#My fears and Worries in life (18M)

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devout scaffold
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It's completely normal that you feel this way and I'm glad you're noticing these things and working on it

Finding a purpose in life can be tough but it takes time so right now I suggest exploring different things like talking with new people trying new activities and stuff like that

The fear of not being loved is also very tough but once again it takes time so try finding people that you feel like you really could connect with and also don't focus on the what ifs because they're only possibilities and aren't actually going to happen and

If the way you talk truly bothers you, you could start small and talk with people that you have the strongest relationship and build onto that, and talking is not about perfection it's about communication. I also struggle with this too because the way I talk sounds kinda muffled because of my mouth formation and a lot of people have made fun on my voice but the best thing is to just to try to stop thinking about how you sound in a voice like sometimes get into a really long conversation about a topic you like and just try not to worry about how you sound

olive pond
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here bro lemme open your mind up real quick

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hopefully this can help you

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so essentially

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free will right?

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we all think we have it

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nonono

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free will states that we have full control over our decisions

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but do we?

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when we choose to eat a sandwich over a bagel, walk to the right over walking to the left

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its all subconsciously chosen by our past experiences

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and personality

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now think about this

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do you CHOOSE your personality? no mane

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do you choose your past experiences? no either

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but this is because the environment you grew up with caused you to have certain preferences which led you to choose other things you wanna do which further influenced you

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and well now

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we dont really have an unbiased, fully FREE will over what we do now do we

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so what i say unto you now is

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dont worry

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dont think that not having a purpose is going to end you

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dont think that not finding love is cooked

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because its not like youre in a situation you have full control over but cant even move

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its more like youre in a dip that is going to only go up from there

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look at people walking the streets

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ask them, do you have purpose? do you have a wife or a gf or a relationship of any sort?

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most of them would say yes

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yes, a lot of people end up married

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yes, a lot of people have purpose

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and my friend, so will you

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its just something that will happen as you grow and mature and age, and you will find something just like everyone else, and find someone just like everyone else

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and just because you dont have free will doesnt mean youre doomed in fate

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it just means that the hobbies, interests, ideals, and morals you have right now arent exactly 100% yours

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which is fuck all fine, so just keep it pushing and know that, even if it seems like you have no purpose now, this very, very, VERY well may be one of the points youll look back at a decade from now when you have a life you are proud and glad of

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