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i got into a relationship that was mostly online. we barely went on one on one dates and mostly just texted all the time. it made it harder for us to actually talk in person. whenever we’d see each other irl, it was always with the friend group and almost never just us, which i really regret.
we broke up about three months ago. she said she gradually lost feelings for me. i think it was mostly because of my insecurity. i’d get paranoid whenever she talked to one of my friends, and i’d tell her about it. at first, she understood and even said she wouldn’t talk to him anymore, which honestly made me feel guilty. but later on when i brought it up again, she was cold and more firm about it.
there was also this time i had to go to mandatory training and my friend group — including her — went to the beach without me. i got super jealous because i thought we’d plan it for when everyone could go, not just without me. one of my friends told me later that the real reason she broke up with me was because of my insecurity and self-consciousness, but she didn’t tell me that directly because she’d probably feel bad.
i feel like introducing her to my friends was a mistake. the relationship was still new and there needed to be space for trust and connection first. there was also this time when she was talking to some dude on discord, pretending to be a guy but acting like a girl. she even gave him her number and they said ily and stuff.
she is still in my friend group but she doesnt talk to me at all.
is there any sort of way i can get back with her if I work on myself and give it time
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