Hi, so, I've been dealing with s/h since 2023, I was almost 9months until a problem with a dear friend of mine appeared, I stressed out and felt lonely, so I relapsed, then I got a boyfriend and a good group of friends on my new school, I was clean for 3 months, until we had this huge fight with my boyfriend, he said things like he needed space, but he was overthinking a lot so he started saying things like "I don't want to lose you" "I love you but I don't know if I see you as a friend or as a partner" "Maybe I started doubting because at the start I only fell in love with you bc of your physical appearance" and I know he did fell in love with me but there were so many changes this year and he is a minor and he is living by himself and well, he overthinks a lot and he is very impulsive, I've been waiting for him to apologize but waiting is freaking me out, bc I know he probably will apologize, but omg this weeks have been soooo stressful and I relapsed, and I'm so dissapointed bc I know that if it wasn't for these problems, I would be fulfilling 1 year clean, BUT I COULDN'T AND AGHHHHH I JUST KNOW that if my boyfriend or my best friends found out about this they would be so worried and so dissapointed, mostly my boyfriend bc I promised him that I wouldn't do it again, and when we were fighting he was saying things like "I want you to be okay, being or not being with me" and god, I really want things to work out with him but IM SO FRUSTRATED OF MYSELF, LIKE, WHY DID I DO THAT TO MYSELF? 😭 i did this to myself and I can't help but feeling dissapointed and frustrated at myself, i swear im getting so sick of everything i want everything to be fine (srry if my writing and grammar is weird, english is my second language)
#idk
stoic spade
may i ask why u do s/h
ive met a person who does self harm because its an enjoyable feeling and get addicted, but it also keeps a lot of people away from her because their scared or something. now i understand that giving it up isnt easy because its practically like a drug to calm people down, but sometimes it isnt worth it yk. i feel that the best choice is to stop, and instead fix the situation of your relationship because thats whats initiating your choice to do s/h
now obviously while u do this, resist the urge to s/h, in fact, dont even think about it, keep yourself occupied so theres absolutely no point in even remembering or doing s/h
ones lack of being occupied burns the fuel to do whatever your addicted to even more, and obviously occupy yourself with things that make u smile and happy, cuz if you occupy yourself with mentally L stuff, you rely on that stuff to make urself happy
stoic spade
also an overthinker is only triggered by one thing
a possibility
even in the slightest
try removing those possibilities
by doing what he prays u dont do, u prove his unwanted possibility leading to more possibilities
and more overthinking
thats what ive experienced
if youd like send me a dm and we can continue to talk it out, if this much info is enough then im glad and hope u the best
rapid pumice
may i ask why u do s/h
idk, i started bc i was feeling really really bad back then, but then I started doing it only to deal with stress or something like that
quaint portal
Hey
@rapid pumice
Dm me about your problem
It's alot and alot of people went through it
rapid pumice
thats what ive experienced
well, thanks for your advice, that's something I needed to hear, thaank you, really c:
rapid pumice
It's alot and alot of people went through it
oh
quaint portal
I help alot of people you are one of them