#Help with GF drinking underage

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high shoal
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I (17m) keep having conversations with my girlfriend (16f) about parties after she kind of forces me to come to house parties with tons of alcohol to the point that I sometimes have to walk over people collapsed on the floor because they're off their chops on some sort of drink.

I talked to her on the bus today about maybe not drinking at this new years party she's going to which I have to go to and her reason for getting drunk is that she doesn't want to miss out.

I asked her to maybe try and stay sober or at least only get tipsy because it's really stressful trying to keep her safe and I want to have a fun time too but she blew it off and used the same reasoning and I have no idea what to do

I'm not concerned about her cheating or anything I just want to make sure she doesn't do anything stupid or get injured and I just don't want to go to house parties anymore as it isn't my scene but she doesn't listen

civic garden
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try to explain to her that u are worried she might injure herself or smthg..

high shoal
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I did, she says that she'll be fine but whenever shes in that state she can barely stand without falling

desert valley
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This is a hard one

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She is clearly not respecting your boundaries on this, which are very responsible

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And not asking too much in the least

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Like that is just common sense and safety

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And it seems like she is a bit too immature to understand

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You should really sit her down and try to have a good heart to heart about this continuing and what it means for your relationship

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Make it clear that you are setting a boundary to keep her and yourself safe and that you still want to do this stuff with her but in a mature responsible way

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21m btw seen alloooppt of underage drinking and the consequences of it

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It isn't worth it

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If she can't be mature and adhere to the very reasonable boundary youre setting then something else might need to change

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Take it with a grain of salt though dude

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Wish you the best of luck

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And remember keep your head high don't let her make you feel lame or something for this

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It's not

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It takes real strength and care to go against the fomo to do the right thing

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So be proud of yourself man

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Don't let anyone make you feel lame for being responsible and safe

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That is real dependability and strength

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That slot of dudes your age do not have

desert valley
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And try not to be upset with her

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Understand that this is coming from a place of immaturity and fear of missing out