Istg the worst kind of breakups are friend-breakups, it hurts, a lot actually. 2 years ago I saw this guy in my class and i had a crush on him the moment I saw him, he didn't do anything extraordinary to catch my eye- all he did was asked his then friend to move and make way for me, like a kind person. But for some reson he caught my eye, his smile, his sweet gesture had me crushing on him for a week. Soon I became a part of his friend circle, we talked as casual friends, no biggie. But a weeks later he switched groups, but we somehow managed to stay in touch (and the fact he lost touch with everyone else in the group, except me- made me feel a lil special) but i knew we would never work out, so i killed my feelings- stayed good friends for almost 2 years, always on call, always texting, giving each other life updates, studying together, waking up the other one, we had our fair share of happy and sad moments. One thing always bothered me tho- the fact that we would spend the best time together, but if there's a 3rd person with us , he'd act like we are not close. Soon I started having loads of family problems, once that took a really bad toll on me, I pushed everyone away including him. Cuz i didn't want him or anyone else see me weak. ik what i did was wrong, i should have faced it heads on, talked about it, but I didn't. I regret pushing him away, pushing my good guy friend away. We stopped talking for a few months, but I could never shake the feeling of losing a friend. So i reached out to him apologizing, and he left me on seen. It's been 2 months since I tried apologizing. Idk what I should do, I just wanna talk to him, I want my friend back, and Ik it sounds selfish but its not I promise. Should I try reaching out to him again, maybe one last time???
#Need an advice!
tribal turret
sand folio
Istg the worst kind of breakups are friend-breakups, it hurts, a lot actually. 2...
If it makes you feel better then u could definitely try reaching out to him one last time. You should also explain in detail and honestly on what you did and why you did it so he understands you pushing him away wasnt because you disliked him or anything. If he choses to ghost you again you should acknowledge that he has his own feelings and reasons to, and what you did without an explanation could have hurt him and made him cold. At the same time if he didnt even consider the apology its partially a sign that maybe it isnt a friend worth having in the first place if he isnt able to be empathetic. It isnt useful to point fingers at yourself or just him, its a hard situation, but if you consider it carefully then u can start to heal if the situationturns out bad.
tribal turret
I hate to admit but yeah you right, I'll reach out to him one last time (not like i got anything to lose). I do understand if he leaves me ghosetd again, afterall what I did was not fair to him. Ik for a fact that he most probably won't reply and i'mma be hurt, but that's okay...guess i had it coming
Atleast I won't have any regrets of not reaching out to him, thinking of the maybe scenario.
sand folio
I hate to admit but yeah you right, I'll reach out to him one last time (not l...
I dont wanna make it more complicated while you are in pain but, i think its useful to mention that there are signs that you cared about him most likely more than he did about you. Mostly saying this since what you wrote seems to disproportionally blame and focus on just your side.
Well, best of luck, u can write more in this post whenever u like ofc, after he responds or doesnt.
tribal turret
Well I did shoot him a text and he hasn't replied yet, I knew he was online and purposely chose to ignore my texts. Its been 24 hours and no response. I know him well and he is never going to respond again ever. It hurts for mw to write this but I have officially lost my dear friend, he'll never talk to me again.