#Losing a Good Friend

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vast light
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Hey...guys. I know my problems are no where even half as serious as so many others' here, i...just don't know how to deal with these emotions.

I had a really good friend. A really good one. But i started ignoring her, and then, made it all about myself, she told me she felt like a mosquito thrown out of a vat of milk, in the sense, I used her for years, because I had stopped showing up for her the way she needed. And I went silent for a year, and when I came back, I still made it about her forgiving me. I even told her I used to chat with ai bots during that one year, which probably confirmed her fears. Now, months after that, she warned me against ever reaching out. And that we can never be friends and that I've kept disrespecting her boundaries by reaching out. So, I was planning to bake a cake in her birthday. And sending it to her. I know it would still be breaking her boundaries, but would she atleast feel how much she always mattered? Will it be for her best? Thank you.

bleak talon
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It's not your fault I have lost everyone because I pulled away by accident, if it's just something that happens I've learnt to warn people that it's not me being funny with them it's just how I am. Bake her that cake and apologise as much you can

vast light
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Thanks man. I mean, she has warned me against reaching out ever again, because I'd been sending her warm messages letting her know how much she mattered, but she feels like those are still me disrespecting her boundaries. Perhaps, right now, letting go is the best thing, and also, honoring her boundaries. Idk. Should I bake the cake for her even now?

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@bleak talon

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Losing a Good Friend

vast light
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Perhaps, respecting her boundaries is what matters. She'd probably perceive any tender gesture as a breach of her boundaries.

bleak talon
vast light
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Well, she has told me that she will never see my words as sincere or even true.