I recently broken up with my long distance partner after a year and a half

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Hey, so yeah me and him broke up on good terms. Im not gonna give out personal details but I just wanna get this off my chest rather than bottling it up. So we ended on a good note but today make three days since our break up and he is already engaged to someone else so I just feel bad because I feel like I was holding him back from someone else he was actually into yk? So idk I just unfriended him for the time being cause I didnt want to be anxious all the time about his activity and whatever because I feel like im going crazy with this. I dont have anyone to really talk to about this matter. i have friends but I dont want to be the type of friend who is just crying all the time to them yk? Cause I usually used chatgpt for therapy and coping with my emotions and that used to help but I just feel like so alone tbh because Im talking to a computer instead of human and I feel so alone. I just hope that I can get through this and heal from all this pain im experiencing and hopefully I can find happiness again

[prime ore]

Hello!! I’m sorry you are going through that man, you can talk to me if you’d want to

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Sure I dont really know how to even start about it tbh but last week I was taking a break from discord cause my grandma from my dads side passed so I wanted to give myself some time to process my feelings and take some time yk and thats what really hard for me to take a break cause I constantly missed him alot and I also devastated by my grandmas passing as well. I rewatched a show from my childhood and that really helped me cope and get through that week. I was so excited to tell him about my week off and everything so I just feel like idk I never got a chance to let it out yk? And I feel like awkward just randomly bringing it up to my friends cause idk I dont think they are going to be really yk interest idk maybe im just not in the right headspace to be thinking positive yk. I just feel so burntout and just tired man. Im just gonna stay in my lane and lock in for myself atp man. im usually a person that is emotionally strong but I feel like Ive been mentally gut punched over and over again yk. I hope college gives me some sort of fulfillment or something to look forward to cause I feel so small and so low man idk. I apologize if this is long but I just have so much in my head man

[paper moss]

I can relate to you as well, I just broke up with my long distance gf 2 days ago of almost 4 months now, on good terms (i think at least) she was also my first gf too. Since we broke up, my feelings have been mixed but I am person who is also emotionally strong just like you as stated too.

For now try your best to forget about the past, and focus on the road ahead of you. Moving on to the next chapter of your life is the most important thing I could tell you. Calm yourself and don't rush anything. It's okay to feel burned out and tired of everything. I wish you the best in your journey and the road ahead of you 🙂

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Thank you for your words. It really has given me hope and im so sorry to hear. Break ups suck so much but I promise things will get better and you will get to the other side yk

I genuinely feel like a weight has been lifted yk

[paper moss]

I’m glad to hear the weight has been lifted from you 😁.

I don’t want to go into much detail about it, but when we broke up I felt like she used me for my love. As before me she had 2 or 3 bfs before me who were toxic to her. And when I came into her life, I treated her well. And now I think she has plans for another guy, so basically she used me as a stepping stone to heal, then after she healed she would go after someone who has desires for her at least I think that’s what’s happening. the whole situation is kinda messed up now realizing it.

Sorry if it was too long. If you want you can read my post about it, although you really don’t have to

Once again i wish the best of luck for your future.

[paper moss]

Feel free to dm me anytime if you want to chat about anything:)

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gosh that sounds awful. Im so sorry that happened to you and just know things man feel shitty but I know things will feel okay eventually yk :3

[paper moss]

Yeah... it is what it is. thank you for your words. Eventually ill fully move on from her but it will obviously take time. I appreciate the time you took to reply back to me :))

[prime ore]

It’s okay man, no need to apologize. Sometimes people need some break in order for them to get back on track, what you did to cope was actually really good! Going through grief takes usually longer than a week, I’m sorry you lost your grandma. I would also recommend you to cherish the good memories you have of her and not be sad because it’s over, but at peace and happy because of those little moments you had spent with her.

You will be fine my friend, you are not lost, you just need some rest off the beaten path before going back in and it’s okay to have breaks every now and then!!

I wish you the best of luck, I’m sure you’ll feel better soon enough, we all have our ups and downs (even myself!)

Take care brother 🙏 💜