#My girlfriend wants a break

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wind edge
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So I want to start with the fact that both me and her had a mutual agreement that maybe it's best if we just have some time apart from eachother as she is feeling very overwhelmed by everything
And I just feel useless, I want to get my life back together to show her that I can be better and the first thing I wanna do is get a part time job if anyone from London knows any places where applying to jobs is easy please let me know, I just need as many places I can apply to. I already applied to a bunch of places and I'm still waiting for responses from some places, I want to also speak better as i tend to shut down because of my own personal problems and I want to improve on that by being able to be reliable when someone is speaking to me especially my gf. (me 19m my gf 19f)

fierce junco
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i personally don't know anything about part time jobs in london, but i can say for a fact that W for taking initiative to improve, im pretty sure you would be able to get where you want to see yourself :D

clever apex
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Be very careful

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When she says she wants a break it could mean she wants to get with other dudes for fun and come back to you.

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Watch her socials and see her following

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As soon as there is another guy, block and move on

fierce junco
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anyways, i suggest you try moving n already in case she doesn't come back, dont think there is hope count it as a breakup already

clever apex
sharp spear
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İ don't think that people above gave you any advice, but rather than that they gave you more stuff to worry about. I am 18 y.o and I have been struggling with my self worth so many years. I also get quickly exhausted when I used to talk to my partner every single day for hours( he broke up with me yesterday 🌱) and I wish I did take time to myself and love myself, so that I could fill up my own cup and that way I could fill his. Yes she might want to do some other stuff but letmme tell you you will never know. I will never know. Her actions will speak louder than anything that she says. Go talm to chatgpt about her actions. For example my partner emotionally abused for a week (maybe longer) me before breaking up with me which made me feel like we have to stay friends, i wish i could be enough for him and also made me feel like wanting to stay friends so that I could work on myself and get back together with him. Watch out for the signs. She could be saying the truth, our mind always try to give the worst and the best possible situation to us. It's just the way trying to protect us. Get a part time job, but not for her, for your future self. Take time for yourself while she takes time for herself. Explore your boundaries, your feelings, your plans. İf she gives unclear, mixed signs, like saying she loves you more than everything, that she can't live without you, but then proceeds to not reply to your messages, not talk to you or take hours to reply then it's emotional abuse.

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When we love, we accept even bread crumbs. Because we know the person is capable of loving you more, so you expect them to. But sometimes we need to accept the fact that that person is not the one to give you the love you deserve. And about that disappearing for hours part, if she isn't in ||abusive|| household than i don't see any reason for them to dissappear for hours. I know it from myself. I live in a household like this and unfortunately I need to take hours to recharge my energy because of the things6that happening daily. You can continue to love her, I am sure that people usually hurt others because they are hurt. Try not to take it personal. If she is emotionally manipulating you, that means you deserve better. And that doesn't mean hating her. You can break up with someone, not talk to them, and even see them daily to daily life and still love them. The mindset is here very important. Do not hate her, she is probably dealing with her own problems. And even if she will do something that will hurt you(like cheating etc) don't takw it personally

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Her actions tell more about her rather than about you. I'm sure people don't hurt each other people when everything is fine with them. I'm sure she is struggling with something, it could be commitment, it could be not being able to love someone because they can't love themselves. You have been with yourself longer than anybody else did. Just trust yourself that whatever will happen, you will always come out stronger. And if you believe in God or any other religion, it might help you with going through hard times like this too. İ am not a huge believer of a religion, but let me tell you, as humans we go through so many hard things, it's just impossible to not believe in something. When you believe in a higher being, it will help you to have morw trust in the process, even tho if it feels extremely uncomfortable.

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Anf sorry for my letter mistakes, i am on a browser so i can't see the screen completely on my phone i don't know why. But hope i could help you even a little vit. I know it hurts, and thats one of the most beautiful things as humans we get to experience. It's all about the journey.

wind edge
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She doesn't have many guy friends mostly becayse those same guy friends are also my friends

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Also I'm friends with her girl friends

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And we aren't those type of people

wind edge
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We still talk almost daily and we still love eachother very much

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This also all comes from the fact that I wanted to tell my parents about wanting to marry her

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But unfortunately her sister passed away before I could

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And now she feels anger towards me which I completely understand why she would feel such way

wind edge
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Once we both have our shit together

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And she seemed happy about it

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I want to become a better version of myself not only for myself but for her too

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I want to show her that I can be a boulder for her to lean on

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And rely on

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Saying stuff isn't gonna do anything

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And tbh

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I don't think I can move on from someone like her

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Because she's done nothing wrong

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She's just grieving

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I wish i just had told my parents about marrying her before

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We could have probably been married by now

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Maybe even happier than we are now

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But now it just won't happen because of her family

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And how she lost her sister

clever apex
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I’m sure you think that

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But get that out of your MK d

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Mind

clever apex
sharp spear
# clever apex You aren’t, she could change in an instant. Girls leave long term relationships ...

People like you exist a lot and unfortunately what you are saying isn't helping him. You are just making his inner thoughts even worse. If you don't have any helpful advices don't talk. I hate it so much when we go through something what we need is actually support and love not the truth. We will find it out ourselves when we get the gentle support. This dude is literally going through a hard time and prob blaming himself and here you are using such rude way of talking. Be gentle and supportive or shut up

clever apex
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Im not being rude, im telling a hard truth

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The faster he accepts it, the faster he moves on

wind edge
wind edge
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I will keep moving forward with the belief that she won't because of past relationships and situations

wind edge
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And second others don't know our circumstances

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Me and her are taking a break rn

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And the relation ship is on pause for now

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Especially for me to give her time away from the relationship

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But I'm still there for her to support her however she needs me

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We speak everyday and she does want to get back together just not now but when she's doing better

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And I'm fine with that because when she wants to continue I hope to be better myself for her

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And if not I want to be better for myself

clever apex