#Is he right or wrong in this ?

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verbal pike
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Imagine You broke a glass vase and then continuously for 2-3 years you are praying for it to hold water for you

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And you want it to work cause you devoted 2-3 years of praying

fallow field
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No I don't want it to work becoz I devoted time but becoz I actually wanted a real and long lasting connection. I was writing alot of long notes continuously, lot ofppl bullied me that's why I got that much psychotic which he knows. Do u think I was in my r8 mental state if I did smtg like the bio thing. I'm otherwise a among the most nice ppl everyone knows that my image was damaging becoz acc to them I'm wrong if they were that many ppl I'm writing abt

hollow pine
# fallow field No I don't want it to work becoz I devoted time but becoz I actually wanted a re...

You shouldn't short-hand so much, and work on your grammar because it's extremely difficult to understand some of this.

But that being said, strong infatuation frequently feels like a cosmic connection - twin flames, soul mates etc. It doesn't mean it's true, and it's certainly not true with the incompatibility between you and the one you claim to love. With the things he's said to you, too, it's obviously not meant to be.

You should make a concerted effort to move on.

fallow field
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Becoz of what think u are saying we're incompatible ? The response he said ? I mean idk but if it changes anytg for more context we were 18 that time & I've written earlier also that uk he's also kiddo type just like me so he's vry immature.

hollow pine
fallow field
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No I misunderstood it; I thought he is flirting but they were just friends they were just joking around with each other No argument happened abt anytg either

fallow field
hollow pine
# fallow field U didn't reply to the other thing ?

What other thing? The typing thing? Bad literacy doesn't always have something to do with maturity, but I still think you should improve. It'd help explain your problems and make it easier for people to comprehend and respond.

fallow field
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I didn't say that thing for u saying to me abt grammar I said it for more context. I'm asking abt adding the more context abt our age and his nature

fallow field
hollow pine
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I already talked about it. 😭

The stuff about soul mates and twin flames. It often feels like the case during the height of infatuation, but it isn't always true. Just like Romeo and Juliet. Infatuation, not love. And love should be from both people.

It sounds pretty one-sided to me. It's great you care about the spiritual depth of love, but I don't think he shares the same values. That's what I believe, anyway.

fallow field
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But why does it seem one sided to u ? It is one sided rn becoz he was disinterested while I was doing the notes thing & what I did ie becoz of it so ya he isn't interested for now he himself said it He was earlier as I told the reasons

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I was asking if his age and being immature changes ur specific opinion of "with the things he said to you it's obvsly not meant to be". I was asking if that changes anytg abt ur perception of what he said to me

hollow pine
# fallow field I was asking if his age and being immature changes ur specific opinion of "with ...

I don't think he's being immature. Your behaviour was terrible and is not something easily forgiven. I know you have mental issues, so it's not really your fault but... I think you need to accept that this relationship isn't salvageable.

You broke his heart, jumped on the pieces, grinded them into dust, and then had a wee on what was left.

So, I don't think what he said was immature. And I don't know about correlation with his age because I don't know his age or your age.

Do you have something like BPD?

fallow field
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Me and him both were 18 that time. I don't know someone told me it sounds like bpd. To me also from the symptoms I got to know I felt its possible but we can't diagnose unless we are professional uk

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Anyways I'm fine now that's smtg I was in the past I made friends and got fine naturally becoz therapy didn't seem of much help to me like even from the idea abt it I got from net that they usually give just listening ear

hollow pine
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Since the... separation, I mean.

verbal pike
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The only thing you can do is to leave him alone and try not to repeat such behaviour with someone else

fallow field
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Guys I'm in general one of the most good and most innocent ppl good ppl sometimes do bad things too it's just the situation Even when complaining abt their thing that's why many ppl praised abt me & that why I'm doing all this

fallow field
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I can't even imagine it's been so long it feels like yesterday 🙆‍♀️

hollow pine
fallow field
# hollow pine Well, please don't take offence, but it's time to move on. There are plenty of g...

Sry to not mention becoz yes if it wudve been a year and he still wudnt hv forgotten I wudve felt its not point holding on or even trying But becoz I did smtg or the other in just even half a yr intervals or some months like I did the notes thing again after 4-5 months as I said and then I again did it after around that much time and after around that much time But after this time also I did it few times in some time periods but where I did these times he hasn't blocked me but I know he sees them as he hasn't blocked but we can see requests without them going seen on pinterest but he ignored there always

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So ya it was just few months ago last time so we wud hv to take one year from that but it doesn't matter anyway becoz he's abroad so anyways it wudve been 2 and half yrs. Im actually confused tho becoz if I being overconfident wait for him but Idek him so how can I judge someone like that so if he doesn't turn out compatible enough for smtg long my whole time of waiting wud also be wasted & that too for someone not worth it