Situationship problem

[snow whale]

Nah it’s fine just read are you in a gc with them and how do the typically act towards you and you not alone I’m currently in the same position

Are you also interested in this person romantically

[neat plinth]

I am in a gc of 8 with them, most of them r my close friends. Tyyy

At first they were being very showy that they r interested in me romantically

Saying and doing things for me that gets my heart pumping

[snow whale]

Yeah and now they going back on that and acting dry ?

[neat plinth]

But as time passed by, I reciprocated what they were doing but they became more apathetic

[neat plinth]

Sometimes yes it’s rly random and I get rly confused abt it

Idk if it’s normal or if it’s js me

Since we’ve only met 5 months ago

[snow whale]

Nah it’s normal I’m in the same thing

And I came here to also look on advice for the same situation

[snow whale]

Was this online or irl

[neat plinth]

Online

My friend of 4 years introduced me to them

I think that they’re rly kind, they care abt their friends and family and is very generous to everyone but w me, they become different

[snow whale]

Yeah mine they talk to everyone else and then ignore my text or snaps

[snow whale]

Yeah have you tried talking to them about it

[neat plinth]

Yes it’s like that for me too

[neat plinth]

Yes I did multiple times

I asked for reassurance asking if they lost interest but they said otherwise

They told me they still like me romantically

[snow whale]

Ohh mine I like her she doesn’t know but yeah it’s annoying so I get you man have you tried talk to them about it I have

[neat plinth]

About what I’m currently feeling, nope not yet

But in the past I talked to them about some parts of what I’m feeling

They gave me assurance and the conversations always went well but it keeps repeating

[snow whale]

Yeah I don’t think there interested low-key and if you like them as a friend like that pushing it that if you get together and break up it doesn’t work out after that

And e dating I currently am goes really fast really quick so I just don’t generally recommend unless you really know and trust the person due to them last a month to 2 months

[neat plinth]

We got to know each other the first 2 months and in the 3rd month, the situationship started and then it all went downhill

[neat plinth]

Yeah you’re right I think so too but they keep saying otherwise

Maybe it’s out of pity or idk

I like them romantically tho and I’m not sure but I think I’m inlove, I’m still trying to figure out everything

[snow whale]

Yeah I feel like my stuff to it really depends like i understand the build connection but i just got with mine 2 days ago she ask me out inst after I love you yk it goes so quick

[snow whale]

Yeah totally just take your time and make sure it doesn’t hurt your too much man

[neat plinth]

Ohh how long have u guys known each other

[snow whale]

4 days

The person I like for awhile since December

[neat plinth]

I see I seee I hope it goes well with you

[neat plinth]

Yeah and I went here for a bit of help, I wanna know how I can deal w this, should I js break it off?

[snow whale]

Yeah I’m not sure about it but same with you man sorry if I could be more help I really hop it goes better for both of us low-key and ik this shit sucks

[neat plinth]

Thanks dude I hope so too

[snow whale]

I have been thinking about the same thing I lost most of my friends to growing older and she currently one of my last 3 friends that doesn’t treat me like shit

We had a huge fight because I e date one of her friends in may I got angry at her for annoying and making funny of me then we had a huge fight in April and we stop talking for a good month now we talk again

N that shit kill me I cried for a week straight till I pulled my self together only cried like that when my best friend currently in the last 3 moved to aus

And I keep checking she unblocked me

[neat plinth]

Ohh I see it’s good that u guys are all made up now I hope that it goes well this time and ur relationship w her goes healthy

[neat plinth]

Was it js a misunderstanding on both sides? The fight?

[snow whale]

So my ex Mon was just at me about something I had enough basically told her some bad words and leave me alone and she went to ask me and then yeah got into a fight after that I was being a huge meanie cause I was just piss and started taking it abit to far and then we stop talking I was a mess I was in my close mates dms prince and nox just having them pull me back together it was Algoods when we start talking and now she just doesn’t reply or ignore me she use to @ me everyday to play roblox and now she doesn’t @ me I always goes first and she says she busy or just doesn’t respond and prince and nox are busy with work my mates sam and Simon are busy with work and I’m taking a gap year since I finish school early before uni

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[neat plinth]

Maybe she’s being like that because she is still hurt by what happened in the past. She can’t be busy because u said she talks w otjer ppl and not to u. Have u tried asking abt what she feels like?

[snow whale]

What she sent me today

First text
“THE ONLY THING I CAN REPLY TO U W ON THAT IS A LAME ASS "OKAY" OR "YES"
“

Secound
“but since u insist”
“ill reply to your texts w the most emo dark tone edge i can”

[snow whale]

Yeah she just brush it off and I’m just not a caring type anymore due to my past and dramas and I can try but idk if she brush it off it would kill me to loser her

Hbu and your rele you guys dm heaps

[neat plinth]

Huh what’s the context of these why did she say that

[snow whale]

Ohh because I ask her to look and reply to my text please

[neat plinth]

Have u tried telling her that? Everything you’ve told me so far? About how u feel towards everything in the relationship?

[neat plinth]

I dunno man I’m rly confused, they say they like me but their actions say otherwise

[snow whale]

Yeah I do she just reply yeah Algoods and I swear they just don’t take me seriously so I’m just stuck lose them the only person I can talk to 24/7 or keep up with this

[neat plinth]

What she said to you sounds mean, were u offended or hurt by what she said?

[snow whale]

Yeah always I try hold things together it’s not the worse I’m use to people tell me I’m a failure and to sh

[snow whale]

Yeah fr I would suggest talk to them and see where that leads today just message it like can we please talk when your free or something along those lines

[neat plinth]

If u think she isn’t taking u seriously then maybe try doing it again but with more effort and if it rly doesnt work out, I’d js stop trying because it’s clear that it won’t go anywhere

[neat plinth]

Even if ur used to it, it doesnt justify all the mean things people say to you. I think you need to consider ur feelings important too and respect urself man

[neat plinth]

Yeah I think I should tyy maybe I js wanted courage from someone to tell them that

[snow whale]

Yeah idk how to dm could you give me a template text please man you have one and sorry for this I feel bad since you where looking for advice

[snow whale]

Yeah true I can always meet new people at uni like minded was my current goal

[neat plinth]

A template text forr?

[snow whale]

Like asking her why she acting dif

[neat plinth]

Yes but idk if the idea of “meeting new people” can be used as a motivation since energy might get wasted trying to do that. I think there is so much more to life than chasing people

[snow whale]

Yeah i did messege this after she dm me some troll stuff

ehhe why u angry with me 😭

[neat plinth]

I would start it off with a qeustion. I would ask her if she’s still affected by the past and what I can do to make it up to her because she is really special and dear to me. If she says that she lost interest then I’ll stop pursuing even tho it’ll hurt for idk how long. If she says that there is NO problem, I would tell her that I feel like she is being different to me by saying like “I feel hurt by what you’re doing. I feel like something is wrong because you are very different w me”

I didn’t use exact words or sentences because that might not seem like you, I js gave u a guideline of what I would do if I were in ur shoess

[neat plinth]

Huh r u referring to me? I’m not angry at all man😭 no worries

[snow whale]

Ohh nah that what I sent to her

[neat plinth]

And she replied w memes?

[snow whale]

No she hasn’t replied at all to that

She just left me on delivered

[neat plinth]

For how long?

Do u think she’s purposely ignoring you?

If so, then I think the answer is obvious

[snow whale]

For like 3 hours rn she did say she was going out for food in the server like 2 hours after I sent the text

[neat plinth]

Either she’s mad or she’s playing games

[snow whale]

After I instantly replied

[neat plinth]

She js completely ignored the text?

[snow whale]

Both most likely and yeah everyone told me when we had the fight drop all them and go back to my old self

[snow whale]

Yeah I’m guessing so she sent I sent the same one at the exacted same time

I’m currently giving her nitro and money to stay friends with me like I did with my other old friends

[neat plinth]

To stay friends?

Ur giving her things so that she could stay friends with youu?

[snow whale]

Yeah that what I do with all my friend ships I always shout buying everyone whatever they want or need

[neat plinth]

I think that you should stop that, the relationships would not be real if ur doing that so your friends would stay friends with you

[snow whale]

Yeah true and I have stop recently due to losing my job and being dead broke

[neat plinth]

Did ur friends stay or did their attitude toward you change when that happened?

[neat plinth]

Going back to her

[snow whale]

Yeah I got this response

no you cant help me lol

[neat plinth]

If u ever get a chance at a proper conversation, I think you should tell her EVERYTHING abt what ur feeling

[neat plinth]

I dont get it

[neat plinth]

And if u think it’s going nowhere.. Like i said, there is so much more to life than chasing people

[neat plinth]

Is she struggling with something completely unrelated to the relationship? Like a mental health problem?

[snow whale]

Yeah neither she just sent that so idk anymore

[snow whale]

She always e dating so it’s that rn

Most likely

[neat plinth]

Has it been going on for 4 days?

The way she’s different towards you, the way she texts you?

[snow whale]

No it’s been going on for a few weeks and it’s been weird she complete changed and it’s Fine since your right chasing people bad sometimes I low-key regret all of this

[neat plinth]

Weeks??

Do you think you’re making progress at least? Getting to her?

If not then I’d stop pursuing IF I were in your shoes, might hurt but it’s better. stopping things early= less regrets in the future

But if u rly love her and want to love her regardless of all the pain then js follow ur heart

[snow whale]

Yeah I feel like I make some then goes back to 0 and yeah at this stage when we had the huge fight I was a mess but I got back into programming and hobbies and it was good like once I turn 18 I can buy and start doing shit again and since I’m out of the country now so I will 100% forgetting them

After all that

[neat plinth]

It’s good that things r going better for u man proud of u, don’t let things from the past pull u back down to that low point again. Wishing you the besttt

[snow whale]

Yeah you too thanks man and I wish you the best with you stuff to man

Thank you heaps too