#Js looking for adivce

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granite ridge
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First off, is she 14-15?

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@twilit geyser

twilit geyser
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Hello

granite ridge
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Why hello, sorry I’m being a little direct

twilit geyser
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Nah dw

granite ridge
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Are you both in highschool

twilit geyser
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Didn't expect a reply this fast

granite ridge
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Hey I have time

twilit geyser
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I'm not :p

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She isn't prob

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I'm on an online school

granite ridge
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See now these are the questions you kinda should be asking before you get into a relationship at this age. I made the mistake by me trying to date someone in the 8tj grade, didn’t end well

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Cuz for one, the age gap mentality is VASTLY different, however. If you really like this person, please don’t be afraid to express it by any means

twilit geyser
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Well if under max is 15 dose that mean she can be in highschool

granite ridge
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Even if your mom thinks it’s bad, girls like it when guy do express feelings and being straight forward. It shows that you can take the lead, also in other circumstances they can use it against you too, it’s just a tough slope in today’s dating world but you kinda just have to jump in

twilit geyser
granite ridge
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You gotta dive in man

twilit geyser
granite ridge
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No matter how afraid you might be of expression, you just gotta do it your way

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Don’t worry about how the other person feels until YOUVE SAID your feelings after that, it makes I’m easier on both parties

twilit geyser
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Ja

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What if they think I'm weird

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Or dumb

granite ridge
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Then that’s they’re loss 😉

twilit geyser
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Wow

granite ridge
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Cuz you aren’t

twilit geyser
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I've litrally never been told this ever

granite ridge
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I’m glad I can give you a breath of fresh air

twilit geyser
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Isn't it like doing what they don't want you to tho

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If they said they just want me as a friend

granite ridge
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Are they giving you signals as to feeling undecided, or do they explicitly say they just like you as a friend?

twilit geyser
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Well I can tell u a bit more clearing by it'll take a few mins to write

granite ridge
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I got time bro

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I’m here

twilit geyser
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Alr

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Well when I told her I liked her she said she started liking ke too a little and there wa some problem that she was dating someone who was actually manipulating her I to doing it bcz they said they'd kill themselves if she dosent so she did but recently she said she's distancing from the person and then she said actually not thats he dosent like me but she said:I'd prefer to have you as a friend instead of a dating thing. Or smthn similar to that so then I js got rlly depressed bcz growing up alr hit me hard and now the only friend I had the only person I really cared for and cared for me said that

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Also feels like I've been getting ditched

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By everyone ik

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Sorry for any typos I write too fast sometimes

granite ridge
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It’s all good, is she still with this person?

twilit geyser
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I think but she said she dosent liek them obviously they used to be friends and then aid they were telling her they'd commit if she didn't date them but she said recently she's been distancing from the person so

granite ridge
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Bro

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Can I be so straight with you

twilit geyser
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Ye

granite ridge
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Like sorry if this is bursting every bubble in your fiber but, I’d run

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Cuz what are the chances she does that to you in your relationship?

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Talks to some other guy behind the dudes back?

twilit geyser
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I mean shee dosent pike the other person

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She said she dating them out of guilt

granite ridge
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Yes but they still are an item no

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And if you two were together, would she be dating you out of guilt as well instead of just enjoying your company?

twilit geyser
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Idk bro..

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I mean prob not

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Since I ain't gonna kill myself bcz of it

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Not that deep on my side

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Although she is rlly caring

granite ridge
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Oh yeah..honestly o forgot to clue that part into my advice

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So I apologize

twilit geyser
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Can u explain what that means

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I didn't understand

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;-;

granite ridge
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Understand what?

twilit geyser
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What u js said

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Oh wait nvm I get it

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That's mb

granite ridge
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But even then, it’s another thing to think about

twilit geyser
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I mean yeah

granite ridge
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I mean what if you were struggling with something that heavy, would she help you or would she just be there out of obligation?

twilit geyser
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But you know just when I think if her it feels differnt compare to my other crushes

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Like it's a very differnt feeling

granite ridge
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Describe it

twilit geyser
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It's like you feel a connection like its not u just like them it's like thier your soul mate it's stronger by thousands of times than just liking a person

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It's just stronger by thousands if times than normap

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Yk

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I had a crush in many ppl b4

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But not this this

granite ridge
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It’s not a crush man, you like this person. More then just a “crush” per say

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But, if she’s being this indecisive in her own relationship right now, wouldn’t she possibly to the same to you?

twilit geyser
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Idk

granite ridge
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Is it worth the risk of expressing your feelings to her knowing that may be the case?

twilit geyser
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I think yes bcz what if it dose work

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Bcz

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She isn't like even a normal person

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She dosent act like a normal person at all

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It's so hard to describe

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Whenever I'm down she trys to make me feel better

granite ridge
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Do you do the same for her?

twilit geyser
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Yes

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As best as I can

granite ridge
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And what’s your intention with it?

twilit geyser
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My purpose in life is to make as many people happier as a can

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The start of my depression started because of it though

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I had ti take in other ppls problems

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But for her I want to get closer

granite ridge
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You shouldn’t be living to take other peoples problems

twilit geyser
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And make her feel better

granite ridge
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You should be living to live how you want to, not be someone’s shoulder every second

twilit geyser
granite ridge
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Yes but then, how do you feel when your by yourself?

twilit geyser
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Sad

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I just wait until she comes again

granite ridge
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You matter too

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And your happiness should come from within, not from someone else

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It’s taken me 5 years of life to figure that it

twilit geyser
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But it's under so much sadness

granite ridge
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What’s under so much sadness?

twilit geyser
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I need help to dig it out

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My happiness

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I cant get it out

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Myself

granite ridge
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Others can help you, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t able to do some work for yourself too

twilit geyser
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I'm trying

granite ridge
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You trying, is more then enough

twilit geyser
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But it isn't rlly easy

granite ridge
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It’s not, it actually gets harder the older you get

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But that doesn’t mean you stop trying

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Cuz you get stronger too

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If that makes sense to you

twilit geyser
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It dose

granite ridge
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Life is full of beauty and wonder, yet pain and sadness. If you’re always helping others your soul would be dry and stale, and when someone finally asks how your doing your automatic response would be “I’m alright.” You have to give yourself the grace, care, and love that you have given to so many others

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You deserve to be loved too, it just sucks because you have to teach yourself how to love one’s self

twilit geyser
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But

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What about her

granite ridge
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Does she add onto your life, or does she create it in you?

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Like, “if I get her my life would be complete?”

twilit geyser
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It

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Probably not

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But it would help

granite ridge
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Do you get why I’m trying to say?

twilit geyser
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Yeah

granite ridge
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I’m reading it and it kinda doesn’t so if you need me to rephrase I got you

twilit geyser
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Nah I got it

granite ridge
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You have to find your own purpose, your own happiness, and if she adds onto it then go for it, but if she’s a source then you gotta revaluate

twilit geyser
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Okay

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I'll go off that

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Tysm

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This rlly helped

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Just one more thing

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Idk how to even tell her again

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Like if I ignored its awkward and scary

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What do I actually say

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;-;

granite ridge
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Look her dead in the eyes, if it’s comfortable for both parties I’d recommend holding her hand but if it’s not, understandable. And say, “I know that you have a lot on your mind. But something had been on mine. You have. I really really like you, and I’d like to see where we go, would you like to find out together?”

twilit geyser
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Wow

granite ridge
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It’s straight forward and gives her the opportunity to think about it without so many words involved

twilit geyser
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Without thinking what I mean

granite ridge
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What do you mean..?

twilit geyser
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If I say smthn clear she won't think

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What could that mean

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I've never been clear with what I say

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she would know what i mean

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is what im sayin

granite ridge
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Speak with what your comfortable with man, if you have something better to say then go for it, all I can give you is what I’d think is best for the situation

twilit geyser
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okay

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thank you

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a lot

granite ridge
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Of course, hope this helps you out and gives you some clarity

twilit geyser
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okay

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is it okay if i dm you if i have other questoins

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:p

granite ridge
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Of course don’t be afraid

twilit geyser
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says to ask

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okay ty

granite ridge
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I should prolly change that

twilit geyser
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lol

granite ridge
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But yeah, I gotchu bro

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I wish you luck an it’ll be okay no matter what happens

twilit geyser
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yo btw havent felt this good in ages

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js opened up for the first time honestly

granite ridge
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It feels good to talk about feelings man, it just depends on who you talk to