The best way to move on?

[spice plover]

On my first week during a break up after dating someone for almost 3 months. I woke up today feeling everything at once. My emotions are heavy because I still feel betrayed or I am in a mindset where I can't understand why this person would go out of their way to date someone else just because I didn't do what they wanted me to do. I have been really having a hard time with setting boundaries that I keep in relationships because people always end up going away... Just need some insight on anyone else who have lost friends and relationships in a short period of time

[keen sandal]

happens, id honestly say take all the time you need for yourself, dont worry about others rn cause youre mourning really

common to lose friends esp if they just want u to be your old self or dont realize youre not good rn

[spice plover]

Yeah, I feel like I'm hard on myself because I am having thoughts of me and him together the last time and how we were on good terms

But then the picture I seen is flashing through my mind with anger

[keen sandal]

it just goes down like that unfortunately

process thru all u gotta feel

[spice plover]

It's like if you were going to invite her over why didnt you invite her over in the first place

and I dont want to compare myself

[keen sandal]

ye exactly but you also dont want to just dig yourself deeper in resentment

[spice plover]

right I dont want to be bitter

I just dont know what to do like

[keen sandal]

you do you

[spice plover]

let those thoughts fester or try my best to release them. Lol like does journaling make it better

[keen sandal]

best thing to do is process n see how it all came to be

[strange minnow]

Time is everything and try to recognize your own emotions and do the opposite like if you feel sad maybe journal or something

[strange minnow]

Sometimes honestly nothing feels better at first even if it does help

[spice plover]

yeah I've gone to the gym and I did journal lol I just want a cheat code to feel normal

I just keep telling myself there is nothing to go back to

[strange minnow]

Nothings going to make you feel normal for a good while trust me

[keen sandal]

just gotta let time do it's thing

[strange minnow]

It’s just part of it I am suffering a break up and sometimes you should let it hurt and hurt and hurt and one day it will stop hurting never try to surpress or hide your emotions

[spice plover]

right I just sometimes get intrusive thoughts to cuss him out lol

[strange minnow]

I would say pray and reading the Bible and trying to understand it has helped me feel better but you have to be consistent

[strange minnow]

No don’t

[spice plover]

so Im trying to be productive and work out

[strange minnow]

Forgive them and pray be the bigger person

[strange minnow]

Pray and read the Bible it has helped me a lot God is always there with you trust me

[spice plover]

I really have lol and I am going to continue to but sometimes when you think tooo deeep I get angry

[keen sandal]

yeah ofc when you start hating youll eventually stop thinking

[spice plover]

yeah I'm going to keep trying though and just accept the process of healing

[strange minnow]

Trust me it’s easy to get angry but there’s no point at the end of the day you are only hurting yourself and don’t let other peoples behavior be the cause of your heart attack

[spice plover]

yeahh I want to forgive but it comes with time. I also dont want to forgive for that person but for myself

[spice plover]

Thats true I did end up sending a message 3 days ago when I found out. It wasnt rude I just let them know I felt hurt and used and I understood I couldnt expect so much loyalty

[strange minnow]

Just pray for them and forgive them even when it’s hard

[spice plover]

yeah taking it step by step

I'm going to allow myself to feel my emotions but I'm definetly going to journal and not try to lash out at anyone and I have been finding prayers and stuff online