#i fumbled.

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stone reef
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i said the wrong thing at the wrong time and i’ve ruined my chances i believe

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i feel broken

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and i hate myself

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i ruined

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a chance

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with such an awesome and amazing girl

jaunty grotto
stone reef
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i was annoyed that my messages were being left on delivered for hours

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and i pointed it out

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and sort of

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that pushed her to her limit

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and she basically told me about her mental state and what not

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and how we should be just friends as if she gets attached then she feels like she’d be bringing me down with her

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“right i’m saying this once and once only because im not happy the way you’ve handled this situation at all bru first of all i just wanna say your actually really rude too not me directly but whenever i mention bringing people out w us u just have a huff and a puff about it and idk if u realise your doing it but ive told you that i get anxiety meeting people and you still complain if i ask to bring my friend w us you say you third wheel but it’s not mine or emily’s fault we like gossiping another thing is that i didn’t like how you degraded my own feelings just now my life is my life your life is yours everyone deals with emotions differently and i just go non verbal when i’m upset and i’m not gonna be like all happy if somethings upsetting me but the fact i said that and you said like just answer that helps is just so annoying to me because it’s not as easy as ‘just answering’ for me and whenever i have to cancel plans because i’m busy your just completely rude about it so i just think this may not work out i’m extremely sorry but stuff has happened and the last thing i need rn is someone who complains that i don’t answer when going through things i just think we would be better off as friends but it’s not all entirely because of everything that’s happend but purely that im just overfilled w stuff rn like anxiety and stress”

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a paragraph she sent

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the top for context

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i was annoyed that her friend was expected to come out with us because i felt sidelined the previous 2 times

jaunty grotto
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You didn’t mess up anything, you still have a chance. She could’ve just blocked you and keep you out of her life. But she didn’t, she still cares about you. All you wanted was to have some alone time with her, and that’s okay. You didn’t “fumble” she clearly just feels stressed and wasn’t up for an argument.

I think for now, you should just give her some time to think and process for what she is going through, you should ask if she wants to talk about her mental health and how you can help her through it.

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And if she declines, that’s her decision, and you should respect that.

stone reef
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she said we can talk more in the morning

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i’m just

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so

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heartbroken

jaunty grotto
# stone reef she said we can talk more in the morning

That’s good, just make sure in the morning that you are respectful and able to understand and appreciate her opinions and what she wants. And takes things slow, you’re both not in the best state, and rushing things will only cause another argument and make the situation worse

jaunty grotto
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And it’s unlikely that she will.

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And when you went to confront her about you being left on delivered, how did you go with that? How did you confront her?

stone reef
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i’ll read the messages again hang on

stone reef
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it started off us just like

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checking in on esch other

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and she was saying

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if u need to talk im here

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but

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i said smth stupid

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“u gotta actually respond to me bruh for me to talk to u 😭🙏”

jaunty grotto
stone reef
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i should never have sent that stupid messge

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message

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i’ve ruined everything

jaunty grotto
jaunty grotto
stone reef
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i make mistakes with everything

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when can i get something right

jaunty grotto
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Don’t look down at yourself, you do make things right without even thinking about it, and when you make one mistake, you begin overthinking and it takes over.

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It’s okay to make a mistake, and tomorrow morning, you can make up for it.

stone reef
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i never do anything right

jaunty grotto
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You’re not perfect.

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Nobody is.

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That doesn’t exist.

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Don’t overthink about it, you have a chance with that girl, just make sure to keep things mature and respectful. Everything will feel okay and better.

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I hope you do well, Charley. I wish you only the best.

stone reef
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thank you poet

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you’ve made me feel better

jaunty grotto
stone reef
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i’ll be letting you know after

stone reef
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we’ve spoke a little bit

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but atp i think ill be removing her soon

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even tho i really don’t want too

stone reef
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yea it’s pretty much over

jaunty grotto
stone reef
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we just spoke and like

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she just said she doesn’t really know rn and we’ve pretty much accepted its over

stone reef
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i can’t let go

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not uet

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i’m gonna ask for one more chance i need too

stone reef
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i’m taking a risk with this paragraph

halcyon comet
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fumbling implicates losing something that you already possessed

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what you had once u can get again ma boy

ripe cargo
stone reef
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it worked i think

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i was told

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we can remain close friends

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and it my chance

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maybe off the table

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but

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i may get another

ripe cargo
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great job

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you did it