#My Now-Ex just moved on a day after our breakup.

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zinc quarry
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TW: Self Punishment (You know what this means)

i met this girl in my school and I'd be lying if i said that she wasn't the loveliest person i've ever met. everything from her eyes, her soft hands and her personality. eventually we both confessed to each other and we were in a relationship. our relationship lasted for a year and 10 months until just recently. during these past few months, my gf made a discord server where she invited all of her friends, while also making it a public server. one person joined her server which was a friend of a friend, and let's just call him jack.

jack was a cool person, and he actually reminded me a lot of my best friend, so i had to hang out with him. my gf also started to hang out with us whenever i'd play games with jack. this past week, me and my gf had a huge argument about something. we decided to just maybe fix it tomorrow since it was pretty late at night, so we both agreed to sleep. it wasn't until the next morning where i saw her rant to jack about what had just happened in our argument, which was part of the boundaries and promises that we made.

"No one can rant to anyone about our problems unless the other agrees."

Before this time, i already felt that jack had already been much closer to my gf than he's close with me. so i woke up the next morning very upset at her for breaking our promise. we had a back and fourth and eventually we started to be all lovey-dovey again.

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Last week Saturday, me and her got into another big argument about how "she wants to feel courted again." I straight up told her that it was impossible, because we were both in our comfortable phase. it wasn't like i wasn't trying to give her that same feeling again. i was genuinely trying to do my best to get her to feel that way, like giving her heartfelt gifts and sometimes even letters or her favorite food. when she said these things, i felt so unappreciated and i just snapped. i handled it calmly with her, but deep down i was full of rage. that day ended with us not being to resolve this problem, i slept for the day and she didn't.

Instead, he came to jack and rant again about what had just happened between us. she told jack that same thing about how she wanted to feel courted again. well, jack also indirectly confessed to her that same day and even serenaded her through a vm of him singing. when i found out about this, (this week sunday) i was so devastated and then she approached me out of nowhere in the morning, asking to break up. It was a "cool-off" type of breakup and i reluctantly agreed.

That day, i saw her post a story where she was just hanging out with her friends and playing games with them in vc, (all day) but i also saw jack. they were singing in a vc and being all happy while i was here just completely broken about what had just happened. that night, we broke up for real.

yesterday, i came into that day fully prepared about what i was gonna do. i tried to be productive by making schedules, to-do lists and even journaling. that same day, my now-ex has always been hanging out with jack and her other friends almost as if nothing ever happened. she even through some hints that there might be something mutual happening between her and jack.

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just this morning, i saw her note with his favorite song, while he had a note saying "me gustas?" which i'm sure means "i like you". at that point i was just shattered into small little pieces and i was so hurt seeing her move on that quickly. we were the most known couple in class because it genuinely felt like we were gonna get married one day. we were the opposite of a toxic relationship, and she just threw that away like nothing. from the very being in my core, i miss her. from the very pieces of my soul, i still love her. even tho we let go of each other, i still wanted the best for her, and yet i still can't sit right with it.

recently i've been self punishing myself. it felt like my actions were to no avail and that i couldn't do anything about this anymore. i'm lost and i genuinely don't know what i'm gonna do anymore. i just feel devastated. i have no friends to vent to and my family is also in shambles. i need someone's help. please.

south mist
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she cheated on u

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If someone gets with someone else a day after ur breakup it just means they already had feelings for them during ur relationship

zinc quarry
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it was just that

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when that serenading thing happened

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the day after

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she told me "i would be lying if i said that i didn't see it as romantic"

south mist
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thats crazy bruh

zinc quarry
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we had such a special thing together

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and it hurts so bad.

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because i was so sure we'd be married one day

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i still remember the very first date we had

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i still remember the promise ring i gave to her

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i don't know why this happened

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i was locked

zinc quarry
south mist
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dont try to reason with it, sometimes people arent truthfully and decieving

zinc quarry
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i hate that i still love her after everything

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but i do

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i'm just such in a rough spot

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and i'm confused

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i stayed with her through her lowest moments

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when she had social anxiety

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when she was being bullied

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and we fixed it together

south mist
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Its rough to say why this happened but all I can say is that it'll be helpful. You might of noticed patterns and had doubts, and maybe the next people you meet you can spot those same patterns, and behaviors and weed out those bad apples quicker.

zinc quarry
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i had hope and i had so much trust

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i embraced her imperfections like being really sensitive because i knew she was the woman i wanted to be with

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i fought for everything because it meant that i would be with the most important person in my life

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but that all means nothing now

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she sleeps soundly as if things never happened between us

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and i'm out here replaying the same conversation over and over each night

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i poured my soul

south mist
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ye bro that shit sucks

zinc quarry
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it hurts.

south mist
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You'll get it through it though trust

zinc quarry
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how will i

south mist
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time heals

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Just come to terms with the fact that it isn't ur fault and she was a waste of time for u

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and she wasnt the one

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she cheated and she should be ashamed of herself but she has to live with that now

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and the jack guy will learn you lose them how you get them

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you'll be alright brother

zinc quarry
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i hope so

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i hope this feeling goes away

south mist
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It will brother

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I had a relationship for 2 years and felt like you too after the breakup, like the feeling was never gonna go away, and I wouldn't find someone else like her, etc etc

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but like

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Its a very much in the moment thing

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and after awhile you'll be okay again king

zinc quarry
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i sure do hope so

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thank you, george

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it's just been really tough on me lately

south mist
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Yeah you'll be good dont worry, remember they are the ones who've hurt themselves

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She will live with the fact knowing she cheated, and he will have to worry about losing his girl the same way he got her

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and you? Well you just dodged both those bullets

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ur the real winner

zinc quarry
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i'll try and be better

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and i hope some day i truly find someone that will be the person for the rest of my life

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it makes me feel a little better when i say things like that out loud