I've been trying to look for a boyfriend and it hasn't been going so well and me even finding one irl I just don't see that happening. But it would be a dream come true if I could find one irl
I just don't know what to do anymore
#Don't know what to do
viscid robin
umbral root
I totally understand just how much someone can long for love and thats perfectly natural but i will say that working on being ok with yourself (without relying on the idea of having a bf) will make you much happier in the long run even if you do end up in a relationship later on
Things tend to come into your life easier if you arent actively looking for it so just focus on building your own life and the right person will come to you on their own eventually
viscid robin
I just want to be with someone that I can love and talk to/hangout. It would be a dream come true if I can find one irl
umbral root
Its human to feel that way but maybe also focus on loving just being with yourself and what happens after is just what happens
viscid robin
Is it worth trying to find one through online or try to find one irl?
barren sail
Is it worth trying to find one through online or try to find one irl?
In my opinion, irl is better, although both approaches have their ups and downs.
However, you should do what Tecno said, you don’t have to “hunt” for a relationship, they happen eventually and naturally. Focus on what you can control for the time being, do things that make you happier without the idea of being with someone.
That someone will come eventually, I wish you the best of luck. 🙏 💜
viscid robin
I hope so
viscid robin
I'm probably just gonna give up even to be with someone
barren sail
I'm probably just gonna give up even to be with someone
Hmm, well, maybe in the future you change your mind.
viscid robin
Maybe who knows
viscid robin
I've been trying to look for a boyfriend and it hasn't been going so well and me...
I'm probably just gonna give up
barren sail
I'm probably just gonna give up
Like I said, you don’t have to “hunt” for one for now. Take care of yourself and your deeds first, the partner will come eventually when you less notice.
viscid robin
Like I said, you don’t have to “hunt” for one for now. Take care of yourself and...
No i'm just gonna give up even being with anyone
barren sail
No i'm just gonna give up even being with anyone
Well, I certainly can’t stop you on that. But hey, as long as it makes you happier then I’m glad.
viscid robin
I don't think anything's gonna really make me happy anymore
barren sail
I don't think anything's gonna really make me happy anymore
You’d be surprised to see how may people thought the same at first, yet they found their way to live happily and peacefully over the time.
umbral root
You are still really young and have your whole life ahead of you to make happy memories and meet new people
While i dont think that you should actively be searching for a relationship, i also think its too late to completely give up hope and that you should surround yourself in people and activities that make you happy
viscid robin
Thing is I don't go out much
umbral root
there are plenty of hobbies you can do at home and maybe making friends online can be beneficial as well
viscid robin
I do have actual friends from school it's just none of them texts me
umbral root
Why dont you initiate the conversation and text them?
viscid robin
There's not really a point to
umbral root
It could help distract you from the loneliness that made you feel so desperate to have a partner in the first place
Friends can truly be such wonderful bonds that can support u amidst all your struggles so i would suggest taking that leap ans letting them surround you with their love for you
viscid robin
I would text this one friend but I don't have any way to contact them though
umbral root
Could you ask for their contacts when you see them at school?
viscid robin
The thing is am done with school though
umbral root
Do you know anyone else who would have their contact information?
viscid robin
Yeah I think so
viscid robin
Alos ost of the friends I got from school is mostly just guys , and I don't think they would really care about what's going on with me or my problems
umbral root
Have you tried opening up? They might surprise you
If that turns out to be true tho then why not try making friends with girls
viscid robin
If that turns out to be true tho then why not try making friends with girls
That's the one i'm trying to get a contact with is a girl. And also making friends with girls isn't a bad idea
umbral root
thats great, I hope that you are able to get in contact with her and possibly become friends
viscid robin
I think we're already friends because I always talk to her. During lunch or anytime that I could talk to her