So i have been dating this girl for about 4 months now. Things were pretty good initially as we loved each other and also were intimate but a break happened between us for about 3 weeks and after that she showed love through hints but never actually told me that she loves me as in yk "I love you" kinda which is okay too because i dont expect too much love from a partner. She also never agrees to be intimate with me as well. shed get off by herself and wouldnt wanna get physical with me. She used to chat with those ai bots like character ai and what not but she left it because i was uncomfortable about it because why flirt and sext with ai when you have me right? she does care about me but she absolutely doesn't show it at all. I don't know why she is being like that. She wasnt like this with her ex's and i feel like she only likes my company rather than loving me as a partner.
#My girlfriend might not be interested in me.
marsh jacinth
uneven gazelle
did you just say exes?
Im gonna be real with you man
she doesnt love you
she just likes having you around
if she wanted you the way you wanted her you wouldnt have to guess
marsh jacinth
It's not that simple
uneven gazelle
is it?
cuz from the story ur telling it feels like idk maybe she was more intimatee with her exes than she is with you
and i feel like you just trying to cope
trim scarab
So i have been dating this girl for about 4 months now. Things were pretty good ...
have you asked her?
marsh jacinth
have you asked her?
She just says "idk"
Sometimes I feel like she wants time to trust me or something but other times I feel like I don't think I have patience
I have dated people and I have not loved anyone else as much as I have felt for her
trim scarab
She just says "idk"
how do you know she cares about you
marsh jacinth
how do you know she cares about you
She throws small hints here and there
trim scarab
She throws small hints here and there
maybe shes worried losing you again?
marsh jacinth
I also feel like she doesn't wanna feel used after giving her body to me but again I'm her boyfriend not a stranger?
trim scarab
I also feel like she doesn't wanna feel used after giving her body to me but aga...
give her some time
shes probably just worried
but
you did mention "I feel like she only likes my company rather than loving me as a partner"
is there any other reason why you came to that conclusion?
marsh jacinth
Because whenever I have complained about her not loving me she tends to wanna break up with me
Like "find someone else if I'm not able to satisfy you"
trim scarab
theres no reason for you to complain, speak to her normally
do you know she is fine? have you asked?
marsh jacinth
She is fine .. she is just a mega avoidant .. never addresses any situation head on.. always wanna run away from it
uneven gazelle
man ur so attached to her after all these signals
it sounds like shes trying to find an excuse to not date u
marsh jacinth
it sounds like shes trying to find an excuse to not date u
She'd have broken up then if that was the case
I'm an overthinker too so i have just thought about every possible what ifs in my head
trim scarab
She'd have broken up then if that was the case
she wants attention she wont break up
you mentioned it yourself
why else would someone go to those loveable AIs
they give attention
marsh jacinth
What am I supposed to do then? Give it some more time or just leave her?
trim scarab
What am I supposed to do then? Give it some more time or just leave her?
speak to her
mention how you feel
properly
without complaining
marsh jacinth
I have and as I said she would avoid talking about it
trim scarab
I have and as I said she would avoid talking about it
why do u think shes avoiding
marsh jacinth
why do u think shes avoiding
No clue
marsh jacinth
Yeah completely normal .. would talk about everything laugh and what not but as soon as I bring this up she will shift completely
trim scarab
Yeah completely normal .. would talk about everything laugh and what not but as ...
man idk u gotta think about it well but
ask her is she going through anything
because everything you said she wants attention, doesnt want to talk about anything which wont give her attention she wants
i dont wanna tell u anything like break up
marsh jacinth
But wanting attention in a relationship a common thing?
trim scarab
But wanting attention in a relationship a common thing?
it is, but also speaking to someone about how ur feeling is common
her reasoning is
"idk"
marsh jacinth
It just feels like she wants me to be somehow okay with what she is giving which tbh might not even be bare minimum
uneven gazelle
say to her your not fine with this
trim scarab
It just feels like she wants me to be somehow okay with what she is giving which...
how many times have u tried talking about it
marsh jacinth
how many times have u tried talking about it
Every other day ig?
trim scarab
Every other day ig?
for how long
marsh jacinth
for how long
It usually ends up in a fight
uneven gazelle
do you feel loved by her?
marsh jacinth
for how long
Can go around from 10 minutes to an hour
trim scarab
It usually ends up in a fight
does she say ur over reacting
marsh jacinth
do you feel loved by her?
Sometimes.. but as I said it's more like an indirect love
marsh jacinth
does she say ur over reacting
Not exactly but kinda
uneven gazelle
how does she show it indirectly?
trim scarab
how does she show it indirectly?
hints im assuming
uneven gazelle
yeah but what exactly are the hints
cuz if he says she shared me a ketchup packet yesterday i dont think thats a hint
trim scarab
😭
marsh jacinth
how does she show it indirectly?
Directly would be telling someone that they love you .. indirect is more like showing love through your actions
trim scarab
from what im seeing
uneven gazelle
yeah im asking what are the actions numbnut
trim scarab
she never wants to talk about it and she has no reason - asuming she is fine in real life
which
isnt healthy
ur suffering
and itll hurt more and more
uneven gazelle
so slightly cut her off
marsh jacinth
so slightly cut her off
How do you do that
uneven gazelle
you want us to make a breakup message?
marsh jacinth
Break up isn't slightly cutting off.. it's completely cutting off
trim scarab
How do you do that
dont do anything you dont want to
uneven gazelle
Break up isn't slightly cutting off.. it's completely cutting off
yeah i know sarcasm
i chatgptd a breakup message
trim scarab
you can slowly detach from here
uneven gazelle
Hey, I’ve been thinking about us a lot. I care about you, but I don’t feel like you actually want me as a partner—you just like having me around. And that’s not fair to either of us.
I don’t want to keep holding on to something that feels one-sided. I’m going to step back now and let us both move on. I wish you well."
marsh jacinth
Hey, I’ve been thinking about us a lot. I care about you, but I don’t feel like ...
She is expert on picking up if a message is written by ai or not
uneven gazelle
lmfao
trim scarab
Hey, I’ve been thinking about us a lot. I care about you, but I don’t feel like ...
just a tip, never use --
uneven gazelle
does it even matter if ur going to cut her off ayway
trim scarab
She is expert on picking up if a message is written by ai or not
be careful man tho
i dont know what we can do other than that really
marsh jacinth
I don't want to cut her off .. I really love her.. what id want is for her to be more open with me
uneven gazelle
you may really love her
but does she really love you?
It feels onesided
and u havent told what actions she does indicates love for her to you
marsh jacinth
She does .. she isn't expressive.. that's the problem which I have stated