Lost she dumped me

[frigid jackal]

Also there’s more little things that I have done bad or immature and it hurts because I genuinely would do anything and it feels all too late and still want her so bad it’s crazy

My heart is just hurting and I feel so alone and I want her right now so much I will for a good while I miss her but my heart is just hurting here and there

[queen stream]

Theres a lot to unpack here and someone whose a listener can definitely provide a better perspective than me, or at least word what I say better.

If you tried your best to change, then great. But part of your character growth means having to go through a breakup at least once in your life.

I wont sugarcoat this. Keeping an eye on her social media won't help in moving on. If you have distractions to occupy your mind, that can help. Another thing to help with moving on is by engaging with your local community in some way. Yeah, meeting new people can also help. Friendships can be distractions to a breakup as well.

It took me a long time to get over losing my best friend after what she did to me, but I am joining college again just to find a new friend group.

It wont be a healthy relationship really if you want her back, especially obsessing over whether she may have blocked you or not. It sounds more like a trait of overthinking

Take moving on day by day, and with time, she will phase out of your mind.

[frigid jackal]

I genuinely want to become more mature but I’m lost on how to make it permanent I’m a bad person and I don’t know how I couldn’t change completely, I want to try again with her even though she gave me a lot of chances but if I can just become maybe a better person not even for that reason but just change for good I might reach out is that good I want to get back with her and create a genuine healthy relationship with her

[queen stream]

You're maturing without realising. That also takes time. For a fresh breakup, I dont think it's healthy to plan on trying to amend the relationship. If you also tried changing for the better, thats maturity.

[frigid jackal]

I agree I will keep trying I just rotting right now but how long should I give it before I try to amend or do it

Anything else I should do my goal is just to become a mature and better person destroy or get rid of the habits that ruined my relationship for the future and I want to start a healthy relationship with her and try to make it work even though it failed numerous times I don’t know what the secret is I’m still so sad <@&662497203570475059> <@&993332385670246420>

[main valley]

I suggest leaving your phone alone for a while , this gives you guys both time to change

Its not healthy to keep checking her, and keep watching her like that

[queen stream]

^^ This is said in the most simplest yet perfect way. The secret to helping yourself is taking it day by day. overtime wont even have her in your thoughts. It's the obsession thats a roadblock to moving on. And your future is undecided. It's a possibility you will end up seeing someone after trial and error who is just perfect for you.

I was just the same with you but it was a product of my overthinking just when I lost my best friend. (for me it was seeing when she removed photos of me because it aggravated me she had them up there). Yes I still hate her for her wrongdoing but now she doesn't affect my daily routine.

[frigid jackal]

That’s the thing I don’t want to let go I want to try and become a good person good young man and treat her and build a healthy relationship