is this abuse

[modest oxide]

if you're continuing to experience physical violence by her that is a no go

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what do i do then i cant just end it

[true basalt]

what is preventing you from ending it with her?this does not seem like a safe relationship for you to be in

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next semester we will be in a lot of the same classes

we have a lot of mutual friends

i dont want to lose them

[true basalt]

thats fair, its hard to tell who will side with who if you do end up breaking up. try to distance yourself from your gf for the time being for your mental health and safety. have you opened up to any of your close friends about this?

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no because idk what its classified as... idk if its abuse because the counselor says it wasnt

i dont want to tell my friends its abuse when it isnt

[true basalt]

if your gf was violent to you more than once, its likely she will continue that behaviour. has she verbally degraded you during arguments?

[dusk torrent]

she has yeah

[true basalt]

Physical abuse is intentional bodily injury, (slapping, pinching, choking, kicking, shoving). Mental mistreatment or emotional abuse is deliberately causing mental or emotional pain, (intimidation, coercion, ridiculing, harassment). this information is from Washington State Department of Social and Health Services, so you can trust it. if these definitions or examples resonate with your situation, you should be careful, abuse in men is often overlooked a lot. keep in mind that in a healthy relationship, no partner would repeatedly hurt another physically/mentally.

if you can, try finding other professional experts to talk to, they would be more experienced in this field than school counsellors

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the university wont let me change counselors as theres only two

[true basalt]

i mean, external help

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do i try to talk to them about this

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way too expensive

[true basalt]

have you tried free online counselling services?

[dusk torrent]

those exist?

[true basalt]

yes mate, search em up

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when i looked up free counselling it only showed me paid ones

[true basalt]

okay, try searching up Talk It Out: Virtual counselling

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any that do chats and dont do email because she goes through my email and social media