Isolation

[dusk valve]

im tired of feeling socially isolated and extremely lonely, and i need some opinions to fix it , it is summer after all , when loneliness gets to you the most.

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[stray ridge]

i relate , ur being too real for this

[dusk valve]

are you doing anything to deal with it?

or are you just letting it happen just like me

[stray ridge]

im trying v bad , im going out alone or w friends making online friends nd real friends in real life. and let me tell u i have never felt so alone even tho im surrounded w someone

but this is my take i feel alone w ppl too , are u feeling in same manner?

[dusk valve]

see the difference is

i dont go out at all

because i have noone to go out with

[stray ridge]

do yk what will make u come out of this or are u finding that too?

[dusk valve]

well i havent gone out in over 2 years now

and ive come up with the conclusion

that in order to make friends, you need at least one

[stray ridge]

2 YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[dusk valve]

so i’m stuck in an infinite loop

[dusk valve]

i havent gone out with someone

[stray ridge]

no ur not

[dusk valve]

ive been out of my house tho

[stray ridge]

have u tried clubs for ur hobbies?

[dusk valve]

no because im in high school

[stray ridge]

so u dont go to school too?

[dusk valve]

i do

[stray ridge]

ig they do have clubs there r like for basketball nd all

[dusk valve]

i have literally thought of every possible way

to make a single friend that i can chill with

and they all failed, or they didnt have a high enough chance of succeeding

[stray ridge]

i think u should ge into a hobby alot like kinda master it

\nd then surround urself w ppl who have same interest

usually ppl w similar hobbies ge along really well

[dusk valve]

i mean, i dont really have the most common interests

i like horror movies a lot

i like talking a lot , but thats not a hobby

[odd anchor]

It passes time

Id say its a hobby🤷🏻‍♀️

Plus the right person would listen to you talk everytime you want to so it’s important

[dusk valve]

this is what i need

a person i can go out and have a drink with

or get some food

sleepover

go to the movies

and just someone who will hear me out

i just wanna be like everyone else

[stray ridge]

i get it

ik this may seem like a clitche advice

but u only get this experiences when u find the ppl who fit into ur niche

[odd anchor]

You can only find that person when youre yourself

[dusk valve]

but how will they find me

because im always myself

[odd anchor]

It takes time, i know everyone says that but it really does. And sometimes its the most unexpected people

My closest friend is an almost 20 year old man

Im 15

[dusk valve]

oh

thats interesting

[odd anchor]

Yes it sounds bad but its really not

You just need someone who listens

No matter who they are or how old they are

[dusk valve]

yeah i was honestly thinking about giving up on friendship and just finding a girlfriend

but its just as hard if not harder

and you cant do the same stuff

[odd anchor]

You cant have only one

Some things you cant do with a girlfriend you can do with a friend

And vice versa

[dusk valve]

yeah thats what i mean

[odd anchor]

Oh yes

[dusk valve]

so thats a scrapped idea

[odd anchor]

Sorry

[dusk valve]

i just wish it wasnt so hard

[odd anchor]

Youre in school correct?

[dusk valve]

but i guess i did throw a lot of people off

[dusk valve]

yes, but that ship has sailed

everyone in that school hates me

[odd anchor]

What do you mean

[dusk valve]

like i lost the friends i had

[odd anchor]

They can’t, you couldnt have possibly done something that bad

[odd anchor]

Maybe they werent the right ones

[dusk valve]

maybe, but it did feel good

having some people

[odd anchor]

But if you look back you will find situations were it felt like they werent actually there

And thats how you know if someone is right for you or not

[dusk valve]

its harder than it used to be

finding people

[odd anchor]

I know, people now look for trends in others

Not their actual self

[dusk valve]

this is real

[odd anchor]

You know its not as hard as you think, you talked to me and if you were willing to id be your friend

You could do that with anyone

Not just me

Poeple are all the same

Some of them hide their self behind trends and modern rules but in the end everyone will show themself

You shouldnt be scared to talk to anyone

Were all the same no one is better than anyone

[dusk valve]

wait its not that im scared

i have friends

i just dont have friends

like that

[odd anchor]

Okay well if your friends dont feel like “friends” then theyre not your freinds

Get that

[dusk valve]

but you also cant randomly go up to people

you have to know them from somewhere

[odd anchor]

Why not

Give me a reason

[dusk valve]

idk, nobody really does that

[odd anchor]

They should

It gives character

[dusk valve]

i know they should but they dont

and if you do something that nobody else does , that might come off as weird

[odd anchor]

Whos to say

Everything is weird if you think about it

[dusk valve]

idk

[odd anchor]

What would be considered “weird” to you

[dusk valve]

weird would be considered going out alone , talking to people you dont know

idk what else

i honestly dont know

[odd anchor]

Why is that weird tho

Being alone

I find it peaceful