Friend advice needed

[dim fjord]

so there’s this guy mason i’ve known since 2nd grade and we barely talked back then and now we’re both in freshmen year and take the same buses to school and on the way home. we dont have the same classes sadly. we usually sit near each other and text every day about the bus and at first it was super awkward but lately we’ve been talking more about stuff like where our old classmates have moved to. the other day we had a long convo after school and walked home together. it feels like a slow-build but i could see potential between me and him. do you all think there’s any way to keep it going? i really need advice

[sullen sigil]

i think that you should keep doing what you’re doing, that is just being yourself yk? that’s honestly the best way to see if things will grow because then he’ll see who you are, and appreciate you even more:) you could start integrating him into your life. you don’t have to be near him all the time but include him in your life ykyk

[dim fjord]

alr thanks for the advice

[sullen sigil]

no worries:) goodluck!

[dim fjord]

theres also something that could potentially make this whole thing just end

i might transfer schools but its just a concept rigjt now and idk if im actually transferring

he says he might transfer schools too so idk

[sullen sigil]

I don’t think it’d necessarily has to end at all

find ways that you can talk to eachother

do you guys play any of the same games for an example?

[dim fjord]

we dont play games together but i know we both play fortnite

we mostly talk about our old middle school

but we’ve never been on a call together to actually play a game

but i could possibly add my other friend from middle school to a call and ask mason to hop on tho

[sullen sigil]

i think you should play together

and talk outside of just your usual spots

i think that way it’ll truly start to branch

and it’ll be a nice way to keep in touch w eachother

like my friend is going to move for uni while im still stuck in hs for another year and im planning to go up there to visit once in a while

it’s just about finding ways to still keep them in your life

even tho it may not be a constant anymore

[dim fjord]

idk what to talk about on the game tho

what if theres like a long awkward silence

i’ll add our mutual friend to see what would happen

[sullen sigil]

i get that

that’s happened to me a lot

and im really bad like that because i feel like im usually the reason why it’s awkward 😭

but then again in my experiences even if you have long silences, if you guys can still connect

and talk without it feeling

suffocating

i think that means you guys are clicking

atleast for me

[dim fjord]

how should i invite him

like how should i say it

[sullen sigil]

just say it how you’d normally ask someone

no need to overcomplicate things

[dim fjord]

“yo im hopping on fort w/ (name) wanna join”

thats how i would invite another person

usually

[sullen sigil]

then do that!

best way to connect with someone is being yourself

you’ll know then if you two will be able to keep it going

[dim fjord]

thanks for really helping me out this really means a lot

[sullen sigil]

no worries:)

don’t be afraid to @ or dm me if you need any more advice

[dim fjord]

@sullen sigil should i invite him to my house at some point? both of us could probably play together on my ps5

[sullen sigil]

thatd be nice!

go for it

[dim fjord]

i remember one time he offered me a ride and i declined because i was kinda nervous and awkward at the time

he hasnt offered me a ride since but hes been pretty chill lately

ive offered him a ride too and he got home

do u think i should ask for a ride

[sullen sigil]

if you’d oke to

like*

it wouldn’t hurt to ask

[sullen sigil]

probably hasn’t offered to not make you uncomfy

[dim fjord]

i think i screwed up that opportunity

[sullen sigil]

I mean it’s not like a bad thing

[dim fjord]

oh i have a good plan

theres this plaza right near my house

super popular in my local area

especially kids but anyways

im gonna invite our mutual friend from middle school

and then ask mason to see if he can join

probably saturday/sunday

[sullen sigil]

I think you should tell him that you’re bringing another

[dim fjord]

as in telling him that i’m bringing the mutual friend?

ye thats the point so it doesnt feel that much awkward

[sullen sigil]

oh i see😭

goodluck w that then

[dim fjord]

@sullen sigil something happened and idk if its a good or bad thing

so otw home me and him took a different bus but that bus takes a turn so we would have to stop early

theres like a 10 min walk to our homes

this has only happened 3 times and today was the third time

the other 2 times we’ve had a friendly chill conversation about like our old school and stuff

this time we stayed silent

those 2 other times with the conversations, he initiated them

idk what to do and im confused if this is a bad thing

[dim fjord]

@sullen sigil u there?

[sullen sigil]

HEY soryr

playing some ow

but i dont think that its a bad thing persay?

i think that theres times itll be like that

but i mean if you dont find his presence like

awkward in a sense

its allg

imo

js be sure to also initiate convos too:)

[dim fjord]

oh yeah i do that too

in my opinion now that i think abt it dont really consider that one specific bus ride an L

we still had some chances to talk and we did

[sullen sigil]

that’s good :)

not taking every chance means you’ll make a good connection

quality > quantity

[dim fjord]

@sullen sigil heyy i got some good news

i talked to him more than usual this bus ride home

and i also talked to his friends we were all chill

[sullen sigil]

that’s amazing!

im glad to hear that

[dim fjord]

ok update: for this morning we kinda talked more than usual

sadly didnt get to ride w him cuz i got picked up but its all good

i actually think he might say yes to the hangout because our mutual friend lives an hour away and it would be nice if we all met up together

[dim fjord]

@sullen sigil

im about to ask him if he can hang out tmr with our mutual friend

[sullen sigil]

awesome!

hope it goes well

[dim fjord]

omg guess whay

i asked him if he can go

he said yes maybe

[sullen sigil]

niceee

[dim fjord]

sad news :(

he couldnt make it cuz he had to do some chores but its all good

[sullen sigil]

awhh

that sucks

are you guys gonna reschedule?

[dim fjord]

nah its all good tho he had some chores

not a total L

yk what

thats progress right there

if we had never taken the same buses or even went to the same school he wouldn’t even consider going

[sullen sigil]

yep

thats the mentality i like to see 💪

[dim fjord]

btw thanks for supporting me throughout all of this

[sullen sigil]

no worriesss

feel free to keep @ing me or even dming me

[dim fjord]

ok so ik its been a few days @sullen sigil but we've started to talk more lately

theres a big chance im moving away soon and he might be moving too but we will be moving to a different place than him

im going to this one town and hes going to another town but they're kinda close

like a 5-10 min drive

kinda sad

[worthy bluff]

@dim fjord i'm experiencing smth quite similar rn, especially with the whole moving away thing. would u want to talk? i prefer dms

[dim fjord]

yes pls

[sullen sigil]

thats not terrible at all! look on the bright side, it's still fairly close and plus you still have a good friendship

im gonna be in a similar situation soon as my friend is moving like way up north several hours from where we live

for uni

and its not like a 3-4 hour drive

but!! since you are still relatively close, it'll be easier to maintain relationships as oppposed to long distance

[dim fjord]

yea but theres a high chance that we’re not going to the same school together

[sullen sigil]

i have a lot of friends that don’t go to my school

and that’s totally okay

quality > quantity

imo