Train encounter that started well and is going strangely | The Therapy Center | Page 1

cinder bramble Jul 28, 2025, 8:23 AM

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So I asked and we started talking (the second half of my commute went by flying...
I joked a little, she laughed, we exchanged informations, she works from 8 to approximatly 6, 6 days out of 7 (we re french don’t mind the work time) she then helps her father at his restaurant from 7 to 11 pm every day. And since she likes going to the gym she does so in the early morning (4 am), we exchanged snaps and that was it...
The day after that we got on the same trais in the morning and at the end of our days... everything was going smoothly and out of nowhere she ignored my text for 24h straight?
I just want to spend some time with her in order to get to know each other see if it could fit but the fact that her planning is this packed and that she takes so much time to respond make me feel like I'm being needy / pushy.
It did happen to me multiple time (getting in touch with a girl, h1ving everything going smoothly and then them ghosting me out of nowhere so I do feel kind of scared...
I cant share this with friends (they all are in stable relationships and don’t have a lot of time "for" me...
I envisaged going to her dad, and presenting myself respectfully in order to get to take her out once (but her dad being turkish and us knowing each other for such a small amount of time I stopped myself from doing so...)

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Train encounter that started well and is going strangely

lavish cloud Jul 28, 2025, 9:13 AM

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when’s the last time you’ve been able to talk to her?

cinder bramble Jul 28, 2025, 9:32 AM

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Well I sent her this photo at 10 pm saturday, at midnight she told me that it looked good, then I responded like 2 mins after her text "did you eat already" 24 hours went by, then she told me "yes i had already eaten" it was yesterday at 11pm, so this morning I sent : " idk what to say everything feels so wrong worded..."
To which she answered "nah don’t worry"

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Not exactly "nah don’t worry" but you get the point

cinder bramble Jul 28, 2025, 9:34 AM

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lavish cloud when’s the last time you’ve been able to talk to her?

Since we're both at work I then told her that we'll talk tonight on the train, 30 mins ago, and i did not get an answer yet

lavish cloud Jul 28, 2025, 9:35 AM

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oh I see, well then if I were you, I would wait for a response

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If there is none, just talk to her about it on the train

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tell her that you’d like to take her out on a date

cinder bramble Jul 28, 2025, 9:45 AM

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Yeah that’s what I had in mind but I've been in theses kind of situations multiple times and I've always been hurt cause I often end up projecting or just being "needy".
In the current situation I do feel like being a little too 'pressing' ?
I kind of define myself like a hopeless romantic and shit but it doesn’t seem to be a good look for RS
I burn myself to make things work times and times again...
I don’t want to be hurt again...

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That’s pathetic cause it might work out yk

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But I know my worth yk, I know that even if I don’t look the best, I do my best to be a great guy, I am starting to work out again (cause I definetly need it), I worked things out on my career and shit

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But every time I end up being rejected I hate myself again

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And she seems like she could be the one (even more than any other girl I've ever been interested in) and I know myself, I know it would destroy me again...

lavish cloud Jul 28, 2025, 9:49 AM

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you’re not needy for asking somebody out

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it’s good that you also know your own worth

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I would just ask her out

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you might regret it in the future if you just give up now

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you also have to get over the fear of rejection

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what if you meet someone even better but you’re too afraid of rejection

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you got this, but keep your expectations at bay

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it’s okay to be rejected

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It’s okay to try even if you feel like the odds are against you

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You never know without trying 😉

cinder bramble Jul 28, 2025, 10:01 AM

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Yep sure... I just need to make her skip a day at her dad’s restaurant

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Xd

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I don't fear rejection that much it's more about the fact that I get emotionnaly attached a bit fast yk

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and since she is above my league, it scares me a lot to show too much of my attachement too fast

lavish cloud Jul 28, 2025, 10:09 AM

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no such thing as “above my league”

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Everyone is equal

lavish cloud Jul 28, 2025, 10:10 AM

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cinder bramble I don't fear rejection that much it's more about the fact that I get emotionnaly...

I can see

cinder bramble Jul 28, 2025, 10:11 AM

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xd

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anyways thx for hearing me out and all

lavish cloud Jul 28, 2025, 10:11 AM

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no worries you got this bro

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