I have attempted it fr, not kidding

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You dont have friends?

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haha im serious rn

royal lance
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You need those bud

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them i mean

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Life would be really bad without someone to share feelings with

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And that loneliness made me attempt it

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but guess what

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after few days, I realised

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That my life isnt worth the problems i had

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good for you

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:))

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Its a fact